The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it whether the alcoholics do or do not. From that day on, the writer felt they had their own life and their own destiny. We can separate our life from theirs, and build a wonderful life for ourselves.
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This reading is part of my story because for about 15 years or so, I was completely enmeshed with my A, tried to control a road to sobriety, and was an emotional and unhappy mess. Now that I have a number of years in program, I no longer focus on my A, nor allow the dysfunction of addiction control me the way it used to. My spouse says that alanon has "ruined" me, because I've got the focus on me rather than on my A. It's a huge change for both of us, but one that I can enjoy and be grateful for. :)
Debbie, I appreciate your feedback so much. Because I used to be a doormat, and now I'm not, I'm seen as the one with the problem. Thank God I can laugh at this now!
