The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I think that Al-anon has taught me to understand my limitations. I am up for a job at a nearby company. Everything is great about the job, location, pay, conditions everything. Unfortunately the job involves a supervisor who is impossible to please. I have chosen not to pursue it. In the past I know I would have pursued it, failed, tried to please till I was half dead, then felt awful. Why not bypass all that.
Luckily for me the job market is so so much better. I can choose these days not to pursue disaster after all I have done that for years with the A.
When the A does stuff like play his passive aggressive games I just don't buy in anymore. It is so much easier not to argue. I have my own goals and my own life, my whole life, esteem, ideals are not all tied into his being a certain way. Progress not perfection.
It's fantastic when we can actually utilise the tools we learn here in everyday life.......and fantastic that we can actually rationalise it and make a healthy choice NOT to let it beat us down isn't it? It's taken me such a long time to actually realise I had choices.
