The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Great guidance in today's page reminding Alanoners of the type of advice we should give: spiritual advice pointing back to program concepts and slogans. Great care should be shown not to suggest others take 'drastic' action in areas of relationships or other serious life matters, even saying "we do not - and must not - do" this.
There are still many ways to help, including sharing our own experience, strength and hope, and the benefits of our favorite program thoughts or references, etc.
Reminder - When troubled, I can accept advice from program friends that points back to the program wisdom.
"Using the slogans and the Twelve Steps will strengthen me to make wise decisions." - Unattributed ------------------ After a lifetime of overstepping boundaries and telling others what I thought they should do, this guidance in Alanon was a new concept to me but very helpful in teaching me to respect the boundaries of others, and recognize my own limitations.
I have no right, and certainly not the wisdom, to tell others what they 'should' do. That is between them and their higher power. This Alanon principle helps me stay consistent with Step 1 in acknowledging my powerlessness over others, and need to focus on managing my own life with the help of my higher power.
Grateful for the reminders and wisdom
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Thanks Paul for your service and all above ESH. The person I badgered the most is my A. I never saw it and thought I knew what help should be gotten. Through years in this program, I am now able to Live and let live, Let go and let God, focus on myself, think, pause, and pray. Whew, what a relief!
