Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

DM2021 · DM2021

We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!

DM2021 · DM2021

This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...

Lyne · Lyne

Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...

Lyne · Lyne

When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...

Lyne · Lyne

It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...

WendyP · WendyP

Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...

DM2021 · DM2021

We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...

texas yankee · texas yankee

One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...

Lyne · Lyne

If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...

msjuliet · msjuliet

Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...

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	New Chaos Episode Yesterday - Just need to talk (Preview) We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...	DM2021	2	338	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	grief but not lost (Preview) I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...	Hoot Nanny	4	291	Jul 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today July 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...	yanksfan51	1	181	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 2 and 9 (Preview) Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...	yanksfan51	2	193	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 30, 2023 – The Meaning of Prayer (Preview) Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...	DM2021	4	243	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Progress not perfection. (Preview) This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!	Lyne	2	288	Jul 1, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for Friday, June 23, 2023 – The Courage of Honesty (Preview) This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...	DM2021	6	245	Jun 28, 2023 by DM2021
	6/27/23 ODAT – Attitude, Respect Lead the Way (Preview) Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...	Enigmatic	3	298	Jun 28, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 6/26, bitterness vs. forgiveness (Preview) Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...	Lyne	2	284	Jun 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...	yanksfan51	1	265	Jun 25, 2023 by DM2021
	Volunteers needed :) (Preview) Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne	Lyne	0	247	Jun 24, 2023 by Lyne
	6/20/23 ODAT - Entirely Ready? (Preview) Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...	Enigmatic	3	340	Jun 20, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 6/19, Always carry a QTip (Preview) When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...	Lyne	2	350	Jun 20, 2023 by Daffodils
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.	tiredtonite	1	328	Jun 19, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...	yanksfan51	1	326	Jun 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 16, 2023 – Detaching With Love (Preview) The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...	DM2021	4	496	Jun 17, 2023 by DM2021
	6/13/23 ODAT Powerlessness Over Others (Preview) One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...	Enigmatic	2	350	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 9, 2023 – What is Humility? (Preview) The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...	DM2021	6	499	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/12, turn black into rosy pink (Preview) The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...	Lyne	1	342	Jun 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...	yanksfan51	2	362	Jun 11, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	6/6/23 C2C – Searching and Fearless or Dismissing and Justifying (Preview) This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...	Enigmatic	2	348	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/5, Finding courage and confidence (Preview) The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...	Lyne	3	356	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 2, 2023 – Trust & Faith (Preview) Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...	DM2021	2	367	Jun 6, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today June 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...	yanksfan51	3	358	Jun 4, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Courage to Change May 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...	Skorpi	4	297	Jun 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	5/30/23 ODAT - MYOB (Preview) Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...	Enigmatic	4	427	May 31, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/29, detachment--easy or hard (Preview) It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...	Lyne	3	369	May 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...	yanksfan51	2	353	May 28, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for Friday, May 26, 2023 – Open Mindedness (Preview) Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...	DM2021	3	446	May 27, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today May 25th. (Preview) Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...	WendyP	3	408	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change May 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...	Skorpi	3	362	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	5/23/23 ODAT – 12 Words that can Change Our Life (Preview) The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...	Enigmatic	3	578	May 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	What to do when they just don't care (Preview) I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...	NewRomantics	7	523	May 23, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/22, Enjoying life? (Preview) This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...	Lyne	1	381	May 21, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today May 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...	yanksfan51	2	370	May 21, 2023 by yanksfan51
	5/9/23 ODAT Can’t See Reality Over a Wall of Bitterness, Self-Pity, Self-Deception (Preview) At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...	Enigmatic	4	431	May 19, 2023 by serenity47
	C2C for Friday, May 19, 2023 – Fitting In As We Are (Preview) This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...	DM2021	1	390	May 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to change May 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...	Skorpi	3	399	May 18, 2023 by Lyne
	5/16/23 ODAT Making Tough Decisions (Preview) Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...	Enigmatic	2	396	May 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/15, Where is your focus? (Preview) This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...	Lyne	2	441	May 15, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today May 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...	yanksfan51	2	376	May 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 12, 2023 – Listening For the Wisdom (Preview) The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...	DM2021	1	396	May 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change May 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...	Skorpi	2	423	May 11, 2023 by Lyne
	ODAt in alanon, Monday, 5/8, Freedom (Preview) This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...	Lyne	3	383	May 9, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...	yanksfan51	1	294	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change May 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...	Skorpi	3	270	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 05, 2023 – The Concept of Humility (Preview) We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...	DM2021	2	361	May 5, 2023 by Daffodils
	Old Al Anon Alateen Service Manuals (2010-2013 (1), 2014-2017 (2)) (Preview) One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.	texas yankee	0	235	May 5, 2023 by texas yankee
	5/2/23 ODAT What is Prayer, How Might it Help? (Preview) This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...	Enigmatic	2	297	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Monday, May 1, C2C, if only.... (Preview) If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...	Lyne	3	302	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...	yanksfan51	2	249	Apr 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for April 28, 2023 Learning From Our Fears (Preview) In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...	DM2021	1	359	Apr 28, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...	Skorpi	2	350	Apr 27, 2023 by Lyne
	4/25/23 ODAT - Remembering Our Powerlessness (Preview) Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...	Enigmatic	4	308	Apr 25, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/24, lacking consistency (Preview) This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...	Lyne	2	421	Apr 24, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...	yanksfan51	4	397	Apr 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for April 21, 2023 Tradition Four the Benefits of Diversity (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...	DM2021	3	443	Apr 21, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change April 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...	Skorpi	4	430	Apr 20, 2023 by Gailsy
	My Stinking Thinking (Preview) Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...	msjuliet	7	1167	Apr 20, 2023 by Enigmatic
	4/18/23 C2C – Me First (Preview) Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...	Enigmatic	4	565	Apr 18, 2023 by DM2021
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