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serendipity · serendipity

i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...

debilyn · debilyn

hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...

debilyn · debilyn

My A husband said that a lot. Then he was at his moms and did up too much H and died on the floor. The paramedics came and shocked him back. sigh. What could I have done? Nothing. To me it was and is totally out of my control. I cannot commit him. He saw a counselor, I was outside the door listening. He t...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I am at work right now and I am wishing I was at home. I took my car to the shop on Friday. Thinking I was going to be spending about $1800 to get the car fixed. Well the guy called me Friday morning and said good news you don't need a new transmission, bad news the part I need won't be in until Mon...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Last night, went out for a evening with friends. My A decided after we agree not to stay out too late because I have been working 10-11 hour days to come home so I could get some rest. Guess I knew I never should have went the whole night was a mess. Me and His drinking buddy's wife left them both at the b...

rtexas · rtexas

Morning ((((Everyone)))) I had to laugh at myself this morning and I thought you guys(gals) might enjoy this too. These days my AW falls asleep in about 30 seconds and immediatly starts snoring.... LOUD. It is really amazing. I even recorded some of it on my phone. (coul...

maresie2 · maresie2

Before al-anon I lived my life in a sea of frustration and feeling left out. I seethed with resentment day and night. These days I really seek to lessen resentments as best I can. I know how toxic they are. These days I am struggling financially (when wasn't I?) but now when I come up again...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Let me say first of all I am sorry i have not been able to contribute to the board as I would like to. There is not enough time in the day lately to work, finish house, talk to creditors, meditate, find strength to tune out my A and everything that goes along with it. And I have had the f...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hiya roomies, I just got off the phone with my daycare provider. And she had a very serious tone in her voice. So I was a little freaked. Here is our conversation. Day Care Provider (DCP): Prepare yourself Me: Crap, who is it this time (I have 3 kids) DCP: The middle one Me: Great, what she do thi...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Wow...my 2 week business trip, without A, was pretty wonderful. I travelled 500 miles each way, towing a 20 ft trailer...proving to myself I could turn and back into any space whatsoever...found this out when a bridge was out on a country road and I had to negotiate my "rig" into a country driveway, b...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

is..................................................Living

Rebecca · Rebecca

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't posted for awhile; things were calmer since our last blow-up about a month ago. I'm sure the blow-up would've been two weeks ago, but A was able to go out and drink himself stupid with his relatives because of a wedding so I told him to go ahead and stay out as long as he wanted. There was no blow-up...

Jill · Jill

Hi Abbyal, Today’s reading is the one you quote on this message board. I used to associate July 14 with Bastille Day. Later, my nephew was born on July 14, so this became his day. But since I’ve been reading the board, this is my July 14 thought. I agree - it's an awesome reading. You ca...

jj · jj

I have been struggeling with this very question for about a year now and my recovery has suffered huge!!! As I took the journey of recovery I began to question myself more and more and actually felt that I did not really belong in alanon at all. I have attended AA meetings and feel very comfo...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), If anyone has a copy of Meoldy Beattie's book: More Language of Letting Go, this month's topic is theme is: Learn to Say How it Feels. I find this particularly relevant for both hubby and I because he's newly sober and I am learning to deal with a newly...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Thank you for your shares. I will reply more in depth later ... for now though I wanted to be sure to let you all know I am doing good. I decided the more info I had the better so I called every agebcy in town and county that would be involved if I had to do anything against his will. I got...

penny · penny

May 30th was my last posting.. it seems a life time ago, since then I have come a long way. I am still living on my own and at a secret address although My Ex A's family have contacted me asking where I lived, I didnt reveal anything. His last court appearance for damaging my daughters car was adjourn...

maresie2 · maresie2

I think that Al-anon has taught me to understand my limitations. I am up for a job at a nearby company. Everything is great about the job, location, pay, conditions everything. Unfortunately the job involves a supervisor who is impossible to please. I have chosen not to pursue it...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Ok so it you read the previous post about Chanting the Serenity Prayer wanting to cry, you know my care went back to the shop today. Well it wasn't ready to be picked up when I got off work, so I took the ferry home. When I got to the other side of the water it started to rain. I had no jacket and no umb...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, having kind of a bad day today, don't know why exactly just life I guess.....Some days it seems that everything will be ok and then other days....I don't know....I am trying to stay in the moment...in today...it just gets hard sometimes... Hub is off of work, broken leg....I n...

just me · just me

Hey (((((SLS))))) I just wanted you to know it is good to see you on the board! I am looking forward to seeing your shares again. You have much esh to offer! Take care! Julia

dori · dori

Hi, I been in alanon 3 years and right not cant always get to face to face meetings. I need a alanon sponsor on line any one interested ? dori

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, i'm new here, but i will share my expirience from my only meeting. Manyof you are talking about great meeting and how much you learned from them. My meeting was different. I sat in cold room with another 10 mostly woman, middle aged, bitter, leaving their husbands. What i got from it, let it go m...

chris52 · chris52

Hello ((((((((family))))))))) Am back in the Uk with my son and his heavily pregnant wife. She looks FANTASTIC!! To sit and watch my son cherish her and take such good care of her brings tears to my eyes. HIS Father was never interested in our two pregnancies,giving us the joy of two beautiful children...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

My A just left to go by booze under the guise of buying ice, she has graduated from beer to wine so she is not drinking as much or so she says. I do not entertain any conversation on booze. (sometimes I think why don't you just spend all your money and stock up) We still have bills due and she is al...

Julianna · Julianna

Last night I went to my first meeting. It was very helpful and nice to talk with some people who have been there and done that in person. They gave me phone numbers and told me to call anytime-how comforting. I hope I never need to call someone anytime, but it sure is nice to know...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Yup...it was if my soul were rubbed raw with the twisted drinking garbage and sitting through my first al-anon meeting felt like a salve to said soul. I bought three books as soon as I walked into the meeting;'Hope for Today,Courage for Today and One day at a time'. I stuffed them into my purse and took...

Gailey · Gailey

Welcome to MIP. It is nice to meet you! Please post whenever you feel ready to. I am sure you have alot to offer as esh for all of us too. YFIR...Gail

mickey · mickey

Hello: I am the most confused newlywed there is on the face of this earth. I supported my Fiance' through 6 months of rehap, he worked this program to the fullest. When he came home he did well, and was a little pressured because he did not have a job. He looked high and low eventuall...

MrsGratitude · MrsGratitude

Hello - Just found this group. Very happy to be here. Already reading previous posts and enjoying the group wisdom. Thanks!

Lorelei · Lorelei

My head is just spinning, I hope all this makes sense, I have so much bottled up inside I that need to get out. My husband, of twenty years, is a hard worker, he never misses work, he is a loving person, and a good father and husband and provider, when he is not drinking. He does however have a proble...

Wizkid · Wizkid

I guess I feel like writing. I read the recovery Bible this morning. I felt peaceful. Then I freaked, mentally, later in the day. Then I biked for an hour and twenty minutes - prayed and talked to God the whole time. I had to drop my will. I've been reading the Celebrate Recovery program. That's t...

Valerie Malone · Valerie Malone

Hey, y'all. This is my "coming out" party in a sense--it's the first time I've talked to strangers about my husband's drinking (although my family and friends are now all in the loop). A month ago, I thought I was getting divorced. My husband was about to quit yet ANOTHER job (proba...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

My Ah is recently out of treatment yet again. It has been about 3 weeks this time. He is currently attending a meeting every night and going to aftercare 3 times a week. Sounds great I know...but I am still treating him like a child and he is still acting like one. I came to the realization yesterday that I h...

Julianna · Julianna

Hi everyone. I am brand new to al-anon and really appreciate the comments that I have read so far. I have reached a point in my life where, even though my husband doesn't drink a lot, I can't stand him when he does. I have two issues that are weighing on my mind. The first: Am I being neg...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi all, I have been reading the posts and recently joined the chat room (as Elsie). I have really enjoyed the meeting and the board as they have given me alot of wisdom. But, I'm still struggling with an issue with my dad and I can't get peace with it. I want to have a relationship with my d...

benhasglasses · benhasglasses

i met a girl. and she was very much the one for me. we were 24. this was nearly 2 years ago. we lived quite a distance from one another, so we had to take trips to see each other. on one of these trips, i discovered bruises all over her body. she had also lost a lot of weight. i also found a 1 liter soda bottle full o...

andretti000 · andretti000

hello. Everybody keeps on telling me to try Alanon. I am surrounded by alcoholics and I really don't know how to deal anymore! They are driving me crazy! I know I am easily manipulated and I feel guilty if I don't do what they want. Is the easiest thing just to stay away from them? I don't even drink. I hate a...

mickey · mickey

I just spilled my heart out and I need help please someone respond. I don't drink, I don't smoke or anything. this alcohol stuff is new to me and I'm not liking it.

megan · megan

Hello my friends old and new. I wish to share with you all some very happy news. My divorce is final 6/30. How can this be happy news? If you told me 2 years ago I would be happily divorced I would have screamed in rage, no way. But, God has other plans for me than to be the victem of abuse, s...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Just when I think I am turning a corner and am feeling good, I get slammed back. I went to my f2f meeting, the MIP meeting, and went to bed early. I was woken up by severe pain in my chest and back. After it became apparent it wasnt going away I ended up in the ER. After spending the n...

sparkette · sparkette

I think y'all are getting to know me well enough that when I post once on this board, to expect another post shortly thereafter. I do reflect on my thinking as well as my actions and behavior. The actions and behavior are a result of my thinking so last night that is where my focus was... on my thinking. My s...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...

anon_user · anon_user

Things are going well. Six weeks of exposure to al-anon and what a difference it’s made. I understand he is the one dying of alcoholism – it’s his problem to solve. I understand I can deal with him when I want to and walk away when I don’t. I understand he will drink or he will not drink, independen...

tea2 · tea2

I brought my 16 year old son to a carnival tonight to meet a few girls and picked up hours later. I had walked around a bit alone, didn’t let on I was mom when I passed him. I watched other families on the rides with their small children and reminisced. I admit I should be happy that he is healthy, so smart and h...

Gailey · Gailey

Well, next Friday I will be leaving for my once in a lifetime vacation and I am having alot of anxiety about it. I want so much to be happy and excited. Starting off on Thurs 7/21 will be leaving Baltimore heading to San Francisco for 2 nights. Leaving San Francisco on Sunday 7/23 and going to Honolulu...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Well..finally. I actually think I'm going to see a week ahead of me where I won't be crying,highly upset..pissed beyond sanity. I'm going to my first F2F in about an hour. This board has been (and will CONTINUE to be) a grand help for my peace of mind. I have been looking forward to this meeting for th...

allison · allison

Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post.Alot has happened since then...more lies,violence,and craziness.I have contacted a lawyer and I`m filing for divorce.I have realized that I will always care for him but I can never be with him.That life is too crazy especially for our children and...

sandie123 · sandie123

What is reality? Are my feelings reality? Are my hopes, fears and dreams necessary in my present reality? There are loads of things which I currently am trying to deal with, many of them extremely large. These things have been building up in me to a point where I am presently concerned about my me...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have popped in periodically to see how everyone is doing and to do some reading. Things have been ok for me, hectic to chaotic for the rest of my family. AW not liking my work schedule, or our lack of "fun money" as the summer comes to a close. ASon is job hun...

Diva · Diva

Hubby and I are headed out for a bit of vacation time in Louisiana. I need some of that seafood e'toufee, boiled crawfish, and Zydeco music. My heart stays with you all, and I'll keep each and every one of you in my prayers. Back in a week, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -...

sparkette · sparkette

Some open, heartfelt writing: I have talked to a couple alanon buddies here expressing that I have not felt I could contribute to the board right now because much of what is going on with me is so intensely personal that I wasn't sure how I could possibly share in a general way. After this morning meeti...

Gailey · Gailey

I am the child of an alcoholic father. I am 53 years old and second to the oldest of 5 children. All of my siblings have food addictions...3 (the 3 youngest) have had problems with alcohol and/or drugs. The one and only brother still smokes pot daily. Hasn't drank or used cocaine in many years. Still acti...

Diva · Diva

Thanks all of you for the good wishes. I am soooo excited. All packed. Now only remains to take the dogs to the "Palms Resort and Spa" tomorrow a.m. They are going to live in the lap of luxury too! LOL!! Dori...I live in Texas. San Antonio precisely. Where are you? Diva

minnow · minnow

I am just having a difficult time tonight-- I know that sleep be will not be coming tonight (for awhile at least), so thought I write out some of this stuff & maybe feel better. I keep repeating the 3 C's....and the serenity prayer! My A has a dual addiction...... claimes to have not touched alcoho...

gardengal · gardengal

If I only had made to feel worthwhile as a child, I would have more self confidence, and a better image of myself as I got older. I grew up with an A father, yes he was there in body, but that was about it from what I can remember, but that was my life as a child , I thought everyone lived this way. I knew no better....

liliana · liliana

Hi, A few months ago my a and I met a really nice guy who has been sober for 7 years. I was very attracted to him at that time, and got over it a few weeks later. We have not seen him since January. Well, over the past two weeks, we've seen him at mutual friends bbq's, and one concert.&nbs...

LALA1 · LALA1

He came home that night and we talked some but I see where nothing has been resolved. As I said before financially I am in a bind and completing school is so very important to me. I have been told many times to "act as if" and it will help me with any situation. I am going to start trying th...

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	loneliness (Preview) i don't mind being alone. i actually enjoy it. but the loneliness is starting to get to me. not all the time. i am using my f2f and friends to talk about life and to get hugs. but i am missing the real intimacy. i'm not sure if it's part of missing my ah (who i think was served divorce papers yesterday) or if it'...	serendipity	5	493	Jul 15, 2006 by dori
	Have I lost my mind, or found it? (Preview) Hello friends. I don't know if this would be Alanon related.It's my LIFE,so I guess that's what this all about,right? I am going to call work tomorrow and quit my job.I left there in tears today and have been crying ever since.Here's what happened.I was written up for doing something that I KNOW LO...	drucilla06	12	843	Jul 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	cdb (Preview) hi good to see you. I wanted to respond to your response. I have been in alanon a good many years. Have seen my A husband go thru about everything. I am not stranger to relapse, sobriety, recovery program to relapse and on and on. I am not ignorant when it comes to aism. Worry is not part of my...	debilyn	0	367	Jul 15, 2006 by debilyn
	Jennifer/suicide (Preview) My A husband said that a lot. Then he was at his moms and did up too much H and died on the floor. The paramedics came and shocked him back. sigh. What could I have done? Nothing. To me it was and is totally out of my control. I cannot commit him. He saw a counselor, I was outside the door listening. He t...	debilyn	1	757	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Chanting Serenity Prayer, wanting to cry (Preview) Hi roomies, I am at work right now and I am wishing I was at home. I took my car to the shop on Friday. Thinking I was going to be spending about $1800 to get the car fixed. Well the guy called me Friday morning and said good news you don't need a new transmission, bad news the part I need won't be in until Mon...	Dolphin123	8	1061	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Locked out! (Preview) Last night, went out for a evening with friends. My A decided after we agree not to stay out too late because I have been working 10-11 hour days to come home so I could get some rest. Guess I knew I never should have went the whole night was a mess. Me and His drinking buddy's wife left them both at the b...	DoN4me	6	536	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	Bass Assassin (Preview) Morning ((((Everyone)))) I had to laugh at myself this morning and I thought you guys(gals) might enjoy this too. These days my AW falls asleep in about 30 seconds and immediatly starts snoring.... LOUD. It is really amazing. I even recorded some of it on my phone. (coul...	rtexas	8	512	Jul 15, 2006 by Jennifer
	patience (Preview) Before al-anon I lived my life in a sea of frustration and feeling left out. I seethed with resentment day and night. These days I really seek to lessen resentments as best I can. I know how toxic they are. These days I am struggling financially (when wasn't I?) but now when I come up again...	maresie2	4	359	Jul 15, 2006 by leo
	ESH needed badly concerning suicide talk (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Let me say first of all I am sorry i have not been able to contribute to the board as I would like to. There is not enough time in the day lately to work, finish house, talk to creditors, meditate, find strength to tune out my A and everything that goes along with it. And I have had the f...	Jennifer	11	830	Jul 15, 2006 by tishrijo
	Oh My Gosh, (Preview) Hiya roomies, I just got off the phone with my daycare provider. And she had a very serious tone in her voice. So I was a little freaked. Here is our conversation. Day Care Provider (DCP): Prepare yourself Me: Crap, who is it this time (I have 3 kids) DCP: The middle one Me: Great, what she do thi...	Dolphin123	13	674	Jul 15, 2006 by tishrijo
	Home again...refreshed (Preview) Wow...my 2 week business trip, without A, was pretty wonderful. I travelled 500 miles each way, towing a 20 ft trailer...proving to myself I could turn and back into any space whatsoever...found this out when a bridge was out on a country road and I had to negotiate my "rig" into a country driveway, b...	Belongtome	4	579	Jul 15, 2006 by whitie
	advantages of living with an adult who acts like a child lol (Preview) is..................................................Living	hmrnrnmm	7	700	Jul 14, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	letting go and letting god! (Preview)	Rebecca	4	476	Jul 14, 2006 by Karilynn
	Here we go again! (Preview) I haven't posted for awhile; things were calmer since our last blow-up about a month ago. I'm sure the blow-up would've been two weeks ago, but A was able to go out and drink himself stupid with his relatives because of a wedding so I told him to go ahead and stay out as long as he wanted. There was no blow-up...	Lindy	3	643	Jul 14, 2006 by dori
	hi Abbyal (Preview) Hi Abbyal, Today’s reading is the one you quote on this message board. I used to associate July 14 with Bastille Day. Later, my nephew was born on July 14, so this became his day. But since I’ve been reading the board, this is my July 14 thought. I agree - it's an awesome reading. You ca...	Jill	0	362	Jul 14, 2006 by Jill
	Have any of questioned weather or not you were an A too! (Preview) I have been struggeling with this very question for about a year now and my recovery has suffered huge!!! As I took the journey of recovery I began to question myself more and more and actually felt that I did not really belong in alanon at all. I have attended AA meetings and feel very comfo...	jj	9	567	Jul 14, 2006 by Juster
	Honor Your Emotions (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), If anyone has a copy of Meoldy Beattie's book: *More Language of Letting Go*, this month's topic is theme is: Learn to Say How it Feels. I find this particularly relevant for both hubby and I because he's newly sober and I am learning to deal with a newly...	Karilynn	3	466	Jul 14, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Well here is what I did (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Thank you for your shares. I will reply more in depth later ... for now though I wanted to be sure to let you all know I am doing good. I decided the more info I had the better so I called every agebcy in town and county that would be involved if I had to do anything against his will. I got...	Jennifer	4	450	Jul 14, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Getting on with life. (Preview) May 30th was my last posting.. it seems a life time ago, since then I have come a long way. I am still living on my own and at a secret address although My Ex A's family have contacted me asking where I lived, I didnt reveal anything. His last court appearance for damaging my daughters car was adjourn...	penny	4	542	Jul 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Understanding my limitations (Preview) I think that Al-anon has taught me to understand my limitations. I am up for a job at a nearby company. Everything is great about the job, location, pay, conditions everything. Unfortunately the job involves a supervisor who is impossible to please. I have chosen not to pursue it...	maresie2	5	635	Jul 14, 2006 by chris52
	Hmm, wondering exactly how nuts I am. (Preview) Hi all, Ok so it you read the previous post about Chanting the Serenity Prayer wanting to cry, you know my care went back to the shop today. Well it wasn't ready to be picked up when I got off work, so I took the ferry home. When I got to the other side of the water it started to rain. I had no jacket and no umb...	Dolphin123	4	629	Jul 14, 2006 by chris52
	Just Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello Friends, having kind of a bad day today, don't know why exactly just life I guess.....Some days it seems that everything will be ok and then other days....I don't know....I am trying to stay in the moment...in today...it just gets hard sometimes... Hub is off of work, broken leg....I n...	Andrea12	7	449	Jul 14, 2006 by mel123
	Hi SLS (Preview) Hey (((((SLS))))) I just wanted you to know it is good to see you on the board! I am looking forward to seeing your shares again. You have much esh to offer! Take care! Julia	just me	1	592	Jul 14, 2006 by SLS
	sponsor (Preview) Hi, I been in alanon 3 years and right not cant always get to face to face meetings. I need a alanon sponsor on line any one interested ? dori	dori	5	435	Jul 14, 2006 by dori
	my first and only meeting (Preview) Hi all, i'm new here, but i will share my expirience from my only meeting. Manyof you are talking about great meeting and how much you learned from them. My meeting was different. I sat in cold room with another 10 mostly woman, middle aged, bitter, leaving their husbands. What i got from it, let it go m...	daisy2	9	933	Jul 14, 2006 by daisy2
	back with my kids (Preview) Hello ((((((((family))))))))) Am back in the Uk with my son and his heavily pregnant wife. She looks FANTASTIC!! To sit and watch my son cherish her and take such good care of her brings tears to my eyes. HIS Father was never interested in our two pregnancies,giving us the joy of two beautiful children...	chris52	8	483	Jul 13, 2006 by bobump
	frustrated & fed up at A's stupidity & being unresponsible & no hygiene manners ( may be long & boring) I had a bad day! (Preview) My A just left to go by booze under the guise of buying ice, she has graduated from beer to wine so she is not drinking as much or so she says. I do not entertain any conversation on booze. (sometimes I think why don't you just spend all your money and stock up) We still have bills due and she is al...	hmrnrnmm	4	992	Jul 13, 2006 by lin0606
	First f2f (Preview) Last night I went to my first meeting. It was very helpful and nice to talk with some people who have been there and done that in person. They gave me phone numbers and told me to call anytime-how comforting. I hope I never need to call someone anytime, but it sure is nice to know...	Julianna	3	537	Jul 13, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Meeting was a salve (Preview) Yup...it was if my soul were rubbed raw with the twisted drinking garbage and sitting through my first al-anon meeting felt like a salve to said soul. I bought three books as soon as I walked into the meeting;'Hope for Today,Courage for Today and One day at a time'. I stuffed them into my purse and took...	RamzDear	3	381	Jul 13, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Welcome Daisy (Preview) Welcome to MIP. It is nice to meet you! Please post whenever you feel ready to. I am sure you have alot to offer as esh for all of us too. YFIR...Gail	Gailey	1	570	Jul 13, 2006 by daisy2
	This is all new to me what do I do (Preview) Hello: I am the most confused newlywed there is on the face of this earth. I supported my Fiance' through 6 months of rehap, he worked this program to the fullest. When he came home he did well, and was a little pressured because he did not have a job. He looked high and low eventuall...	mickey	7	797	Jul 13, 2006 by doxie
	Newcomer to online group (Preview) Hello - Just found this group. Very happy to be here. Already reading previous posts and enjoying the group wisdom. Thanks!	MrsGratitude	6	360	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	need help (Preview) My head is just spinning, I hope all this makes sense, I have so much bottled up inside I that need to get out. My husband, of twenty years, is a hard worker, he never misses work, he is a loving person, and a good father and husband and provider, when he is not drinking. He does however have a proble...	Lorelei	11	513	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	I learned something new about myself (Preview) I guess I feel like writing. I read the recovery Bible this morning. I felt peaceful. Then I freaked, mentally, later in the day. Then I biked for an hour and twenty minutes - prayed and talked to God the whole time. I had to drop my will. I've been reading the Celebrate Recovery program. That's t...	Wizkid	3	508	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Coming out as the wife of a drunk (Preview) Hey, y'all. This is my "coming out" party in a sense--it's the first time I've talked to strangers about my husband's drinking (although my family and friends are now all in the loop). A month ago, I thought I was getting divorced. My husband was about to quit yet ANOTHER job (proba...	Valerie Malone	5	733	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Not his mom (Preview) My Ah is recently out of treatment yet again. It has been about 3 weeks this time. He is currently attending a meeting every night and going to aftercare 3 times a week. Sounds great I know...but I am still treating him like a child and he is still acting like one. I came to the realization yesterday that I h...	jkiss03	6	667	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	New to all of this (Preview) Hi everyone. I am brand new to al-anon and really appreciate the comments that I have read so far. I have reached a point in my life where, even though my husband doesn't drink a lot, I can't stand him when he does. I have two issues that are weighing on my mind. The first: Am I being neg...	Julianna	3	368	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	Can't figure out my dad (Preview) Hi all, I have been reading the posts and recently joined the chat room (as Elsie). I have really enjoyed the meeting and the board as they have given me alot of wisdom. But, I'm still struggling with an issue with my dad and I can't get peace with it. I want to have a relationship with my d...	itsgot2bgd	4	580	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	my story (Preview) i met a girl. and she was very much the one for me. we were 24. this was nearly 2 years ago. we lived quite a distance from one another, so we had to take trips to see each other. on one of these trips, i discovered bruises all over her body. she had also lost a lot of weight. i also found a 1 liter soda bottle full o...	benhasglasses	9	745	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	new here..alcoholics driving me crazy! (Preview) hello. Everybody keeps on telling me to try Alanon. I am surrounded by alcoholics and I really don't know how to deal anymore! They are driving me crazy! I know I am easily manipulated and I feel guilty if I don't do what they want. Is the easiest thing just to stay away from them? I don't even drink. I hate a...	andretti000	3	680	Jul 13, 2006 by nycbt
	This is my first time on here I need some advice (Preview) I just spilled my heart out and I need help please someone respond. I don't drink, I don't smoke or anything. this alcohol stuff is new to me and I'm not liking it.	mickey	4	515	Jul 13, 2006 by danz123
	Divorce is final 6/30 (Preview) Hello my friends old and new. I wish to share with you all some very happy news. My divorce is final 6/30. How can this be happy news? If you told me 2 years ago I would be happily divorced I would have screamed in rage, no way. But, God has other plans for me than to be the victem of abuse, s...	megan	15	949	Jul 13, 2006 by kitty
	No More... (Preview) Just when I think I am turning a corner and am feeling good, I get slammed back. I went to my f2f meeting, the MIP meeting, and went to bed early. I was woken up by severe pain in my chest and back. After it became apparent it wasnt going away I ended up in the ER. After spending the n...	AlaMom	3	551	Jul 12, 2006 by Andrea12
	positive shift (Preview) I think y'all are getting to know me well enough that when I post once on this board, to expect another post shortly thereafter. I do reflect on my thinking as well as my actions and behavior. The actions and behavior are a result of my thinking so last night that is where my focus was... on my thinking. My s...	sparkette	4	668	Jul 12, 2006 by doxie
	"Sobriety is not a 'happily ever after...'" (Preview) Hi family--I saw that quote in my al anon "Cal's Recovery Journal" and it sparked something that I hadn't thought about for a long time. At one time, maybe like 6 mos ago, my dad put together 90 continuous days of sobriety, and at first I was like "Yeah whatever" because that's the way my dad's disease wor...	Tiger2006	7	882	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	Six Weeks In Al-Anon (Preview) Things are going well. Six weeks of exposure to al-anon and what a difference it’s made. I understand he is the one dying of alcoholism – it’s his problem to solve. I understand I can deal with him when I want to and walk away when I don’t. I understand he will drink or he will not drink, independen...	anon_user	7	684	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	mom and son (Preview) I brought my 16 year old son to a carnival tonight to meet a few girls and picked up hours later. I had walked around a bit alone, didn’t let on I was mom when I passed him. I watched other families on the rides with their small children and reminisced. I admit I should be happy that he is healthy, so smart and h...	tea2	9	1125	Jul 12, 2006 by bobump
	my vacation (Preview) Well, next Friday I will be leaving for my once in a lifetime vacation and I am having alot of anxiety about it. I want so much to be happy and excited. Starting off on Thurs 7/21 will be leaving Baltimore heading to San Francisco for 2 nights. Leaving San Francisco on Sunday 7/23 and going to Honolulu...	Gailey	4	450	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Going tonight (Preview) Well..finally. I actually think I'm going to see a week ahead of me where I won't be crying,highly upset..pissed beyond sanity. I'm going to my first F2F in about an hour. This board has been (and will CONTINUE to be) a grand help for my peace of mind. I have been looking forward to this meeting for th...	RamzDear	3	511	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	enough is enough (Preview) Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post.Alot has happened since then...more lies,violence,and craziness.I have contacted a lawyer and I`m filing for divorce.I have realized that I will always care for him but I can never be with him.That life is too crazy especially for our children and...	allison	5	365	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	The Pain of Reality…. Necessary or Not??? (Preview) What is reality? Are my feelings reality? Are my hopes, fears and dreams necessary in my present reality? There are loads of things which I currently am trying to deal with, many of them extremely large. These things have been building up in me to a point where I am presently concerned about my me...	sandie123	2	526	Jul 12, 2006 by hersh
	Winners never quit! (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have popped in periodically to see how everyone is doing and to do some reading. Things have been ok for me, hectic to chaotic for the rest of my family. AW not liking my work schedule, or our lack of "fun money" as the summer comes to a close. ASon is job hun...	rtexas	6	695	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Bye bye all... (Preview) Hubby and I are headed out for a bit of vacation time in Louisiana. I need some of that seafood e'toufee, boiled crawfish, and Zydeco music. My heart stays with you all, and I'll keep each and every one of you in my prayers. Back in a week, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -...	Diva	12	916	Jul 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	do you even have to ask? updated!! (Preview) Some open, heartfelt writing: I have talked to a couple alanon buddies here expressing that I have not felt I could contribute to the board right now because much of what is going on with me is so intensely personal that I wasn't sure how I could possibly share in a general way. After this morning meeti...	sparkette	4	845	Jul 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	inheiriting(sp) the ADDICTION gene (Preview) I am the child of an alcoholic father. I am 53 years old and second to the oldest of 5 children. All of my siblings have food addictions...3 (the 3 youngest) have had problems with alcohol and/or drugs. The one and only brother still smokes pot daily. Hasn't drank or used cocaine in many years. Still acti...	Gailey	5	629	Jul 12, 2006 by Gailey
	dori et al... (Preview) Thanks all of you for the good wishes. I am soooo excited. All packed. Now only remains to take the dogs to the "Palms Resort and Spa" tomorrow a.m. They are going to live in the lap of luxury too! LOL!! Dori...I live in Texas. San Antonio precisely. Where are you? Diva	Diva	1	343	Jul 12, 2006 by dori
	Glad to have a place to come tonight (Preview) I am just having a difficult time tonight-- I know that sleep be will not be coming tonight (for awhile at least), so thought I write out some of this stuff & maybe feel better. I keep repeating the 3 C's....and the serenity prayer! My A has a dual addiction...... claimes to have not touched alcoho...	minnow	1	556	Jul 12, 2006 by leo
	Why did life have to be such a disappointment,,such a hassel? (Preview) If I only had made to feel worthwhile as a child, I would have more self confidence, and a better image of myself as I got older. I grew up with an A father, yes he was there in body, but that was about it from what I can remember, but that was my life as a child , I thought everyone lived this way. I knew no better....	gardengal	2	742	Jul 11, 2006 by drucilla06
	married and attracted to someone else. (Preview) Hi, A few months ago my a and I met a really nice guy who has been sober for 7 years. I was very attracted to him at that time, and got over it a few weeks later. We have not seen him since January. Well, over the past two weeks, we've seen him at mutual friends bbq's, and one concert.&nbs...	liliana	15	1570	Jul 11, 2006 by allison
	Wanting to love me again (Preview) He came home that night and we talked some but I see where nothing has been resolved. As I said before financially I am in a bind and completing school is so very important to me. I have been told many times to "act as if" and it will help me with any situation. I am going to start trying th...	LALA1	3	601	Jul 11, 2006 by maresie2
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