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irish54 · irish54

Hi everyone. Thought I would update y'all a little on the situation with my daughter and grandaughter who lost their father/husband this summer. Friday I received an email from my grandaughter who said she missed us very much and that her mom had a new "friend". she said she didn't lik...

Christy · Christy

((friends))) I see a lot of hurt and pain on the board lately so I had an idea. Take what you like and leave the rest. I have a challenge for everyone. Just for today... Be the person you want to be, no baggage, strong and solid. See and BE that person. Envision and act joyous and carefree. ...

ditto · ditto

I am completely confused. I don't think I will ever understand how an alcoholic thinks. My A husband and I were divorced this past June (3 months ago). It has actually been a very pleasant experience being rid of him. I no longer face worries about his health, what he will do w...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Why am I bothering? why am I trying to get Tina a ride home. She has been housesitting in Columbus since Wed. I got off work Wed at 6pm & took her up there around 8 to 9 pm. I then took our neighbor to the grocery store. I got home around 11pm. I had to get up around 4:30am Thursday & Friday to get to every...

TLC2 · TLC2

I was having a really crappy day two days ago, right from the early morning till evening. I came here, didn't even vent, just read your posts. Just seeing all the love and support in this room made me feel sooo much better!! Thanks family, Love Ya! TLC

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, it's so wonderful to come here and to meetings and to hear es&h. It's such a breath of fresh air to know I'm not the fault of the world like sometime the a and my family of origion makes me feel. My a's quiting tobacco products, or rather was, this whole weekend, I don't think i've s...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

YOu know, I was thinking he sure is a good excuse, I can't do or I haven't done (fill in the blank) because of him! When hes gone I feel like I can do anything I have no limits. I also have no one to blame or to expect to do things I know they will never do so I just do them myself and thin...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone and happy Friday!!!)))) It's been another tough week, but I finally had enough of the drama and went to a motel last night. You know, it was SO peaceful I cannot even believe it. I am tired of talking about the situation, just want to be alone and quiet. I told a great...

david62 · david62

Howdy (((((Everyone)))))) I just felt like posting something this morning about my experience last week. Been a busy week and I am just now sitting down and catching my breath for real! LOL. I was one of the luckies that got to meet a group of people from MIP in San Antonio last weekend. Six of us...

horselover58 · horselover58

I need some help. I cannot sign into the alanon chatroom. Says my host name is banned, that I am spam or abuser? Can't figure that one out. Any ideas?????? Email me,I will keep trying. Thanks, Deb

cytagirl · cytagirl

It's been a while since i last posted on here , though i regularly read the posts and thought i was learning how to cope with the situation i am in ... how wrong i was Living in Cyprus , i have no means of attending a meeting , the only one i found was 50 ks away from me , held on a mond...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hello everyone, i looked up the date of my first post on the message board and that was oct.1,2005 in the post i was looking for a sponsor and mentioned i was in the program for three weeks at that time. so i guess im happy to say its my one year anniversary since finding alanon!!!!! yay. im so thankful for ev...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has been laid off from work going on three weeks now. At first he was actually doing some work in the garage and keeping himself busy. I knew it wouldn't last. Now he's been drunk when I return home. It's taking every ounce of energy I have to keep going until I can get divorced and get him out of my life....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I think I had already been detaching for a long time before leaving. He had been sober for 10mos and when he went on a runner in June and disappeared for 4 days I wasn't even concerned. It usually starts out as a pain in the pit of my stomach and then I start checking - calling, checking the credit cards, look...

tedley · tedley

I am not much one for posting to boards, going to meetings, or forgetting. But I am at wits end and I am... well I just don't know. So, My wife is an alcoholic. Dry now for almost 4 months and that is great. But that is the difficult part as well. She is involved in local AA meetings and I have been to a few to...

DoN4me · DoN4me

ok time to tell you my story of what brought me here. I meet my son's father many many years ago. I had fallen for him he was my moon and my stars. But he was an active A. He was abusive both verbal and physical. So when I couldn't take it anymore. He was cheating on me, and the straw was wh...

daisy2 · daisy2

" There's one flaw in women,".................. By the time the Lord made woman, he was into His sixth day of working overtime. An angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered, "Have you seen My spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but no...

maresie · maresie

I used to really want to be the center of the A's life to be there for him. As some of you know the A has a mother who while she is an enabler never is "there" for him. When he was really illl(with a muscle condition) she gave him a chocolate bar and told him that it would all be ok. She left me to deal with it...

troubleandcheetah · troubleandcheetah

I need some advice about my brother. Let me give a little backstory. My brother is addicted to crack/cocaine and he came to me and my parents in March of this year and told his that he wanted help. My parents sent him to a drug rehab program for a month and then when he was released he mov...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Well... our story begins with 3 straight weeks of raging over the realization that our main character is NOT going to stop going to Al-Anon while living with an active A. The A is completely distraught and for the 8th time this year has declared the decission to move out on her o...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have noticed since I have started the program. I have been full of all kinds of emotions. I express myself alot more. I say what I mean blunt and to the point. I never used to talk this way. I would always find a nice way to put things to afraid of offending someone somewhere. I just always looked at it as bee...

LadyLibra · LadyLibra

A is out of the house again and I feel relieved but at the same time feel sad...can anyone relate to that? The sadness feels like tears that start in my stomach travels up to my throat and comes out my eyes. He left Monday and I have only heard from him once and he called to say he has a new lease on life...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello I'm having a rough night here. I served my A/Cocaine-addicted hubby with divorce papers last week. This week he's been begging for another chance. I just had a conversation with him tonight and said I just can't go through anymore pain and disrespect, and I'm not sure I can ever trust him again. H...

maresie · maresie

I have really been trying to work on the martyr issue which is ingrained for me in dealing with the A and others. I feel I was really trained and schooled to be a martyr by my family of origin. I would alternate with the A between being a martyr (I could no give him enough) to railing and raging a...

Tammy · Tammy

I have to ask myself this.. Is loving an alcoholic worth what you loose ? My husband the alcoholic in my life can be so mean at times.. He calls me names and makes me feel like dirt. Other days he is as nice as he can be. We started counseling as our marriage has fallin apart and we are hanging on by a thread. I...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

AH has truck in both our names somewhere in AZ. He is going to treatment. No payments have or will be made. Also he got a DUI in Alabama on the way I found out. What do I need to do to CMA? Not sure what my responsiblity is here but I know I'm not paying for a vehicle I don't have.

Barbara · Barbara

were you officially diagnosed? and what did they do for you?

Barbara · Barbara

When attending a weekly meeting we're stuck in either a step or begineer meeting. Sometimes a discussion. But at conventions there is usually a choice of 3 meetings to attend at the same time.

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, My ex-A was just rubbing it in a few weeks ago how he had seen my alcoholic brother in Ennis and he was looking great , in a suit, and everything. This was meant to minimise to me just how bad this guys problems are. Yet last week my son told me that my brother had cut loose and gone to another brothe...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got the following quip in the mail today. It really fits in with what I have been struggling with lately... self-esteem. We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less. -- Anonymous We are wonderful...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, When I was growing up my mother cleaned up after and enabled my Afather so much that even as a child I couldn't understand it. She was and still is completely codependant in his shadow for a lifetime. I remember at a young age vowing to myself that I would never end up like that. Yet here...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi all, Well since A went back to drinking earlier this week all hell has broken loose. He had been sober for 7 weeks but had just shut himself in the house and avoided all outside contact in order to do it. Now all his looser friends are back. He has been in the woods cutting firewood...

Gailey · Gailey

I have been in a very low mood for the past several weeks...well actually it seems for my whole life. I have never thought of myself as being depressed. I had always thought that I felt the way I do because of circumstances in my life. I am now starting to think differently. As a child I remember my mom b...

Christy · Christy

(((friends))) My husband e-mailed me this song this morning and I sat here and cried through it. Believe it or not, it's uplifting..lol Thought I'd share some happy stuff, we all need that!! :) *sigh, 15 more days till he comes home for visit but his daughter is getting married so we have to travel. I don...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well he has been missing for about a week and I haven't really thought about it much just every now and again wondering if he's ok and then today I listen to a message from his mother saying that a guy from AA in Arizona called her to say he's ok and getting into rehab on Saturday. Now I found that I was E...

peewee · peewee

Oh boy oh boy I am on overload with the subject of "codyness". A family member other than myself raised cody, acoa, seems is trying to pass on codependence to everyone else too. Is that possible? Is this a family disease right along with alcoholism? Not to imply that I myself...

kingston · kingston

Just wanted to know if anyone read this book and tried the plan? Thanks

faraway06 · faraway06

Dear all-- I'm working the steps largely on my own, as the city where I live has a tiny, tiny Al-Anon group and I am without a sponsor. I get some good guidance from AA colleagues, but wanted to turn to this group with a question about doing a self-inventory as part of step 4, which is where I am now....

Gailey · Gailey

I have heard it said that alanon is a million dollar program shoved up your butt a nickel at a time. I could not help but laugh at that saying. I have never heard that before. I think I will have to remember that. Thanks...Gail -- Edited by Gailey at 09:40, 2006-09-14

beachbaby · beachbaby

Ok....why do I feel so strange right now. My ex bf is in jail again....contempt of dui court. He has been sober for a while, so I hear, not sure what happened. I had been thinking of his mom for several days, she and I were close when he and I were together. I occasionally see her in Al Anon and we al...

lilleah · lilleah

Ok, my A has been drinking at home the last month or so, only on Friday nights, and another couple come up and the husbands sit around and drink, and me and his friends wife, may have a few, but we just sit around and talk. Well this past Friday night, it was getting late, so our friends wife went in and went to...

scotia · scotia

i went into the chat room om 12/09/06 and there was a discussion about an active A and methodone and drugs should this be talked about on the main chat room or should it have been a private chat as any new al-anon member coming in would be confused. I do have sympathy as i have active drug abuse in my family bu...

hersh · hersh

((( Good morning everyone)))) I am in such a shellshock mode the last few weeks. I am strong one day and horribly anxious the next. AH is totally lying about this "friendship" he has been having since earlier this year, and of course I am checking the phone bill everyday. She call...

nycbt · nycbt

Nov I will be in Alanon for two years. At this present time in my life I feel very distance from Alanon. Which is not good. I can't get my self together to work my steps or even go to face to face meetings. My private computer has been down since aug 19 and I haven't been able to get on the internet at night like i...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Family)) I was working on this question as part of my step work and thought I'd share some of my discoveries. The definition of pity is a feeling of empathy and sorrow for the misfortune's of other. To feel for someone, show compassion to someone, and take mercy on them. T...

sld488 · sld488

Finally, I just prayed the serenity prayer....... instead of applying the words or trying to make them fit into the situation the way I wanted them to I just prayed!   ...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

The Daffodil Principle Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday," I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. ...

lilms · lilms

I have read many times or have seen where someone has edited or deleted one of their posts. How does one go about doing this??? I am not the most technologically advanced person but didn't think up until now that I was a complete moron. I have searched and searched this site and cannot fig...

LadyLibra · LadyLibra

The other day A and I were in conflict again. He said to me that he is a grown man and will do whatever he wants. That kind of statement for me indicates he has no respect for the relationship or me and it is time to move on. Any one experience this kind of behavior. I a...

bob6502 · bob6502

Well my lovelies, as you all know I visited the land of cowboys and cactus this last weekend. I did my best to be bring my Al-Anon with me and I wanted to share what I learned about myself. I like doing a continuous tenth step around my recovery. I haven't made a post on this board in a long time. So here goes: 1...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Sorry. Deleted my post. This was probably one of those questions I needed to figure out on my own. -- Edited by findingmyway at 19:40, 2006-09-13

marks girl · marks girl

My A is doing great!!!!! Today is aweek he has been wihtour a drink. I know that isn't long BUT it is a start!!!!! I have learned a lot in a little amount of time. I am doing something for me!!!!! I am going to go back to college and get my masters degree. My A is very proud of me and thinks it is a good ide...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys well...where do i start..... the last few weeks i have been taking a step back from my ex boyf. the "A". he text me to tell me he had moved on, i said good. he asked was i around for the weekend.. i said NO i was going away with the girls for a break. he said FINE. i headed off with the girls up the c...

frog58 · frog58

"The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present" Barbara De Angelis "The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself." Anna Quindlen thank you for sharing...

sandie123 · sandie123

I could use some ESH on self-worth and self-esteem... 2 areas I am definatel lacking. I understand how important they are to my growth. I am reminded regularly from program members how I am a worthwhile person and am loved. I guess it's a good thing I hear that from ohters cause I don't beleive them enoug...

faraway06 · faraway06

Dear friends: Just joined this group a few nights ago and am so grateful for the community. Thank you all for your wisdom, hope and strength. The situation with the A in my life now is challenging, but I'm feeling centered and grounded these days so I thought I'd take a moment to continue to seek othe...

sandie123 · sandie123

It is just my son and me in the house. My A has been gone almost 11 months and my daugther just left for college. We live on just under 10 acres... on a "farm" which is gradually falling down before my eyes. My son and I are trying to get caught up on some of the things around the house which have been neglected f...

MIP family members here in San Antonio. · Diva

Several of us got together here in San Antonio. Most everyone spent the week enjoying one another's company, but I had lunch with the group on Sunday. The restaurant where we chose to meet was closed, so we piled in our vehicles and went elsewhere. Had a great Tex-Mex lunch at "Mi Tierra," which is renow...

shadow1 · shadow1

Hi ((((((((((((Family)))))))))) Today I’m asking for your prayers. I have to go in for a biopsy and I am letting the fear of the unknown get to me. I am scared to death. I have to see the surgeon on Friday and I’m praying that they surgery will be scheduled very soon so I know just what I might be up a...

moto · moto

Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...

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	It's Monday! (Preview) Hi everyone. Thought I would update y'all a little on the situation with my daughter and grandaughter who lost their father/husband this summer. Friday I received an email from my grandaughter who said she missed us very much and that her mom had a new "friend". she said she didn't lik...	irish54	3	459	Sep 18, 2006 by irish54
	Just for today challenge, you up for it? (Preview) ((friends))) I see a lot of hurt and pain on the board lately so I had an idea. Take what you like and leave the rest. I have a challenge for everyone. Just for today... Be the person you want to be, no baggage, strong and solid. See and BE that person. Envision and act joyous and carefree. ...	Christy	15	566	Sep 18, 2006 by gardengal
	The thoughts of an A (Preview) I am completely confused. I don't think I will ever understand how an alcoholic thinks. My A husband and I were divorced this past June (3 months ago). It has actually been a very pleasant experience being rid of him. I no longer face worries about his health, what he will do w...	ditto	6	460	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Why do I bother? why am going on? (Preview) Why am I bothering? why am I trying to get Tina a ride home. She has been housesitting in Columbus since Wed. I got off work Wed at 6pm & took her up there around 8 to 9 pm. I then took our neighbor to the grocery store. I got home around 11pm. I had to get up around 4:30am Thursday & Friday to get to every...	hmrnrnmm	3	466	Sep 18, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thanks everyone, just for being you (Preview) I was having a really crappy day two days ago, right from the early morning till evening. I came here, didn't even vent, just read your posts. Just seeing all the love and support in this room made me feel sooo much better!! Thanks family, Love Ya! TLC	TLC2	4	404	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Keeping myself safe (Preview) Hi all, it's so wonderful to come here and to meetings and to hear es&h. It's such a breath of fresh air to know I'm not the fault of the world like sometime the a and my family of origion makes me feel. My a's quiting tobacco products, or rather was, this whole weekend, I don't think i've s...	mastiff	6	465	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Cop out (Preview) YOu know, I was thinking he sure is a good excuse, I can't do or I haven't done (fill in the blank) because of him! When hes gone I feel like I can do anything I have no limits. I also have no one to blame or to expect to do things I know they will never do so I just do them myself and thin...	carolinagirl	5	540	Sep 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	Getting away.... (Preview) (((Hi everyone and happy Friday!!!)))) It's been another tough week, but I finally had enough of the drama and went to a motel last night. You know, it was SO peaceful I cannot even believe it. I am tired of talking about the situation, just want to be alone and quiet. I told a great...	hersh	5	559	Sep 18, 2006 by annmarie
	A Share from the Spleen! (Preview) Howdy (((((Everyone)))))) I just felt like posting something this morning about my experience last week. Been a busy week and I am just now sitting down and catching my breath for real! LOL. I was one of the luckies that got to meet a group of people from MIP in San Antonio last weekend. Six of us...	david62	9	516	Sep 17, 2006 by bob6502
	Trouble signing in chatroom (Preview) I need some help. I cannot sign into the alanon chatroom. Says my host name is banned, that I am spam or abuser? Can't figure that one out. Any ideas?????? Email me,I will keep trying. Thanks, Deb	horselover58	2	449	Sep 16, 2006 by peewee
	no light at the end of the tunnel (Preview) It's been a while since i last posted on here , though i regularly read the posts and thought i was learning how to cope with the situation i am in ... how wrong i was Living in Cyprus , i have no means of attending a meeting , the only one i found was 50 ks away from me , held on a mond...	cytagirl	7	614	Sep 16, 2006 by RedHead
	anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) hello everyone, i looked up the date of my first post on the message board and that was oct.1,2005 in the post i was looking for a sponsor and mentioned i was in the program for three weeks at that time. so i guess im happy to say its my one year anniversary since finding alanon!!!!! yay. im so thankful for ev...	notsonew1111	7	460	Sep 16, 2006 by confused
	Another drunkfest Thursday night (Preview) My AH has been laid off from work going on three weeks now. At first he was actually doing some work in the garage and keeping himself busy. I knew it wouldn't last. Now he's been drunk when I return home. It's taking every ounce of energy I have to keep going until I can get divorced and get him out of my life....	Lindy	6	506	Sep 16, 2006 by horselover58
	detachment (Preview) I think I had already been detaching for a long time before leaving. He had been sober for 10mos and when he went on a runner in June and disappeared for 4 days I wasn't even concerned. It usually starts out as a pain in the pit of my stomach and then I start checking - calling, checking the credit cards, look...	carolinagirl	3	482	Sep 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Rage, Forgetting (Preview) I am not much one for posting to boards, going to meetings, or forgetting. But I am at wits end and I am... well I just don't know. So, My wife is an alcoholic. Dry now for almost 4 months and that is great. But that is the difficult part as well. She is involved in local AA meetings and I have been to a few to...	tedley	9	537	Sep 16, 2006 by Cilla
	Time for me to open up (Preview) ok time to tell you my story of what brought me here. I meet my son's father many many years ago. I had fallen for him he was my moon and my stars. But he was an active A. He was abusive both verbal and physical. So when I couldn't take it anymore. He was cheating on me, and the straw was wh...	DoN4me	4	427	Sep 16, 2006 by Andrea12
	" There's one flaw in women,".................. (Preview) " There's one flaw in women,".................. By the time the Lord made woman, he was into His sixth day of working overtime. An angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" And the Lord answered, "Have you seen My spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but no...	daisy2	4	703	Sep 15, 2006 by carolinagirl
	being reliable/being guilty (Preview) I used to really want to be the center of the A's life to be there for him. As some of you know the A has a mother who while she is an enabler never is "there" for him. When he was really illl(with a muscle condition) she gave him a chocolate bar and told him that it would all be ok. She left me to deal with it...	maresie	4	383	Sep 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	Need advice (Preview) I need some advice about my brother. Let me give a little backstory. My brother is addicted to crack/cocaine and he came to me and my parents in March of this year and told his that he wanted help. My parents sent him to a drug rehab program for a month and then when he was released he mov...	troubleandcheetah	7	509	Sep 15, 2006 by TLC2
	First BIG Let go and Let God (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Well... our story begins with 3 straight weeks of raging over the realization that our main character is NOT going to stop going to Al-Anon while living with an active A. The A is completely distraught and for the 8th time this year has declared the decission to move out on her o...	rtexas	7	532	Sep 15, 2006 by TLC2
	Emotions (Preview) I have noticed since I have started the program. I have been full of all kinds of emotions. I express myself alot more. I say what I mean blunt and to the point. I never used to talk this way. I would always find a nice way to put things to afraid of offending someone somewhere. I just always looked at it as bee...	DoN4me	3	490	Sep 15, 2006 by DoN4me
	SAD AGAIN (Preview) A is out of the house again and I feel relieved but at the same time feel sad...can anyone relate to that? The sadness feels like tears that start in my stomach travels up to my throat and comes out my eyes. He left Monday and I have only heard from him once and he called to say he has a new lease on life...	LadyLibra	9	518	Sep 15, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	trusting my decision... (Preview) Hello I'm having a rough night here. I served my A/Cocaine-addicted hubby with divorce papers last week. This week he's been begging for another chance. I just had a conversation with him tonight and said I just can't go through anymore pain and disrespect, and I'm not sure I can ever trust him again. H...	artygirl	7	526	Sep 15, 2006 by maresie
	the martyr stuff (Preview) I have really been trying to work on the martyr issue which is ingrained for me in dealing with the A and others. I feel I was really trained and schooled to be a martyr by my family of origin. I would alternate with the A between being a martyr (I could no give him enough) to railing and raging a...	maresie	3	434	Sep 15, 2006 by maresie
	Is the price to high ??? (Preview) I have to ask myself this.. Is loving an alcoholic worth what you loose ? My husband the alcoholic in my life can be so mean at times.. He calls me names and makes me feel like dirt. Other days he is as nice as he can be. We started counseling as our marriage has fallin apart and we are hanging on by a thread. I...	Tammy	5	590	Sep 15, 2006 by maresie
	what do i do? (Preview) AH has truck in both our names somewhere in AZ. He is going to treatment. No payments have or will be made. Also he got a DUI in Alabama on the way I found out. What do I need to do to CMA? Not sure what my responsiblity is here but I know I'm not paying for a vehicle I don't have.	carolinagirl	4	458	Sep 15, 2006 by Tiger2006
	obsessive compulsive disorder anyone? (Preview) were you officially diagnosed? and what did they do for you?	Barbara	2	503	Sep 15, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Conventions give a much wider choice of topics than weekly meetings (Preview) When attending a weekly meeting we're stuck in either a step or begineer meeting. Sometimes a discussion. But at conventions there is usually a choice of 3 meetings to attend at the same time.	Barbara	2	371	Sep 15, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Brother gone off the rails again (Preview) Dear All, My ex-A was just rubbing it in a few weeks ago how he had seen my alcoholic brother in Ennis and he was looking great , in a suit, and everything. This was meant to minimise to me just how bad this guys problems are. Yet last week my son told me that my brother had cut loose and gone to another brothe...	maire rua	2	389	Sep 15, 2006 by maresie
	Quick thought for today- boost your self esteem (Preview) I got the following quip in the mail today. It really fits in with what I have been struggling with lately... self-esteem. *We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less. -- Anonymous We are wonderful...*	sandie123	1	399	Sep 15, 2006 by smpoli
	tidy house (Preview) Hi everyone, When I was growing up my mother cleaned up after and enabled my Afather so much that even as a child I couldn't understand it. She was and still is completely codependant in his shadow for a lifetime. I remember at a young age vowing to myself that I would never end up like that. Yet here...	annmarie	7	509	Sep 15, 2006 by maresie
	All Hell Has Broken Loose (Preview) Hi all, Well since A went back to drinking earlier this week all hell has broken loose. He had been sober for 7 weeks but had just shut himself in the house and avoided all outside contact in order to do it. Now all his looser friends are back. He has been in the woods cutting firewood...	lebe27	6	616	Sep 15, 2006 by lin0606
	Trying to switch my priorities (Preview) I have been in a very low mood for the past several weeks...well actually it seems for my whole life. I have never thought of myself as being depressed. I had always thought that I felt the way I do because of circumstances in my life. I am now starting to think differently. As a child I remember my mom b...	Gailey	3	558	Sep 15, 2006 by TLC2
	Blessed (Preview) (((friends))) My husband e-mailed me this song this morning and I sat here and cried through it. Believe it or not, it's uplifting..lol Thought I'd share some happy stuff, we all need that!! :) *sigh, 15 more days till he comes home for visit but his daughter is getting married so we have to travel. I don...	Christy	5	458	Sep 15, 2006 by sld488
	Why am I mad and lonely? (Preview) Well he has been missing for about a week and I haven't really thought about it much just every now and again wondering if he's ok and then today I listen to a message from his mother saying that a guy from AA in Arizona called her to say he's ok and getting into rehab on Saturday. Now I found that I was E...	carolinagirl	7	536	Sep 14, 2006 by maresie2
	codependency codyness epidemic (Preview) Oh boy oh boy I am on overload with the subject of "codyness". A family member other than myself raised cody, acoa, seems is trying to pass on codependence to everyone else too. Is that possible? Is this a family disease right along with alcoholism? Not to imply that I myself...	peewee	4	563	Sep 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Has any one read 7 weeks to sobriety? (Preview) Just wanted to know if anyone read this book and tried the plan? Thanks	kingston	3	539	Sep 14, 2006 by Becky1
	guidance on approaching step 4? (Preview) Dear all-- I'm working the steps largely on my own, as the city where I live has a tiny, tiny Al-Anon group and I am without a sponsor. I get some good guidance from AA colleagues, but wanted to turn to this group with a question about doing a self-inventory as part of step 4, which is where I am now....	faraway06	5	534	Sep 14, 2006 by peewee
	Megan...that is a new one!!! (Preview) I have heard it said that alanon is a million dollar program shoved up your butt a nickel at a time. I could not help but laugh at that saying. I have never heard that before. I think I will have to remember that. Thanks...Gail -- Edited by Gailey at 09:40, 2006-09-14	Gailey	2	531	Sep 14, 2006 by megan
	Beating myself up, need to vent (Preview) Ok....why do I feel so strange right now. My ex bf is in jail again....contempt of dui court. He has been sober for a while, so I hear, not sure what happened. I had been thinking of his mom for several days, she and I were close when he and I were together. I occasionally see her in Al Anon and we al...	beachbaby	4	567	Sep 14, 2006 by Gailey
	I need some help! (Preview) Ok, my A has been drinking at home the last month or so, only on Friday nights, and another couple come up and the husbands sit around and drink, and me and his friends wife, may have a few, but we just sit around and talk. Well this past Friday night, it was getting late, so our friends wife went in and went to...	lilleah	7	486	Sep 14, 2006 by Diva
	drugs (Preview) i went into the chat room om 12/09/06 and there was a discussion about an active A and methodone and drugs should this be talked about on the main chat room or should it have been a private chat as any new al-anon member coming in would be confused. I do have sympathy as i have active drug abuse in my family bu...	scotia	3	483	Sep 14, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Up and down - leave or not? (Preview) ((( Good morning everyone)))) I am in such a shellshock mode the last few weeks. I am strong one day and horribly anxious the next. AH is totally lying about this "friendship" he has been having since earlier this year, and of course I am checking the phone bill everyday. She call...	hersh	10	611	Sep 14, 2006 by nmike
	ME (Preview) Nov I will be in Alanon for two years. At this present time in my life I feel very distance from Alanon. Which is not good. I can't get my self together to work my steps or even go to face to face meetings. My private computer has been down since aug 19 and I haven't been able to get on the internet at night like i...	nycbt	13	678	Sep 14, 2006 by nycbt
	Pity vs love (Preview) (((Hello MIP Family)) I was working on this question as part of my step work and thought I'd share some of my discoveries. The definition of pity is a feeling of empathy and sorrow for the misfortune's of other. To feel for someone, show compassion to someone, and take mercy on them. T...	twinmom2	5	11080	Sep 14, 2006 by d53sjurne
	thankful for HP! (Preview) Finally, I just prayed the serenity prayer....... instead of applying the words or trying to make them fit into the situation the way I wanted them to I just prayed!   ...	sld488	1	430	Sep 13, 2006 by irish54
	Start Today (An old story revisited) (Preview) The Daffodil Principle Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday," I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. ...	kismetstrand	7	657	Sep 13, 2006 by nigel3
	How on earth do you edit a post? (Preview) I have read many times or have seen where someone has edited or deleted one of their posts. How does one go about doing this??? I am not the most technologically advanced person but didn't think up until now that I was a complete moron. I have searched and searched this site and cannot fig...	lilms	1	370	Sep 13, 2006 by sld488
	Grown Man (Preview) The other day A and I were in conflict again. He said to me that he is a grown man and will do whatever he wants. That kind of statement for me indicates he has no respect for the relationship or me and it is time to move on. Any one experience this kind of behavior. I a...	LadyLibra	5	435	Sep 13, 2006 by LadyLibra
	Texas Adventure (Preview) Well my lovelies, as you all know I visited the land of cowboys and cactus this last weekend. I did my best to be bring my Al-Anon with me and I wanted to share what I learned about myself. I like doing a continuous tenth step around my recovery. I haven't made a post on this board in a long time. So here goes: 1...	bob6502	4	490	Sep 13, 2006 by Faith73
	Repeating the pattern? (Preview) Sorry. Deleted my post. This was probably one of those questions I needed to figure out on my own. -- Edited by findingmyway at 19:40, 2006-09-13	findingmyway	0	396	Sep 13, 2006 by findingmyway
	update (Preview) My A is doing great!!!!! Today is aweek he has been wihtour a drink. I know that isn't long BUT it is a start!!!!! I have learned a lot in a little amount of time. I am doing something for me!!!!! I am going to go back to college and get my masters degree. My A is very proud of me and thinks it is a good ide...	marks girl	1	417	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	horrible end to great weekend (Preview) hi guys well...where do i start..... the last few weeks i have been taking a step back from my ex boyf. the "A". he text me to tell me he had moved on, i said good. he asked was i around for the weekend.. i said NO i was going away with the girls for a break. he said FINE. i headed off with the girls up the c...	Rebecca	10	615	Sep 13, 2006 by Becky1
	Quotes that touch me........... (Preview) "The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present" Barbara De Angelis "The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself." Anna Quindlen thank you for sharing...	frog58	1	461	Sep 13, 2006 by DoN4me
	self worth and self esteem (Preview) I could use some ESH on self-worth and self-esteem... 2 areas I am definatel lacking. I understand how important they are to my growth. I am reminded regularly from program members how I am a worthwhile person and am loved. I guess it's a good thing I hear that from ohters cause I don't beleive them enoug...	sandie123	6	496	Sep 13, 2006 by faraway06
	Making amends vs. having no boundaries...? (Preview) Dear friends: Just joined this group a few nights ago and am so grateful for the community. Thank you all for your wisdom, hope and strength. The situation with the A in my life now is challenging, but I'm feeling centered and grounded these days so I thought I'd take a moment to continue to seek othe...	faraway06	4	548	Sep 13, 2006 by faraway06
	Stuggling with my son (Preview) It is just my son and me in the house. My A has been gone almost 11 months and my daugther just left for college. We live on just under 10 acres... on a "farm" which is gradually falling down before my eyes. My son and I are trying to get caught up on some of the things around the house which have been neglected f...	sandie123	5	528	Sep 13, 2006 by MsgBo
	MIP family members here in San Antonio. (Preview) Several of us got together here in San Antonio. Most everyone spent the week enjoying one another's company, but I had lunch with the group on Sunday. The restaurant where we chose to meet was closed, so we piled in our vehicles and went elsewhere. Had a great Tex-Mex lunch at "Mi Tierra," which is renow...	Diva	3	519	Sep 13, 2006 by Rita G
	Much needed prayers please (Preview) Hi ((((((((((((Family)))))))))) Today I’m asking for your prayers. I have to go in for a biopsy and I am letting the fear of the unknown get to me. I am scared to death. I have to see the surgeon on Friday and I’m praying that they surgery will be scheduled very soon so I know just what I might be up a...	shadow1	13	641	Sep 13, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Back and forth between Self Righteous and Guilt (Preview) Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...	moto	4	697	Sep 13, 2006 by moto
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