7. A. police or having

change to police or have

pw, aka nitpicker

Great job tea and david!
These should be very helpful :)

pw

Thank You David for your service time with these FAQs

I was wondering if we could add one about copyrighting here on the mssg brd?

Nice work David,
Only thing its not touch base on
is cutter's hot line maybe? We
do get consumers looking for
that data:
1.800.366.8288
an fyi...
great job Senor!
Love in recovery,
getoverit

okay everyone!!

Thanks for all of your suggestions.  Here is the latest version!!!

GENERAL INFORMATION

 

1.      Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?

A.     Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics.  If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you!

By going to the following link:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

And placing your cursor over about us in the upper left of the screen, 3 more pull downs open.  One of these is information for the newcomer, and the second is Al-Anon for you; both have good information.

Another good place on the Internet to find out about Al-Anon on the Internet is at Online Al-Anon Outreach at:

http://www.ola-is.org/

2.       Q. What is Al-Anon?  Is it for Alcoholics?  What is the difference between Al-Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous?

A.  Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics, for people who you have been affected by someone elses drinking.

No, Al-Anon is not for Alcoholics, however, many Alcoholics also do attend Al-Anon for the same reason those who are not alcoholics do, because they also have been affected by someone elses drinking.

The fundamental difference between AA and Al-Anon is that AA is for people with a problem controlling their use of alcohol, while Al-Anon is for people who have a problem trying to control others use of alcohol.

 

3.      Q. Why do I need to have my own program of Recovery?

A.     Many of us who have lived with Alcoholism in our lives have been affected by it without even realizing it ourselves.  Not just in the sense of having to put up with the alcoholics behavior, but in the sense that we ourselves have become irritable and unreasonable without even knowing it.  Having our own program of recovery allows us to take the focus off of the things in our lives, which we cannot control, such as the actions of others, and onto the things in our lives, which we CAN control, our actions, our thoughts, and our happiness.

 

4.       Q. How do I find Al-Anon meetings?

A.  Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html 

Online meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page.  After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

Using a search engine such as Google, and searching for Al-Anon can find other online meetings.

 

5.      Q. How can I get Al-Anon literature?

A. Conference Approved Literature (CAL) and other recovery literature can be purchased online from the MIP bookstore at this link:

http://www.12stepforums.net/books.html

It can also be purchased online directly from the WSO at:

https://ssl.perfora.net/s105607162.oneandoneshop.com/sess/utn;jsessionid=1546e2d6cd33560/shopdata/index.shopscript

Literature is usually available for purchase at your local groups as well.

 

6.      Q. What is a Sponsor and How do I get one?

A.  A sponsor is a guide.  Someone who will help you to become acquainted with the Al-Anon program and will encourage you on your road to recovery.  

To get a sponsor, you merely ask someone in the program that you think might be able to help you, preferably someone who has been in the program longer than you, that exhibits some quality that you find attractive.

It is possible to have sponsors online, by asking someone you see in the chat room or on the board that has what you want.  It would be preferable to ask this person in private via private message.

Do not be afraid to ask someone to sponsor you.  Sponsorship is one of the greatest privileges of recovery.  If the person says they cannot sponsor you, dont take it personal.  Some people dont feel they are ready yet, others may already be sponsoring as many people as they can handle currently.  Just find another person and ask until you can find someone willing!

 

7.      Q. How can I get help with living with physical violence?

A. In the book, How Al-Anon Works for Families and  Friends of Alcoholics  there is a section entitled A Special Word to Anyone Confronted with Violence (Preface ix) please consult this.  We in Al-Anon do not give advice, but realize the importance of not accepting violence or dangerous situations, which may cause harm to our children or us.  If you are in a situation like this please do not hesitate to call the police or having some kind of plan to protect yourself.

The following are some numbers that may help:

Battered Womens Justice Project: 1-800-903-0111. 
National Organization for Victims Assistance: 1-800-879-6682 
National Resource Center for Domestic Violence:  1-800-537-2238
US Domestic Violence Hotline/ General Information:  1-800-799-7233

 

8.       Q.  Is there somewhere I can find out what abbreviations mean?

A. On almost all chat rooms and bulletin boards people use abbreviations to speed up saying commonly used phrases.

This link: http://www.city-net.com/~ched/help/lingo/chatslang.html can provide you with abbreviations common to all chat rooms/boards.

Some abbreviations and terms that are more specific to recovery chat rooms/boards:

A or The A : the alcoholic in my life

AA : Alcoholics Anonymous

ABF or AGF : alcoholic boy friend or girlfriend

AH or AW : alcoholic husband or wife

Active A : an alcoholic who is still drinking alcohol

Big Book : refers to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

CAL : Conference Approved Literature, writings that have been approved by the WSO

C2C or CTC : courage to change

CLOSED MEETING : a meeting of AA or Al-Anon that is only to be attended by members who qualify for either AA or Al-anon

DRY DRUNK : refers to an alcoholic who is no longer drinking alcohol but who is still exhibiting a lot of the negative behaviors associated with the drinking

ESH : experience, strength and hope

FTF or F2F : a Face-to-Face meeting; real world meetings

HALT : Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired

JADE : Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain

MIP : Miracles in Progress

ODAAT : one day at a time

OPEN MEETING : a meeting of AA or Al-Anon that may be attended by anyone who is interested.

Q-tip : Quit taking it personally

TYFS OR TFS : Thank you for sharing

WSO : World Service Organization Al-Anons headquarters

 

If someone puts your nickname in parenthesis (((((nickname))))) that means they are giving you a cyber hug!

 

 

MESSAGE BOARD AND CHAT ROOM

 

1.       Q. How do I post on the board and How do I know what is acceptable to post on the message board?

A. To post on the board you must register.  To do this click on new member in the members login area and follow instructions.  Once you are registered you can log in to the board and the post. There are also posting tips which may be viewed by clicking on posting-how to next to the Submit button on the reply or start new topic screens. 

Guidelines for what should or should not be posted on this board may be viewed by clicking on Start a New Topic or by clicking on Reply to another persons post.  When the next window opens up, where you can write, scroll down to the bottom of your text window, just left of the Submit button you may click on Posting Guidelines and read them. 

NOTE:   Please be sure to log out each time you finish reading or posting on this message board as this does not happen automatically.  If you are on a public computer whether at home or at the library etc., you need to log out so no one else has access to any of your information and you are being kept anonymous.

 

2.       Q. Do you have Al-Anon meetings here and How do I get to them?

A. Yes, meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page.  After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

 

3.       Q. What happens in the chat room?  How are meetings run and what about the rest of the time?

A. Open Al-Anon meetings are held in the chat room twice a day.  Times for these meetings can be found here:   http://www.12stepforums.net/schedule.html Scroll down and find the time listings for Al-Anon meetings in yellow box.  The meetings last an hour and a half and are held with the same format as some face-to-face meetings.

During Meetings:

On Line Al-anon meetings are held with the same respect as Face To Face Meetings. Please do not interrupt {cross talk} while someone is sharing.

Enter an  !  to be called on by the meeting chairperson.

Wait for the chairperson to give you the floor. 

It's ok to greet others as they get the f1oor.

Share 5-7 minutes on topic to allow others time to share as well.

Type  Done  when you are finished sharing. 

Please thank others after they yield the floor.

It is NOT ok to talk during, use scripts during or directly respond to another's share!

During Open Chat

When meetings are not being held the chat room is open to general discussion.

It is common courtesy to greet people as they enter the room. 

This is an Al-Anon chat room.  Its primary purpose is as a place where people can discuss issues related to alcoholism and recovery from the effects of alcoholism.  However, people are free to carry on conversations on any topic as long as it is not offensive to those present.  Harassment of anyone in the room will NOT be tolerated.  A room moderator has the ability to remove anyone who is being inconsiderate of others in the room.

The chat room is a great place to find support and to have open discussion with other members that is not allowed during the meeting times.

Sometimes when there are a large number of members in the chat room, there may be many conversations going on at once.  Do not hesitate to interrupt or join into the discussions, or to ask someone to listen to you. 

 

4.      Q. How do I get a nickname in the chat room?

A. When you first enter the chat room, you will enter as Guest###, you are required to choose a nickname to be in the room.  To change your name from guest you can enter a name in the box in the lower right of the chat room window that opens or you can enter the following:   /nick nickname:  in the field that you enter text in.

NOTE: When considering a nickname for yourself, remember your own anonymity.  If you do not want anyone else who knows you in real life (your spouse, family member, child, etc.) to happen upon this site and board to know you, pick a nickname that's unidentifiable to those that know you.

 

5.       Q. How do I private message (pm) someone in the chat room?

A.  Double click on a person's nickname; this will open up another window, which only you and the other person will be able to see.

When you are done, you can "x" out of the conversation or you can go back and forth between a private conversation and the chat room by clicking on the public / private link towards the bottom of your screen in red.

 

6.        Q. What do I do if I accidentally get banned from the chat room?

A.  On occasion your ip address may become blocked and you will be unable to enter the chat room.  A server somewhere has your isp number on a spam blockers list, and in order for other network servers to take their bans off you, you need to get taken off this list. If this happens try visiting the following site:

http://www.ahbl.org/tools/lookup.php?ip=68.189.246.195

After you have been removed from the list, you will be able to enter the chat room again, however this may take up to 48 hours.

If you are still having trouble getting into the chat room, you may need to update your Java software.

To download the latest version of Java visit this site:

http://www.java.com/en/download/index.jsp

 

7.       Q. How do I know who the chat room moderator/ops are?

            A.  When a room moderator/op is present they will be at the top of the list of those in the room and their nickname will be preceded by an @ symbol.

 

8.       Q. How long are the service positions for the Group Conscience/ Group Business Meetings for before the next rotation?

A. The current Chair, Secretary and Treasurer positions run for six months.

 

9.      Q. How do you volunteer for a service position?

A. The positions of Business Meeting Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer are open to any member of the group who wishes to give service.  These positions are held for 6 months and at the end of each term, elections are held at the next Business Meeting. 

 

10.    Q. When are the business meetings held?

A. Business meetings are usually held on the first Sunday of the month at 9 pm EST.  Check the message board each month, when the next meeting is scheduled it will be posted on the board.

 

11.     Q. Where can I view the minutes from the Business meetings?

A. If you are in attendance at the meeting you can request of the Secretary to have a copy of the minutes emailed to you.  In addition, the minutes will be posted on the message board after the Secretary has had time to prepare them.

 

Okay missed something..here is the LATEST latest...

GENERAL INFORMATION

 

1. Q. How do I know if Al-Anon is the place for me?

A.Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone elses drinking then Al-Anon is for you!

By going to the following link:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

And placing your cursor over about us in the upper left of the screen, 3 more pull downs open. One of these is information for the newcomer, and the second is Al-Anon for you; both have good information.

Another good place on the Internet to find out about Al-Anon on the Internet is at Online Al-Anon Outreach at:

http://www.ola-is.org/

2. Q. What is Al-Anon? Is it for Alcoholics? What is the difference between Al-Anon and Alcoholics Anonymous?

A. Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics, for people who you have been affected by someone elses drinking.

No, Al-Anon is not for Alcoholics, however, many Alcoholics also do attend Al-Anon for the same reason those who are not alcoholics do, because they also have been affected by someone elses drinking.

The fundamental difference between AA and Al-Anon is that AA is for people with a problem controlling their use of alcohol, while Al-Anon is for people who have a problem trying to control others use of alcohol.

 

3. Q. Why do I need to have my own program of Recovery?

A.Many of us who have lived with Alcoholism in our lives have been affected by it without even realizing it ourselves. Not just in the sense of having to put up with the alcoholics behavior, but in the sense that we ourselves have become irritable and unreasonable without even knowing it. Having our own program of recovery allows us to take the focus off of the things in our lives, which we cannot control, such as the actions of others, and onto the things in our lives, which we CAN control, our actions, our thoughts, and our happiness.

 

4. Q. How do I find Al-Anon meetings?

A. Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

Online meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page. After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

Using a search engine such as Google, and searching for Al-Anon can find other online meetings.

 

5. Q. How can I get Al-Anon literature?

A. Conference Approved Literature (CAL) and other recovery literature can be purchased online from the MIP bookstore at this link:

http://www.12stepforums.net/books.html

It can also be purchased online directly from the WSO at:

https://ssl.perfora.net/s105607162.oneandoneshop.com/sess/utn;jsessionid=1546e2d6cd33560/shopdata/index.shopscript

Literature is usually available for purchase at your local groups as well.

 

6. Q. What is a Sponsor and How do I get one?

A. A sponsor is a guide. Someone who will help you to become acquainted with the Al-Anon program and will encourage you on your road to recovery.

To get a sponsor, you merely ask someone in the program that you think might be able to help you, preferably someone who has been in the program longer than you, that exhibits some quality that you find attractive.

It is possible to have sponsors online, by asking someone you see in the chat room or on the board that has what you want. It would be preferable to ask this person in private via private message.

Do not be afraid to ask someone to sponsor you. Sponsorship is one of the greatest privileges of recovery. If the person says they cannot sponsor you, dont take it personal. Some people dont feel they are ready yet, others may already be sponsoring as many people as they can handle currently. Just find another person and ask until you can find someone willing!

 

7. Q. How can I get help with living with physical violence?

A. In the book, How Al-Anon Works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics there is a section entitled A Special Word to Anyone Confronted with Violence (Preface ix) please consult this. We in Al-Anon do not give advice, but realize the importance of not accepting violence or dangerous situations, which may cause harm to our children or us. If you are in a situation like this please do not hesitate to call the police or having some kind of plan to protect yourself.

The following are some numbers that may help:

Battered Womens Justice Project: 1-800-903-0111.
National Organization for Victims Assistance: 1-800-879-6682
National Resource Center for Domestic Violence: 1-800-537-2238
US Domestic Violence Hotline/ General Information: 1-800-799-7233

 

8. Q. Is there somewhere I can find out what abbreviations mean?

A. On almost all chat rooms and bulletin boards people use abbreviations to speed up saying commonly used phrases.

This link: http://www.city-net.com/~ched/help/lingo/chatslang.html can provide you with abbreviations common to all chat rooms/boards.

Some abbreviations and terms that are more specific to recovery chat rooms/boards:

A or The A : the alcoholic in my life

AA : Alcoholics Anonymous

ABF or AGF : alcoholic boy friend or girlfriend

AFG : Al-Anon Family Groups

AH or AW : alcoholic husband or wife

Active A : an alcoholic who is still drinking alcohol

Big Book : refers to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

CAL : Conference Approved Literature, writings that have been approved by the WSO

C2C or CTC : courage to change

CLOSED MEETING : a meeting of AA or Al-Anon that is only to be attended by members who qualify for either AA or Al-anon

DRY DRUNK : refers to an alcoholic who is no longer drinking alcohol but who is still exhibiting a lot of the negative behaviors associated with the drinking

ESH : experience, strength and hope

FTF or F2F : a Face-to-Face meeting; real world meetings

HALT : Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired

JADE : Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain

MIP : Miracles in Progress

ODAAT : one day at a time

OPEN MEETING : a meeting of AA or Al-Anon that may be attended by anyone who is interested.

Q-tip : Quit taking it personally

TYFS OR TFS : Thank you for sharing

WSO : World Service Organization Al-Anons headquarters

If someone puts your nickname in parenthesis (((((nickname))))) that means they are giving you a cyber hug!

MESSAGE BOARD AND CHAT ROOM

 

1. Q. How do I post on the board and How do I know what is acceptable to post on the message board?

A. To post on the board you must register. To do this click on new member in the members login area and follow instructions. Once you are registered you can log in to the board and the post. There are also posting tips which may be viewed by clicking on posting-how to next to the Submit button on the reply or start new topic screens.

Guidelines for what should or should not be posted on this board may be viewed by clicking on Start a New Topic or by clicking on Reply to another persons post. When the next window opens up, where you can write, scroll down to the bottom of your text window, just left of the Submit button you may click on Posting Guidelines and read them.

NOTE: Please be sure to log out each time you finish reading or posting on this message board as this does not happen automatically. If you are on a public computer whether at home or at the library etc., you need to log out so no one else has access to any of your information and you are being kept anonymous.

 

2.Q. Is it okay to copy and post things out of our literature (like One Day at a Time, Courage to Change, etc.) on the message board?

          A. In the Al-Anon/Alateen service manual it states the following:
          Service Tools/Material and Electronic Publishing A listing of Al-Anon/Alateen service     
          tools/materials that may be posted on Web sites is found on the WSO Web site:
          www.al-anon.alateen.org. A credit line "Reprinted by permission of Al-Anon Family
          Headquarters, Inc" Is required. No other Al-Anon/Alateen copyrighted literature may be
          reprinted electronically without express written permission from the WSO.

          Anytime copyrighted material is posted on the internet on a message board such as this
          without the written permission of the author, it is in violation of copyright law.  It is out of
          respect for the publisher, and to insure the future of this site's existence and for who find
          experience, strength and hope here and the ones who may find their way here in the
          future that we should all respect the copyright laws. 

          For this reason, it is best to post only original material.

3. Q. Do you have Al-Anon meetings here and How do I get to them?

A. Yes, meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page. After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

 

4. Q. What happens in the chat room? How are meetings run and what about the rest of the time?

A. Open Al-Anon meetings are held in the chat room twice a day. Times for these meetings can be found here: http://www.12stepforums.net/schedule.html Scroll down and find the time listings for Al-Anon meetings in yellow box. The meetings last an hour and a half and are held with the same format as some face-to-face meetings.

During Meetings:

On Line Al-anon meetings are held with the same respect as Face To Face Meetings. Please do not interrupt {cross talk} while someone is sharing.

Enter an!to be called on by the meeting chairperson.

Wait for the chairperson to give you the floor.

It's ok to greet others as they get the f1oor.

Share 5-7 minutes on topic to allow others time to share as well.

TypeDonewhen you are finished sharing.

Please thank others after they yield the floor.

It is NOT ok to talk during, use scripts during or directly respond to another's share!

During Open Chat

When meetings are not being held the chat room is open to general discussion.

It is common courtesy to greet people as they enter the room.

This is an Al-Anon chat room. Its primary purpose is as a place where people can discuss issues related to alcoholism and recovery from the effects of alcoholism. However, people are free to carry on conversations on any topic as long as it is not offensive to those present. Harassment of anyone in the room will NOT be tolerated. A room moderator has the ability to remove anyone who is being inconsiderate of others in the room.

The chat room is a great place to find support and to have open discussion with other members that is not allowed during the meeting times.

Sometimes when there are a large number of members in the chat room, there may be many conversations going on at once. Do not hesitate to interrupt or join into the discussions, or to ask someone to listen to you.

 

5. Q. How do I get a nickname in the chat room?

A. When you first enter the chat room, you will enter as Guest###, you are required to choose a nickname to be in the room. To change your name from guest you can enter a name in the box in the lower right of the chat room window that opens or you can enter the following: /nick nickname: in the field that you enter text in.

NOTE: When considering a nickname for yourself, remember your own anonymity. If you do not want anyone else who knows you in real life (your spouse, family member, child, etc.) to happen upon this site and board to know you, pick a nickname that's unidentifiable to those that know you.

 

6. Q. How do I private message (pm) someone in the chat room?

A. Double click on a person's nickname; this will open up another window, which only you and the other person will be able to see.

When you are done, you can "x" out of the conversation or you can go back and forth between a private conversation and the chat room by clicking on the public / private link towards the bottom of your screen in red.

 

7. Q. What do I do if I accidentally get banned from the chat room?

A. On occasion your ip address may become blocked and you will be unable to enter the chat room. A server somewhere has your isp number on a spam blockers list, and in order for other network servers to take their bans off you, you need to get taken off this list.If this happens try visiting the following site:

http://www.ahbl.org/tools/lookup.php?ip=68.189.246.195

After you have been removed from the list, you will be able to enter the chat room again, however this may take up to 48 hours.

If you are still having trouble getting into the chat room, you may need to update your Java software.

To download the latest version of Java visit this site:

http://www.java.com/en/download/index.jsp

 

8. Q. How do I know who the chat room moderator/ops are?

A. When a room moderator/op is present they will be at the top of the list of those in the room and their nickname will be preceded by an @ symbol.

 

9. Q. How long are the service positions for the Group Conscience/ Group Business Meetings for before the next rotation?

A. The current Chair, Secretary and Treasurer positions run for six months.

 

10. Q. How do you volunteer for a service position?

A. The positions of Business Meeting Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer are open to any member of the group who wishes to give service. These positions are held for 6 months and at the end of each term, elections are held at the next Business Meeting.

 

11. Q. When are the business meetings held?

A. Business meetings are usually held on the first Sunday of the month at 9 pm EST. Check the message board each month, when the next meeting is scheduled it will be posted on the board.

 

12. Q. Where can I view the minutes from the Business meetings?

A. If you are in attendance at the meeting you can request of the Secretary to have a copy of the minutes emailed to you. In addition, the minutes will be posted on the message board after the Secretary has had time to prepare them.

-- Edited by david62 at 19:43, 2007-10-09

-- Edited by david62 at 19:19, 2007-10-10