Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please join in and share you experience Here is he link https://stepwo...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hello everyone, Sometimes that's been troubling me for a while in Al-Anon meetings is the chant at the end. Is this normal? I love saying the serenity prayer after meetings, I find that really peaceful and will always have a special place for me. But then after the serenity prayer, in the meetin...

Freetime · Freetime

The ODAT reading for February 8 recalls first coming into Al-Anon and being surprised that the people in the meeting were smiling and cheerful. We think those people must not have problems like ours -- until we find out that they do, and some are facing much worse problems. By listening, we discover w...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So, I guess my X actually did have a come to Jesus moment because come to find out he had 2 incidents at home and then another one in the ER at that point he flat lined. The kids talked to him last Wednesday and basically my oldest made the statement that ok mom, this is the first conversation I have ever had w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about self-care and personal well-being. There are many suggestions on actions to consider - all of which can/will contribute to improving well-being. As we consider and go about our day in recovery, we come to realize that small steps are the beginning of growth, and usual...

gloves808 · gloves808

Hi all! It's been a few weeks since I updated. There have been so many positives changes. I've been seeing a therapist, and we gave our first couples therapy session a try just last night. I learned something vital. You cannot be a true team if you and your partner are not completely open, honest, and com...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/4 discusses the authors feeling that when they are unhappy, they think God is punishing them. The author finds it helpful to call their sponsor, read literature, go to extra meetings, and be around nature. The author then feels the healing touch of HP. Reminder: When fac...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, 2-5-2019 speaks about working to uncover our shortcomings. This difficult task,.the reading suggest has a reward , because as we uncover our defects we also discover our assets which are hidden under these defects. The reading suggests that we appreciate thes...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! With apologies for the lateness: Today's reading in Courage to Change is about a piece of advice that many new members hear when they start the program. Rather than being told to "throw the bum out," today's author was met with the advice to make no major changes or decisions for the first 6...

wp · wp

Mip meeting tonight Wednesday Feb. 6 at 9 p eastern time. Looking forward to Edna's chair service tonight.

Twinkies · Twinkies

As I continue to change and grow, Im beginning to see and feel fear from my AH. I understand. This is all scary for me too. I dont know what the next step will be. Ive been working on myself privately without any discussion with him about it but he knows things are changing. He wont come right out and ask thou...

JerryF · JerryF

I didn't really didn't want to be in and or around Al-Anon and especially AA when tagging behind my alcoholic/addict wife I found myself kinda in and around the rooms. Truthfully I hated it and influence from her sponsor kinda sorta also cause me to appear the good guy so I did a meeting or two without a...

joker · joker

I am nearing a breaking point again. I am feeling so tired, exhausted. I know its my fault for not setting boundaries. The sober man I have been spending time with is becoming a burden to me. I find being with him, a complete drain. He has so many unresolved issues of his past and being disabled as well, is i...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The kids wanted some friends over today. I knew AH would be drinking so I told them they could have them over for a couple of hours but that they couldnt stay the night. When AH found out they werent staying over he asked me why. I started to hem-haw around but he pushed so I was honest with him. I told him I did...

Conflicted · Conflicted

Hi Everyone, I was wondering if anyone could explain what acting "as if", looks like in action/real life? I read this today, Perhaps we feel 12 years old, instead of 42. To consciously behave like a responsible 42-year-old is out of the question. Acting "as if", is the next best thing, the program te...

Conflicted · Conflicted

Curious does AlAnon have any literature approaching this related to within meetings? Are there official guidelines related to cross talk? -- Edited by Conflicted on Friday 18th of January 2019 12:33:56 AM

Conflicted · Conflicted

Hi, Where can answers to these questions be found in our literature? (TIA)What is AlAnon's position on members bringing kids fundraisers for schools, bands, sports, etc..in to meeting rooms before, during and after meetings? What is AlAnon's position on members bringing in home business ite...

Freetime · Freetime

Last night at my home group meeting, we had a newcomer, and this was only her second meeting. She is trying to understand what Al-Anon is all about. She asked a question, "So, is the meaning of this program that we can all become better people?" I thought that was a great way of looking at us. What do you a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a description of acceptance. The writer describes being given a stuffed toy that ultimately does a number on his/her self esteem because the child is told the gift was given because of his/her resemblance to the toy. Over time, and with the help of a sponsor...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I'm going up my work street getting ready to go into left lane and I see these really nice young ladies, stopped in the road and I look and its a gorgeous white husky doggie that they hit.....I stopped and asked if i could help lthem, call someone, just assist...They said they called animal services He wo...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

For the past 6 months my husband has been in and out of detox and sober living. He only lived at home for about a week in October. We have 2 kids (7 and 11). He was a heavy drinker for a long time and I know that recovery will take a long time. Some days are good- he's happy, patient, and positive. Other days he...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the power of humility as we work the steps of recovery. The author shares that after working the program zealously for over a year, there was frustration over continued lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give wanted emotional suppo...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello. MIP, and welcome to February! In today's reading, the author had stopped enabling an alcoholic, and then felt frustrated because the drinking didn't stop. They wondered what they had done wrong. Then they realized that they were still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms. In Al-...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My niece's daughter arrived this morning! I am over the moon! I don't know when I will see her but I am excited!

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP - I haven't written an update in a while, so here goes! My XAH has almost disappeared over the last 6 months - ever since he got his share of the house money he has been on a very quick downward spiral from alcoholism into drug addiction as well. I wrote a while ago discussing my struggle with the deci...

mamalioness · mamalioness

A Brother calls me today and I am driving home from work, so the bluetooth rings and I see its him.....I hit answer and we talk He told me a boat owner fired him "temporary layoff" he said because "I acted out while drinking" so I listen and he goes on to say that its "not my fault..the guys an A*****e!!!! ...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Life Happens. No matter who we are, where we are, how we are, life happens. It's taken me some time to recenter after my son's recent relapse. I am not 'perfect' nor did I desire to be so but I did find peace through this spiritual program. I even made multiple plans this coming week and was really exci...

norasq · norasq

I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

When I was young, so much younger than today, I wore glasses. When I ran with the local street gang, I stopped wearing glasses because it wasn't cool and after all, I was trying to pretend I was someone I wasn't to get people to like me. In my twenties, I started wearing them again, but twenty years later th...

Overcome · Overcome

I'm in the Meeting/Chat room if anyone would like to join me for a meeting. http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Why do we keep coming back? (based on today's reading in Courage to Change) Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Monday 28th of January 2019 09:00:19 PM -- Edited by Overc...

wp · wp

What has become of MIP alanon meetings at 9 weekdays and 7 Sunday? I'm lost. wp

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/28 asks the question, why do we keep coming back? One reason is that the writer doesnt want to underestimate the lasting impact that alcoholism has had on them. They can find themselves feeling things becoming unmanageable again if they do not practice recovery. They al...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

It is so Spring-like her today in SoCAL, I just had to do a little tyding up around the house. In doing so, I FINALLY hung some of the art & wall decor I brought over from my previous life (slightly more than 1 year ago)... things that were important to me at the time, and still speak to me - either with col...

joker · joker

I have been working hard on my recovery with breaks in between so I do not get overwhelmed. I am accessing one on one therapy along with reading on line here and I had a break through. I have been dating two different type of men. One that is sober and does not drink and we get along very well and another that i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading describes different ways to find strength in the program when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, anxious or having difficulty staying in the present. The writer mentions the importance of meetings and phone calls in order to feel the support that is available. ...

Lyne · Lyne

Today my A is in a snit and guess what? I've decided to have a good weekend regardless. The sun is out, I am healthy, nobody has died, and I believe I can cope and have a good attitude. Thank you alanon! Lyne

Hbgchick · Hbgchick

Hi everyone, I'm new here and just I really want to talk about what's happening to me with people who have been there and done that. Well, when you hear the story I don't know that anyone has been exactly here, but at least some of you have maybe at least dealt with some form of this ridiculous situation tha...

TrishaNorth44 · TrishaNorth44

Pretty new here and for the most part I've been a lurker, absorbing everything I can about Alanon. I went to my 1st Alanon meeting five years ago, with pen and notebook in hand, eagerly waiting for all the experienced members to give me a checklist of how to get my son to stop drinking. Needless to say, I wa...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...

Nadinemel · Nadinemel

I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...

loranard · loranard

my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...

MelanieJ · MelanieJ

My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...

JerryF · JerryF

In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

LET IT BEGIN WITH ME ***************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...

Overcome · Overcome

Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM

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	Step 2 has benn posted to the step board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please join in and share you experience Here is he link https://stepwo...	hotrod	5	97	February 10th by PosiesandPuppies
	Keep coming back chant (Preview) Hello everyone, Sometimes that's been troubling me for a while in Al-Anon meetings is the chant at the end. Is this normal? I love saying the serenity prayer after meetings, I find that really peaceful and will always have a special place for me. But then after the serenity prayer, in the meetin...	Lil99	8	124	February 9th by Lil99
	ODAT - 2/8/2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for February 8 recalls first coming into Al-Anon and being surprised that the people in the meeting were smiling and cheerful. We think those people must not have problems like ours -- until we find out that they do, and some are facing much worse problems. By listening, we discover w...	Freetime	5	105	February 8th by El
	Cautiously Hopeful (Preview) So, I guess my X actually did have a come to Jesus moment because come to find out he had 2 incidents at home and then another one in the ER at that point he flat lined. The kids talked to him last Wednesday and basically my oldest made the statement that ok mom, this is the first conversation I have ever had w...	SerenityRUS	6	159	February 8th by 2HP
	Courage to Change 2/7/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about self-care and personal well-being. There are many suggestions on actions to consider - all of which can/will contribute to improving well-being. As we consider and go about our day in recovery, we come to realize that small steps are the beginning of growth, and usual...	Iamhere	6	85	February 8th by PosiesandPuppies
	Growing every day (Preview) Hi all! It's been a few weeks since I updated. There have been so many positives changes. I've been seeing a therapist, and we gave our first couples therapy session a try just last night. I learned something vital. You cannot be a true team if you and your partner are not completely open, honest, and com...	gloves808	4	108	February 7th by Twinkies
	C2C, 2/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/4 discusses the authors feeling that when they are unhappy, they think God is punishing them. The author finds it helpful to call their sponsor, read literature, go to extra meetings, and be around nature. The author then feels the healing touch of HP. Reminder: When fac...	Lyne	4	86	February 6th by mamalioness
	ODAT READING 2-5 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, 2-5-2019 speaks about working to uncover our shortcomings. This difficult task,.the reading suggest has a reward , because as we uncover our defects we also discover our assets which are hidden under these defects. The reading suggests that we appreciate thes...	hotrod	6	82	February 6th by mamalioness
	Courage to Change February 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! With apologies for the lateness: Today's reading in Courage to Change is about a piece of advice that many new members hear when they start the program. Rather than being told to "throw the bum out," today's author was met with the advice to make no major changes or decisions for the first 6...	Skorpi	3	73	February 6th by mamalioness
	Meeting tonight (Preview) Mip meeting tonight Wednesday Feb. 6 at 9 p eastern time. Looking forward to Edna's chair service tonight.	wp	0	50	February 6th by wp
	Sometimes I just don’t know what to say (Preview) As I continue to change and grow, Im beginning to see and feel fear from my AH. I understand. This is all scary for me too. I dont know what the next step will be. Ive been working on myself privately without any discussion with him about it but he knows things are changing. He wont come right out and ask thou...	Twinkies	8	142	February 6th by Twinkies
	Way different than from not wanting to be here. (Preview) I didn't really didn't want to be in and or around Al-Anon and especially AA when tagging behind my alcoholic/addict wife I found myself kinda in and around the rooms. Truthfully I hated it and influence from her sponsor kinda sorta also cause me to appear the good guy so I did a meeting or two without a...	JerryF	8	132	February 6th by Lyne
	Nearing breaking point (Preview) I am nearing a breaking point again. I am feeling so tired, exhausted. I know its my fault for not setting boundaries. The sober man I have been spending time with is becoming a burden to me. I find being with him, a complete drain. He has so many unresolved issues of his past and being disabled as well, is i...	joker	12	180	February 5th by Bo
	Feeling guilty (Preview) The kids wanted some friends over today. I knew AH would be drinking so I told them they could have them over for a couple of hours but that they couldnt stay the night. When AH found out they werent staying over he asked me why. I started to hem-haw around but he pushed so I was honest with him. I told him I did...	Twinkies	6	109	February 5th by milkwood
	Acting "as if" (Preview) Hi Everyone, I was wondering if anyone could explain what acting "as if", looks like in action/real life? I read this today, Perhaps we feel 12 years old, instead of 42. To consciously behave like a responsible 42-year-old is out of the question. Acting "as if", is the next best thing, the program te...	Conflicted	10	139	February 4th by Iamhere
	Cross Talk (Preview) Curious does AlAnon have any literature approaching this related to within meetings? Are there official guidelines related to cross talk? -- Edited by Conflicted on Friday 18th of January 2019 12:33:56 AM	Conflicted	11	183	February 4th by JerryF
	What is AlAnons position? (Preview) Hi, Where can answers to these questions be found in our literature? (TIA)What is AlAnon's position on members bringing kids fundraisers for schools, bands, sports, etc..in to meeting rooms before, during and after meetings? What is AlAnon's position on members bringing in home business ite...	Conflicted	6	185	February 4th by Bo
	Better People (Preview) Last night at my home group meeting, we had a newcomer, and this was only her second meeting. She is trying to understand what Al-Anon is all about. She asked a question, "So, is the meaning of this program that we can all become better people?" I thought that was a great way of looking at us. What do you a...	Freetime	14	202	February 3rd by WendyP
	Hope for Today feb 3 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a description of acceptance. The writer describes being given a stuffed toy that ultimately does a number on his/her self esteem because the child is told the gift was given because of his/her resemblance to the toy. Over time, and with the help of a sponsor...	yanksfan51	6	75	February 3rd by Wolfie55
	NOT alanon, but I'm traumatized (Preview) I'm going up my work street getting ready to go into left lane and I see these really nice young ladies, stopped in the road and I look and its a gorgeous white husky doggie that they hit.....I stopped and asked if i could help lthem, call someone, just assist...They said they called animal services He wo...	mamalioness	6	128	February 3rd by PosiesandPuppies
	Difficulty holding my boundaries (Preview) For the past 6 months my husband has been in and out of detox and sober living. He only lived at home for about a week in October. We have 2 kids (7 and 11). He was a heavy drinker for a long time and I know that recovery will take a long time. Some days are good- he's happy, patient, and positive. Other days he...	JustForMeNow	4	102	February 2nd by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/31/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the power of humility as we work the steps of recovery. The author shares that after working the program zealously for over a year, there was frustration over continued lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give wanted emotional suppo...	Iamhere	3	76	February 1st by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, February 1 (Preview) Hello. MIP, and welcome to February! In today's reading, the author had stopped enabling an alcoholic, and then felt frustrated because the drinking didn't stop. They wondered what they had done wrong. Then they realized that they were still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms. In Al-...	Freetime	6	87	February 1st by mamalioness
	great niece arrives! (Preview) My niece's daughter arrived this morning! I am over the moon! I don't know when I will see her but I am excited!	Hoot Nanny	8	100	February 1st by Hoot Nanny
	How easily I doubt myself (Preview) Hi MIP - I haven't written an update in a while, so here goes! My XAH has almost disappeared over the last 6 months - ever since he got his share of the house money he has been on a very quick downward spiral from alcoholism into drug addiction as well. I wrote a while ago discussing my struggle with the deci...	VickiR	6	130	February 1st by VickiR
	But its not my faaaaauuuuuult!!!!! (Preview) A Brother calls me today and I am driving home from work, so the bluetooth rings and I see its him.....I hit answer and we talk He told me a boat owner fired him "temporary layoff" he said because "I acted out while drinking" so I listen and he goes on to say that its "not my fault..the guys an A*****e!!!! ...	mamalioness	3	107	February 1st by PosiesandPuppies
	Trudging the Road.... (Preview) Life Happens. No matter who we are, where we are, how we are, life happens. It's taken me some time to recenter after my son's recent relapse. I am not 'perfect' nor did I desire to be so but I did find peace through this spiritual program. I even made multiple plans this coming week and was really exci...	Iamhere	22	213	January 31st by Iamhere
	What Ex's Rehab Stint taught me (Preview) I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...	norasq	5	128	January 30th by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 30 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...	Skorpi	2	71	January 30th by Iamhere
	I'm not sure where to begin .. (Preview) First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...	SerenityRUS	9	200	January 30th by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading 1-29 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...	hotrod	4	81	January 30th by Lyne
	Marriage Counseling --can I talk about the alcohol? anyone have experience with marriage counseling? (Preview) So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...	Dancer66	16	245	January 29th by norasq
	Self-Care (Preview) When I was young, so much younger than today, I wore glasses. When I ran with the local street gang, I stopped wearing glasses because it wasn't cool and after all, I was trying to pretend I was someone I wasn't to get people to like me. In my twenties, I started wearing them again, but twenty years later th...	Wolfie55	8	138	January 28th by Overcome
	Evening Meeting starting in mip chat room (Preview) I'm in the Meeting/Chat room if anyone would like to join me for a meeting. http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Why do we keep coming back? (based on today's reading in Courage to Change) Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Monday 28th of January 2019 09:00:19 PM -- Edited by Overc...	Overcome	1	56	January 28th by Overcome
	evening meetings (Preview) What has become of MIP alanon meetings at 9 weekdays and 7 Sunday? I'm lost. wp	wp	1	65	January 28th by Overcome
	C2C, 1/28 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/28 asks the question, why do we keep coming back? One reason is that the writer doesnt want to underestimate the lasting impact that alcoholism has had on them. They can find themselves feeling things becoming unmanageable again if they do not practice recovery. They al...	Lyne	7	94	January 28th by tiredtonite
	An Interesting Observation About Me Today (Preview) It is so Spring-like her today in SoCAL, I just had to do a little tyding up around the house. In doing so, I FINALLY hung some of the art & wall decor I brought over from my previous life (slightly more than 1 year ago)... things that were important to me at the time, and still speak to me - either with col...	PosiesandPuppies	14	160	January 28th by tiredtonite
	Realization about why I am attracted to active alcoholics (Preview) I have been working hard on my recovery with breaks in between so I do not get overwhelmed. I am accessing one on one therapy along with reading on line here and I had a break through. I have been dating two different type of men. One that is sober and does not drink and we get along very well and another that i...	joker	14	230	January 28th by Bo
	Hope for Today Jan 27 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading describes different ways to find strength in the program when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, anxious or having difficulty staying in the present. The writer mentions the importance of meetings and phone calls in order to feel the support that is available. ...	yanksfan51	5	77	January 27th by El
	Using my tools (Preview) Today my A is in a snit and guess what? I've decided to have a good weekend regardless. The sun is out, I am healthy, nobody has died, and I believe I can cope and have a good attitude. Thank you alanon! Lyne	Lyne	7	88	January 27th by tiredtonite
	Need to talk/vent about AW and major issues! (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new here and just I really want to talk about what's happening to me with people who have been there and done that. Well, when you hear the story I don't know that anyone has been exactly here, but at least some of you have maybe at least dealt with some form of this ridiculous situation tha...	Hbgchick	13	199	January 26th by Hbgchick
	Do I want Relief or Recovery? (Preview) Pretty new here and for the most part I've been a lurker, absorbing everything I can about Alanon. I went to my 1st Alanon meeting five years ago, with pen and notebook in hand, eagerly waiting for all the experienced members to give me a checklist of how to get my son to stop drinking. Needless to say, I wa...	TrishaNorth44	6	134	January 25th by Lyne
	ODAT - January 25 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...	Freetime	4	74	January 25th by PosiesandPuppies
	Today's Share: January 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...	Skorpi	7	114	January 25th by mamalioness
	Game ideas for a conference (Preview) I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?	Nadinemel	2	96	January 25th by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/24/19 (Preview) Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...	Iamhere	6	86	January 24th by mamalioness
	someone help (Preview) my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...	loranard	22	334	January 24th by Hbgchick
	Relapse after 120 days (Preview) My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...	MelanieJ	12	196	January 24th by Maresie
	Sitting with an old unpleasant feeling (Preview) I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...	Faintly Falling	4	132	January 24th by Maresie
	Well I never.... (Preview) In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...	JerryF	5	89	January 23rd by Twinkies
	ODAT Reading 1-22-2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...	hotrod	5	105	January 22nd by mamalioness
	Little moments can have a big impact (Preview) The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...	Twinkies	6	139	January 22nd by 2HP
	Hope for Today Jan 20 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...	yanksfan51	6	111	January 21st by mamalioness
	C2C, 1/21 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...	Lyne	6	90	January 21st by mamalioness
	My slogan for today (Preview) LET IT BEGIN WITH ME *************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...**	mamalioness	7	102	January 21st by Temple
	A look at the Serenity Prayer (Preview) We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...	mamalioness	5	109	January 21st by PosiesandPuppies
	Can you simply stop talking about it? (Preview) Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...	Twinkies	7	220	January 21st by Twinkies
	Why does it hurt so much? (Preview) Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...	Twinkies	11	201	January 21st by Twinkies
	Men in Al-Anon (Preview) I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...	canadianguy	6	170	January 20th by DavidG
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM	Overcome	1	67	January 19th by Loser1963
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