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He I am 2:30 in the morning and can't sleep!!! So I decuided to pop in and see how every one was doing. Read a few post and so on.
(((Cdb))) sorry your daughter relapsed I hold her and your family in my prayers. I am also really happy to see you on the board!!!
My codependancy has my mind racing I really dislike that since I am tired but I can most deffinately be relied upon to be the one worrying about thoes I love. I am not sure if it is worry or excuitement really... My SIL whome some of you know about has divorced her adict husband and just told me tonight that she is seeing a very good friend of mine who I love very much. At first I was very happy for her and him as he too is divorcing his addict wife( they have alot in common) but she does not know him as I do!! he happens to be a drinking buddy of my husbands and I have never seen a person drink like him!!! vodka is water to him. How ever when his son was born he did really slow down but like she said tonight he does still like his beer but it doesn't bother her ( my red flag!)..... so I know it is none of my business but my concern is there and will stay silent to her and only be shared here... I wish them both the happiness they deserve!!!
It just so happens that my hubby is still not home and I just realized it... bizzare that on a night that I can't sleep he doesn't come home. This is something that I have let go of in the past year with the programs help just a weird coincident I guess.
I posted a couple of weeks ago about my garden and landscapping... well!! what a disaster I have created!!! The rain has put all of that on hold as my yard completely flooded! LOL my pond that I put in over flowed into my daughters heart shapped flower bed and OMG the misquetoes!! I can hardley mowe the parts that are dry enough because of them. My beautiful yard is a mess... but on the up side my new grass is growing i gotta laugh I work so hard to make me happy which a beautiflu yard does and my HP figures I need to work a bit harder.. I am now waiting for a new pump to pump the water out and dig the pond deeper and yes start all over again for the 3rd time in 2 months I am sure it will never work but I am insistant!!!
I would rather work on my yard and keep bussy than concern myself with hubbys drinking and it's been working so far.
JJ!!!!! You are back! Yipeee :) I have missed you so much! I am going to send you a pm here and give you my new address. I don't want to lose contact again. That gardening/pond sounds like a great project. You will be an expert at it when you are done. How aer the kids? How are you? I have been to canada recently to my parent's summer cabin and it was enjoyable. Mom's alzheimer is getting worse and that just breaks my heart. I enjoy every single minute I have with both my parents! I am having a better day today as I saw my daughter and she seemed better. She was not feeling well due to the stress of her ex having to show up in court today for a preliminary court hearing for the assult on her! I would like to assult him in the exact way and leave my thumb prints near his carotid artery and be charged with simple assult! Oh and the black and blue marks on her! and that barbed wired fence scar down her chest! Simple assult my butt!!! My husband and I are thinking of writing a letter of getting our opinions in on that by the time the hearing comes up!
Yet, it is in our daughter's hands. The loss of the baby seems like a blessing now since this guy would have been the father. She found out he was using meth for 10 months! The entire lenght of their relationship! I blame that for the death of the baby. But who knows. Her dog is here and I see things in him where he is scared. My daughter now thinks her ex beat him when she wasn't around. There sure are symptoms in him but I am giving him so much TLC and studying about care of dogs.
I am so glad to see you! I want to hear more about your life. Let me know her if you don't get my email addy okay. Hope to toak to you soon! cdb xoxoxoxo
I am a 'double winner' and let me say, codependency runs deep among A's too... you are not alone.
I put the bottle/dope down and ALL OF A SUDDEN I need to take care of everyone else and run their lives now, with my "newfound clarity"... what a gas...
Glad to be along for the adventure!
I am going to bed now, too. Enough of ME for one day!!!
