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heartless39470 · heartless39470

Well, my A has been dry for 5 weeks now. About 4 weeks ago he quit talking to me. I got scared and thought he was cheating, but I know better. He is not like that. He is 41 years old and has been drinking since he was 18. And for once he wants to quit, but has no program. He has been sleeping on the couch for four nig...

gardengal · gardengal

I lit a candle for my mom, beside her picture, as she has been passed away now for over 8 years. I think of her almost everyday,, something triggers a memory in my daily life and I smile. Happy to have had the time on this earth to be with her, and like a flower in our master's garden she bloomed for many year...

debilyn · debilyn

ya just don't feel? Or what you do feel is like you sorta have the flu, but don't. Ya have tears just ready to spill out and you are just holding them back? Ya don't feel like smiling or laughing? And it hits you how alone you feel, yet you appreciate big time what you have, however your zest or joy is not there...

Rita G · Rita G

Please pray for my Sister-in-law Barbara - She drives a School bus & was hit this morning before 7 am by a drunk driver!!!! By God's Grace there were no children on the bus - (She drives a special needs bus) My brother-in-law is on his way to the hospital to find out if she is ok - they wouldn't give him an...

java · java

In 2005 Fitone, a newbie, said this about boundaries: "Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. " I was looking up acceptence. About acceptance they...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) Things have really changed for me in the last few days. I would never have imagined in my wildest dreams, life could be this good. Why???Who knows... A few days ago, I had a whole lot of anger within me because of a situation in my life. I "Let" peop...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have a friend at work who has been sep. the same amt. of time as me and yesterday she told me she is moving back in with her husband. I was shocked and just froze for a minute but then got to thinking about my own situation. Her husband was a wife beater and seriously abusive, mine only abused himself real...

Rita G · Rita G

Thanks so much for the support & prayers - our family really appreciates it. Barbara is still in the hospital recovering. She did finally start talking to her husband yesterday afternoon around 5:00 - tried to smile & make a few jokes. Still in a lot of pain. She is still under obser...

kissers · kissers

My boss recently told me that the account I was assigned to reported that they were very happy with me. I was very happy to hear this news. My boss said, It has nothing to do with you. It's only because different people like different people". I wasn't sure how to take this comment. I could understan...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex texts me today "I need to see you" I do not respond. I call my lawyer and he says there is no reason for me to have to speak to him. Ok, good. I go on with my day....moving into the new house. He texts me again before I go to work"Please I need to see you" Again I do not respond, even th...

arty · arty

My A has been out of my house since january. It has been so quiet here...nice... He has been back in a.a for afew weeks now and seems to be going well. I have booked a holiday to the U.S (I'm in Australia) to visit my best friend whom i havent seen in 12 years and i'm going for a month! very excited, but worrie...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) I am realizing now just how precious my peace and serenity is and somedays I have to fight to keep it intact. Last night I met with a real estate agent to discuss putting my condo on the market. This is plan B finally coming into action. Everything was going well until AH walks in the d...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

CriedOut2 · CriedOut2

My husband went to rehab 3 weeks ago - he said he was sick and tired of drinking. Why do I not fully believe him?? He has been drinking throughout our marriage of 22 years but last year he started drinking heavily. During the 1st weekend while he was at rehab my 2 older children and I went to their family pr...

serendipity · serendipity

As soon as I wake up, he is on my mind. My ex and who he is with. The adrenline rushes and I am AWAKE! How can I stop this being the very first thing that pops into my mind? It fades over the day as I get a grip and am able to work this program, use the suggestions and slogans. I feel like I have no control over my min...

renah · renah

All, I went back to the "how alanon works for families and friends of A" page 36, "sharing" and was reminded how I need to share both my pain my ESH. For a long time, I felt like I had no ESH, especially with alcohol. I would like to share about my many months of pondering, analyzing...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, After so many years of putting up with AH and his abuse and neglect. I am finally divorcing him. After so many years of being miserable I had finally been happy and relieved. I had reconnected with a wonderful man from my past, who treats me so well and makes me happy. Of course as usual the other shoe ha...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Lately I have been feeling confused about what I need to do to make a better life for my kids and I, confused by the choices that need to be made and all of them are difficult. If I don't go back to school we don't make it, if I do go back to school I have to continue working while I take prerequisites and my olde...

serendipity · serendipity

Thank you all for all of the great suggestions on my post yesterday. They were all so helpful and just to see in black and white that I am not the only person to ever go thru this or feel this way. That there are things I can do to help myself. I am going to print that post and replies out so I can continue to use t...

steppgirl · steppgirl

Well my A b/f got out of jail @ 1 today. I didn't bail him out or even answer his 50 calls from jail. I was very proud of myself! He called and said that he was coming over to get his stuff out.. he showed up drunk. I was nice to him until his attitude kicked in. I got the kids out and left him alone! He called his x w...

java · java

Looking for Blue Eyes by Crystal Gayle: "I'm looking for blue eyes, I can't seem to find him, he 's been away now, for so long..." (probably my interpretation....does anybody know the real lines to this song...can't get it out of my head...") My first A husband and I married at a very y...

smpoli · smpoli

For my MIP family, I just wanted to give you all an update! Bryon had is final port removal surgery and is recoverying very well! We are almost done w/monthly visits and then will be moving on to quarterly visits. I am SO excited! I was able to get some pic's of his pre and post surgery, so if you would li...

RoseChix · RoseChix

My husband used to be a serious alcoholic, before we met, and alcoholism runs heavily in his family AND culture. He has slowed down a LOT...he drinks on a regular basis, but only a beer or two...but occassionally he gets drunk. Between his familys' history of alcoholism and his own compromised liver (...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Just as I'm making huge strides in a positive direction, having fewer tough days-- BAM!! My A tries to come crawling back to me... begging me for my forgiveness and admitting that he made a mistake!! Telling me how much he misses and loves me... Asking me go to dinner... Telling me that I was th...

steppgirl · steppgirl

My A boyfriend, that lives with me, came home from AA drunk. He said that he didn't like what was said. He got angry with me cause I wouldn't talk to him cause he had been drinking. I told him to leave and he started packing a bag. Then he kept talking in front of my 15 yr old and his 5 yr old. I told him that I was ca...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) As you know the last few months have been horrendous for me.. And I have had to do some growing up....Now I have come to the conclusion, I need to put Ally first for a change..I have spent my whole life, being a caretaker, people pleaser, doormat, etc....I can no lo...

debilyn · debilyn

The responses helped so much. I learned lots. After I read those and reposted the Eden happenings I felt lighter. Now feel even more so. Slowly the darkness is going away. I do see now that there are things I never may heal from. That what aism can do is damage us. All the more reason to use our alanon skills...

hopefully · hopefully

Am having a bad day & trying so hard to live the mantra "this too will pass". I have lived with my A for almost 14 years but don't know what to call him as we're not married & now he ignores me so I can't think of him as even a boyfriend the closest word I think is a roomate. He was so wonderful...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I made it to the interview alive today it was a 3 hour drive!! Everything went well although I'm still not sure if I will even take the job if offered. I am starting to feel sick again and thinking I feel sick more than well lately. I sent a letter to the A and it wasn't very nice but it wasn't really mean eit...

Moon · Moon

Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...

ally · ally

(((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...

Diva · Diva

If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...

serendipity · serendipity

I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...

kissers · kissers

The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...

sash · sash

Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...

leo · leo

A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...

lmt123 · lmt123

I just wanted to wish all the Moms out there the best Mother's Day ever! I know how good it feels to be remembered for all we have done and try to do every day for our kids. It's not an easy job, that's for sure. Hats off to all of you wonderful Moms! Kathi

debilyn · debilyn

Wrote this before the sad came. Reading it again almost made me realize things will be ok...so out I go to unload another two yards of shavings....come on over, I have lotsa good food!! nice place to camp...bring your kids and dogs and whoever.....(c: Well a friend got me a pair of Frizzles! And also 6 Co...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))) First day back at work today after 4 months off on the sick....Wow...same ole, same ole....Like riding a bike eh!.... But hey, I'm back caring for the sick..My forte.........Feeling tired already and I've only done first half of shift...lol Going ba...

Lena · Lena

Hey (((all))) Bit of a weird day for me. Dad was my A and 8yrs ago today I guess he went on a drunken drug binge and overdosed (fatally). I have only joined alanon recently but have already felt the difference...whenever I come in here I feel all of your warmth and understanding. For that reason, this year...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), To all the MIP mothers: HAPPY, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! May your day be filled with love, laughter, sunshine and your favorite foods. Thanks for all your love and support. Raising a family isn't easy under the best of circumstances. You all do it with grace and courage. What an i...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

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poppingin · poppingin

I think I became a person who either lived in the past or well into the future. The five year relationship with my addict moved through a progression of my launching into "fixit" mode, then the response of persecutor, followed by victim. Looking back at it I think that the five year affair wi...

Tammy · Tammy

Today has been a very hard day for me. I have missed my husband so much. I know that I did the right thing by asking him to leave but MAN, my heart is BROKEN in pieces.. He has taken everything this time and it is so final... A divorce is on the horizon and even though I know that it is the right thing it is one of...

QOD · QOD

This is so weird and WRONG and maybe just goes to show how badly having an A in my life has had a negative effect on me. Every where I go, I see people I have never met and think to myself "Drunk" or "Druggie". I am judging complete strangers simply by the way they look. And it makes me...

marmare · marmare

I thought I would be okay, I mean Mother's Day is just another day, right? Not this year, this year I don't look forward to it like before, as there will be no kiss on mom's cheek for me, no early morning call to her house, no little gift to give her. This week has been the hardest since she got her wings.......

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

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Tammy · Tammy

Life without my husband has been difficult. I miss him so much but know that I am doing the right thing not allowing his disease to rule my life. I havent seen him for over a week although I have spoken to him. I hear his voice and chills go up my spine. Will the love ever go away? Or at least the chills sub...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

I've been doing so good these past few weeks!! Keeping busy going out with friends, attending family functions, going to my childrens sporting events and doing things for me. Today tho, well, its a dreary day and I've been thinking a lot about my ex A b/f. Remembering all our good times, reliving the...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have the order that the A has to return the truck to me. I doubt he will. I think he will just take off with it. Nevertheless i did send him a clear clear message you can't just take it. I feel exhausted and alone and sad. I would so appreciate your prayers. I am still waiting on this job. I am so fed up wit...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) My Mother came into town today and said she wanted to stop by my office and bring me something from my Father (AFather 25 years sober if you haven't heard the stories). Well the gift was a lucky penny. If you stop reading now thinking "yeah so what" you will miss out. He f...

bob6502 · bob6502

Guess What???? We have another birthday girl!!!! Happy Birthday to Kismetstrand!!! Congratulations on catching up with me girl!!! Happy Birthday, Love, SenoraBob

CJ · CJ

Hi family, I haven't written much, lately, yet I still come and read about every night. I love you all very much, and am so proud of all the great progress and AUTHENTIC/GENUINE care, love, and support. I have noticed, also, that there is quite a bit of crosstalking happening. For the program newbies...

gardengal · gardengal

I can remember when "fear" ruled my life, every thing was that gut wrenching oh no now what? And even when things were quiet and calm, I would think of scenarios in my head along with my( committee which was always present), that surely something dreadful is going to happen. Was he going to ki...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The Word WAIT- "Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live the...

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	Help me with a silent dry drunk (Preview) Well, my A has been dry for 5 weeks now. About 4 weeks ago he quit talking to me. I got scared and thought he was cheating, but I know better. He is not like that. He is 41 years old and has been drinking since he was 18. And for once he wants to quit, but has no program. He has been sleeping on the couch for four nig...	heartless39470	8	1544	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	I lit a candle for my mom who is not here today....... (Preview) I lit a candle for my mom, beside her picture, as she has been passed away now for over 8 years. I think of her almost everyday,, something triggers a memory in my daily life and I smile. Happy to have had the time on this earth to be with her, and like a flower in our master's garden she bloomed for many year...	gardengal	4	554	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Do you ever feel like...... (Preview) ya just don't feel? Or what you do feel is like you sorta have the flu, but don't. Ya have tears just ready to spill out and you are just holding them back? Ya don't feel like smiling or laughing? And it hits you how alone you feel, yet you appreciate big time what you have, however your zest or joy is not there...	debilyn	6	855	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Sister-in-law hit by Drunk Driver (Preview) Please pray for my Sister-in-law Barbara - She drives a School bus & was hit this morning before 7 am by a drunk driver!!!! By God's Grace there were no children on the bus - (She drives a special needs bus) My brother-in-law is on his way to the hospital to find out if she is ok - they wouldn't give him an...	Rita G	21	833	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Boundaries & Acceptance (Preview) In 2005 Fitone, a newbie, said this about boundaries: "Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. " I was looking up acceptence. About acceptance they...	java	7	1284	May 18, 2007 by maire rua
	HAPPY, JOYOUS AND FREE (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) Things have really changed for me in the last few days. I would never have imagined in my wildest dreams, life could be this good. Why???Who knows... A few days ago, I had a whole lot of anger within me because of a situation in my life. I "Let" peop...	ally	4	1273	May 18, 2007 by Becky1
	A as plan B (Preview) I have a friend at work who has been sep. the same amt. of time as me and yesterday she told me she is moving back in with her husband. I was shocked and just froze for a minute but then got to thinking about my own situation. Her husband was a wife beater and seriously abusive, mine only abused himself real...	carolinagirl	6	715	May 17, 2007 by nmike
	Update on Sister in Law (Preview) Thanks so much for the support & prayers - our family really appreciates it. Barbara is still in the hospital recovering. She did finally start talking to her husband yesterday afternoon around 5:00 - tried to smile & make a few jokes. Still in a lot of pain. She is still under obser...	Rita G	6	633	May 17, 2007 by wp
	Need Help Discerning Conversation (Preview) My boss recently told me that the account I was assigned to reported that they were very happy with me. I was very happy to hear this news. My boss said, It has nothing to do with you. It's only because different people like different people". I wasn't sure how to take this comment. I could understan...	kissers	7	727	May 17, 2007 by wp
	vunerable manipulation (Preview) My ex texts me today "I need to see you" I do not respond. I call my lawyer and he says there is no reason for me to have to speak to him. Ok, good. I go on with my day....moving into the new house. He texts me again before I go to work"Please I need to see you" Again I do not respond, even th...	serendipity	8	779	May 17, 2007 by wp
	how do i enjoy myself??? (Preview) My A has been out of my house since january. It has been so quiet here...nice... He has been back in a.a for afew weeks now and seems to be going well. I have booked a holiday to the U.S (I'm in Australia) to visit my best friend whom i havent seen in 12 years and i'm going for a month! very excited, but worrie...	arty	9	615	May 17, 2007 by arty
	Fighting for Peace and Serenity (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) I am realizing now just how precious my peace and serenity is and somedays I have to fight to keep it intact. Last night I met with a real estate agent to discuss putting my condo on the market. This is plan B finally coming into action. Everything was going well until AH walks in the d...	twinmom2	7	732	May 17, 2007 by TLC2
	Something for laughs... (Preview)	Tiger2006	2	612	May 17, 2007 by rtexas
	Am I stupid??? (Preview) My husband went to rehab 3 weeks ago - he said he was sick and tired of drinking. Why do I not fully believe him?? He has been drinking throughout our marriage of 22 years but last year he started drinking heavily. During the 1st weekend while he was at rehab my 2 older children and I went to their family pr...	CriedOut2	13	845	May 16, 2007 by CriedOut2
	how do you protect yourself from yourself? (Preview) As soon as I wake up, he is on my mind. My ex and who he is with. The adrenline rushes and I am AWAKE! How can I stop this being the very first thing that pops into my mind? It fades over the day as I get a grip and am able to work this program, use the suggestions and slogans. I feel like I have no control over my min...	serendipity	17	764	May 16, 2007 by ally
	Peaceful Evening (Preview) All, I went back to the "how alanon works for families and friends of A" page 36, "sharing" and was reminded how I need to share both my pain my ESH. For a long time, I felt like I had no ESH, especially with alcohol. I would like to share about my many months of pondering, analyzing...	renah	1	520	May 16, 2007 by ally
	Why can't he leave me alone? (Preview) Hi, After so many years of putting up with AH and his abuse and neglect. I am finally divorcing him. After so many years of being miserable I had finally been happy and relieved. I had reconnected with a wonderful man from my past, who treats me so well and makes me happy. Of course as usual the other shoe ha...	Jeannie	8	768	May 16, 2007 by TLC2
	Feeling BLAH.... (Preview) Lately I have been feeling confused about what I need to do to make a better life for my kids and I, confused by the choices that need to be made and all of them are difficult. If I don't go back to school we don't make it, if I do go back to school I have to continue working while I take prerequisites and my olde...	carolinagirl	3	463	May 16, 2007 by hopefully
	It Worked!! (Preview) Thank you all for all of the great suggestions on my post yesterday. They were all so helpful and just to see in black and white that I am not the only person to ever go thru this or feel this way. That there are things I can do to help myself. I am going to print that post and replies out so I can continue to use t...	serendipity	2	465	May 16, 2007 by carolinagirl
	cops again (Preview) Well my A b/f got out of jail @ 1 today. I didn't bail him out or even answer his 50 calls from jail. I was very proud of myself! He called and said that he was coming over to get his stuff out.. he showed up drunk. I was nice to him until his attitude kicked in. I got the kids out and left him alone! He called his x w...	steppgirl	5	580	May 16, 2007 by CJ
	Looking for Blue Eyes: to MalCN (Preview) Looking for Blue Eyes by Crystal Gayle: "I'm looking for blue eyes, I can't seem to find him, he 's been away now, for so long..." (probably my interpretation....does anybody know the real lines to this song...can't get it out of my head...") My first A husband and I married at a very y...	java	1	629	May 16, 2007 by java
	Update on my son, Bryon (Preview) For my MIP family, I just wanted to give you all an update! Bryon had is final port removal surgery and is recoverying very well! We are almost done w/monthly visits and then will be moving on to quarterly visits. I am SO excited! I was able to get some pic's of his pre and post surgery, so if you would li...	smpoli	5	525	May 16, 2007 by mel123
	Do I Belong Here? (Preview) My husband used to be a serious alcoholic, before we met, and alcoholism runs heavily in his family AND culture. He has slowed down a LOT...he drinks on a regular basis, but only a beer or two...but occassionally he gets drunk. Between his familys' history of alcoholism and his own compromised liver (...	RoseChix	7	757	May 16, 2007 by Jerry F
	Huge strides then BAM!!!!!!! So confused!!! (Preview) Just as I'm making huge strides in a positive direction, having fewer tough days-- BAM!! My A tries to come crawling back to me... begging me for my forgiveness and admitting that he made a mistake!! Telling me how much he misses and loves me... Asking me go to dinner... Telling me that I was th...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	651	May 15, 2007 by Kim65
	help please (Preview) My A boyfriend, that lives with me, came home from AA drunk. He said that he didn't like what was said. He got angry with me cause I wouldn't talk to him cause he had been drinking. I told him to leave and he started packing a bag. Then he kept talking in front of my 15 yr old and his 5 yr old. I told him that I was ca...	steppgirl	3	679	May 15, 2007 by Friendofyours
	THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING HERE...I WISH YOU WELL (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) As you know the last few months have been horrendous for me.. And I have had to do some growing up....Now I have come to the conclusion, I need to put Ally first for a change..I have spent my whole life, being a caretaker, people pleaser, doormat, etc....I can no lo...	ally	5	596	May 15, 2007 by carosie
	just a thank you (Preview) The responses helped so much. I learned lots. After I read those and reposted the Eden happenings I felt lighter. Now feel even more so. Slowly the darkness is going away. I do see now that there are things I never may heal from. That what aism can do is damage us. All the more reason to use our alanon skills...	debilyn	2	439	May 15, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Am I Here? (Preview) Am having a bad day & trying so hard to live the mantra "this too will pass". I have lived with my A for almost 14 years but don't know what to call him as we're not married & now he ignores me so I can't think of him as even a boyfriend the closest word I think is a roomate. He was so wonderful...	hopefully	4	550	May 15, 2007 by Diva
	Interview went well... (Preview) I made it to the interview alive today it was a 3 hour drive!! Everything went well although I'm still not sure if I will even take the job if offered. I am starting to feel sick again and thinking I feel sick more than well lately. I sent a letter to the A and it wasn't very nice but it wasn't really mean eit...	carolinagirl	1	500	May 15, 2007 by lin0606
	My Alcoholic or my qualifier (Preview) Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...	Moon	7	3896	May 14, 2007 by Moon
	Shoulda,Coulda, Woulda's (Preview) Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...	irish54	3	545	May 14, 2007 by irish54
	I AM OBSESSED (Preview) (((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...	ally	7	573	May 14, 2007 by newday
	Ignore it...it'll go away! (Preview) If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...	Diva	16	642	May 14, 2007 by Diva
	Is this what it's like? (Preview) I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...	serendipity	6	669	May 14, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Touched by angels (Preview) The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...	kissers	3	461	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Sometimes love is not enough (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...	rtexas	12	821	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Afraid to go to meetings.... answer (Preview) I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...	Eve Eve Eve	10	912	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Codependence (Preview) Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...	sash	9	716	May 14, 2007 by canadianguy
	Interviewing on Monday (Preview) I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...	carolinagirl	5	594	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Guilt... need some ESH (Preview) (((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...	twinmom2	7	695	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	For all the Mums (Preview) A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...	leo	2	522	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! (Preview) I just wanted to wish all the Moms out there the best Mother's Day ever! I know how good it feels to be remembered for all we have done and try to do every day for our kids. It's not an easy job, that's for sure. Hats off to all of you wonderful Moms! Kathi	lmt123	7	458	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	Busy Eden story (Preview) Wrote this before the sad came. Reading it again almost made me realize things will be ok...so out I go to unload another two yards of shavings....come on over, I have lotsa good food!! nice place to camp...bring your kids and dogs and whoever.....(c: Well a friend got me a pair of Frizzles! And also 6 Co...	debilyn	2	668	May 13, 2007 by Kim65
	BACK TO BEING ALLY (Preview) ((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))) First day back at work today after 4 months off on the sick....Wow...same ole, same ole....Like riding a bike eh!.... But hey, I'm back caring for the sick..My forte.........Feeling tired already and I've only done first half of shift...lol Going ba...	ally	3	531	May 13, 2007 by wp
	thank u all (Preview) Hey (((all))) Bit of a weird day for me. Dad was my A and 8yrs ago today I guess he went on a drunken drug binge and overdosed (fatally). I have only joined alanon recently but have already felt the difference...whenever I come in here I feel all of your warmth and understanding. For that reason, this year...	Lena	3	384	May 13, 2007 by rtexas
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), To all the MIP mothers: HAPPY, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! May your day be filled with love, laughter, sunshine and your favorite foods. Thanks for all your love and support. Raising a family isn't easy under the best of circumstances. You all do it with grace and courage. What an i...	Karilynn	5	524	May 13, 2007 by lmt123
	Another great animal minute... (Preview) Sea lion joins walk-a-thon in Calif. CORTE MADERA, Calif. - He has flippers instead of feet and certainly no sneakers or hiking boots. But that didn't stop a sea lion from joining schoolchildren on a walk-a-thon. ADVERTISEMENT if(window.yzq_d==null)window.yzq_d=new Object(); window.yzq_d[...	Tiger2006	0	2652	May 13, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Letting go of the past (Preview) I think I became a person who either lived in the past or well into the future. The five year relationship with my addict moved through a progression of my launching into "fixit" mode, then the response of persecutor, followed by victim. Looking back at it I think that the five year affair wi...	poppingin	3	688	May 13, 2007 by Tammy
	Today is such a difficult day.............. (Preview) Today has been a very hard day for me. I have missed my husband so much. I know that I did the right thing by asking him to leave but MAN, my heart is BROKEN in pieces.. He has taken everything this time and it is so final... A divorce is on the horizon and even though I know that it is the right thing it is one of...	Tammy	5	660	May 13, 2007 by ally
	Seeing Alcoholic or Druggie in so many strangers (Preview) This is so weird and WRONG and maybe just goes to show how badly having an A in my life has had a negative effect on me. Every where I go, I see people I have never met and think to myself "Drunk" or "Druggie". I am judging complete strangers simply by the way they look. And it makes me...	QOD	10	644	May 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	First Mother's Day without Mom (Preview) I thought I would be okay, I mean Mother's Day is just another day, right? Not this year, this year I don't look forward to it like before, as there will be no kiss on mom's cheek for me, no early morning call to her house, no little gift to give her. This week has been the hardest since she got her wings.......	marmare	10	697	May 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	Broken hearted but no longer devasted (Preview) .. -- Edited by donewithitallandhappy at 01:14, 2007-05-14	donewithitallandhappy	0	497	May 13, 2007 by donewithitallandhappy
	Living without my A.... (Preview) Life without my husband has been difficult. I miss him so much but know that I am doing the right thing not allowing his disease to rule my life. I havent seen him for over a week although I have spoken to him. I hear his voice and chills go up my spine. Will the love ever go away? Or at least the chills sub...	Tammy	3	522	May 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Doing so well without my A, then the clouds roll in (Preview) I've been doing so good these past few weeks!! Keeping busy going out with friends, attending family functions, going to my childrens sporting events and doing things for me. Today tho, well, its a dreary day and I've been thinking a lot about my ex A b/f. Remembering all our good times, reliving the...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	512	May 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	I got the order (Preview) I have the order that the A has to return the truck to me. I doubt he will. I think he will just take off with it. Nevertheless i did send him a clear clear message you can't just take it. I feel exhausted and alone and sad. I would so appreciate your prayers. I am still waiting on this job. I am so fed up wit...	maresie2	6	554	May 12, 2007 by debilyn
	1000 posts and my lucky penny (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) My Mother came into town today and said she wanted to stop by my office and bring me something from my Father (AFather 25 years sober if you haven't heard the stories). Well the gift was a lucky penny. If you stop reading now thinking "yeah so what" you will miss out. He f...	rtexas	12	862	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Birthday Girl!!! (Preview) Guess What???? We have another birthday girl!!!! Happy Birthday to Kismetstrand!!! Congratulations on catching up with me girl!!! Happy Birthday, Love, SenoraBob	bob6502	15	677	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Cross-Talk (Preview) Hi family, I haven't written much, lately, yet I still come and read about every night. I love you all very much, and am so proud of all the great progress and AUTHENTIC/GENUINE care, love, and support. I have noticed, also, that there is quite a bit of crosstalking happening. For the program newbies...	CJ	24	7184	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Does "fear" rule your life? (Preview) I can remember when "fear" ruled my life, every thing was that gut wrenching oh no now what? And even when things were quiet and calm, I would think of scenarios in my head along with my( committee which was always present), that surely something dreadful is going to happen. Was he going to ki...	gardengal	6	1359	May 12, 2007 by Diva
	The Word WAIT (poem) (Preview) The Word WAIT- "Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live the...	wallsal55	3	444	May 12, 2007 by java
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