Thanks Paul for today's reading and your es&h. I've found that the wonderful thing about Al-anon is that the program 's steps, slogans and particularly traditions work well for life situations beyond living with alcoholism and it's effects. I can't know the inner workings of another person. Al-anon helps with daily peeling of the onion day by day to experience personal growth and more serenity. The program is open ended. There is no rule book for working it. Even Al-anon workbooks allow me to interpret and apply the same principles of the program as they apply to my ever changing life, progress and lapses. The process of working recovery through mutual sharing rather than imposing my will (no expert here on life) has brought about spiritual awakenings concerning my own life and thinking. Keep An Open Mind and Listen and Learn are valuable slogans for me. They are great reminders to surrender my will to a loving higher power to suit up and show up daily - to be fully present in my own life. A loving hp reveals to me where I am needed and how. No need to project my own thinking concerning, people, places, things. Instead my aim is to Keep It Simple, listen for the message, my hp's will for me and choose an action that honors higher power will by practicing courtesy toward others, not placing myself between them and their own loving higher power but instead simply offering loving support rather than imposing my will. Thy Will Not My Will Be Done.