Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mistercrowley · mistercrowley

My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...

texas yankee · texas yankee

. . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading mentions the 8th Tradition, stating that alanon should always be nonprofessional. It goes on to say that we help one another recover by sharing our experience, strength, and hope. Who better knows the devastating impact of alcoholism? And we can help those who really want help, ins...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's C2C reading asks Al-anon members to take an honest assessment of their recovery. The person in the reading refers back to their 4th step inventory. Although they feel they still have things they would like to work on, they realize their progress as well. They come to understand that to hold th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading speaks about prior to program people may hide in shame from their flaws or beat themselves up. We are reminded to let go of our impatience, self-criticism, and self-hatred. We can ask our Higher Power for help, and accept that making mistakes is a part of life. Therefore we will always b...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about the value of Al-anon tools for finding solutions. In this reading, an Al-anon member attends an Al-anon meeting where members are asked to draw an Al-anon slogan from a basket that is passed and apply that slogan to their day. The next day the member is faced with a problem that...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer of this reading felt confused about the slogan "Think" until they heard a child recite stop, look, and, listen, as a safety rule. Think is similar to stop, look, and listen, as it gives us time to look at what's going on, and possibly see our role in it. We have time for spiritual guidance, an...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading points out that we all make mistakes, but we can grow in self-awareness and learn from our mistakes. When mistakes happen we can make amends for any harm we've done, and we can try not to repeat them again. These experiences can help us create a better future. The reading goes on to say th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading made good sense to me. My behavior paralleled the alcoholic, without the alcohol--insane but sober. I blamed others, I took everything personally, and my reactions were based on fears. As time went on, I could see my reactions were less extreme. Some things that used to bother me d...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Courage to Change topic is Faith. The reading begins with a reminder that my vision be limited by only the outcomes that I can imagine. It suggests that when one places faith in their Higher Power the possibilities are limitless. This takes practice when fear looms large but the reading sugge...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that detachment is often easier with casual friends, than with people we are emotionally involved with. It can be difficult not to take on the negative frame of mind of family and loved ones. It is suggested we have a choice not to take on other people's moods and attitudes. Detachm...

bigwals · bigwals

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tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading uses the example of trying to control the drinking of an alcoholic. The person in this reading made many attempts but all were unsuccessful. They continued to try and expected a different result. Unable to admit their powerlessness over the progression of another's alcoholism, th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us to not only face our shortcomings, but to see our good qualities as well. They are reality just as much as the faults. We should appreciate our constructive qualities to help us accept ourself as a friend, and to eliminate the roadblocks to serenity. THE REMINDER says that i...

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Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares how to tell if we are trying to control someone, or if we are sincerely expressing ourselves. They say if we are repeatedly saying the same things, and cannot let it go if we don't get the response we want, then we are probably trying to control and have lost our focus. It's important t...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading shares about the value of the Al-anon program as a path for a better way of living. The person in this reading came to Al-anon as many do to find possible ways to stop another from drinking. Continued attendance resulted in a spiritual awakening. If they kept coming back and worked the A...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares an experience about learning detachment with love. Her husband fell out of bed often. When she first heard the idea of detachment, she stopped helping him back in bed. But as she learned about detachment with love, from that point on she still left him on the floor, but covered him...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading reminds us to keep to our own side of the street. It mentions a newcomer who felt helping their alcoholic was the right thing to do. Al-anon suggests we focus on our own needs and allow others to the freedom to make their own choices. The newcomer felt the Al-anon suggestion to allow the a...

Lyne · Lyne

This page reminds us about the importance of staying in the here and now. Worry about the future can give us depression, distraction, and fear. Does worrying in advance help, or will it be easier to face? Does it protect us? The answer to all of these questions is NO! It merely robs us of today: ODA...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading shows an example of Al-Anon's slogan Live and Let Live in action. As I often do when posting a daily, I searched the index for the associated Al-Anon topic. I was surprised by how many topics I felt fit well for this page. The reading mentions a desire for others to fulfill our needs rathe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses acceptance of the acknowledgement that we cannot have control over others--that we are truly powerless. The writer realized that the alcoholic must have their own HP, and it is up to them to work out their future. Letting go and letting God allows us to feel like a new person....

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about Al-anon's 3 Cs in relation to alcoholism. I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. The person in this reading reflects on their past actions during their growing up in a home with alcoholism and wonders if their less than perfect behavior - fights with their sibl...

Lyne · Lyne

I love the slogan, Progress not Perfection. My FOO was so damaging that I just felt like a complete failure and idiot in every way. Moving into adulthood I just thought I could never be adequate, even though I was successful in my career. This program has taught me to see what I can do right, and to look...

Lyne · Lyne

Since we are still here, I'm going to share. I'm having a full dose of being powerless. One of my brother's has terminal cancer, and besides for being a supportive sister, there is nothing I can do to change his cancer status. I pray, I've given him two healing stones, we send organic fruit, etc. But...

Tortuga_new · Tortuga_new

hello MIP family, I just checked, I have been on here last time in 2014....wow, what a journey it has been. Gratitude all the way for MIP and Al Anon, as it saved my life many times, and made me walk in the good direction. Life has been good...mostly, as I carry the lessons on a daily basis and keep sharing, j...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Bernie here. It's been a busy day and its not over yet. I'm picking up a 26 year sobriety medallion from my home group tonight and whenever I get one of those I remember the love and support that al-anon has shown me over the years. Thank you.

Lyne · Lyne

For anyone still checking in, I'm wishing you peace, happiness, and health in the new year, one day at a time. Lyne

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

Long story short got into a relationship with a woman this year who had not only major addiction issues but many other mental health issues. It has been truly toxic and after a year of enabling her behavior in many ways (buying alcohol, being her personal taxi when she called, paying for moving costs, e...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

My mother and father are my qualifiers. My mother is gravely ill. She's not drinking now because she's in a semi coma and bed bound. Her drinking had gotten pretty bad. She would drink from 5pm until 2 or 3am. At the beginning of September she went to the ER because she had the flu and wasn't getting bett...

Loudnlost · Loudnlost

I dated an alcoholic on and off for three years. Three months in he told me he was an alcoholic, I went into denial. My father was an alcoholic, I had aca recovery yet still I struggled to break free. He broke up with me suddenly, I was confused , a week later he wanted to try again. So we did. And so the dance be...

tryingtounderstand · tryingtounderstand

Hello, I did not grow up with an alcoholic. My husband of one year is an alcoholic and its taken me some time to fully understand and accept this. I have known for some time that my words, my emotions, my stress and pain due to his drinking - although real and valid - are not helping him and are making me feel...

Lyne · Lyne

In case anyone is checking in, wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Lyne :)

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Greetings, all. I haven't been here for a bit. I got distracted. I was at a virtual meeting last night in Hawaii, another 12 step fellowship, and they had asked me to close the meeting with a reading and with a prayer of my choice. I did the AA third step prayer. This morning, I remembered that I hadn't been...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Somewhere at this site, is a story posted Feb 25, 2012. That was a few days ago. Anyway, it's the story of how Nancy (my wife) and I got together. It was printed in the AA Grapevine in May of 2010 and was also included in a grapevine book entitled Forming True Partnerships. So, we all know about the pandemic...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

On the topic of fear, today's author admits that was the primary emotion driving many decisions. When anything happened to alter an expected outcome, fears of the worst possible outcomes spurred panic, resulting in a crazy flurry of actions intended to ward off various imagined disasters. The aut...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer used to hear people say they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic, because they were grateful to have found alanon. You can learn many things in alanon, like gratitude and forgiveness are needed for peace of mind. A tiny step can be a great step in seeing life with increasing joy....

Lyne · Lyne

Good evening to all. I have been in contact recently with two members of MIP. It has been shared that MIP will be disappearing sometime in the near future due to financial issues. I don't know whether this will be tomorrow or the end of the year. As you can see, most of the people doing the daily shares...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place. If a protective layer of bark is removed too earl...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer recalled white knuckling the car armrest while riding a twisty, hilly road as a youngster. Such effort had no effect on the course the car took, much as many efforts and exertions in adult life upon events outside our control. Alanon can help, however, especially noticeable when we can't...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer thought the nightmare was over when the alcoholic got sober, but what a surprise! Many problems were still present, and old behaviors were occurring. With alanon's teachings, the writer knew that there was no need to accept what is unacceptable, nor does one have to argue back. There a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Greetings fellow MIPers, visitors, and casual wanderers

As Lyne noted below, and others have mentioned and discussed over the past few weeks and months, there is some uncertainty about the future of MIP. That quite possibly has led to a migration of readers and contributors before the actual e...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges the value of the spiritual learning that builds when one studies the 12 Steps one at a time, in order. Special consideration is given to Step 11, however, regarding prayer and meditation. That is an activity that can be worked at any time and brings great benefits at any t...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says we may be powerless over circumstances, but we are not helpless. In the midst of problems or stress, we are reminded to nurture our mind, body, or spirit. Alanon is a program of action, and we always have choices. If we treat ourselves with love and tenderness, we can better cope wi...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer had trouble admitting being powerless, and did not want to "surrender." The writer saw this as admitting defeat, and having failed over alcoholism. Gratitude finally sunk in--it did not mean submission! Instead, it meant not fighting reality, not trying to do God's will, and doing on...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading suggests dispelling negativity by focusing attention on gratitude for what you have. Some tools for changing a negative attitude to a positive on suggested in this reading are attending an Al-Anon meeting or contacting another Al-Anon member to share. Such interchanges can resu...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading is about an alanon member who was not happy with her meeting and left. She had learned that everybody in the meeting, and everyone in the fellowship, is equal. However one member tended to manage everyone and everything. This member became uncomfortable and decided to try a new group...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Struggling to define compassion, today's writer knew it was not the ugly behavior that had been showing their loved one at times: yelling, name calling, revenge seeking, throwing things.Compassion does not mean accepting abusive behavior from the alcoholic, but it certainly does not mean handi...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading uses the example of decision making at an Al-anon business meeting to demonstrate the process of letting go. During the business meeting, the Al-anon member suggests using the entire Serenity Prayer in the group's Al-anon meetings. Another member contributed their a suggestion...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page is a powerful lesson on perspective as the writer finds value in feelings they once saw as defects: anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear. With applied effort, these feelings were used to make positive changes in their life. Reminder - feelings may be uncomfortable at times, but tha...

Lyne · Lyne

It may be hard to imagine we can ever experience personal freedom. We may be enmeshed in a troubled family situation, and are also intertwined with others. However, alanon helps us develop our own personalities, which reinforces personal freedom by leaving others alone to control their lives....

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading discusses how living with the disease of alcoholism led the person to become a fearful person dreading change. They preferred familiar chaos rather than change because they felt some control over what was familiar. The reading states that this sense of control is an illusion and th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer reminds that alcoholism is but one of the possible challenges of maintaining a marriage. The presence of alcoholism, therefore, should not be used as an excuse to give up on our efforts to control and improve on our own faults and shortcomings in the relationship. "...in sickness an...

Lyne · Lyne

When we are troubled about what lies ahead, we can look back to see where we've been. When we grow frustrated about the changes we want, we can see that we are dealing with things because we have gained awareness. Time offers evidence that alanon works--we can see the growth in our life. This gives us...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading reminds us of the feelings of disappointment that can accompany living with alcoholism. The person in the reading expresses that their excitement and hopes were often dashed by their expectations of their alcoholic. Eventually, their feelings were numbed, feelings of hopeless...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page focuses our responsibility to help others by narrowing it to spiritual advice and guidance, not suggesting specific action. In plain terms: it is not our right. Regardless of our intention, inserting our thoughts on what another should do may unleash unintended repercussions or pe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading focuses on feeling inadequate when doing the 4th Step. The writer felt inadequate about their entire life, that they were doing it wrong, and that their best was never good enough. However Step 4 can put self-doubt in perspective, and give us a chance to find some balance. It's OK to qu...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading refers to Tradition 7 as it applies to being of service in Al-anon groups. Al-anon is self supporting and contributing financial support to Al-anon is important but in order for Al-anon and Al-anon groups to continue to thrive, members must commit to participate in service to thei...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer asked their Higher POwer to remove unwanted feelings during work on the 7th Step 'Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings,'. That didn't happen, as feelings aren't shortcomings! Alanon principles helped them learn to acknowledge, accept and let them go when needed. "I have ver...

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	Hoping for the Best (Preview) My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...	mistercrowley	1	679	Mar 21, 2024 by Lyne
	So my son is sober now, at least as far as I know . . . (Preview) . . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...	texas yankee	5	703	Mar 17, 2024 by tiredtonite
	C2C, Monday, 3/18, ESH (Preview) This reading mentions the 8th Tradition, stating that alanon should always be nonprofessional. It goes on to say that we help one another recover by sharing our experience, strength, and hope. Who better knows the devastating impact of alcoholism? And we can help those who really want help, ins...	Lyne	0	617	Mar 17, 2024 by Lyne
	Courage to Change March 16 Progress Not Perfection (Preview) Today's C2C reading asks Al-anon members to take an honest assessment of their recovery. The person in the reading refers back to their 4th step inventory. Although they feel they still have things they would like to work on, they realize their progress as well. They come to understand that to hold th...	tiredtonite	1	533	Mar 17, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/11, forgiving imperfections (Preview) This reading speaks about prior to program people may hide in shame from their flaws or beat themselves up. We are reminded to let go of our impatience, self-criticism, and self-hatred. We can ask our Higher Power for help, and accept that making mistakes is a part of life. Therefore we will always b...	Lyne	1	623	Mar 13, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change March 8 (Preview) Today's reading is about the value of Al-anon tools for finding solutions. In this reading, an Al-anon member attends an Al-anon meeting where members are asked to draw an Al-anon slogan from a basket that is passed and apply that slogan to their day. The next day the member is faced with a problem that...	tiredtonite	1	644	Mar 10, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/4, Stop, Look, and Listen (Preview) The writer of this reading felt confused about the slogan "Think" until they heard a child recite stop, look, and, listen, as a safety rule. Think is similar to stop, look, and listen, as it gives us time to look at what's going on, and possibly see our role in it. We have time for spiritual guidance, an...	Lyne	1	643	Mar 7, 2024 by tiredtonite
	C2C, Monday, 2/26, create a better future (Preview) This reading points out that we all make mistakes, but we can grow in self-awareness and learn from our mistakes. When mistakes happen we can make amends for any harm we've done, and we can try not to repeat them again. These experiences can help us create a better future. The reading goes on to say th...	Lyne	0	648	Feb 25, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 2/19, the nature of my nature (Preview) This reading made good sense to me. My behavior paralleled the alcoholic, without the alcohol--insane but sober. I blamed others, I took everything personally, and my reactions were based on fears. As time went on, I could see my reactions were less extreme. Some things that used to bother me d...	Lyne	0	648	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
	February 17 C2C Faith (Preview) Today's Courage to Change topic is Faith. The reading begins with a reminder that my vision be limited by only the outcomes that I can imagine. It suggests that when one places faith in their Higher Power the possibilities are limitless. This takes practice when fear looms large but the reading sugge...	tiredtonite	1	616	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday,, 2/12, detachment--easy or hard? (Preview) This reading says that detachment is often easier with casual friends, than with people we are emotionally involved with. It can be difficult not to take on the negative frame of mind of family and loved ones. It is suggested we have a choice not to take on other people's moods and attitudes. Detachm...	Lyne	4	636	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
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	February 1 Courage to Change Topic - Change (Preview) Today's reading uses the example of trying to control the drinking of an alcoholic. The person in this reading made many attempts but all were unsuccessful. They continued to try and expected a different result. Unable to admit their powerlessness over the progression of another's alcoholism, th...	tiredtonite	2	663	Feb 9, 2024 by bud
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/5, facing shortcomings (Preview) This reading reminds us to not only face our shortcomings, but to see our good qualities as well. They are reality just as much as the faults. We should appreciate our constructive qualities to help us accept ourself as a friend, and to eliminate the roadblocks to serenity. THE REMINDER says that i...	Lyne	1	571	Feb 9, 2024 by bud
	Get Your Class Help \| Hire Someone To Take My Online Class (Preview) Hire Someone To Take My Online Class is a convenient solution for individuals seeking assistance with their online coursework. Whether balancing work, family, or other commitments, this service connects students with qualified professionals who can manage their assignments, quizzes, discu...	getyourclasshelp	0	436	Feb 7, 2024 by getyourclasshelp
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	C2C, Monday, 1/29, Are you trying to control another? (Preview) The writer shares how to tell if we are trying to control someone, or if we are sincerely expressing ourselves. They say if we are repeatedly saying the same things, and cannot let it go if we don't get the response we want, then we are probably trying to control and have lost our focus. It's important t...	Lyne	1	581	Jan 29, 2024 by tiredtonite
	January 26 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's reading shares about the value of the Al-anon program as a path for a better way of living. The person in this reading came to Al-anon as many do to find possible ways to stop another from drinking. Continued attendance resulted in a spiritual awakening. If they kept coming back and worked the A...	tiredtonite	1	630	Jan 28, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 1/22, detachment is not a wall (Preview) The writer shares an experience about learning detachment with love. Her husband fell out of bed often. When she first heard the idea of detachment, she stopped helping him back in bed. But as she learned about detachment with love, from that point on she still left him on the floor, but covered him...	Lyne	1	651	Jan 23, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change January 18 Keep the Focus on Yourself (Preview) Today's reading reminds us to keep to our own side of the street. It mentions a newcomer who felt helping their alcoholic was the right thing to do. Al-anon suggests we focus on our own needs and allow others to the freedom to make their own choices. The newcomer felt the Al-anon suggestion to allow the a...	tiredtonite	2	456	Jan 19, 2024 by Skorpi
	C2C, 1/15, why leap into the future? (Preview) This page reminds us about the importance of staying in the here and now. Worry about the future can give us depression, distraction, and fear. Does worrying in advance help, or will it be easier to face? Does it protect us? The answer to all of these questions is NO! It merely robs us of today: ODA...	Lyne	1	626	Jan 15, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change August 31 - Live and Let Live (Preview) Today's reading shows an example of Al-Anon's slogan Live and Let Live in action. As I often do when posting a daily, I searched the index for the associated Al-Anon topic. I was surprised by how many topics I felt fit well for this page. The reading mentions a desire for others to fulfill our needs rathe...	tiredtonite	2	1056	Jan 9, 2024 by Allthingsnew
	C2C, Monday, 1/8, Let go and let HP (Preview) This reading discusses acceptance of the acknowledgement that we cannot have control over others--that we are truly powerless. The writer realized that the alcoholic must have their own HP, and it is up to them to work out their future. Letting go and letting God allows us to feel like a new person....	Lyne	2	643	Jan 9, 2024 by Daffodils
	January 7 Hope for Today Powerlessness (Preview) Today's reading is about Al-anon's 3 Cs in relation to alcoholism. I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. The person in this reading reflects on their past actions during their growing up in a home with alcoholism and wonders if their less than perfect behavior - fights with their sibl...	tiredtonite	1	691	Jan 7, 2024 by Lyne
	Thought for the day (Preview) I love the slogan, Progress not Perfection. My FOO was so damaging that I just felt like a complete failure and idiot in every way. Moving into adulthood I just thought I could never be adequate, even though I was successful in my career. This program has taught me to see what I can do right, and to look...	Lyne	1	640	Jan 5, 2024 by tiredtonite
	We are still here (Preview) Since we are still here, I'm going to share. I'm having a full dose of being powerless. One of my brother's has terminal cancer, and besides for being a supportive sister, there is nothing I can do to change his cancer status. I pray, I've given him two healing stones, we send organic fruit, etc. But...	Lyne	1	617	Jan 4, 2024 by tiredtonite
	back to MIP, back to work (Preview) hello MIP family, I just checked, I have been on here last time in 2014....wow, what a journey it has been. Gratitude all the way for MIP and Al Anon, as it saved my life many times, and made me walk in the good direction. Life has been good...mostly, as I carry the lessons on a daily basis and keep sharing, j...	Tortuga_new	2	753	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Checking in (Preview) Bernie here. It's been a busy day and its not over yet. I'm picking up a 26 year sobriety medallion from my home group tonight and whenever I get one of those I remember the love and support that al-anon has shown me over the years. Thank you.	Wolfie55	2	732	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Holiday Greetings (Preview) For anyone still checking in, I'm wishing you peace, happiness, and health in the new year, one day at a time. Lyne	Lyne	1	583	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	What to do now? (Preview) Long story short got into a relationship with a woman this year who had not only major addiction issues but many other mental health issues. It has been truly toxic and after a year of enabling her behavior in many ways (buying alcohol, being her personal taxi when she called, paying for moving costs, e...	NewRomantics	2	695	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Critically ill loved one (Preview) My mother and father are my qualifiers. My mother is gravely ill. She's not drinking now because she's in a semi coma and bed bound. Her drinking had gotten pretty bad. She would drink from 5pm until 2 or 3am. At the beginning of September she went to the ER because she had the flu and wasn't getting bett...	StargazerLily	3	667	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	I haven’t told my story (Preview) I dated an alcoholic on and off for three years. Three months in he told me he was an alcoholic, I went into denial. My father was an alcoholic, I had aca recovery yet still I struggled to break free. He broke up with me suddenly, I was confused , a week later he wanted to try again. So we did. And so the dance be...	Loudnlost	1	640	Dec 31, 2023 by Lyne
	new and cautious (Preview) Hello, I did not grow up with an alcoholic. My husband of one year is an alcoholic and its taken me some time to fully understand and accept this. I have known for some time that my words, my emotions, my stress and pain due to his drinking - although real and valid - are not helping him and are making me feel...	tryingtounderstand	2	718	Dec 17, 2023 by Lyne
	Holiday wishes (Preview) In case anyone is checking in, wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Lyne :)	Lyne	1	658	Nov 28, 2023 by Wolfie55
	Gratitude, etc. (Preview) Greetings, all. I haven't been here for a bit. I got distracted. I was at a virtual meeting last night in Hawaii, another 12 step fellowship, and they had asked me to close the meeting with a reading and with a prayer of my choice. I did the AA third step prayer. This morning, I remembered that I hadn't been...	Wolfie55	5	770	Nov 9, 2023 by Wolfie55
	One Day At A Time (Preview) Somewhere at this site, is a story posted Feb 25, 2012. That was a few days ago. Anyway, it's the story of how Nancy (my wife) and I got together. It was printed in the AA Grapevine in May of 2010 and was also included in a grapevine book entitled Forming True Partnerships. So, we all know about the pandemic...	Wolfie55	1	707	Nov 9, 2023 by Lyne
	10-31-23 C2C The Only Thing to Fear Is: Fear Itself…Closing Time… (Preview) On the topic of fear, today's author admits that was the primary emotion driving many decisions. When anything happened to alter an expected outcome, fears of the worst possible outcomes spurred panic, resulting in a crazy flurry of actions intended to ward off various imagined disasters. The aut...	Enigmatic	1	769	Oct 31, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 10/30, C2C, Grateful member of alanon (Preview) The writer used to hear people say they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic, because they were grateful to have found alanon. You can learn many things in alanon, like gratitude and forgiveness are needed for peace of mind. A tiny step can be a great step in seeing life with increasing joy....	Lyne	1	729	Oct 31, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Outreach to the membership (Preview) Good evening to all. I have been in contact recently with two members of MIP. It has been shared that MIP will be disappearing sometime in the near future due to financial issues. I don't know whether this will be tomorrow or the end of the year. As you can see, most of the people doing the daily shares...	Lyne	2	807	Oct 31, 2023 by Enigmatic
	10/24/23 C2C Onion, or Birch Bark...Is There a Difference? (Preview) Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place. If a protective layer of bark is removed too earl...	Enigmatic	2	776	Oct 25, 2023 by Enigmatic
	10/10/23 C2C Can’t Steer the Car by the Armrest (Preview) This writer recalled white knuckling the car armrest while riding a twisty, hilly road as a youngster. Such effort had no effect on the course the car took, much as many efforts and exertions in adult life upon events outside our control. Alanon can help, however, especially noticeable when we can't...	Enigmatic	2	800	Oct 24, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Monday, 10/23, C2C, when the alcoholic gets sober (Preview) The writer thought the nightmare was over when the alcoholic got sober, but what a surprise! Many problems were still present, and old behaviors were occurring. With alanon's teachings, the writer knew that there was no need to accept what is unacceptable, nor does one have to argue back. There a...	Lyne	0	760	Oct 22, 2023 by Lyne
	MIP - Call for Feedback, Input or Great Recipes (Preview) Greetings fellow MIPers, visitors, and casual wanderers As Lyne noted below, and others have mentioned and discussed over the past few weeks and months, there is some uncertainty about the future of MIP. That quite possibly has led to a migration of readers and contributors before the actual e...	Enigmatic	1	875	Oct 19, 2023 by Lyne
	10/17/23 ODAT Prayer and Meditation – Wait Until Step 11? (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges the value of the spiritual learning that builds when one studies the 12 Steps one at a time, in order. Special consideration is given to Step 11, however, regarding prayer and meditation. That is an activity that can be worked at any time and brings great benefits at any t...	Enigmatic	1	773	Oct 18, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 10/16, C2C, when surrounded by crisis.... (Preview) This reading says we may be powerless over circumstances, but we are not helpless. In the midst of problems or stress, we are reminded to nurture our mind, body, or spirit. Alanon is a program of action, and we always have choices. If we treat ourselves with love and tenderness, we can better cope wi...	Lyne	0	751	Oct 15, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, October 9, C2C, submission vs surrender (Preview) The writer had trouble admitting being powerless, and did not want to "surrender." The writer saw this as admitting defeat, and having failed over alcoholism. Gratitude finally sunk in--it did not mean submission! Instead, it meant not fighting reality, not trying to do God's will, and doing on...	Lyne	1	702	Oct 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
	October 5 Courage to Change - Changed Attitudes (Preview) Today's reading suggests dispelling negativity by focusing attention on gratitude for what you have. Some tools for changing a negative attitude to a positive on suggested in this reading are attending an Al-Anon meeting or contacting another Al-Anon member to share. Such interchanges can resu...	tiredtonite	1	804	Oct 5, 2023 by Lyne
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 10/2, forging ahead (Preview) This reading is about an alanon member who was not happy with her meeting and left. She had learned that everybody in the meeting, and everyone in the fellowship, is equal. However one member tended to manage everyone and everything. This member became uncomfortable and decided to try a new group...	Lyne	1	715	Oct 4, 2023 by Lyne
	10/3/23 C2C Compassion – Defined By What it is Not (Preview) Struggling to define compassion, today's writer knew it was not the ugly behavior that had been showing their loved one at times: yelling, name calling, revenge seeking, throwing things.Compassion does not mean accepting abusive behavior from the alcoholic, but it certainly does not mean handi...	Enigmatic	1	758	Oct 3, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change September 28 - Letting Go (Preview) Today's reading uses the example of decision making at an Al-anon business meeting to demonstrate the process of letting go. During the business meeting, the Al-anon member suggests using the entire Serenity Prayer in the group's Al-anon meetings. Another member contributed their a suggestion...	tiredtonite	1	839	Sep 29, 2023 by Lyne
	9/26/23 C2C – Not Bad, Just Feelings (Preview) Today's page is a powerful lesson on perspective as the writer finds value in feelings they once saw as defects: anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear. With applied effort, these feelings were used to make positive changes in their life. Reminder - feelings may be uncomfortable at times, but tha...	Enigmatic	1	704	Sep 26, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/25, ODAT in alanon, personal freedom (Preview) It may be hard to imagine we can ever experience personal freedom. We may be enmeshed in a troubled family situation, and are also intertwined with others. However, alanon helps us develop our own personalities, which reinforces personal freedom by leaving others alone to control their lives....	Lyne	1	752	Sep 24, 2023 by Fedora
	September 21 Courage to Change - Fear (Preview) Today's reading discusses how living with the disease of alcoholism led the person to become a fearful person dreading change. They preferred familiar chaos rather than change because they felt some control over what was familiar. The reading states that this sense of control is an illusion and th...	tiredtonite	1	757	Sep 22, 2023 by Lyne
	9/19/23 ODAT - Alcoholism Doesn’t Remove All Marital Responsibilities (Preview) Today's writer reminds that alcoholism is but one of the possible challenges of maintaining a marriage. The presence of alcoholism, therefore, should not be used as an excuse to give up on our efforts to control and improve on our own faults and shortcomings in the relationship. "...in sickness an...	Enigmatic	1	775	Sep 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/18, C2C, our memory enables us to see progress (Preview) When we are troubled about what lies ahead, we can look back to see where we've been. When we grow frustrated about the changes we want, we can see that we are dealing with things because we have gained awareness. Time offers evidence that alanon works--we can see the growth in our life. This gives us...	Lyne	1	757	Sep 19, 2023 by Enigmatic
	September 14 Courage to Change - Disappointment (Preview) Today's reading reminds us of the feelings of disappointment that can accompany living with alcoholism. The person in the reading expresses that their excitement and hopes were often dashed by their expectations of their alcoholic. Eventually, their feelings were numbed, feelings of hopeless...	tiredtonite	1	765	Sep 15, 2023 by Lyne
	9/12/23 ODAT – Resist Advising Others to Action (Preview) Today's page focuses our responsibility to help others by narrowing it to spiritual advice and guidance, not suggesting specific action. In plain terms: it is not our right. Regardless of our intention, inserting our thoughts on what another should do may unleash unintended repercussions or pe...	Enigmatic	1	769	Sep 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/11, C2C, feeling inadequate (Preview) This reading focuses on feeling inadequate when doing the 4th Step. The writer felt inadequate about their entire life, that they were doing it wrong, and that their best was never good enough. However Step 4 can put self-doubt in perspective, and give us a chance to find some balance. It's OK to qu...	Lyne	1	808	Sep 12, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change September 7 Alanon topic - Service (Preview) Today's reading refers to Tradition 7 as it applies to being of service in Al-anon groups. Al-anon is self supporting and contributing financial support to Al-anon is important but in order for Al-anon and Al-anon groups to continue to thrive, members must commit to participate in service to thei...	tiredtonite	1	808	Sep 7, 2023 by Lyne
	9/5/23 C2C - You Can't Always Get What You Want (Preview) Today's writer asked their Higher POwer to remove unwanted feelings during work on the 7th Step 'Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings,'. That didn't happen, as feelings aren't shortcomings! Alanon principles helped them learn to acknowledge, accept and let them go when needed. "I have ver...	Enigmatic	1	788	Sep 5, 2023 by Lyne
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