Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

florrie · florrie

i just wanted to share to help me with my boundaries. my neighbours are suffering the effects of addiction. there is serious violence and chaos in their home..... it reminds me how lucky i am to have found this program. i have spoken to the mom about the program, but she is not open to it at the moment. for...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I am desparately looking for the way forward, knowing that my heart is broken again, and I feel that I am losing myself. I was married to a voilent alcoholic for twenty years. I thought that I had recovered after being afiliated to an alanon support group when we lost our home due to alcoholism. But a r...

Jen · Jen

I was catching up on the forum posts and ran across Karilyn's funny stories. The other day my AH was lamenting about his habit of having to know everybody's business. His saying lately is "stick my nose back on my face". So he catches himself at it again and says something about it "jus...

Jen · Jen

Sorry it took me a bit to respond to my post from yesterday. I wanted to be sure you all know how much I appreciate your input. Christy- Your positive attitude is infectious. I am feeling very numb for the moment when it comes to intimacy of any kind. My A is really starting to open up wonderfully, and I can...

david62 · david62

My CONFESSION It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now and then -- just to loosen up. Inevitably, though, one thought led to another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker. I began to think alone -- "to relax," I told myself -- but I knew it wasn't true. Thinkin...

que sara · que sara

my AH just went awol. i definitely don't have these alanon principles down. i'm totally worried, i can't stand feeling out of control like this. i'm waiting by the phone and jumping every time i hear someone in the apartment hallway. i should be used to this by now but i am not. he vacillates between deni...

Jen · Jen

I don't really know what I want to say. I've been feeling kind of weird lately. Like I'm living on auto pilot. Not long ago I was feeling really scared at the idea of living by myself. Winters here are not easy. I had no firewood and a dangerously deteriorated woodstove. I had not nearly enough hay in for th...

Kim65 · Kim65

I have been in north Idaho long enough for this little slogan to not make me want to throw up anymore :D. When I lived in San Diego, it would have been the Nike slogan: Just Do It! It's been four months yesterday since my exA has been off the farm and out of my immediate life. The first month was just blessed...

LisaF · LisaF

Hi, I came in here a little bit a few months ago, and go to chat on occasion.... but haven't posted much or kept up with things on the message board... Well, I don't really know if this goes with Alanon.... or if it's an Alkie thing.... or something else... but I need to hear some ES&H... I have th...

Maria123 · Maria123

Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; and Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN

rtexas · rtexas

Everything ok over there? Just letting you know we are thinking about you.... Take care of you!

getoverit · getoverit

Hi hi all, Dream / Prayer request - anon style. Say it like that: someone has heart problems and in hsp now. Not sure of what - irr heartbeat - appx 60 something. Family has asked me to put the individual on our prayer list, so that's about all I can say about that re our anon scripts that get run in our chat r...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just wanted to tell y'all that I canceled the family session. After talking about it with my therapist, she emphasized--girl scout salute and everything--that we could do it at a later time. She was concerned that my parents would use the opportunity to launch into a "You won't believe how men...

inspired2 · inspired2

Hi everyone.. I am grateful to find a place to put down my words about my situation, knowing it will be treated with respect and perhaps some recognition of the emotions I am going through!! A couple of years ago, my kids and I moved across the country to the west coast of Canada. We left all our family behi...

CJC · CJC

For the first time in quit some time I actually proud of myself, I have set a few boundaries which have made me feel much better about myself. Last night AH came home, proceeded to attempt the nightly fight, and instead of allowing him to cuss me out and call me names I looked at him and said "when you c...

maresie2 · maresie2

As yo uall know I've been swallowed up in the A''s mess all summer long. This coming Monday I have a telephone interview for a job. I have just started applying. I am still looking for a 2nd job but I am also looking for a better full time job. I am so happy I have an interview it is a milepost in that I am taking c...

loper410 · loper410

So I went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday and actually went again on Wednesday. It became even more ackward because my friend and I actually went to the AA meeting on accident. We didn't know we were in the wrong room until they started and then had to ask them where the Al-Anon meeting was which was...

jrl · jrl

Well, my life continues. Im still around, havent been around much, my ex finally moved out, and now Im all alone with the kitty, not sure how much longer he will be around either. I thought to myself again, why do I need this? I thought about it, and thought about it, and came to the conclusion, it doesn't m...

maresie2 · maresie2

when I first moved to the place I am in now I beat myself into a smithereens for not having the money/connections/resources to move to an apartment. I certainly did not see it as an accomplishment that I managed to wrest the two dogs off the A. Neither did I see it as an accomplishment that I managed to move...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I could really use it. ((((Everyone)))) It's been some time since I've posted. So much has gone on here. When I drew the "line in the sand" with my A and decided to push for a divorce he agreed for about 2 days then everything went to hell. My A and I have been living apart for 3 yrs now (wow, l...

broken · broken

I had typed up everything below 3 times and tried to find the right board... well after having problems with registering and frustration I found this.... SIGH ( really HUGE SIGH)telling this so you know my mind set... not just in this but in so much in my life.....I was getting to the point that I was angr...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I was wondering how the rest of you handle the lying. Yes, I know that it is part of what an addict does, but should I say something when I know he is lying or do I just let it go. This is really frustrating me, because it seems to be getting worse. It used to be just lies when I would ask a question about someth...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family))))))))), Okay I just have to share this with you. You just sometimes wonder WHAT ARE THEY THINKING? Oh that's right, he's sober and male! EUREKA! Well that's hubby yesterday and today. He's getting out his hunting gear yesterday afternoon and all of a sudden I hear what soun...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I'm taking a break from my break today LOL. We have been walking the theme parks for the past 3 days for about 7 or 8 hours a day. I'm not sure my feet can take another minute. My legs ache from the knee down, my arms hurt even my fingers were hurting this morning! I think we are gonna hang around the h...

maresie2 · maresie2

Lately I have found myself surrounded by people who lie. The A lied all the time, he brought people into our lives who lies chronically. Then the A moved to the only place he would accept to be and I agreed to help him be there in order to house the dogs (I had nowhere to put them). Those people also lied chron...

kissers · kissers

Enjoy! http://www.innerguidancemovie.com/info_guid.htm

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hello All, This is a folllow-up to my post regarding my desire to encourage my ah to enter a Diversion Program on his own as to not be turned in and have his professional license flagged and possibly immediately lose it. Let me just say, I did it! First, I resolved myself to stopping the secret (with limi...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hey (((((((((family)))))))) I just thought you all would like to know I am alive!!! I have been really busy with lifes ups and downs here lately.. I have been out of town for a few weeks with my hubby and kids. Had a Blast!!!! I am now back and getting ready to go into the hospital next week for surgery.. I am...

Maria123 · Maria123

I think that's one of canadianguy's famous sayings, which I very much like and subscribe to now btw. But here's the latest song that says it perfectly. The lyrics are appropos and the music and beat is very upbeat and uptempo and makes me sing out loud and happy too. Hope you enjoy What Do Ya Think About T...

Diva · Diva

Partner has not had a drink in several months. All that means is that the next three-day "gentleman's vacation" is closer to happening. We never discuss his alcoholism. He totally disregards it as if it does not exist. No need for me to attempt to tell him how I feel about anything. He ch...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Boy, 6, tries to drive to Applebees Wed Oct 10, 4:48 AM ET BROOMFIELD, Colo. - A 6-year-old boy was hungry and decided he'd go to Applebees. So he grabbed the car keys, took his booster seat from the back seat of his grandmother's car and placed it in the driver's seat, then made a go of driving himself to th...

beaulahg · beaulahg

this last week has been one of mayham. i bought a bed for a reduced price, believing the seller, when, i was told i was recieving a GREAT deal for a foam filled bed. GUARANTEED. i got the bed home and the foam filled bed turned out to be springs. bad backs run in my family. i have taken good care of mine, and, wo...

shadow1 · shadow1

(((((((((((((Belle1)))))))))))))) Happy Birthday Hen!!!! Sorry its so late but I just got home from work. Hope you had a great day!! Many happy returns. Love ya Hen Shad

david62 · david62

Hello (((everyone))) This a compilation of frequently asked questions, that we are trying to get together for permant posting on this site. I have compiled this list from the post we have had up on the board for the last month and from discussions with members. Please review these. If you have any sugg...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A went to court today and it will be a while till I learn what happened. Meantime he has left the place where he was living with a padklock on the door. Needless to say the people there are none too happy about that. I am doing my best not to be roped in. I have put in a request for my bicycle which I am sure he h...

Christy · Christy

Hi Peeps! I made it to Alaska after an all day trip in airports and jets. I really dislike getting here but I guess I could look at the alternative...driving..lol I always get a window seat so I can have something to look at. This time I went thru Utah to hitch the ride to Anchorage. Man! Was it ever pretty...

gardengal · gardengal

As the days shorten and less hours are spent outside, we all need that special place, a quiet place, where we can unwind, relax, and just focus on OUR needs only. Dealing with the disease of alcoholism can drain of us energy, self worth, self esteem etc.....Keeping the focus on ourselves can be a daunt...

afmom03 · afmom03

Hi There Everyone!! It's been a LONNNNGGGGG time since I've popped in to write anything...but I have been here reading and checking out alot of the posts. I decided to stop in and write because it's been a whole nine months now that I've been away from my "AH" and just when I think he's not goi...

KimG143 · KimG143

I just told my AH that I would be attending another alanon meeting tomorrow night and my mom would be coming over to babysit since he had a practice with his band. He was visibly upset. Ten minutes later he came into the living room and spouted angrily "Do you plan to do this every Tuesday night?&q...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm having a great time in Orlando! We have been to Universal studios today and I am EXHAUSTED!!! We were only there 5 hours but it seems like 24! It was HOT and humid but fun just so much walking and go, go, go. I met a man in the pool earlier from England and he was very nice, always great to meet people fr...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family))))))))))), After a very long and hard week of work: I AM ON VACATION! I am so excited. Can you tell? Now we're not going to any place exotic, but does that matter? I'm just grateful that I have a job that allows me 3 weeks of vacation a year. We have some long standing traditions f...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone))))))) I am feeling so full of HP grace today. Over the years I had become so accustomed to hating the weekends... Isn't that basackwards... I hear people at work say .... boy, thank God it's friday. I smile and say 'Yeah'... But I just couldn't wait for it to be over. At work I didn...

shadow1 · shadow1

Well as some of you may know, I asked my A to leave and told him i was filing for divorce. I thought he would go when i told him about filing but he hasn't. He has stuck around and been drunk ever since. Then worst part of it all is that tomorrow (Sat) is/would be our 17 wedding anny and i just can't get out of my h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just wanted you all to know that 10/20 I will be having a family session with my parents and my councelor. I expect it to be emotional and challenging, as things with my parents often are. As I prepare myself, I know that I am going to be okay no matter what. But I am still somewhat anxious. Like I said, j...

omajoy · omajoy

I have been through 72 hours of hell. The phone has been ringing for three days with useless "conversations" with my son...the probable A. I say probable because it is so hard to determine. But after studying the posts on this site for over a year, sharing in some f to f meetings, I know I am del...

serendipity · serendipity

I have spent my entire life being over responsible. Especially for the A but for everyone in my life. I saw this and vowed to change this behavior because I didn't want my kids to do this too. I have since spent all my time trying my hardest to be healthy and balanced. In doing so, I very rarely let the pendul...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family)))))))))), Just wanted to share some exciting news with you all. We sent back hubby's wheelchair this week! We have had this thing since April 30 and have made good use of it. But he hasn't used in since starting his physical therapy and it was time to go. He is still in his walker ca...

loper410 · loper410

I've been struggling with this concept for awhile now. I want to be there to support my mom through life but I don't want that to mean that I accept her behavior. Is there a way that I can support her through her tough times of being Bi-Polar and having chronic health issues without accepting her behavior...

loper410 · loper410

Wow, I really don't even know where to begin. So many things are running around in my head. I'm a senior at college and have recently come to terms with the fact that my mom is addicted to pain medications. She has chronic health issues that she needs pain meds for so she never has any problems getting them...

ddub · ddub

One giant step for helpers and fixers and controlling people is to slow way down with the easy does it slogan. Even after hitting the al anon books, meetings and message boards hard and fast, then slowing down to easy does it with just some daily reading and meetings it is still too fast. Then trying t...

Destynee · Destynee

This is all new to me (Al-Anon). For 2 years after I was married, my AH would go out with his drinking buddies and not come home all night. Since August of 2006 he hasn't done it. But while I was at my mom's 20 minutes ago he took off. I don't think I can do this by myself again. Things have been terrible si...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((((((Everyone))))))))))) It really is amazing as I look back over my life and see how easily I used to accept lies as truth, and manipulation as direction. It is almost like I had a wire unhooked to my BS meter. Maybe it was more my fears ... fear of conflict, fear of letting others down and fear of...

kissers · kissers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ClnkLyjrp1Y

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I am living with a A...it seems to have gotten worse. I went to therapy finally to help me deal with my inner anger. I cannot cry in front of him or the verbal argument gets worse. I cannot sleep & have to work. We do very little together. i have tried to do more but the friends come over & its a big i...

wp · wp

Just a note to say Erin has been in my thoughts. Has anyone heard how she is doing? Thanks, mspw

kissers · kissers

In the "Getting Them Sober, volume one" book, it talks about how one of the main things that partners of alcoholics have in common, is trying to show the alcoholic how much we can do for them, instead of even thinking of asking how much they can do for us. This is such a knee-jerk action for us.....

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I recently found a website that has some fantastic tools for recovery on it. One of which is a great outline on detachment. I wish I'd of had this when I first started in the program. Check it out if you wish. www.coping.org The subjects covered are listed on the lefthand side. Barb

loper410 · loper410

I'm looking to attend my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday night. I was wondering if it was okay if a friend came with me? I'm really nervous about taking this step and I know if someone came with me then it would make this first step a lot easier. - Julie

QOD · QOD

Ok so after all that my AH said the other night, he just text messaged me. Love u more every day-will be here waiting if u ever want me back in your life What the heck am I supposed to do with that? I mean, the other day he was mad b/c he wasn't getting laid and said we needed to start seeing other people. Now th...

serenity62 · serenity62

Happy Thanks giving to all my Canadian friends. I hope you have a great weekend, I for one will take this weekend to think about all the things I am grateful & thankful for. Living with an A has so many negative things we have to deal with, but we also have alot of positive things in our lives to be gratef...

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	sad about neighbours (Preview) i just wanted to share to help me with my boundaries. my neighbours are suffering the effects of addiction. there is serious violence and chaos in their home..... it reminds me how lucky i am to have found this program. i have spoken to the mom about the program, but she is not open to it at the moment. for...	florrie	5	397	Oct 14, 2007 by florrie
	Despair (Preview) I am desparately looking for the way forward, knowing that my heart is broken again, and I feel that I am losing myself. I was married to a voilent alcoholic for twenty years. I thought that I had recovered after being afiliated to an alanon support group when we lost our home due to alcoholism. But a r...	Heartbroken	15	791	Oct 14, 2007 by beaulahg
	Funny stories (Preview) I was catching up on the forum posts and ran across Karilyn's funny stories. The other day my AH was lamenting about his habit of having to know everybody's business. His saying lately is "stick my nose back on my face". So he catches himself at it again and says something about it "jus...	Jen	2	448	Oct 14, 2007 by Jen
	RE: Waiting for the other shoe. (Preview) Sorry it took me a bit to respond to my post from yesterday. I wanted to be sure you all know how much I appreciate your input. Christy- Your positive attitude is infectious. I am feeling very numb for the moment when it comes to intimacy of any kind. My A is really starting to open up wonderfully, and I can...	Jen	2	300	Oct 14, 2007 by Jen
	My Confession (Preview) My CONFESSION It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now and then -- just to loosen up. Inevitably, though, one thought led to another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker. I began to think alone -- "to relax," I told myself -- but I knew it wasn't true. Thinkin...	david62	6	691	Oct 14, 2007 by rtexas
	so lost (Preview) my AH just went awol. i definitely don't have these alanon principles down. i'm totally worried, i can't stand feeling out of control like this. i'm waiting by the phone and jumping every time i hear someone in the apartment hallway. i should be used to this by now but i am not. he vacillates between deni...	que sara	9	352	Oct 13, 2007 by Jill
	Waiting for the other shoe. (Preview) I don't really know what I want to say. I've been feeling kind of weird lately. Like I'm living on auto pilot. Not long ago I was feeling really scared at the idea of living by myself. Winters here are not easy. I had no firewood and a dangerously deteriorated woodstove. I had not nearly enough hay in for th...	Jen	4	485	Oct 12, 2007 by serendipity
	Time to git'r done (Preview) I have been in north Idaho long enough for this little slogan to not make me want to throw up anymore :D. When I lived in San Diego, it would have been the Nike slogan: Just Do It! It's been four months yesterday since my exA has been off the farm and out of my immediate life. The first month was just blessed...	Kim65	8	547	Oct 12, 2007 by Kim65
	relationships... (Preview) Hi, I came in here a little bit a few months ago, and go to chat on occasion.... but haven't posted much or kept up with things on the message board... Well, I don't really know if this goes with Alanon.... or if it's an Alkie thing.... or something else... but I need to hear some ES&H... I have th...	LisaF	3	424	Oct 12, 2007 by maresie2
	hope you appreciate my humor (Preview) Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; and Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN	Maria123	14	612	Oct 12, 2007 by Andrea12
	(((((((Luna)))))))) (Preview) Everything ok over there? Just letting you know we are thinking about you.... Take care of you!	rtexas	3	351	Oct 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	dream / prayer request (Preview) Hi hi all, Dream / Prayer request - anon style. Say it like that: someone has heart problems and in hsp now. Not sure of what - irr heartbeat - appx 60 something. Family has asked me to put the individual on our prayer list, so that's about all I can say about that re our anon scripts that get run in our chat r...	getoverit	3	190	Oct 12, 2007 by marmare
	Canceled the family session (Preview) Just wanted to tell y'all that I canceled the family session. After talking about it with my therapist, she emphasized--girl scout salute and everything--that we could do it at a later time. She was concerned that my parents would use the opportunity to launch into a "You won't believe how men...	Tiger2006	6	459	Oct 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	Confused about how to help... need esh (Preview) Hi everyone.. I am grateful to find a place to put down my words about my situation, knowing it will be treated with respect and perhaps some recognition of the emotions I am going through!! A couple of years ago, my kids and I moved across the country to the west coast of Canada. We left all our family behi...	inspired2	4	506	Oct 12, 2007 by inspired2
	Being Proud of myself (Preview) For the first time in quit some time I actually proud of myself, I have set a few boundaries which have made me feel much better about myself. Last night AH came home, proceeded to attempt the nightly fight, and instead of allowing him to cuss me out and call me names I looked at him and said "when you c...	CJC	5	615	Oct 12, 2007 by inspired2
	Sign of self care (Preview) As yo uall know I've been swallowed up in the A''s mess all summer long. This coming Monday I have a telephone interview for a job. I have just started applying. I am still looking for a 2nd job but I am also looking for a better full time job. I am so happy I have an interview it is a milepost in that I am taking c...	maresie2	7	540	Oct 12, 2007 by inspired2
	Went to my first meeting. (Preview) So I went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday and actually went again on Wednesday. It became even more ackward because my friend and I actually went to the AA meeting on accident. We didn't know we were in the wrong room until they started and then had to ask them where the Al-Anon meeting was which was...	loper410	6	514	Oct 12, 2007 by Jerry F
	An Update (Preview) Well, my life continues. Im still around, havent been around much, my ex finally moved out, and now Im all alone with the kitty, not sure how much longer he will be around either. I thought to myself again, why do I need this? I thought about it, and thought about it, and came to the conclusion, it doesn't m...	jrl	4	289	Oct 11, 2007 by jrl
	acceptance (Preview) when I first moved to the place I am in now I beat myself into a smithereens for not having the money/connections/resources to move to an apartment. I certainly did not see it as an accomplishment that I managed to wrest the two dogs off the A. Neither did I see it as an accomplishment that I managed to move...	maresie2	3	440	Oct 11, 2007 by getoverit
	Who was it that had a spine on loan??? (Preview) I could really use it. ((((Everyone)))) It's been some time since I've posted. So much has gone on here. When I drew the "line in the sand" with my A and decided to push for a divorce he agreed for about 2 days then everything went to hell. My A and I have been living apart for 3 yrs now (wow, l...	Lunamoth	9	505	Oct 11, 2007 by rtexas
	scared! need wisdom and suport (Preview) I had typed up everything below 3 times and tried to find the right board... well after having problems with registering and frustration I found this.... SIGH ( really HUGE SIGH)telling this so you know my mind set... not just in this but in so much in my life.....I was getting to the point that I was angr...	broken	16	640	Oct 11, 2007 by Kim65
	Not another lying addict!!! (Preview) I was wondering how the rest of you handle the lying. Yes, I know that it is part of what an addict does, but should I say something when I know he is lying or do I just let it go. This is really frustrating me, because it seems to be getting worse. It used to be just lies when I would ask a question about someth...	Denoraphy	7	684	Oct 11, 2007 by maire rua
	Boy is he a handful, and he's sober! (Preview) ((((((((((Family))))))))), Okay I just have to share this with you. You just sometimes wonder WHAT ARE THEY THINKING? Oh that's right, he's sober and male! EUREKA! Well that's hubby yesterday and today. He's getting out his hunting gear yesterday afternoon and all of a sudden I hear what soun...	Karilynn	8	686	Oct 11, 2007 by lebe27
	Taking a Break (Preview) Well, I'm taking a break from my break today LOL. We have been walking the theme parks for the past 3 days for about 7 or 8 hours a day. I'm not sure my feet can take another minute. My legs ache from the knee down, my arms hurt even my fingers were hurting this morning! I think we are gonna hang around the h...	carolinagirl	2	296	Oct 11, 2007 by maresie2
	Lies lies and more lies (Preview) Lately I have found myself surrounded by people who lie. The A lied all the time, he brought people into our lives who lies chronically. Then the A moved to the only place he would accept to be and I agreed to help him be there in order to house the dogs (I had nowhere to put them). Those people also lied chron...	maresie2	4	519	Oct 11, 2007 by maresie2
	A Little "Inner Guidance" Gift for all of you (Preview) Enjoy! http://www.innerguidancemovie.com/info_guid.htm	kissers	4	664	Oct 11, 2007 by ddub
	I Did It! (Preview) Hello All, This is a folllow-up to my post regarding my desire to encourage my ah to enter a Diversion Program on his own as to not be turned in and have his professional license flagged and possibly immediately lose it. Let me just say, I did it! First, I resolved myself to stopping the secret (with limi...	Loupiness	7	544	Oct 11, 2007 by Karilynn
	updated on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hey (((((((((family)))))))) I just thought you all would like to know I am alive!!! I have been really busy with lifes ups and downs here lately.. I have been out of town for a few weeks with my hubby and kids. Had a Blast!!!! I am now back and getting ready to go into the hospital next week for surgery.. I am...	bubbles1990	9	460	Oct 10, 2007 by Maria123
	What Other People Think of Me is None of My Business (Preview) I think that's one of canadianguy's famous sayings, which I very much like and subscribe to now btw. But here's the latest song that says it perfectly. The lyrics are appropos and the music and beat is very upbeat and uptempo and makes me sing out loud and happy too. Hope you enjoy What Do Ya Think About T...	Maria123	0	726	Oct 10, 2007 by Maria123
	This evening I am angry (Preview) Partner has not had a drink in several months. All that means is that the next three-day "gentleman's vacation" is closer to happening. We never discuss his alcoholism. He totally disregards it as if it does not exist. No need for me to attempt to tell him how I feel about anything. He ch...	Diva	12	664	Oct 10, 2007 by bubbles1990
	Laugh, I suppose... (Preview) Boy, 6, tries to drive to Applebees Wed Oct 10, 4:48 AM ET BROOMFIELD, Colo. - A 6-year-old boy was hungry and decided he'd go to Applebees. So he grabbed the car keys, took his booster seat from the back seat of his grandmother's car and placed it in the driver's seat, then made a go of driving himself to th...	Tiger2006	3	403	Oct 10, 2007 by bubbles1990
	misfit , mayham and miscarriage (Preview) this last week has been one of mayham. i bought a bed for a reduced price, believing the seller, when, i was told i was recieving a GREAT deal for a foam filled bed. GUARANTEED. i got the bed home and the foam filled bed turned out to be springs. bad backs run in my family. i have taken good care of mine, and, wo...	beaulahg	7	562	Oct 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	One of our hen's is having a birthday!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((((Belle1)))))))))))))) Happy Birthday Hen!!!! Sorry its so late but I just got home from work. Hope you had a great day!! Many happy returns. Love ya Hen Shad	shadow1	5	358	Oct 10, 2007 by belle1
	Frequently Asked Questions (Preview) Hello (((everyone))) This a compilation of frequently asked questions, that we are trying to get together for permant posting on this site. I have compiled this list from the post we have had up on the board for the last month and from discussions with members. Please review these. If you have any sugg...	david62	14	926	Oct 10, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	mess mess and more mess (Preview) The A went to court today and it will be a while till I learn what happened. Meantime he has left the place where he was living with a padklock on the door. Needless to say the people there are none too happy about that. I am doing my best not to be roped in. I have put in a request for my bicycle which I am sure he h...	maresie2	5	524	Oct 10, 2007 by maresie2
	Checking in from Alaska (Preview) Hi Peeps! I made it to Alaska after an all day trip in airports and jets. I really dislike getting here but I guess I could look at the alternative...driving..lol I always get a window seat so I can have something to look at. This time I went thru Utah to hitch the ride to Anchorage. Man! Was it ever pretty...	Christy	14	770	Oct 10, 2007 by beaulahg
	Do you have a quiet spot, away from the chaos? (Preview) As the days shorten and less hours are spent outside, we all need that special place, a quiet place, where we can unwind, relax, and just focus on OUR needs only. Dealing with the disease of alcoholism can drain of us energy, self worth, self esteem etc.....Keeping the focus on ourselves can be a daunt...	gardengal	4	369	Oct 10, 2007 by beaulahg
	It Never Fails!!! (Preview) Hi There Everyone!! It's been a LONNNNGGGGG time since I've popped in to write anything...but I have been here reading and checking out alot of the posts. I decided to stop in and write because it's been a whole nine months now that I've been away from my "AH" and just when I think he's not goi...	afmom03	3	369	Oct 9, 2007 by marmare
	Help (Preview) I just told my AH that I would be attending another alanon meeting tomorrow night and my mom would be coming over to babysit since he had a practice with his band. He was visibly upset. Ten minutes later he came into the living room and spouted angrily "Do you plan to do this every Tuesday night?&q...	KimG143	19	577	Oct 9, 2007 by wp
	On Vacation!!! (Preview) I'm having a great time in Orlando! We have been to Universal studios today and I am EXHAUSTED!!! We were only there 5 hours but it seems like 24! It was HOT and humid but fun just so much walking and go, go, go. I met a man in the pool earlier from England and he was very nice, always great to meet people fr...	carolinagirl	6	412	Oct 9, 2007 by maresie2
	On vacation! (Preview) (((((((((((Family))))))))))), After a very long and hard week of work: I AM ON VACATION! I am so excited. Can you tell? Now we're not going to any place exotic, but does that matter? I'm just grateful that I have a job that allows me 3 weeks of vacation a year. We have some long standing traditions f...	Karilynn	5	382	Oct 9, 2007 by tea2
	Blessing of the hawk... (Preview) (((((((Everyone))))))) I am feeling so full of HP grace today. Over the years I had become so accustomed to hating the weekends... Isn't that basackwards... I hear people at work say .... boy, thank God it's friday. I smile and say 'Yeah'... But I just couldn't wait for it to be over. At work I didn...	rtexas	5	631	Oct 9, 2007 by Loupiness
	Its a sad day (Preview) Well as some of you may know, I asked my A to leave and told him i was filing for divorce. I thought he would go when i told him about filing but he hasn't. He has stuck around and been drunk ever since. Then worst part of it all is that tomorrow (Sat) is/would be our 17 wedding anny and i just can't get out of my h...	shadow1	7	653	Oct 9, 2007 by bubbles1990
	just wanted you to know (Preview) Just wanted you all to know that 10/20 I will be having a family session with my parents and my councelor. I expect it to be emotional and challenging, as things with my parents often are. As I prepare myself, I know that I am going to be okay no matter what. But I am still somewhat anxious. Like I said, j...	Tiger2006	4	434	Oct 9, 2007 by bubbles1990
	72 hellacious hours (Preview) I have been through 72 hours of hell. The phone has been ringing for three days with useless "conversations" with my son...the probable A. I say probable because it is so hard to determine. But after studying the posts on this site for over a year, sharing in some f to f meetings, I know I am del...	omajoy	5	540	Oct 8, 2007 by maresie2
	The pendulum swings the other way(crazy rant) (Preview) I have spent my entire life being over responsible. Especially for the A but for everyone in my life. I saw this and vowed to change this behavior because I didn't want my kids to do this too. I have since spent all my time trying my hardest to be healthy and balanced. In doing so, I very rarely let the pendul...	serendipity	8	583	Oct 8, 2007 by carolinagirl
	The Wheelchair is Gone! (Preview) (((((((((Family)))))))))), Just wanted to share some exciting news with you all. We sent back hubby's wheelchair this week! We have had this thing since April 30 and have made good use of it. But he hasn't used in since starting his physical therapy and it was time to go. He is still in his walker ca...	Karilynn	5	579	Oct 8, 2007 by maresie2
	Supporting versus Accepting (Preview) I've been struggling with this concept for awhile now. I want to be there to support my mom through life but I don't want that to mean that I accept her behavior. Is there a way that I can support her through her tough times of being Bi-Polar and having chronic health issues without accepting her behavior...	loper410	2	422	Oct 8, 2007 by Jen
	I'm new and am looking for advice. (Preview) Wow, I really don't even know where to begin. So many things are running around in my head. I'm a senior at college and have recently come to terms with the fact that my mom is addicted to pain medications. She has chronic health issues that she needs pain meds for so she never has any problems getting them...	loper410	6	563	Oct 8, 2007 by loper410
	easy does it (Preview) One giant step for helpers and fixers and controlling people is to slow way down with the easy does it slogan. Even after hitting the al anon books, meetings and message boards hard and fast, then slowing down to easy does it with just some daily reading and meetings it is still too fast. Then trying t...	ddub	6	393	Oct 8, 2007 by maresie2
	How do I deal with this? (Preview) This is all new to me (Al-Anon). For 2 years after I was married, my AH would go out with his drinking buddies and not come home all night. Since August of 2006 he hasn't done it. But while I was at my mom's 20 minutes ago he took off. I don't think I can do this by myself again. Things have been terrible si...	Destynee	5	486	Oct 8, 2007 by QOD
	Manipulation and lies... (Preview) ((((((((((Everyone))))))))))) It really is amazing as I look back over my life and see how easily I used to accept lies as truth, and manipulation as direction. It is almost like I had a wire unhooked to my BS meter. Maybe it was more my fears ... fear of conflict, fear of letting others down and fear of...	rtexas	7	734	Oct 8, 2007 by QOD
	Alanon on You Tube (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ClnkLyjrp1Y	kissers	1	1065	Oct 8, 2007 by tiredtonite
	Is this common to feel like this? (Preview) Hi, I am living with a A...it seems to have gotten worse. I went to therapy finally to help me deal with my inner anger. I cannot cry in front of him or the verbal argument gets worse. I cannot sleep & have to work. We do very little together. i have tried to do more but the friends come over & its a big i...	alanon_2002	8	484	Oct 8, 2007 by Kim65
	Wondering about ERIN (Preview) Just a note to say Erin has been in my thoughts. Has anyone heard how she is doing? Thanks, mspw	wp	1	384	Oct 8, 2007 by doxie
	Share I found (Preview) In the "Getting Them Sober, volume one" book, it talks about how one of the main things that partners of alcoholics have in common, is trying to show the alcoholic how much we can do for them, instead of even thinking of asking how much they can do for us. This is such a knee-jerk action for us.....	kissers	3	434	Oct 7, 2007 by ddub
	Detachment (Preview) I recently found a website that has some fantastic tools for recovery on it. One of which is a great outline on detachment. I wish I'd of had this when I first started in the program. Check it out if you wish. www.coping.org The subjects covered are listed on the lefthand side. Barb	Mobirdie	3	412	Oct 7, 2007 by Mobirdie
	Face to Face Al-Anon Meetings (Preview) I'm looking to attend my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday night. I was wondering if it was okay if a friend came with me? I'm really nervous about taking this step and I know if someone came with me then it would make this first step a lot easier. - Julie	loper410	2	378	Oct 7, 2007 by lin0606
	TM from AH. What do I do with it? (Preview) Ok so after all that my AH said the other night, he just text messaged me. Love u more every day-will be here waiting if u ever want me back in your life What the heck am I supposed to do with that? I mean, the other day he was mad b/c he wasn't getting laid and said we needed to start seeing other people. Now th...	QOD	9	661	Oct 7, 2007 by twinkie
	HAPPY THANKS GIVING!!!! (Preview) Happy Thanks giving to all my Canadian friends. I hope you have a great weekend, I for one will take this weekend to think about all the things I am grateful & thankful for. Living with an A has so many negative things we have to deal with, but we also have alot of positive things in our lives to be gratef...	serenity62	2	382	Oct 7, 2007 by Karilynn
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