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Start Today (An old story revisited)


The Daffodil Principle

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over."
I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead.
"I will come next Tuesday," I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.
Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly
I drove there.
When I finally walked into Carolyn's house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"
My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.
"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car."
"How far will we have to drive?" "Oh...just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "But I'll drive. I'm used to this."
After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where are we going? This isn't the way to the garage!"
"We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils."
"Carolyn," I said sternly, "please turn around."
"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the Church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, "Daffodil Garden."
We got out of the car, each took a child' s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and it's surrounding slopes.
The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.
"Who did this?" I asked Carolyn.
"Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home."
Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory
We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline.
The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one
brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."
For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.
The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at time--and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.
When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.
"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way.
"Start today," she said. She was right. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"

Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting; Until your car or home is paid off; Until you get a new car or home; Until your kids leave the house; Until you go back to school; Until you finish school; Until you clean the house; Until you organize the garage; Until you clean off your desk; Until you lose 10 lbs.; Until you gain 10 lbs.; Until you get married; Until you get a divorce; Until you have kids; Until the kids go to school; Until you retire; Until summer; Until spring; Until winter; Until fall; Until you die...
There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So work like you don't need money. Love like you've never been hurt, and, Dance like no one's watching.

Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!

"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."
~~Unknown


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I loved that story, thank you. Reminds me of the old saw "the best time to plant a tree is 25 years ago. The next best time is right now". It's never too late to start something good.

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Wow!  What a great story!  Thanks you so much for sharing this.  I needed to read it...TODAY.


Have a great "daffodil" filled day everyone! 


Love and Hugs and Prayers for all~


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Thankyou what a beautiful and inspirational story. I find it a metaphor for much I have in front of me which I have to negotiate alone.


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Kis.........

Thank you, thank you thank you!


As I sat here dreading a very difficult day tomorrow you gave me a brighter way to look at the day. As a happy person I will enjoy the day by remembering that I have spent years getting here. As someone spends the day tomorrow trying to ruin my spirit I will remember that story and go forward knowing that I have the strengh to make it a good day. The day is what I make of it.

I've done the footwork to make my life what I want it to be. I've filled it with positive people, a serene home and a happy life style. I will not give my soon to be ex A the power to turn even one more day into a bad day. Life is too short. I'm making plans to make even a better life and he's still stuck in his misery, and probably always will be.

Thanks again for the reminder to make every day a good one.

Whitie


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What a sweet and inspirational story, what deep insights you draw from that beautiful hill, what a persistant and thoughtful daughter you have.


Next to my house is a stretch of woods that goes on for a long way, maybe sixty five acres.


In the woods, not too far off the road, is the remnants of the foundation of an old house that used to be nestled there. All around the area where the house used to be, grow daffodils. Not the acres and acres you described in that magnificent setting, but hundreds and hundreds of daffodils, all yellow, none planted for many many years. They grow on their own. The first time I took my daughter out to see them I had to carry her. She was two. When Carson saw the huge spread of yellow amongst the vines and shrubs, she exclaimed, "It's a flower forest!"


Each year at the time of her birthday in March, she has had a sleepover, and we have taken all the girls to the flower forest to pick daffodils. They pick as many as they want, all of them, and there are still so many left that it looks as if none were picked at all.


Carson doesn't live here anymore, and there won't be a trek to the flower forest from this house with her friends again. But there's no reason we cannot visit them anyway, and see the flower forest in all its glory, nestled in the forgotten woods.


Thank you for reminding me that it's never too late to remember.


and thank you for the image of the fields of daffodils.


mac


 



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Had to jump in and say that isn't my original story. It's a story I've seen in emails, an oldie but a goodie.

Mac, I love your share of the "flower forest"!! Thanks!!



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((((((((((((((((((((kis))))))))))))))))))) ty so much for your post...i really needed to hear that....i'd been wallowing in the past and the possible future and forgot about enjoying today....as simple as it sounds, it's a great message....one day at a time, one bulb at a time....i'm rambling here and i don't care..heehee....one ramble at a time ;).....i need to start living today....no more waiting till...(fill in the blank).....ty again :)


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