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I thought I would be okay, I mean Mother's Day is just another day, right? Not this year, this year I don't look forward to it like before, as there will be no kiss on mom's cheek for me, no early morning call to her house, no little gift to give her. This week has been the hardest since she got her wings.....as I so want to talk to her, hug her, and tell her all about my family, my thoughts, my jobs, my hurt, my joys, my everything. I know it will get easier, as it has with Dad, but it will always hurt, she was my very best friend.
Hugs Mar
Mom, I miss you so very much On this Mother's Day; And not just now, but every minute, Since you went away.
You were the center of my life Before your soul passed on; It's just so hard for me to believe That you are really gone.
But I celebrate the life you lived And all the things you gave me; Our wonderful memories, Mom, of you Are the things that will comfort and save me.
Please think of me, as I think of you With a heart so full of love; I'm looking up at you, sweet Mom, As you look at me from above.
This may sound silly to some, but I talk to my grandparents all the time. My whole childhood they were the voice of reason. Dad was active in his disease and Mom... well Mom was like me now. Very busy trying to find her serenity.
I choose to believe that they see what we are accomplishing here, how we grow and help each other. I believe that sometimes when I am outside feeling sorry for myself and a gust of wind blows out of nowhere, it's one of them letting me know that life is not always rosy, but our HP promises to give us the strength to get us through.
I am sorry for your loss but my hope for you is peace, and the ability to celebrate her life when you are ready.
Until then we are here for you and love you in a very special way. I hope you can do something special this Mothers day.
Take care of you! ((((((((Hugs)))))))))
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Mary, I lost my mom many years ago. Time healed the sadness in my heart, and now I think of her with a smile or a laugh instead of tears. You will come to that point too. It takes time.
I talk to my mom often. I share secrets with her, and I still laugh and cry with her. My heart and mind believe she is with me, and I like that feeling.
I am sorry that this week-end will bring you sadness. I hope you will do something special for yourself.
With caring,
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I am sorry for the loss you are feeling this weekend.
I also believe that are loved one's are with us after they move on. I believe they can see everything we are doing are that they are also by our side when we need them. My Grandparents have all passed on, but I still talk with my one Grandmother I was close with. I can feel her there and even occasionally "hear" her answers when I need them. Sometimes she is that little voice in my head helping me along when I don't know where to go.
I will say alittle prayer for you.....and your Mom on Mother's Day.
I can only say I know how you feel. My moms been gone for almost 18 years and there isnt a day that passes that she isnt in my thoughts. She was my best friend also. Even though I have my own children, I still shed a lot of tears on Mothers Day and spend time tending to her grave making it sparkle with flowers and just tidying it up.
I dont think it gets easier and I dont think the pain ever goes away, at least for me it hasnt. The only thing that time does is make you realize that you can continue on lifes journey without mom by your side. Although she is always in my heart now she's also my guardian angel and I feel truly blessed having such an awesome angel up above!!
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((((((((mar)))))))) I too lost my mother,, about 9 years ago. Your mother knows how you feel and is feeling that kiss on her cheek, as she looks on but far away. I light a candle for my mom and dad on various occations. I see my mom as a bird (she always loved birds) , and when the chickadee sits in the tree and sings its song, I think of her. For what it is worth, time does heal, and memories never fade. You will be "ok". Thinking of you and all others whose mom's are not able to be here with us today. ((maresie)))
I recall the similarities when you were losing your Mom to when I lost mine, so I relate to Mothers Day being hard.
Walking down the card isle this time of year was rough for many years. Although being a Mom myself I am sure she would want her own daughter to be happy on this day. You were both blessed by each others love and I believe that does carry on.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this is for you. Maybe you can do something in rememberance of her? Lots of love to you.
I lost my Mom at the tender age of 19. It's not that time heals the wounds, it makes it easier to cope. We've gotten through that first year of birthdays, mother's day, special days, etc. Now we know it's coming.
After all these years, I find I get sad at the ordinary moments or in great times of stress. I can be doing the dishes and not anything in particular is going on. Then it will hit me. I always talk to her. Sometimes I talk to her as a friend and call her Toni. Other times, it's Mom. I'm thinking my Mom is showing your Mom the ropes. She's making sure she's okay and they are both looking down and smiling, laughing. My Mom will introduce your Mom to my Dad, Alex and then the fun begins. Remember when you hug your Dad, you're hugging your Mom too.
When people ask me how I would describe my Mom, I remember the lyrics from an old musical: "Her heart was made of holidays. Her smile was made of dawn. Her laughter was an April song, that echoes on and on."Love and blessings to you and your family.Live strong,Karilynn & Pipers Kitty P.S. Tell your Mom to watch out for my Uncle Mickey - he's a handful!
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