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Just wanted to tell y'all that I canceled the family session. After talking about it with my therapist, she emphasized--girl scout salute and everything--that we could do it at a later time. She was concerned that my parents would use the opportunity to launch into a "You won't believe how mentally ill our daughter is!" kinda session. I understood that. I can get the whole "Protect the patient from the patient's best thinking" We also talked about that there were other ways to achieve the goals of the session--let go of the "little Sarah" feelings, work through the feelings of "why am I reliving an experience from when I was 10?" and things like that. And she reassured me--like 50 million times--that I was okay, and that, if at this time next year, I was still certain I was emotionally stable enough I could handle it, then, yeah, go for it. In a way, I was relieved, and I am. But I'm kinda sad. I wanted to show my parents, "this is me being an adult, because I'm talking to you about adult things and handling my life in an adult manner." But I guess, on the other hand, that when I feel safe enough to know, like deep in my core, that the family session would have to be 110% about me and only me, then the way I would handle it and all would be totally different. I guess I just wanted y'all to know where I'm at. And I really appreciate everything y'all have done for me. Thanks y'all.
when I've been in couples therapy (not in this last relatonship) I was so incredibly disappointed. I think its important to be realistic. I know I am not. Fantasy is a huge huge part of my issues with the A and beyond it. Maresie
Yeah, if somewhere deep inside what you really hope is for them to say "You're right, you ARE an adult, I'm so proud of you" it might not be time yet. That's a result that, sad to say, you may never get (from them - from me, I can say "Good for you, you are dealing with your dragons appropriately. Your insight and courage help a lot of people, you are a valuable member of this place.")
Your share brought back memories...lots of them. Working with my counselor was difficult for me and for him. I came to understand what my own clients went thru with me. LOL. What helped me get thru the process and make the counseling work was learning in this program with my sponsor to not take myself sooooo seriously. For real! That was not a fun time and the consequence of working that out with my sponsor and then in counseling was that my difficulties from the past started to shrink in relaltionship to my time in the present. Keep going after it and don't let it capture/own you when you get near. I wish for and will pray for your release from your pain. Sincerely.
Part of being an adult is knowing when to say when. Now wasn't the time, and you were wise and old enough to recognize that. That is a great sign of growth and maturity. Well done. Love and blessings to you.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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