Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

....You just might get it. LOL Here I sit in utter silence...and oh boy, this feels so strange and yet good all in the same time. The 2 older kids (21 and 23) have moved into their own apartment with grandson and 17 year old is staying there with them too. That leaves my two young...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Hi All-- I'm getting this message: Unable to connect: java.security.accessControlException : access denied (java.net.SocketPermission irc.mipchat.net resolve) Any help's appreciated -- I've been banished from my 10yr olds sleep over party as un-cool, lol, if I can't get in...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am really depressed today. I am trying to get off of that pity pot but my 2 yr. Anniversary is coming up on Monday and I haven't heard from my AH in five weeks. I read on the board all the time about how other alcoholics keep calling the spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't h...

Kady · Kady

I’ve heard people talk about living in their head. I think I understand what they are talking about. I know I try to analyze people, places, and things. I try to make my decisions by figuring “it” out. My thinking has always been that if I could just figure out the “rules,” figure out the “formula,” then I...

ditto · ditto

I am trying to figure out how my reasoning is flawed and what signs I am missing. I think this may be part of one of my steps. My late husband was a wonderful person who treated me kindly, worked hard, was honest, had no addictions. We were married for 18 years until his death. I then d...

angel123 · angel123

GUIDANCE - As I searched for Guidance I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word and remembered reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...

debilyn · debilyn

Make sure when you clean out your pot bellied pigs house and treat them for mites, that you TAKE A SHOWER RIGHT AFTERWARDS. omg I am miserable. lol I just put med everywhere, itching like crazy. OK don't be grossed out. You can get this by trying on cloths that somebody tried on right before you d...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (alias the almighty powerful)! Hope you have a great day! Hugz & Balloonz 4 u !

hudsond · hudsond

Well as I posted several weeks ago I had another miscarriage. I lied to my husband and told him I wasn't even pregnant, the reason I was late was stress. I thought I did this with good intentions--I mean he has such a hard time and he didn't need one more thing--he gets really upset wit...

Cathy123 · Cathy123

I have been living with an alcholic for over 10 years. When My daughter was younger she had alot of issues which I needed to attend to so I really didn't care what my alcholic did. Now my daughter is older and her life is doing great. I find that now I have time to breather. So I took a look at my life. WHAT A MESS...

cabma · cabma

The last time I posted, I had gone to see my h's lawyer that day. I felt awful, couldn't get to sleep that night and lay awake thinking. I went through the pitiful me stage, how could he leave me and the kids when I love him so much. Then I got angry. If he was going to leave, that wou...

anna9 · anna9

Hi this is my first post here. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings in person but haven't managed to speak up yet. My father was physically abusive growing up; I don't know if he had a substance abuse problem or not. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 10 years. My brother is an A (sober for 3 years now...

angel123 · angel123

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Barbara · Barbara

I am sooooo mad my blood is boiling! Just came from Curves after work - good thing. There is a punching platform and I pretended it was my boss's face! When I started my fulltime job (will have completed 8yrs fulltime end of June) there was my boss and 1 parttimer. Boss & I only fulltimers. A new bo...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I came home from work today, to find a note that his best friend in rehab died of an overdose today.

This breaks my heart, as he was the one person from rehab that hubby trusted. "Bob" was an amazing man, and while he had a hard life, in and out o...

sg · sg

..that I heard at meetings this week. "The rewards is only as great as the risk" and... "Response is my recovery...reaction is my disease"

sg · sg

It's been awhile since I last posted...but for those that helped me thru so much back then, I wanted to pop in and say hi. I delved head first into the Program making two f2f meetings a week, working the Steps and keeping in contact daily w/either my sponsor or someone in Alanon. Months ago I was w...

debilyn · debilyn

Are ya there dahling??? Josey is right, this is NOTHING personal. Come back here you silly. I would miss your style, it is so unique. I sure can understand how you feel after all you have been thru. Seriously this is no big deal. WE need you here. OH I got deleted before. I was livid. lol of cours...

ditto · ditto

I need some ESH please. My a husband and I have not been married long -- only 1 year. He is leaving at the end of April. This is something that I have wanted for a long time. Now that we plan to separate and divorce, I am feeling a roller coaster of emotions.&n...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi everyone, Well, I really did enjoy my first meeting. It was small...only 8 people, most of them parents of the addict or alcholic. But I did learn so much. I will keep trying other meetings until I find a good fit for me. I can definitely see why it works and why they "keep c...

cabma · cabma

I went to my h's lawyer today. She informed me he was filing for divorce, not a separation, which was news to me. I also found out that I won't be able to afford my own lawyer either. That sucks. I talked with him tonight but we didn't get anywhere. He said he's going back o...

Serenity2Cherish · Serenity2Cherish

Hello everyone,    

peewee · peewee

Rose, I've been thinking about you, and wonder if you had success with the phone call to school. Talk later? MsPeewee

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Reading your posts made me cry. I thank you for all your love and support. Here's an uodate. Hubby got home around 8 pm, and when he got out of the cab, I ran into his arms. I spent time talking and praying to God to keep both of them safe. It was incredibly h...

April306 · April306

Being new to al-anon I may sound very dense about this but was truly wondering if there is any difference in being able to detatch from your child than there would be from a spouse. My daughter in law can divorce my son and go on to start a life new with another (has done), so being able to detach herself fr...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Good Morning, I think I am finally starting to get it. I have read, and heard, for years that language of co-depndency - that you have to take care of yourself, you have to focus on yourself, you really can't have love or be loving without loving yourself. . . and it did nothing for me.&nbs...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I am thinking of giving up on Alanon.Over the last 16 years that my husband has been in AA I have gone to Alanon several times,actually more than that,but I always hit this same wall and I leave again.I would like to get past this and find recovery but I don't know how. I always start out very encouraged a...

Barbara · Barbara

just wondering - thanks

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i dont know if this will get deleted here either, but i am going to post on the other boards who ACCEPT my literature "takes" w/out deleting them... some of my literature "takes" were not deleted...some were....i don't get it...and don't have the time to try and fi...

liliana · liliana

Hello, My A and I have been together for 12 yrs. We don't have children, I had an ectopic pregnancy in 1997 and haven't gotten pregnant since. I thought I came to terms with all this, well at least until this weekend. Most of the women in my f to f meetings have kids and do stuff togeth...

rtexas · rtexas

Take it easy... Take it easy... Don't let the sound of your own wheels make you crazy. We may lose, or we may win... but we will never be here again. So open up I'm climbing in... Take it easy... I have shared here a few times that my Uncle recently fell from his addictions. In helping...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

deleted for copying Alanon copyrighted literature. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 13:35, 2006-04-06

angel123 · angel123

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niXieTeK · niXieTeK

i haven't been to a meeting in a long while. for many reasons i suppose, but right now i need some instant help. i am going absolutely crazy!!! i have been wonderful in dealing with my mom, my sister, my multiple friends and family members and co-workers that are alcoholics/drug addicts. but not doing s...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi everyone, After one week of reading and posting on this forum, I am going to my first "real" alanon meeting. You all have inspired me, provoked my thoughts, brought me comfort and made me feel "normal" like someone else out there understands what I am going through. Anyway, for some...

QOD · QOD

Where to begin? Some of you are aware of my story. My A = Husband, Alcoholic, Cocaine Addict = My Insanity I have spent the last 3 weeks ignoring my A b/c of his disappearing acts where he drinks & gets high for days at a time. I figure that it is easier to pretend he isn't even there and build t...

rtexas · rtexas

F. False Evidence Appearing Real. If my head dream't it up chance are it's not real. I have been wrong so many times for so many wrong reasons that I just stopped judging, investigating, complaining and fearing. What I try to do today is remind myself always that I don't know what...

megan · megan

What a waste of time. I sat in the court hallway with my $325 hour attorney for 3 hours. But the mediation team strongly recommends against alimony and insists on a 50/50 split. now we go back to ping pong with the attorneys and another court ordered mediation in 2 weeks. The mediation team (famil...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband tells me everytime he has a craving. He said it helps when I talk to him to remind him of why he's getting clean, change the subject to get his mind off of it or have sex. This causes anxiety in me. I sit worrying about whether or not he will fight the craving or give in. THen I ge...

maresie · maresie

Growing up as a I did in a family where chaos, volatile emotions, crisis were the norm there was no emphasis on stability. I sometimes want to go into long long texts of how complicated my life is. I do not want to embrace simple tenents like learning emotional intelligence. I of cou...

Powerless · Powerless

I have spent the past few days dragging myself out of bed. I am so sleepy!!! It seems as if I can't get enough sleep. I am hungry...but cooking as we speak. I am angry and working on that. I am trying to work past the anger of his infidelity. My husband is helping me b...

angel123 · angel123

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cdb · cdb

Hello friends :) I couldn't decide whether to post or not. This is not postivie or full of ESH but it is taking care of me. I just arrived home from spending the past week or so with my parents again helping out. I helped hang pictures in their basement to get that finished, went to doctor appointments wi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I am so sad. Today, I stopped into a little store. I go there about once a week. The woman who runs the store has been such an angel to me since my A left. She took time to give my children special attention, especially holidays, birtdays etc. This christmas she "borrowe...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

Thanks for all the kind words, encouragement and good advice on my previous post about making a decision. I'm throwing this out to the general line, because after reading what you've said here - I have an important question: I believe that he really does want to start a new relationship, but h...

kissers · kissers

Since I started Alanon a year ago, I have become more aware of abusive people around me. I was in a verbally and physically abusive relationship that ended in October. It was like someone sucked the life out of me. I wound up not knowing who I am. I used to be very forgiving and let abusive behavior slide. N...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

... this has just gone too far! He tells me when he gets back from his trip that he did a lot of thinking and that he's decided that he wants to make a go of our relationship. He says he's going to stop contacting other women on the phone line, or make any attempt to meet them. I say that I don't k...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Well - We are in our new home, some adjusting to do, but a much calmer atphmosphere! Had the washer and dryer,ice maker, phone and internet hooked up today. Tomorrow the plumbers redoing some pipes. Got a call in to remodeler to fix the shower area, regrout tub and water proof area better. Bo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I've had lots of emotions the last couple of days. I am amazed at the level of insecurity I have now with my "a". He is assuring me that he was not calling this girl to have a relationship and that it is completely over. I continue to pray for my healing and his on this matter... We did h...

flintfeet · flintfeet

things have been going well for me. my dad has been out of town for a few weeks and will be gone for another 2 weeks. i worry about him & the people he's with, but i realize there is nothing i can do about it. if he makes it home and in one piece...he does. if he doesn't...then i guess he doesn't. but i can cou...

Jewel · Jewel

After reading "The Lois Wilson" book, I have concluded I have never put and consequence's in to my relationship with my A.

In the past I have seen my A start AA over and over. At times it seems it maybe becuase my A thought the situation was coming to a head. Now in my heart I know I c...

megan · megan

I am ready to fight for what I deserve in regards to my marital assets. I appreciate the support of each and every one of you. I know EXACTLY where I was before alanon and I will never return to the depths of my personal hell again. There are many steps on my journey from sheer pain and desp...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

TUESDAY , APRIL 04, 2006 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1098>. All we are asked to bear we can bear. That is a law of the spiritual life. The only hindrance to the working of this law, as of all benign laws, is fear. --Elizabeth...

Kady · Kady

I just read in a post the following quote, "If they can get you angry (yes, of course they do it on purpose) they have the justifcation to go off - not take responsibility for their OWN feelings & blame you." I struggling with the idea that the A purposely gets you angry. Does this mean that they purpos...

cullyvan · cullyvan

I really get that detachment works and when I'm able to do it, it makes a tremendous difference in my life. But sometimes it seems impossible to stop those obsessive thoughts. I wonder if others have some practical suggestions of how to guide your thoughts during these frantic moments....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

TUESDAY , APRIL 04, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past, for it is gone. --Ida Scott Taylor It's not always easy to understand that the day stretching...

Maria123 · Maria123

Over the last few days, it seems to me by reading the posts, they keep bringing me back to when I was my most unmanageable, my most vulnerable, my most unlovable, my most fragile and yet now I can smile with the knowledge that I am different and that I have come so far. During those bleak day...

DJ2006 · DJ2006

I posted a couple times, but have been mostly reading. I think I'm starting to realize what my biggest problems is. I'm constantly worried about how everyone I care about is feeling and I spend all my time trying to solve their problems and make them happy. I need to start figuring out what makes me hap...

cedarpines · cedarpines

How To Install Love (Think about this) Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready to install it now. What do I do first? Tech Support: The first step is to open your HEART. Have you located your HEART, ma'am? Customer: Yes, I have, but there are several other progr...

lulu2 · lulu2

I miss you all. I couldn't live with the drinking and verbal abuse from my hubby anymore, so since he wouldnt leave..I did. I have taken the kids and gone to my parents. It is hard on the kids not to be in their own house, but they are adjusting to the situation better than I thought they would, and bette...

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	Careful what you wish for... (Preview) ....You just might get it. LOL Here I sit in utter silence...and oh boy, this feels so strange and yet good all in the same time. The 2 older kids (21 and 23) have moved into their own apartment with grandson and 17 year old is staying there with them too. That leaves my two young...	kismetstrand	6	639	Apr 7, 2006 by leo
	can't get into chatroom (Preview) Hi All-- I'm getting this message: Unable to connect: java.security.accessControlException : access denied (java.net.SocketPermission irc.mipchat.net resolve) Any help's appreciated -- I've been banished from my 10yr olds sleep over party as un-cool, lol, if I can't get in...	Lunamoth	0	282	Apr 7, 2006 by Lunamoth
	He's Not Calling (Preview) I am really depressed today. I am trying to get off of that pity pot but my 2 yr. Anniversary is coming up on Monday and I haven't heard from my AH in five weeks. I read on the board all the time about how other alcoholics keep calling the spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't h...	JulieLynn	14	723	Apr 7, 2006 by hightide
	living in your head (Preview) I’ve heard people talk about living in their head. I think I understand what they are talking about. I know I try to analyze people, places, and things. I try to make my decisions by figuring “it” out. My thinking has always been that if I could just figure out the “rules,” figure out the “formula,” then I...	Kady	8	675	Apr 7, 2006 by hightide
	What to look for? (Preview) I am trying to figure out how my reasoning is flawed and what signs I am missing. I think this may be part of one of my steps. My late husband was a wonderful person who treated me kindly, worked hard, was honest, had no addictions. We were married for 18 years until his death. I then d...	ditto	7	563	Apr 7, 2006 by northstar
	Guidance (Preview) GUIDANCE - As I searched for Guidance I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word and remembered reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...	angel123	4	340	Apr 7, 2006 by angel123
	A word of advice..... (Preview) Make sure when you clean out your pot bellied pigs house and treat them for mites, that you TAKE A SHOWER RIGHT AFTERWARDS. omg I am miserable. lol I just put med everywhere, itching like crazy. OK don't be grossed out. You can get this by trying on cloths that somebody tried on right before you d...	debilyn	3	455	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (POWERFUL) (Preview) HAPPY BIRTHDAY POWERLESS (alias the almighty powerful)! Hope you have a great day! Hugz & Balloonz 4 u !	HadEnuff	11	502	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	Lied to husband--HP showed me! (Preview) Well as I posted several weeks ago I had another miscarriage. I lied to my husband and told him I wasn't even pregnant, the reason I was late was stress. I thought I did this with good intentions--I mean he has such a hard time and he didn't need one more thing--he gets really upset wit...	hudsond	4	364	Apr 7, 2006 by Jennifer
	Trying to live a "Normal"life (Preview) I have been living with an alcholic for over 10 years. When My daughter was younger she had alot of issues which I needed to attend to so I really didn't care what my alcholic did. Now my daughter is older and her life is doing great. I find that now I have time to breather. So I took a look at my life. WHAT A MESS...	Cathy123	5	867	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	personal breakthrough (Preview) The last time I posted, I had gone to see my h's lawyer that day. I felt awful, couldn't get to sleep that night and lay awake thinking. I went through the pitiful me stage, how could he leave me and the kids when I love him so much. Then I got angry. If he was going to leave, that wou...	cabma	2	335	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	new here, not sure what to do (Preview) Hi this is my first post here. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings in person but haven't managed to speak up yet. My father was physically abusive growing up; I don't know if he had a substance abuse problem or not. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 10 years. My brother is an A (sober for 3 years now...	anna9	7	461	Apr 7, 2006 by cabma
	Step 7 (Preview) From the forum click attachment	angel123	0	300	Apr 7, 2006 by angel123
	Powerless - almost walked off my job today! (Preview) I am sooooo mad my blood is boiling! Just came from Curves after work - good thing. There is a punching platform and I pretended it was my boss's face! When I started my fulltime job (will have completed 8yrs fulltime end of June) there was my boss and 1 parttimer. Boss & I only fulltimers. A new bo...	Barbara	4	309	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	Prayers for hubby needed (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I came home from work today, to find a note that his best friend in rehab died of an overdose today. This breaks my heart, as he was the one person from rehab that hubby trusted. "Bob" was an amazing man, and while he had a hard life, in and out o...	Karilynn	10	397	Apr 7, 2006 by aunitedway
	two cool quotes... (Preview) ..that I heard at meetings this week. "The rewards is only as great as the risk" and... "Response is my recovery...reaction is my disease"	sg	0	329	Apr 7, 2006 by sg
	Checking in... (Preview) It's been awhile since I last posted...but for those that helped me thru so much back then, I wanted to pop in and say hi. I delved head first into the Program making two f2f meetings a week, working the Steps and keeping in contact daily w/either my sponsor or someone in Alanon. Months ago I was w...	sg	2	338	Apr 7, 2006 by nmike
	Rose (Preview) Are ya there dahling??? Josey is right, this is NOTHING personal. Come back here you silly. I would miss your style, it is so unique. I sure can understand how you feel after all you have been thru. Seriously this is no big deal. WE need you here. OH I got deleted before. I was livid. lol of cours...	debilyn	0	279	Apr 7, 2006 by debilyn
	Separation & Divorce (Preview) I need some ESH please. My a husband and I have not been married long -- only 1 year. He is leaving at the end of April. This is something that I have wanted for a long time. Now that we plan to separate and divorce, I am feeling a roller coaster of emotions.&n...	ditto	12	1344	Apr 7, 2006 by sg
	UPDATE on 1st meeting and his response! (Preview) Hi everyone, Well, I really did enjoy my first meeting. It was small...only 8 people, most of them parents of the addict or alcholic. But I did learn so much. I will keep trying other meetings until I find a good fit for me. I can definitely see why it works and why they "keep c...	robyn76	7	551	Apr 7, 2006 by abbyal
	I don't think I can do this... (Preview) I went to my h's lawyer today. She informed me he was filing for divorce, not a separation, which was news to me. I also found out that I won't be able to afford my own lawyer either. That sucks. I talked with him tonight but we didn't get anywhere. He said he's going back o...	cabma	12	608	Apr 6, 2006 by emma
	Need Help My A said divorce (Preview) Hello everyone,	Serenity2Cherish	9	545	Apr 6, 2006 by Serenity2Cherish
	bullying Rosedawn topic (Preview) Rose, I've been thinking about you, and wonder if you had success with the phone call to school. Talk later? MsPeewee	peewee	2	402	Apr 6, 2006 by angel123
	Update on hubby (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Reading your posts made me cry. I thank you for all your love and support. Here's an uodate. Hubby got home around 8 pm, and when he got out of the cab, I ran into his arms. I spent time talking and praying to God to keep both of them safe. It was incredibly h...	Karilynn	8	438	Apr 6, 2006 by tea2
	Child vs. Spouse (Preview) Being new to al-anon I may sound very dense about this but was truly wondering if there is any difference in being able to detatch from your child than there would be from a spouse. My daughter in law can divorce my son and go on to start a life new with another (has done), so being able to detach herself fr...	April306	13	547	Apr 6, 2006 by April306
	I think I've had a breakthrough! (Preview) Good Morning, I think I am finally starting to get it. I have read, and heard, for years that language of co-depndency - that you have to take care of yourself, you have to focus on yourself, you really can't have love or be loving without loving yourself. . . and it did nothing for me.&nbs...	Mollyd	3	539	Apr 6, 2006 by kitty
	going...going...slipping away (Preview) I am thinking of giving up on Alanon.Over the last 16 years that my husband has been in AA I have gone to Alanon several times,actually more than that,but I always hit this same wall and I leave again.I would like to get past this and find recovery but I don't know how. I always start out very encouraged a...	drucilla06	11	482	Apr 6, 2006 by debilyn
	how was the CT conference 3/25? (Preview) just wondering - thanks	Barbara	0	289	Apr 6, 2006 by Barbara
	time to let GO and "hasta luego" (Preview) i dont know if this will get deleted here either, but i am going to post on the other boards who ACCEPT my literature "takes" w/out deleting them... some of my literature "takes" were not deleted...some were....i don't get it...and don't have the time to try and fi...	rosie light shines	1	390	Apr 6, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I feel like I am the only person in the world who doesn't have kids. (Preview) Hello, My A and I have been together for 12 yrs. We don't have children, I had an ectopic pregnancy in 1997 and haven't gotten pregnant since. I thought I came to terms with all this, well at least until this weekend. Most of the women in my f to f meetings have kids and do stuff togeth...	liliana	12	526	Apr 6, 2006 by emma
	Ladies and Gentlemen ... THE EAGLES... (Preview) Take it easy... Take it easy... Don't let the sound of your own wheels make you crazy. We may lose, or we may win... but we will never be here again. So open up I'm climbing in... Take it easy... I have shared here a few times that my Uncle recently fell from his addictions. In helping...	rtexas	4	438	Apr 6, 2006 by abbyal
	now the laughter is REAL (Preview) deleted for copying Alanon copyrighted literature. -- Edited by jrtjosey at 13:35, 2006-04-06	rosie light shines	0	268	Apr 6, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Step 6 (Preview) From our forum click attachment	angel123	0	298	Apr 6, 2006 by angel123
	haven't been in a long while (Preview) i haven't been to a meeting in a long while. for many reasons i suppose, but right now i need some instant help. i am going absolutely crazy!!! i have been wonderful in dealing with my mom, my sister, my multiple friends and family members and co-workers that are alcoholics/drug addicts. but not doing s...	niXieTeK	3	366	Apr 6, 2006 by nycbt
	1st time...what should I expect?? (Preview) Hi everyone, After one week of reading and posting on this forum, I am going to my first "real" alanon meeting. You all have inspired me, provoked my thoughts, brought me comfort and made me feel "normal" like someone else out there understands what I am going through. Anyway, for some...	robyn76	4	432	Apr 6, 2006 by mebjk
	1 Day Strong, The Next Day Not So Much (Preview) Where to begin? Some of you are aware of my story. My A = Husband, Alcoholic, Cocaine Addict = My Insanity I have spent the last 3 weeks ignoring my A b/c of his disappearing acts where he drinks & gets high for days at a time. I figure that it is easier to pretend he isn't even there and build t...	QOD	8	398	Apr 6, 2006 by QOD
	WOW... another lightbulb! (Preview) F. False Evidence Appearing Real. If my head dream't it up chance are it's not real. I have been wrong so many times for so many wrong reasons that I just stopped judging, investigating, complaining and fearing. What I try to do today is remind myself always that I don't know what...	rtexas	4	391	Apr 6, 2006 by rtexas
	I survived court (Preview) What a waste of time. I sat in the court hallway with my $325 hour attorney for 3 hours. But the mediation team strongly recommends against alimony and insists on a 50/50 split. now we go back to ping pong with the attorneys and another court ordered mediation in 2 weeks. The mediation team (famil...	megan	12	488	Apr 6, 2006 by Karilynn
	How do I get rid of the fear? (Preview) My husband tells me everytime he has a craving. He said it helps when I talk to him to remind him of why he's getting clean, change the subject to get his mind off of it or have sex. This causes anxiety in me. I sit worrying about whether or not he will fight the craving or give in. THen I ge...	Powerless	6	521	Apr 6, 2006 by kitty
	Hungry Angry Lonely Tired (Preview) Growing up as a I did in a family where chaos, volatile emotions, crisis were the norm there was no emphasis on stability. I sometimes want to go into long long texts of how complicated my life is. I do not want to embrace simple tenents like learning emotional intelligence. I of cou...	maresie	4	1623	Apr 6, 2006 by nmike
	HALT and Afraid (Preview) I have spent the past few days dragging myself out of bed. I am so sleepy!!! It seems as if I can't get enough sleep. I am hungry...but cooking as we speak. I am angry and working on that. I am trying to work past the anger of his infidelity. My husband is helping me b...	Powerless	10	486	Apr 6, 2006 by maresie
	Step 5 (Preview) From Forum step 5 click attachment	angel123	0	364	Apr 5, 2006 by angel123
	Stressful time of year for me (Preview) Hello friends :) I couldn't decide whether to post or not. This is not postivie or full of ESH but it is taking care of me. I just arrived home from spending the past week or so with my parents again helping out. I helped hang pictures in their basement to get that finished, went to doctor appointments wi...	cdb	9	402	Apr 5, 2006 by alberta123
	a friend's drinking (Preview) I am so sad. Today, I stopped into a little store. I go there about once a week. The woman who runs the store has been such an angel to me since my A left. She took time to give my children special attention, especially holidays, birtdays etc. This christmas she "borrowe...	Lunamoth	6	479	Apr 5, 2006 by Andrea12
	I KNOW what the decision SHOULD be ... (Preview) Thanks for all the kind words, encouragement and good advice on my previous post about making a decision. I'm throwing this out to the general line, because after reading what you've said here - I have an important question: I believe that he really does want to start a new relationship, but h...	HadEnuff	5	399	Apr 5, 2006 by Powerless
	Who Am I? (Preview) Since I started Alanon a year ago, I have become more aware of abusive people around me. I was in a verbally and physically abusive relationship that ended in October. It was like someone sucked the life out of me. I wound up not knowing who I am. I used to be very forgiving and let abusive behavior slide. N...	kissers	5	353	Apr 5, 2006 by Juster
	I HAVE to Make a Decision ... (Preview) ... this has just gone too far! He tells me when he gets back from his trip that he did a lot of thinking and that he's decided that he wants to make a go of our relationship. He says he's going to stop contacting other women on the phone line, or make any attempt to meet them. I say that I don't k...	HadEnuff	5	323	Apr 5, 2006 by ears_open
	update (Preview) Well - We are in our new home, some adjusting to do, but a much calmer atphmosphere! Had the washer and dryer,ice maker, phone and internet hooked up today. Tomorrow the plumbers redoing some pipes. Got a call in to remodeler to fix the shower area, regrout tub and water proof area better. Bo...	jrtjosey	7	398	Apr 5, 2006 by emma
	A little light shining through and a Perfect "10" this week!! (Preview) I've had lots of emotions the last couple of days. I am amazed at the level of insecurity I have now with my "a". He is assuring me that he was not calling this girl to have a relationship and that it is completely over. I continue to pray for my healing and his on this matter... We did h...	twinmom2	1	500	Apr 5, 2006 by QOD
	wanted to talk (Preview) things have been going well for me. my dad has been out of town for a few weeks and will be gone for another 2 weeks. i worry about him & the people he's with, but i realize there is nothing i can do about it. if he makes it home and in one piece...he does. if he doesn't...then i guess he doesn't. but i can cou...	flintfeet	4	352	Apr 5, 2006 by Maria123
	How Many Times (Preview) After reading "The Lois Wilson" book, I have concluded I have never put and consequence's in to my relationship with my A. In the past I have seen my A start AA over and over. At times it seems it maybe becuase my A thought the situation was coming to a head. Now in my heart I know I c...	Jewel	4	656	Apr 5, 2006 by Jewel
	Getting ready to fight (Preview) I am ready to fight for what I deserve in regards to my marital assets. I appreciate the support of each and every one of you. I know EXACTLY where I was before alanon and I will never return to the depths of my personal hell again. There are many steps on my journey from sheer pain and desp...	megan	19	815	Apr 5, 2006 by leo
	screw the challenges--- i need some joy AND hugs (Preview) TUESDAY , APRIL 04, 2006 You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1098>. *All we are asked to bear we can bear. That is a law of the spiritual life. The only hindrance to the working of this law, as of all benign laws, is fear. --Elizabeth...*	rosie light shines	6	334	Apr 5, 2006 by leo
	They do it on purpose?? (Preview) I just read in a post the following quote, "If they can get you angry (yes, of course they do it on purpose) they have the justifcation to go off - not take responsibility for their OWN feelings & blame you." I struggling with the idea that the A purposely gets you angry. Does this mean that they purpos...	Kady	11	614	Apr 5, 2006 by kitty
	Tips for detachment (Preview) I really get that detachment works and when I'm able to do it, it makes a tremendous difference in my life. But sometimes it seems impossible to stop those obsessive thoughts. I wonder if others have some practical suggestions of how to guide your thoughts during these frantic moments....	cullyvan	4	362	Apr 5, 2006 by kitty
	HOLDING me in the now (Preview) TUESDAY , APRIL 04, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. *One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past, for it is gone. --Ida Scott Taylor* It's not always easy to understand that the day stretching...	rosie light shines	1	324	Apr 5, 2006 by just me
	Saying no is empowering - may help some newcomers (Preview) Over the last few days, it seems to me by reading the posts, they keep bringing me back to when I was my most unmanageable, my most vulnerable, my most unlovable, my most fragile and yet now I can smile with the knowledge that I am different and that I have come so far. During those bleak day...	Maria123	7	580	Apr 4, 2006 by cdb
	I think I'm catching on.... (Preview) I posted a couple times, but have been mostly reading. I think I'm starting to realize what my biggest problems is. I'm constantly worried about how everyone I care about is feeling and I spend all my time trying to solve their problems and make them happy. I need to start figuring out what makes me hap...	DJ2006	4	361	Apr 4, 2006 by cdb
	How to Install Love (Preview) How To Install Love (Think about this) Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready to install it now. What do I do first? Tech Support: The first step is to open your HEART. Have you located your HEART, ma'am? Customer: Yes, I have, but there are several other progr...	cedarpines	4	492	Apr 4, 2006 by cdb
	to everything there is a season (Preview) I miss you all. I couldn't live with the drinking and verbal abuse from my hubby anymore, so since he wouldnt leave..I did. I have taken the kids and gone to my parents. It is hard on the kids not to be in their own house, but they are adjusting to the situation better than I thought they would, and bette...	lulu2	5	428	Apr 4, 2006 by cedarpines
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