Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

newnoz · newnoz

It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.

DM2021 · DM2021

Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the different kinds of loss, and their impact. Types of loss include divorce, incarcerations, illness, death, emotional change, among others. When the author lost the person they loved most, they grieved and in their grief, pushed everyon...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This member likened the balance and vitality felt when living Alanon's Live and Let Live principle to flying downhill on a bicycle. Embracing all that comes their way, good and bad, was fueled by a meeting discussion proposing thanking god when encountering problems. Difficult at first, this enc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Grief is so tough Got a lot of help Back on track Working the program One day at a time Thanks to all who care Kathleen

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...

El · El

Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.

Lyne · Lyne

The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...

DM2021 · DM2021

Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...

Lyne · Lyne

My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...

Lyne · Lyne

The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...

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	Happy almost New Year, my beautiful AFG fellows (Preview) It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...	newnoz	2	77	December 31st by Lyne
	Getting ready for the New Year. (Preview) Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...	WendyP	3	88	December 29th by tiredtonite
	12/27/22 C2C One Man’s Trash… (Preview) This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...	Enigmatic	3	119	December 27th by tiredtonite
	Seasons greetings (Preview) Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...	Wolfie55	5	126	December 27th by Enigmatic
	So lonely & sad (Preview) Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...	Hoot Nanny	8	138	December 27th by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, 12/26, resigning from the doormat club (Preview) The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...	Lyne	1	74	December 26th by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...	yanksfan51	3	80	December 25th by Daffodils
	christmas Day (Preview) Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.	WendyP	11	118	December 25th by Daffodils
	C2C – December 23, 2022 (Preview) Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...	DM2021	4	114	December 24th by DM2021
	12/20/22 C2C Love to All (Preview) Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...	Enigmatic	6	114	December 22nd by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...	Skorpi	3	95	December 22nd by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...	yanksfan51	2	129	December 20th by DM2021
	C2C – December 16, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...	DM2021	7	115	December 20th by Fedora
	C2C, Monday, December 19, alcoholism is a three-fold disease (Preview) The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...	Lyne	2	102	December 19th by Daffodils
	11/29/22 ODAT – Control…It Will Work This Time! (Preview) Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...	Enigmatic	7	158	December 19th by DM2021
	Getting better & better (Preview) I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...	Hoot Nanny	5	122	December 18th by Daffodils
	It's Your Special Day Daffodils (Preview) Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!	tiredtonite	3	132	December 18th by Daffodils
	Courage to Change December 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the different kinds of loss, and their impact. Types of loss include divorce, incarcerations, illness, death, emotional change, among others. When the author lost the person they loved most, they grieved and in their grief, pushed everyon...	Skorpi	4	103	December 16th by tiredtonite
	12/13/22 C2C Like Riding a Bike (Preview) This member likened the balance and vitality felt when living Alanon's Live and Let Live principle to flying downhill on a bicycle. Embracing all that comes their way, good and bad, was fueled by a meeting discussion proposing thanking god when encountering problems. Difficult at first, this enc...	Enigmatic	4	105	December 15th by Taraxacum1
	Was in a psychiatric hospital (Preview) Grief is so tough Got a lot of help Back on track Working the program One day at a time Thanks to all who care Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	5	130	December 13th by tiredtonite
	Missing Betty (Preview) hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...	MeTwo2	7	142	December 13th by Hoot Nanny
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 12/12, blaming others (Preview) The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...	Lyne	2	102	December 13th by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Dec 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...	yanksfan51	2	101	December 11th by Daffodils
	C2C – December 09, 2022 (Preview) The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...	DM2021	3	147	December 9th by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...	Skorpi	3	121	December 8th by Lyne
	On Reflection. (Preview) Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...	WendyP	3	153	December 7th by Daffodils
	12/6/22 C2C Taming the Pendulum (Preview) This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...	Enigmatic	3	126	December 6th by Daffodils
	Bread in a hardware store (Preview) Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...	El	6	204	December 6th by Taraxacum1
	My husband passed away (Preview) Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.	Hoot Nanny	10	199	December 6th by Taraxacum1
	C2C, Monday, 12/5, fantasy vs. reality (Preview) The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...	Lyne	3	115	December 6th by Taraxacum1
	C2C – December 02, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...	DM2021	13	195	December 5th by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...	yanksfan51	3	132	December 4th by PosiesandPuppies
	hey. sorry (Preview) Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...	Youknowme	3	138	December 3rd by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...	Skorpi	3	133	December 1st by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 11/28, upside-down personality (Preview) This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...	Lyne	1	148	November 28th by DM2021
	Hope for Today Nov 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...	yanksfan51	2	148	November 27th by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – November 25, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...	DM2021	2	213	November 25th by Daffodils
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	4	148	November 25th by Enigmatic
	11/22/22 C2C Turn Over Life/Will to Anything but Me (Preview) Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...	Enigmatic	4	173	November 22nd by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 11/21, shouldn't I be all better? (Preview) The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...	Lyne	4	168	November 22nd by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...	yanksfan51	3	175	November 20th by Enigmatic
	C2C – November 18, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...	DM2021	3	156	November 20th by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change Nov. 16 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...	Skorpi	2	160	November 16th by Daffodils
	11/15/22 C2C Sticks and Stones… (Preview) Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...	Enigmatic	2	161	November 15th by Lyne
	Hope or Today Nov 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...	yanksfan51	6	187	November 15th by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 11/14, prayer and gratitude (Preview) The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...	Lyne	3	179	November 14th by tiredtonite
	C2C – November 11, 2022 (So Sorry I Am Late Today!!) (Preview) The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...	DM2021	1	171	November 12th by Lyne
	A has a purple face (Preview) My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...	Lyne	2	225	November 11th by pinkchip
	I am a survivor! (Preview) Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su	Hoot Nanny	3	194	November 11th by DM2021
	11/8/22 C2C – What is the Why for the What (Preview) This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...	Enigmatic	3	257	November 8th by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 11/7, family disease (Preview) The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...	Lyne	1	184	November 7th by DM2021
	Hope for Today November 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...	yanksfan51	2	197	November 6th by tiredtonite
	C2C – November 04, 2022 (Preview) Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	5	302	November 4th by DM2021
	c2c November 3rd I'll share by listening today (Preview) Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....	Youknowme	2	236	November 4th by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...	Skorpi	2	212	November 3rd by DM2021
	11/1/22 ODAT Less Me, More Program = Better Help (Preview) Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...	Enigmatic	3	195	November 1st by tiredtonite
	C2C, Monday, 10/31, moving through fear (Preview) The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...	Lyne	2	214	October 31st by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Oct 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...	yanksfan51	2	218	October 30th by PosiesandPuppies
	expectations & fear of tomorrow (Preview) I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...	Hoot Nanny	4	260	October 29th by tiredtonite
	10/25/22 C2C Own, Acknowledge, Change (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...	Enigmatic	3	236	October 29th by Youknowme
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