Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

123shawny · 123shawny

Thank you all for your posts! You reassured me all the things I already knew in my heart, and gave me the strenght tp walk away without being manipulated. I will keep coming back. This morning I told my A bf that I no longer wanted to be in a relationship with a man who cared more about substance abuse...

maresie · maresie

I have been trying to meditate a lot on HALT lately. I think loneliness is one of my core issues. The A can manipulate me a lot on that because I so often feel totally left out of his life. He will go off with his friends/workers/whoever and I will feel totally left out. This all came to a head for me bef...

123shawny · 123shawny

Hi I am new here, and I wondered if I could have a bit of advice? My boyfreind of three years has been on a two day drinking binge. When he goes out to drink, he never answers any texts or calls and says I am bothering him. However he calls me at 2am very drunk and checks up on me! When I said: please dont...

ditto · ditto

I was up early today thinking of all the things that I have to get done in just a short few hours. I am getting ready for the divorce and I must protect myself. I am very embarrassed that I must drag my friends into this and ask for some help, even though it is just minor help. Three years ago be...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Hi, I'm pretty new here. I'm going to a meeting tonight, and don't have a sponsor yet. I am pretty much freaking out. I realize it's screwed up - my A husband and I have been married 11 years - (recovery 1 year equals obviously rocky marraige) He is now saying he thin...

kitty · kitty

someone that I sent some lit to a few weeks ago asked to send me something back ~ I took 3 weeks away from the chat room & 2 or so off of the Board, partly due to regression but mostly from the accident & I was trying to think about my life, needs, wants, desires. Anyway,...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: it has been a while since I posted, I have been trying to get to more f2f meetings and working on things day to day. My A is still home and has 103 days clean. He has been working his program, me mine. He has been out of work since leaving rehab, taking care of...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

Before I found this site, I saw things more in black and white. If you are being verbally and emotionally abused, get OUT! I spent a lot of time on abuse sites, and I could blatantly see that I was with an abuser. He fit the description to a 'T', but I kept wondering...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hiya friends, I am not sure where to start with this post so I will jump in with both feet. Today I received news that my grandfather on my dad's side of the family passed away. I am sad but not surprised. My grandfather was quite elderly and in poor health. He passed away gently and peacefully. I will mis...

AlaMom · AlaMom

upon this marble head of mine. Sometimes we can be so thick-headed that we can't get out of our own way. This has been me for some time now. Beating my head against the wall thinking things will change if I keep doing it. The classic definition of insanity. Things have been c...

Scamper · Scamper

Just thought I would jot down a few words today. I am not feeling very well spritually or emotionally. I am really trying to get out of debt (a HUGE problem for me)...has been since I am 14 yrs. old. It seems like everytime I make a step or two (like everything else in my life)...the dis...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Edited for copyright infraction. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 15:08, 2006-04-04

DeAnna · DeAnna

I'm learning about enabling. First, my hub & me have very different ways of cooking. His is more elaborate, full meals. Mine are more simple dishes, & not as much food. I offer to cook dinner so that it's done @ a decent time. But the hub states he'll do it,...

QOD · QOD

Last Thurs my A husband didn't come home. I wasn't surprise when he didn't come home all weekend. I figured he was off getting high again and probably lost his job in the process. So Saturday I sat down w/my 12 year old son and opened up to him. I could see how much his dad's behav...

Feather · Feather

Hi All, I haven't been around for awhile as lots has been happening. Mainly with my Mum. She has been unwell again these last few weeks and was operated on last Sat. The surgeon warned us it would be a big op, a Whipples Procedure (the surgeon said it was equivalent in size to a heart transp...

iona54 · iona54

I get a weekly newsletter from an arts related source and this struck me as wonderful in that it it is like the alanon programme in the way that we strive to look after ourselves and look for the best. Hope you all enjoy as much as I did hugs iona54 Focusing the mind on a higher purpo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Well, the ride continues. My "A" and I had a wonderful weekend. We spent family time together, spent quality time together, and he was sober all weekend. He cut ties off from his "friends" on Wednesday after they returned the car completely out of gas, and it also had stolen prope...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I am looking for a sponsor. Hoping to find another woman who has an active alcoholic husband. It is a different life living with an active spouse. I live is a small farming community, the closest Alanon meetings are 20 miles away, plus I work evening shift that makes it doubly hard to get to f2f meetin...

kitty · kitty

I have some strange views for a westerner, I have read Zen since I was 16, after surviving my first suicide attempt. I do believe I came into this family, had these hardships, married an addict, it was all in God's divine plan... for me to disocver the love in me, the divinity or spark of God t...

kitty · kitty

This is really irony, I always felt like I did not want to be abandonnded & that I genuinely had a fear of it ~ yet I was the one that had abandonned myself all along. I spent all of my life pouring out all I had onto others & being jipped in the end... ironically I did it to myself!!! Bo...

Beth · Beth

Edna, Flora and Chris, I miss seeing you guys. I hope everything is alright. Hurry back. love ya, Beth123

bobump · bobump

Bear w/ me because this post may contain TMI and traces of peanuts but.... I thought it was interesting. I'm at my son's Sunday school. In an effort to save myself some gas and time, I usually do some literature or non cal reading in the parking lot and clean out the car a little. Today I d...

Maria123 · Maria123

I won, I won, I won .... The radio contest for VIP seating at the Soul to Soul II Contest with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw. I have been trying and trying to win tickets for five years and this time it worked. Just wanted to share with y'all. Love Maria

gknee · gknee

this was the sorry conclusion my A and I both came to this weekend. He has been out of commission all week with selfmedicating (alcohol/pot/ambien) his way thru spring fever or something. same old same old. I only wish he would be out of the house for 3 days like some of these A's . All mine does is remedi...

angel123 · angel123

one of my son's that live at home came home tippsy again....I walked away when he went on about things that have him down.Things I have already dicused when he was sober.He has a court date to determine if he is the father of a baby boy.Needing DNA test.As a mother I explain if the the child is his he is res...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I'm back on line in my home. Cujo has no Power, LOL More later. Josey

kitty · kitty

I have this printed out & put up in my condo all over the place, in the bathroom, on the ice box, the front door & next to my PC: LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan &nbs...

maggy · maggy

I haven't spoken to my ex-A for 3 months I have had no contact and haven't tried and neither has he. We went out for 8 years never married or even lived with each other. He lied about the drinking I would find out and we would break up. this went on for our entire relationship. It's funny we brea...

Juster · Juster

The other day I was taking my lunch walk around our office complex which includes a large hotel. As I was walking around the hotel, I saw a ladies dress shoe sitting on top of one of the hedges. My first thought was, "I wonder how one ladies shoe got there?" Well, t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Happy Day for me!

Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary. It's is also Piper Kitty's 3 birthday, and 1 year ago she came home to us! We became a family.

I look back on a year ago, and where we were. My hubby...

bob6502 · bob6502

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING APRIL 5, 2006 SenoraBob ;     &nb...

debilyn · debilyn

Seemed like a "normal" family at the time clear back in 1970. Two very cute country boys, darling little blond sister who had a pony. Mom home, Dad an electrician. I met my A's family very young. I watched my A get drafted, his mom and dad divorced after years of all kinds of abuse on the whole family. A's...

rtexas · rtexas

Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst. Includes taking swings at me...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I have been reading so many posts about infidelity, and abuse, from many people, myself included. There is a book I particularly like called "Marriage on the Rocks". The auther makes things kind of cut and dry and clear. She states that the first thing we have to do is accept alcoholism as a disease...

emma · emma

Tried but cant get in ... 1) Message box popped up: "Verify Certif... Do you wnt to trust the signed applet distributed by Phillippe DeTourneay?" DO I or is this a virus? 2) Then white box loads, but .... I get that "Unable to connect: java.security. AccessControlException: accessdenied. ...

Unsure · Unsure

Hi everyone. Its 8:14pm on SUnday night, and as in every weekend every night from dinner till bedtime, my S/O sits in the chair and snores. Its like he has no desire to even socialize with me, let alone anything else. He says its my fault, LOL. I'm the one awake, doing laundry,...

angel123 · angel123

This from Forum (meeting in my pocket)click attachment

cabma · cabma

After 15 years of marriage, he says he's unhappy and that's why he uses! He gave me all these reasons why he's unhappy, (he wanted more than 2 kids, I didn't, etc), but says if he doesn't get out, he'll never stop using. I found out a long time ago that he's never satisfied with his life...

bobump · bobump

One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...

kspear · kspear

Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...

leo · leo

Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...

QOD · QOD

I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...

peewee · peewee

D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...

hudsond · hudsond

I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...

angel123 · angel123

Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...

ditto · ditto

Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...

gardengal · gardengal

When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...

megan · megan

I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...

kitty · kitty

I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...

kspear · kspear

Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...

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	Thank you for your support (Preview) Thank you all for your posts! You reassured me all the things I already knew in my heart, and gave me the strenght tp walk away without being manipulated. I will keep coming back. This morning I told my A bf that I no longer wanted to be in a relationship with a man who cared more about substance abuse...	123shawny	1	381	Apr 4, 2006 by Maria123
	Loneliness (Preview) I have been trying to meditate a lot on HALT lately. I think loneliness is one of my core issues. The A can manipulate me a lot on that because I so often feel totally left out of his life. He will go off with his friends/workers/whoever and I will feel totally left out. This all came to a head for me bef...	maresie	4	352	Apr 4, 2006 by drucilla06
	New here, have a question (Preview) Hi I am new here, and I wondered if I could have a bit of advice? My boyfreind of three years has been on a two day drinking binge. When he goes out to drink, he never answers any texts or calls and says I am bothering him. However he calls me at 2am very drunk and checks up on me! When I said: please dont...	123shawny	9	566	Apr 4, 2006 by aunitedway
	Madness (Preview) I was up early today thinking of all the things that I have to get done in just a short few hours. I am getting ready for the divorce and I must protect myself. I am very embarrassed that I must drag my friends into this and ask for some help, even though it is just minor help. Three years ago be...	ditto	2	353	Apr 4, 2006 by aunitedway
	I feel like I'm in crisis (Preview) Hi, I'm pretty new here. I'm going to a meeting tonight, and don't have a sponsor yet. I am pretty much freaking out. I realize it's screwed up - my A husband and I have been married 11 years - (recovery 1 year equals obviously rocky marraige) He is now saying he thin...	Mollyd	9	589	Apr 4, 2006 by Mollyd
	my physical address (help) (Preview) someone that I sent some lit to a few weeks ago asked to send me something back ~ I took 3 weeks away from the chat room & 2 or so off of the Board, partly due to regression but mostly from the accident & I was trying to think about my life, needs, wants, desires. Anyway,...	kitty	1	441	Apr 4, 2006 by Becky1
	setting free (Preview) Hello all: it has been a while since I posted, I have been trying to get to more f2f meetings and working on things day to day. My A is still home and has 103 days clean. He has been working his program, me mine. He has been out of work since leaving rehab, taking care of...	Kim	5	441	Apr 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Should I Stay OR Should I go? (Preview) Before I found this site, I saw things more in black and white. If you are being verbally and emotionally abused, get OUT! I spent a lot of time on abuse sites, and I could blatantly see that I was with an abuser. He fit the description to a 'T', but I kept wondering...	HadEnuff	7	475	Apr 4, 2006 by emma
	Grandfather's passing (Preview) Hiya friends, I am not sure where to start with this post so I will jump in with both feet. Today I received news that my grandfather on my dad's side of the family passed away. I am sad but not surprised. My grandfather was quite elderly and in poor health. He passed away gently and peacefully. I will mis...	bob6502	19	456	Apr 4, 2006 by emma
	And Light Dawns... (Preview) upon this marble head of mine. Sometimes we can be so thick-headed that we can't get out of our own way. This has been me for some time now. Beating my head against the wall thinking things will change if I keep doing it. The classic definition of insanity. Things have been c...	AlaMom	2	340	Apr 4, 2006 by Maria123
	Just Need to Talk Today..depressed (Preview) Just thought I would jot down a few words today. I am not feeling very well spritually or emotionally. I am really trying to get out of debt (a HUGE problem for me)...has been since I am 14 yrs. old. It seems like everytime I make a step or two (like everything else in my life)...the dis...	Scamper	10	394	Apr 4, 2006 by Lexie
	yeah, i can forgive mom (Preview) Edited for copyright infraction. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 15:08, 2006-04-04	rosie light shines	0	263	Apr 4, 2006 by rosie light shines
	enabling? (Preview) I'm learning about enabling. First, my hub & me have very different ways of cooking. His is more elaborate, full meals. Mine are more simple dishes, & not as much food. I offer to cook dinner so that it's done @ a decent time. But the hub states he'll do it,...	DeAnna	4	339	Apr 4, 2006 by Jeannie
	I told my son everything (Preview) Last Thurs my A husband didn't come home. I wasn't surprise when he didn't come home all weekend. I figured he was off getting high again and probably lost his job in the process. So Saturday I sat down w/my 12 year old son and opened up to him. I could see how much his dad's behav...	QOD	9	643	Apr 4, 2006 by QOD
	Tough Time (Preview) Hi All, I haven't been around for awhile as lots has been happening. Mainly with my Mum. She has been unwell again these last few weeks and was operated on last Sat. The surgeon warned us it would be a big op, a Whipples Procedure (the surgeon said it was equivalent in size to a heart transp...	Feather	7	461	Apr 4, 2006 by maresie
	looking after ourselves (Preview) I get a weekly newsletter from an arts related source and this struck me as wonderful in that it it is like the alanon programme in the way that we strive to look after ourselves and look for the best. Hope you all enjoy as much as I did hugs iona54 Focusing the mind on a higher purpo...	iona54	0	301	Apr 4, 2006 by iona54
	How long is this ride? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Well, the ride continues. My "A" and I had a wonderful weekend. We spent family time together, spent quality time together, and he was sober all weekend. He cut ties off from his "friends" on Wednesday after they returned the car completely out of gas, and it also had stolen prope...	Dolphin123	7	385	Apr 4, 2006 by leo
	Looking for a sponsor (Preview) Hi, I am looking for a sponsor. Hoping to find another woman who has an active alcoholic husband. It is a different life living with an active spouse. I live is a small farming community, the closest Alanon meetings are 20 miles away, plus I work evening shift that makes it doubly hard to get to f2f meetin...	horselover58	3	341	Apr 4, 2006 by horselover58
	I chose these lessons (Preview) I have some strange views for a westerner, I have read Zen since I was 16, after surviving my first suicide attempt. I do believe I came into this family, had these hardships, married an addict, it was all in God's divine plan... for me to disocver the love in me, the divinity or spark of God t...	kitty	5	482	Apr 4, 2006 by kitty
	Emotional Abandonnment (Preview) This is really irony, I always felt like I did not want to be abandonnded & that I genuinely had a fear of it ~ yet I was the one that had abandonned myself all along. I spent all of my life pouring out all I had onto others & being jipped in the end... ironically I did it to myself!!! Bo...	kitty	3	395	Apr 4, 2006 by DeAnna
	Edna, Flora and Chris (Preview) Edna, Flora and Chris, I miss seeing you guys. I hope everything is alright. Hurry back. love ya, Beth123	Beth	0	300	Apr 4, 2006 by Beth
	I thin HP was talking to me...on the pot, lol (Preview) Bear w/ me because this post may contain TMI and traces of peanuts but.... I thought it was interesting. I'm at my son's Sunday school. In an effort to save myself some gas and time, I usually do some literature or non cal reading in the parking lot and clean out the car a little. Today I d...	bobump	10	562	Apr 4, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	happy news (Preview) I won, I won, I won .... The radio contest for VIP seating at the Soul to Soul II Contest with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw. I have been trying and trying to win tickets for five years and this time it worked. Just wanted to share with y'all. Love Maria	Maria123	13	435	Apr 4, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	too lazy to leave (Preview) this was the sorry conclusion my A and I both came to this weekend. He has been out of commission all week with selfmedicating (alcohol/pot/ambien) his way thru spring fever or something. same old same old. I only wish he would be out of the house for 3 days like some of these A's . All mine does is remedi...	gknee	2	398	Apr 4, 2006 by abbyal
	Tippsy (Preview) one of my son's that live at home came home tippsy again....I walked away when he went on about things that have him down.Things I have already dicused when he was sober.He has a court date to determine if he is the father of a baby boy.Needing DNA test.As a mother I explain if the the child is his he is res...	angel123	3	458	Apr 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I'm on Cujo's off (Preview) I'm back on line in my home. Cujo has no Power, LOL More later. Josey	jrtjosey	2	384	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	Newbies ~ So many Excellent Slogans (Preview) I have this printed out & put up in my condo all over the place, in the bathroom, on the ice box, the front door & next to my PC: LET GO & LET GOD ATTEND TO THE DIVINE PLAN Thank You God for reminding me not to interfere with your Divine Plan &nbs...	kitty	3	432	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	How to respond (Preview) I haven't spoken to my ex-A for 3 months I have had no contact and haven't tried and neither has he. We went out for 8 years never married or even lived with each other. He lied about the drinking I would find out and we would break up. this went on for our entire relationship. It's funny we brea...	maggy	2	463	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	The Shoe (Preview) The other day I was taking my lunch walk around our office complex which includes a large hotel. As I was walking around the hotel, I saw a ladies dress shoe sitting on top of one of the hedges. My first thought was, "I wonder how one ladies shoe got there?" Well, t...	Juster	2	390	Apr 3, 2006 by kitty
	My anniversary (Preview) ((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Happy Day for me! Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary. It's is also Piper Kitty's 3 birthday, and 1 year ago she came home to us! We became a family. I look back on a year ago, and where we were. My hubby...	Karilynn	12	425	Apr 3, 2006 by Becky1
	Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING APRIL 5, 2006 SenoraBob ;     &nb...	bob6502	0	353	Apr 3, 2006 by bob6502
	Progression of hell (Preview) Seemed like a "normal" family at the time clear back in 1970. Two very cute country boys, darling little blond sister who had a pony. Mom home, Dad an electrician. I met my A's family very young. I watched my A get drafted, his mom and dad divorced after years of all kinds of abuse on the whole family. A's...	debilyn	10	516	Apr 3, 2006 by Becky1
	Kink in the space/time continium.... (Preview) Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst. Includes taking swings at me...	rtexas	5	404	Apr 3, 2006 by kitty
	Sick is no excuse for bad behavior (Preview) I have been reading so many posts about infidelity, and abuse, from many people, myself included. There is a book I particularly like called "Marriage on the Rocks". The auther makes things kind of cut and dry and clear. She states that the first thing we have to do is accept alcoholism as a disease...	Jeannie	7	510	Apr 3, 2006 by gknee
	can't get in chatroom (Preview) Tried but cant get in ... 1) Message box popped up: "Verify Certif... Do you wnt to trust the signed applet distributed by Phillippe DeTourneay?" DO I or is this a virus? 2) Then white box loads, but .... I get that "Unable to connect: java.security. AccessControlException: accessdenied. ...	emma	4	326	Apr 3, 2006 by aunitedway
	Not sure (Preview) Hi everyone. Its 8:14pm on SUnday night, and as in every weekend every night from dinner till bedtime, my S/O sits in the chair and snores. Its like he has no desire to even socialize with me, let alone anything else. He says its my fault, LOL. I'm the one awake, doing laundry,...	Unsure	7	388	Apr 3, 2006 by scared
	Step 4 (Preview) This from Forum (meeting in my pocket)click attachment	angel123	0	315	Apr 3, 2006 by angel123
	He's leaving me! (Preview) After 15 years of marriage, he says he's unhappy and that's why he uses! He gave me all these reasons why he's unhappy, (he wanted more than 2 kids, I didn't, etc), but says if he doesn't get out, he'll never stop using. I found out a long time ago that he's never satisfied with his life...	cabma	13	588	Apr 3, 2006 by cabma
	one of my fears might be coming true (Preview) One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...	bobump	14	706	Apr 3, 2006 by Alone
	Some trouble in paradise... (Preview) This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...	twinmom2	4	520	Apr 3, 2006 by Rebecca
	a new plan?? (Preview) Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...	robyn76	3	365	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	Is it really possible? (Preview) Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...	kspear	2	406	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	at the crossroads (Preview) Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...	leo	5	686	Apr 3, 2006 by leo
	Aargg! I don't get it!! (Preview) I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...	QOD	10	565	Apr 3, 2006 by QOD
	Is Infidelity Part of the Disease? (Preview) I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...	HadEnuff	7	613	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	Today is a new day (Preview) First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...	Powerless	4	401	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	D53 and pm (Preview) D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...	peewee	0	351	Apr 2, 2006 by peewee
	could use some help with boudaries (Preview) Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...	Mollyd	3	418	Apr 2, 2006 by Mollyd
	what if the A is not "active"? (Preview) Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...	drucilla06	6	832	Apr 2, 2006 by drucilla06
	Why do they try so hard just to tick us off??? (Preview) I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...	hudsond	3	349	Apr 2, 2006 by kitty
	Step 3 (Preview) Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel	angel123	1	297	Apr 2, 2006 by just me
	love ONE day at a time (Preview) Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...	rosie light shines	3	462	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	A Revelation ... (Preview) I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...	HadEnuff	4	404	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Something to think about (Preview) Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...	ditto	7	602	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	What a difference a day makes (Preview) Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...	kspear	2	471	Apr 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	ARE YOU HUNGRY TO GET HEALTHY? (Preview) When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...	gardengal	2	339	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Past present future (Preview) I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...	megan	14	582	Apr 2, 2006 by leo
	Constantly Surrenderring (Preview) I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...	kitty	6	517	Apr 2, 2006 by bobump
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...	kspear	3	355	Apr 1, 2006 by Jeannie
	How far do I pursue truth?? (Preview) Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...	robyn76	6	468	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
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