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Courage to Change May 11
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that since we spend the most time with ourselves and our own company, taking the time to develop a relationship with ourselves is valuable. They share a bit about inner emptiness, and how another person cannot keep us from feeling lonely, but that our...
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C2C , Monday, 5/9, can you love yourself?
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The writer was taken aback when they received a compliment. They felt discomfort, and couldn't imagine there might be something nice about themself. The writer realized how feelings of self-worth had sunken while living with an alcoholic, and the sponsor began to work on this. The writer was ab...
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Hope for Today May 8
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on being aware of the present moment, and the use of the slogans to help us do that. The writer describes a meeting in which he/she shared how the life plan changed over time in recovery. Early on, it was truly a life plan with a focus on the future. It was a...
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Stopping back in to say hi and share my good news - I've got a house!
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Hi there. It has been awhile since I've been here but I wanted to be sure to stop in and say HELLO and share my life update. I've got a new house - the sellers just accepted my offer and in a month I'll be moving out of this little apartment to my own digs. I'm coming up on the 1st anniversary of my divorce fina...
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Can I use a page in the Forum for a meeting?
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I just was reading the new May bulletin and it states here, and maybe it's me being confused? It says "DID YOU KNOW: Only small excerpts of CAL may be used at meetings, with permission of the WSO? Can get get a explanation of this as i have been in Alanon since 1992 and never knew i needed "permission" and on...
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Grateful
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Just reviewing old posts and re-witnessing so much ESH, kindness and love. I cannot believe how lucky I was to find all of you. I have learned so much over the years, felt such support in moments of need and amassed such strength and the ability to live healthy because of the program and you. I am having a p...
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c2c5/5 Humility
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Today's c2c is about humility, and the first step towards humility being the acceptance of powerlessness. In learning to accept powerlessness we discover what is, and isn't our responsibility and the reading further invites us to show kindness towards ourselves that we would normally do for anot...
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Courage to Change 5/4
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, through working the Al-Anon program and the 12 steps, they discovered who they are. Due to living with the disease of alcoholism, the author realized that they had stopped paying attention to who they were, their likes, their dislikes, their o...
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5/3/22 C2C - Letting Others Carry a Cat by the Tail
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Today's page considers detachment, a powerful Alanon concept that may be mistaken as harsh at first glance. Properly executed, it is a loving practice that keeps us out of others' business to allow them the opportunity to be themselves and learn the lessons they are ready to. Mark Twain suggested t...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/2, what is prayer?
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The writer says that prayer has importance, and that we may think a prayer many times a day i.e. help me not brood over this injury. Prayer is simply reaching out to make contact with a power that is greater than ourselves. It reminds us that we are powerless over many things, especially in efforts to f...
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Hope for Today May 1
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning that recovery in alanon is not about the qualifiers in our lives. Instead, the focus is on us. The writer describes enabling her husband, trying to control him, restrict his drinking, ultimately feeling only resentment and disgust toward hi...
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Courage to Change April 27
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Hello MIP! In today's reading the author shares that their self-esteem grows when they love and accept themselves as they are. When self-worth is based on accomplishments or the opinions of others, the author thinks they block their own well-being. It is impossible to make everyone happy, and it...
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New to al anon
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Hello, I am completely new to al anon. Im not sure where to start. My husband is an alcoholic and thats why Im interested in al anon. I am planning on joining a meeting the next time one is available. Any information would be helpful. Thanks!
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C2C April 28th- Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
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Today's C2C speaks about the wonderful discovery that many of our perceived defects turn out to be our greatest strengths, or, our best opportunities for growth. It suggests that rather than simply wishing away our defects, we can instead examine them for growth opportunities or hidden strengths...
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4/26/22 C2C - Custom Recovery, Use What you Like
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While still new, perhaps our first visit or exposure to Alanon, we hear 'take what you like, leave the rest'. Alanon offers suggestions, does not enforce requirements. This allows many who would not otherwise accept certain aspects of the program to continue on, choosing a unique basket of recove...
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Hope for Today, Monday, 4/25, moving forward
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The writer discusses that introspection and meditation are healing tools, but combined with courageous action, we are led to improved recovery. It is important to observe our actions, character, motives, and reactions. Our awareness allows us to see patterns that hold us back from becoming t...
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Hope for Today Apr 24
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step 11: sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out The writer describes experiencing a lack of consistency throu...
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Courage to Change April 20
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In today's reading, the author reflects on an important Al-Anon lesson - it is safe to be myself. In the past, the author would have hidden certain secrets at all costs, but today, they know that they can share those secrets with trusted Al-Anon friends. By sharing honestly with people the author can...
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4/19/22 ODAT - We Can Learn Alanon Principles from Anyone
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This page may seem dated to some, as it shares the concern that may arise when the other Alanon members of the group are different, perhaps of different gender. How can those different from me know what I'm going through, be of help? It turns out that working the Steps and principles of Alanon and the exp...
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C2C, Monday, 4/18, we get back what we give
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The writer shares they spent a lot of time yearning for things they weren't getting from the alcoholic. They made a list: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication--they had been let down many times. Their sponsor's suggestion was to give what they wanted to receive, and become w...
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Easter Greetings
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Hi to all on the MIP Board, I want to wish all of you a very safe Serene, and Happy Easter. Love, from WendyP, from the Land Down Under.
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Hope for Today Apr 17
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at tradition twelve and placing principles above personalities. The writer describes having a strained relationship with his/her parents. The writer had expectations that were consistently unfulfilled: trying to be noticed, listened to, appre...
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C2C April 14th- Reframing our thinking
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Today's reading is all about catching ourselves when we are in negative thought patterns and "replacing them with positive thoughts". By adjusting the tape we have playing in our heads, we can transform our attitude and difficulties can become far more manageable or even, sometimes, enjoyable. I...
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Magic of the Program
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Al-Anon has been working really well for me for years, but recently, I've had the opportunity to make use of the tools in a new way. I've been fostering kids for almost a year now, and I'm on my third placement. This time, a sibling group of 2. I've had nearly constant opportunity to use the Al-Anon tool...
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4/12/22 C2C Grant me patience, Lord…and hurry!
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Wanting a quick resolution makes sense, who wants extended unpleasantness? Impatience, however, does not bring better results, actually makes things worse as we take more aggressive steps to bring about the outcome we think is best. When these don't work out, and even when they do, we find a way t...
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Hope for Today Apr 10
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our own participation is what contributes to the motion of recovery. The feeling of miracles happening in the program comes from our willingness to work at recovery, not from a magical source. The writer describes beginning service work in ala...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 4/11, self-defeating attitudes
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Monday's reading looks at why newcomers in program seem more eager to know why the alcoholic drinks, than why they allow another's compulsive drinking to affect them so destructively. We need to accept that the alcoholic has an illness, and it's possible the family can help. But primarily we must...
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Courage to Change 4/6
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how alcoholism has certain symptoms, such as mood changes and blackouts. As a person living with the disease of alcoholism, the author finds it useful to acknowledge that they, too, have symptoms similar to the disease of alcoholism, includin...
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c2c April 7th- Humour under pressure.
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Today's reading speaks of the writer's fears when first attending al-anon, expecting a formal affair but instead arrived to a chaotic meeting where they realised a sense of humour and a carry-on attitude was far more valuable than doing things perfectly. The takeaway is that rather than feeling da...
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4/5/22 ODAT - Do I Truly Want Recovery? Am I Willing to do what it Takes?
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Today's page addresses an important reality: that what we tell others and ourselves about the reasons for what we do and why ('I want to help others'), even what we may believe it to be, is quite possibly not accurate. Working the 12 Steps allows us to cut through the excuses and desperation to uncover...
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C2C, Monday, 4/4, changing up the routine
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The writer shares about waking up each morning feeling frantic, having a long list of crises that needed attention, always feeling behind, and sometimes not wanting to get up at all. Such was life living with an alcoholic, prior to program. But with alanon, life can change. They heard that when you o...
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Hope for Today Apr 3
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how there are times we may use busyness (obsessive activity) as a way to self medicate and isolate, in the same way that alcoholics use the buzz of alcohol. The writer describes not necessarily being a workaholic, but at times a learn-aholic and achieve...
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C2C March 31st Go Fly a Kite
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Sorry to post late this week folks. Early last week, late this week- get with the program, Mel! The reading for the 31st discusses how many of us have developed immature cooping mechanisms when living with or perhaps growing up with alcoholism, and that when we arrive at al-anon we often start to grow u...
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Courage to Change March 30
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Hello MIP! In today's share, the author reflects on their early thoughts about Al-Anon. In Al-Anon, we keep the focus on ourselves. The author was concerned about what people would think of them if they acted on that principle. They didn't want to be seen as inconsiderate, thoughtless, or uncaring...
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Bonus Reading: 3/29/22 ODAT - Turn on the Light, Take the Car, Learn from Alanon
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This page observes that some have turned away from a god concept in favor of taking full ownership of life decisions and results, perhaps feeling they can't do worse, and likely will do better. The writer compares this to walking into a room without turning on the light: is the stumble that likely fol...
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Hope For today Maardh 29th.
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with the Hope For Today's reading the person shared about the Struggle of Letting Go, especially when the Alcoholic in their life had left the Home. Of how they let go of their Al-Anon program, also of their mental, physical and spiritual health. Also that the part that still held onto resentment, tow...
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Hope for Today, Monday, 3/28, feeling safe
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The writer states that feeling safe was impossible in the family of origin. Upon coming home the mom would often be passed out on the couch, the dad would come home drunk, he would wake her up and start fighting. The writer took care of the house and younger siblings. They were often afraid that somet...
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Hope for Today Mar 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on compassion and how patience is a necessary part of that. The writer describes choosing compassion toward self and others once patience has been tested to the limits. There are certain people in our lives that require more effort in compassion. ...
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Courage to Change March 23
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Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares how helpful alanon has been in dealing with past disappointments. Dashed hopes, broken dreams, and past hurts have emotions that go with them, and these emotions can surface over time. When these feelings become part of our awareness, treating our...
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It's not easy...
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I just need to vent a little. It's not easy living with an active alcoholic (my choice to stay). For every action I receive, thanks to alanon, I have an arsenal of reactions: -reality changes, I have no expectations -unstable moods, I detach -unprovoked anger, bless them, change me -broken promise...
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C2C March 24th
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I'm getting in a little early with the reading this week (it's probably still Wednesday for many of you) as I have the dreaded virus and after I post this I am going to sleep for an as-yet undetermined amount of time. My goal is to sleep until I am well again, lol. Today's reading talks of reaching acceptan...
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Courage to change March 16
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Hello mip! In today's reading, the author reflects on progress. Progress can be hard to recognize, especially if we are comparing ourselves to some idealized person, or if our standards are unrealistically high. We can be disappointed. However, comparing our present circumstances to our past c...
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3/22/22 Worry… Unreal Gateway to Real Unhappiness
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Our author discusses the persistent habit of worry: it gathers inspiration from past events to fuel anxiety over the horrific events we become certain will occur in the future. Fortunately we are able to draw a powerful tool from Alcoholics Anonymous to help us: living One Day at a Time. If we choose...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 3/21, alanon, the last resort
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This reading reflects upon people arriving at alanon from despair and unhappiness, and feeling like there are no choices left. Although the newcomer often finds relief from talking it all out, members encourage newcomers to do less and less unburdening. There is work to do, new things to be learn...
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Hope for Today March 20
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to detach with love. It is about accepting other people and situations for who and what they are, rather than hanging expectations (and disappointments) on them. The writer describes one of her familys coping methods with alcoholism: tre...
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Comparing
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Hi MIP, I woke up early this morning and of course once I am awake, my brain clicks in and I start to think, not always good at that early time. I was looking at what was happening in my life at the moment. Because of Covid here where I live, it has become rampant within the Schools, and because my Daughter, wh...
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c2c March 17th- this too shall pass.
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Today's c2c reminds us that no matter what we are experiencing, it will eventually pass. We don't always have control over what we experience, and we sometimes have to be patient, but in the midst of all of that, we experience valuable emotions and growth, even if they are painful, frustrating or dist...
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On a lighter note!!
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I do wish we did not have to continually change the clocks twice a year!! I still have to do my car, which takes a manual to do!! {{HUGS}}
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3/15/22 C2C – Forgiveness: Ours to Give?
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Today's contributor once considered forgiveness as a visible sign of their moral superiority, to bestowed as a form of power rather than a true moving forward from an event. As they learned they have neither the right nor wisdom to judge the behavior of others, it became clear that forgiveness was mo...
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C2C, Monday, 3/14, 3 C's
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The writer says that alcoholics drink because they are people that drink--it's not because of you or me. We cannot change this with guilt, shouting, begging, distracting, hiding money, bottles, or keys, lying, threatening, or reasoning. We didn't cause it, we cannot control it, and we sure as hec...
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Hope for Today - March 11 - Self Care
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Today's author learned in Al-Anon about self-care: how to take care of self physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They also added financial responsibility, and took to heart the 7th Tradition: self-supporting, living within their means. They learned to save for their future needs, witho...
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Hope for Today Mar 13
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how despite our best efforts, we may be repeating habits and behaviors instilled in us during childhood. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and learning to deal with life in unhealthy ways. Specifically the writer did not know how...
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c2c 10th March Fear
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Today's C2C speaks of fear, and of how where once fear might have prevented us from participating fully in our own lives, al-anon gives us tools to accept fear and work with it. Instead of being paralysed and imagining terrible outcomes we can take inventory to ensure we are putting our best selves for...
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Courage to Change March 9
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In today's reading, the author shares about the struggle to separate their will from their HP's will. Sometimes, a desperate urge to act can be an indication that it is the authors will, while a calm certainty indicates their HP's will. When there isn't a clear indication, the author can wait, seek th...
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3/8/22 ODAT – Breaking Free From Our Own Mind
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Today's page describes a place filled with discouragement, tormented and circular thoughts, apprehension and confusion. This is the place inside our head that some lived in before finding the miracle of AlAnon. Reminder: Every meeting we attend, page we read, and fellow member we share with take...
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C2C, Monday, 3/7, making changes
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The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely express...
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Hope for Today Mar 6
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in all of us coming together to share experience, strength and hope. The writer describes each: Experience- when we share our individual stories with one another, we are also sharing that no one is alone in this. Living in alcoholism can be...
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C2C march 3rd- maturity.
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Today's C2C speaks of maturity. The writer recognises that when they first began their journey, their behaviour was very immature. It suggests that in taking inventory and considering what maturity looks like for us an an individual, we can work out our goals and how we can use al-anon to achieve the...
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Learned Behaviour
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Hi to MIP, recently I have been reading the sharings on the board, also in Hope For Today, it was talking about a lot of issues, like learned behaviour, responsibility, care taking. So I decided to put them all together and share of how I feel about all of them. How did I become a Caretaker, being so respon...
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March 4 - C2C - THINK
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Today's writer in Courage to Change was puzzled by the slogan THINK -- because it was their own thinking that had been causing their problems. Then they realized it was like the safety rule "Stop Look, and Listen." Instead of lashing out when someone is unkind to them, they can pause, THINK and then mak...
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