Deb,

 When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else.

 We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for you to stay.It is a process and as we work the steps and post and go to meetings the fog lifts and we make better choices .

 I would suggest even if it is alittle thing do some thing just for you not any critter man or beast ha . do for just you and if you  dont have a clue like I dont sometimes as your hp to show you what you would like .

yes deb he is blessed to have you but dont center your life around any one it leads  to hurt and despair.Make a life for you , and for sure dont isolate since i am the queen  of that ha and come to this board  cause you have such reality insight it gives us hope so you are not hopeless you are hopeful

 dori