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ODAT in alanon, 10/25, alanon’s secret
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The writer says that alanon brings about changes in peoples lives because it has a secret: it is built on the fundamental ethical philosophy which has been around for ages. It is stated in widely different books including the Bible and fables of Aesop and it is about dealing gently with our fellowme...
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23rd Oct C2C
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Today's author talks about being sure that the nightmare would be over once the alcoholic they loved got sober. But without the tranquilising effect of alcohol, she became verbally abusive. She accused, attacked, insulted and the author always defended themself. It seemed crucial that the AP u...
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Oct 24 Hope for Today
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading deals with the interpretation of some words and phrases from the program and how our understanding might evolve over the years. The writer describes hearing defects of character and shortcomings from steps 6 and 7; the writer heard these words as ways that he/...
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October 23 Hope for Today - Higher Power
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Today's Hope for Today tells of the experience of a newcomer to Alanon who learns that in Alanon one's higher power need not be defined by past understanding of a higher power. In Alanon, members learn that they have choices. Each individual in the program can embrace a higher power of their choosing...
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Courage to Change October 20
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on precious moments. As a child, the author would spend lengthy amounts of time watching a caterpillar crawl, just in case it were to do something spectacular. The caterpillar never did, however the author didn't mind because simply watching the...
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October 22 - ODAT - Self-Understanding
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Today's writer shares that as we work the Al-Anon program to improve our peace of mind, we make an effort to understand our own drives and motivations, and to correct those that are hampering us. If we have the courage to face the emotions and behaviors that are hampering us, and we can do it without lett...
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I need so support
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Hi I am asking for some support, as I have recently found that Alcoholism has raised it's ugly head in one of my beloved Family members, and I am feeling the effects of it all. It doesn't matter how long I have been in Al-Anon and working my program, it still hurts, a lot, and I find because I have the knowle...
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Oct. 21, ODAT - MY inventory
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Today's reading warns us not to take anyone's inventory but our own. Though we may feel our troubles are caused by the alcoholic and we want to justify our actions and deny fault, we should take a closer look at how we handle things. We may see that we could have reacted differently, and may, in fact, have...
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distance bringing more clarity ... recognizing insanity was so hard in the moment but easier now
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Recently some friends alerted me to social media post my ex had made; they were concerned that he was becoming unhinged and wanted to know if I knew that. Curiosity got the better of me so I went back to his FB page. He had made a number of long posts taking potshots at me and "everyone who had abandoned him f...
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10/19 ODAT Don’t Fight the Windmills
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Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...
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New England foliage
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This is for PNP and anyone else who isnt able to see changing leaves in person. Not the greatest pic But a tree right outside of my classroom. Happy fall, Everyone! Mary
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Grieving for what is lost
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Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...
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C2C, Monday, 10/18, have I forgotten what I learned?
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The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...
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October 15 - ODAT - Judgment and Control
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Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...
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October 16 Hope for Today
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Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...
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Hope for Today Oct 17
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...
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C2C - self care 16th October (posted by mistake in the forum)
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Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...
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Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want
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Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...
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Thursdays - ODAT
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Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?
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Bbrave
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Courage to Change October 13
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...
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October 9 Hope for Today - Facing the Past
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Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...
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10/12/21 C2C Wear Sunscreen so I Don’t Get Sunburned
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Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...
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ODAT in alanon, 10/11, managing others
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The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...
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Hope for Today Oct 10
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...
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Oct 9th C2C - Powerlessness and letting go
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Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...
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It has been a year(september 30th)
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It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...
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October 8 - C2C - Miracles
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Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...
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Visiting the Power Of the Serenity Prayer again.
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Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...
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Oct. 7, ODAT - Let there be light
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Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...
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October 2nd Hope for Today From Fear of Failure to Courage
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Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...
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10/5/21 ODAT – Power of the Serenity Prayer
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Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...
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C2C, Monday, 10/4, I am not alone
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(Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...
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And then there is literature...
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I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...
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Sharing Good News
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Well... I guess I have a job. I have had to go through a lot of hoops to secure this contract. I still don't have "official" word that I have the position. But this afternoon FedEx brought two boxes of computer equipment to my door so I'm going to take that as official word. The job is through an outside recr...
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Hope for Today Oct 3
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...
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Happy Birthday DM
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Happy Birthday Debb! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with things that give you happiness. Grateful you're a part of our MIP recovery family. (((hugs)) T T
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2nd Oct 2021, C2C - the importance of service
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Today's reader talks about the importance of service and how it brings them into contact with newcomers. The author shares that they can get caught up in the trivial problems of everyday life and lose perspective, but talking with newcomers brings them back to reality. When they set out literature,...
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October 1 - C2C - Reaching Out
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Today's writer shares that when they have racing thoughts and feel they are in chaos, sometimes serenity is just a phone call away. Having someone else acknowledge what is happening, immediately diminishes its effect. The mind becomes more orderly, and the writer is able to decide to set their tro...
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Sept. 30, ODAT - Story Time
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Today we are given a story; one we have heard many times. A man marries a woman who is an alcoholic and his life descends into misery because he cannot change her. When he discovers Al-Anon, he realizes that the only way forward is to change himself. For whatever reason, perhaps because the wife no longe...
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Courage to Change Sept. 29
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Hello MIP! Today's reading speaks about physical violence. Some alcoholics become abusive, especially when they drink. The author shares that Al-Anon gives no advice regarding relationships. It is up to each Al-Anon member to decide for themselves when to continue a relationship and when to en...
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9/28/21 ODAT – What Do We Learn About Alcoholism in AlAnon?
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Just enough, says today's author; we learn that alcoholism: * Is devastating to health, spirituality, and happiness· * Has no cure, but can be arrested when the alcoholic is ready· * Is associated with, but is not the cause of, our own irrational behavior and decline. * And fina...
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Call for service: Co-share the Webhelper role.
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Greetings MIP family. I am looking for a co-helper to assist with the Webhelper position. Self nominations and a vote will take place on the business board. Hopefully we will get some volunteers. If you are interested, the link is available below. Please check the business board here: https://mi...
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C2C, 9/27, if only
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For Monday, 9/27, the writer reflects upon if only they could know whats to come, have infinite wisdom, and the knowledge of how to spend each moment.But in meetings they are reminded we can only work with what we have today. And perhaps it is better off not knowing, because our focus would be trying to o...
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September 25th Hope for Today - Control
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Today's reading is about an Alanon member who is obsessing about a visit from their parents. They are concerned about their parents judgement of their live, their way of living. They recall an obsessive battle to perfect their life, home and yard and that this struggle caused them to feel distanced f...
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Hope for Today Sept 26
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is especially helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. The writer describes her attempts to create a perfect family when she got married at age 20. Her parents had divorced, and she was determined to have a marriage that thrived. As problems c...
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Patience and Humility
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My former sponsor, DON,T!! taught me a lot which I came to accept as very very valid because of how it changed my life. One of the most important, if not the most important is that Humility is "Being teachable" which has always worked when I work it. Patience is always good for my heart and spirit and the...
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"asking for a friend" - really . . . (separating finances)
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My up and down and sometimes sideways situation with my adult son (alcohol, drugs, and mental health issues) about which I've received a lot of very helpful ESH from you wonderful folks, is going OK - for today - tomorrow will be here soon enough, but for today, things seem to be going OK - LOL, I was relax...
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Sept 25th C2C Step 3
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Today's author talks about taking Step Three over and over again. They reflect that they often wait until a problem becomes overwhelming before finally giving in and turning it over to their Higher Power. However they also reflect that the awareness they have gained in Al-Anon lets them know that...
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September 24 - C2C - True Perspective
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Today's reading is by someone who viewed their experiences with alcoholism as a technicolor extravaganza on a big screen, with their name in lights. It seemed like a big, splashy story. They told it again and again, until they realized it had become smaller, like a home movie. Now, instead of being...
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Sept. 23, ODAT - Delusions
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We suffer from delusions that we "run the show." Despite lots of evidence that this is not so, we keep trying to run things. We must detach and look inward. TODAY'S REMINDER: I will try not to outmaneuver anyone else, but will proceed quietly to live my life so I will have less reason for self-reproach. I...
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Courage to Change September 22
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Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...
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If you keep an open mind....
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Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...
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9/21/21 ODAT - It Can't Be Me...Can It?
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Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...
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18th Sept C2C progress
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Today's reader talks about the progress the author has made and that when they are troubled about what lies ahead, they can look back at where they have been. Time offers evidence that the Al-Anon program works - they see growth in their lives and the longer they live by these principles, the more evide...
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Being Human and needing a Higher Power
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Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...
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Honored to share 9/19 with Jerry
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MIP family - thank you for your support and prayers as I am trying to be of maximum service to my parents. It's been a significant challenge and I am feeling very overwhelmed. I'll spend time when I have time sharing more but, for today, my mother has been placed in assisted living and my father is reluc...
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ODAT in alanon, 9/20, accepting reality and my A
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In the reading for Monday, 9/20, the member suggests if we have an attitude of contempt for our alcoholic, we need to seriously examine ourselves. The member reminds us that As have an illness which includes being confused and guilt-ridden human beings with a badly battered ego. They do not need to...
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Hope for Today Sept 19
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentments and bitterness, and learning to forgive. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and experiencing many forms of mistreatment. The result included feeling like an extremely angry and resentful victim...
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September 18 Hope for Today - Personal Recovery
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Today's reading speaks about a newcomer to Al-anon who noted that many Al-anon readings referenced a higher power. The newcomer wasn't certain they wanted to have a relationship with a higher power or what they would even do with one if they had it. They were relieved to learn that members of the fello...
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September 17 - Intimacy Book - Boundaries
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Chapter Four of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Negotiating Boundaries," makes the point that knowing what is good for us and what is not good for us is a foundation for setting healthy limits (boundaries) for ourselves, in relationships and other parts of life. Boundaries are for our ow...
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