The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Wow...my 2 week business trip, without A, was pretty wonderful.
I travelled 500 miles each way, towing a 20 ft trailer...proving to myself I could turn and back into any space whatsoever...found this out when a bridge was out on a country road and I had to negotiate my "rig" into a country driveway, between the posts and the trees. Pretty irrevelant here, except for the boost it gave my self esteem...I want him to do stuff like this, but I do not have to HAVE him to do this work.
My weeks away consisted of 12 hour workdays, plenty of lifting...it was glorious, as I did what I wanted when I wanted...with no fetching and carrying for my A. When he called, I told him I didn't miss that! Now that I'm home he refers to my comment often, and makes a point of asking would I like a soda, etc, when he is up anyway.
My hardest part was him calling me 3 times a day, no matter how busy or tired I was. Next trip,, maybe I'll throw that cell phone out the window on the interstate...ha!
My friends who stayed with me, were very spiritual, and it was wonderful to be cooked for!
Is it a little sad that this has been the best time I've had in a long time?
I did my yoga at 6am each day, and had lots of time for reflection in the evenings, and feel I grew stronger in my resolve to come home and assert my needs.
Thanks for listening...just wanted y'all to know I was okay!
You go girl! I'm so glad that you able to have some serenity for yourself. It's so enpowering to realize that you can do these things by yourself and for yourself. Keep that in mind in the weeks to come as he starts to push your buttons. It sounds like he might have missed you!
Thanks for sharing and reminding us that we too have the power.
