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kissers · kissers

I posted before about my pending layoff. They only employed me while they needed the help. Once the work was complete I was given notice along with a dozen others. I've been seeing new faces at work too. Apparently they do this once a year. It reminded me of how the A treated me. He used me until he was f...

serenity62 · Feb 7, 2007 by Moon

Hi alanoners, just something posted on another board, thought you would like to read it, interesting.................. Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 10:50 am Post subject: Broken Dreams I received this in a meditation this morning and wanted to share it coz it's really good!! Broken Dre...

jewely · jewely

she said she would call. she didn't call. i don't know wether she needs me to watch baby tomorrow or not. i turned the phone off at ten p.m. it is so hard for me not to call......., '' is everything all right? does she need me tomorrow? is she out with her friends, if so, where is baby? did s...

ally · ally

Just had one of the worst days of my life. My friend and I had become very close the last few months. Moved the friendship upto another level. So we were very intimate. I was very happy. I had feelings for him, I love him, have done for a long time. We ended the relationship a few weeks ago, he said he felt guil...

Gailey · Gailey

you will see it at the top of your page by your name

kicky · kicky

So I haven't seen my previous A bf in weeks...I ended a 7 year relationship because I just wanted to focus on me and my kids rather than the antics of alcoholism. After an encounter at Target...go figure...Last week my post told about a date I went on with an man I have known for years . I didn't k...

suzyque2 · suzyque2

I have been married to the same ah for 26 years, but recently i was dx with a chronic disabling disease. I have been given tranqulizers and pain medication to help me get through the rough spots. Last night i caught him again taking my meds and at higher than recomended doses while his was so drunk. I ca...

Serenity · Serenity

MY brother stopped comminicating with his entire family 5 years ago with no reason at all. This includes the extended family too. After my parents hadn't heard from him and no phone calls were accepted along with returned mail, they decided to call the police in Houston. The police did a "p...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))) One of the most Important things in my life has always been "TRUST". I have never had much of it. I have always had so many insecurities, believing I was different from everyone else. I had this label on me, I could not be normal. Etc..... So when I joined Al-...

QOD · QOD

I turned in my questionaire paperwork yesterday to obtain a separation from my AH. They told me it could take 2-3 weeks to get the formal ones back. I was like "Whoa!" I didn't want to wait that long. Turns out I didn't have to. they called me this morning and told me they were read...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((SHAWN))))))))))))))))))) Thanks for your reply to my post.....(trust in al-anon) I would just like to say to you. You have been a good friend to me, since you joined this room. We can share things with eachother, private things. And we have trust both ways. I don't like to see my...

AloneinNH · AloneinNH

I have been married to my husband for 28 years. His alcohol abuse has always been a big problem for me. After all these years of him treating me like crap I am filing for divorce. My question to you is, How do I find myself again? For years I became the person who made the least amount of waves so he wouldn...

jaja · jaja

It is 2 weeks ago tonight that my A ended that 11 day drinking binge he went on. Of course that's not the first long binge he's ever been on and I have watched the progressiveness of the disease over the years. The longest he ever stayed sober was for 3 yrs. and when he picked up again (about...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been working super hard on the resentment issue in the last few months. I feel like I've come a long way on it. Nevertheless I had a lot of denial about how bad I've been with it. I've also been in denial about what I looked like and was like around others when I was totally consumed with a...

serendipity · serendipity

my father's friend, the co-excutor on his will, the one who has been living in his house, the one who i have been trusting unconditionally to handle the finances of the estate......is a crack addict! i knew he was alcoholic and i dropped him off to rehab 2 weeks ago. i was at the house taking care of th...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone))))) We buried my mother today, it is her birthday. This has been an incredible week -- there just aren't the words to express the emotions. We postponed everything to round up my other siblings (there are four of us) One of my brothers, who teaches in China, that I haven't se...

maresie2 · maresie2

For some reason I can move heaven and earth for the A and everyone else and simple acts of caring for myself seem fraught with obstacles I can't overcome. Ask me to do something for someone else I can move through any kind of red tape. When it comes to myself however I am always getting detoured. My t...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I know this is obvious and I actually accepted alcoholism as a disease along time ago, I just have a hard time applying it to him. He has hep C and cancer. I know that those are diseases and he suffers from them. Funny, they don't really come up very much. Anyway, doesn't he choose to drink? Last ni...

ShelBell · ShelBell

StressA lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold...

Rita G · Rita G

So, in the last week or so, i have read several post here & on another site with people struggling about feeling guilt about why their A's drank or use - feeling some responsibility for that & some of the other behaviors- some of my friends from my f2f meeting were also talking about this - th...

QOD · QOD

I am in a strange mood this morning. I took my separation questionaire to my lawyer yesterday to have them officially drafted for signing. It was a weird feeling. Good but bad. Ya know. Like I am putting an end to an era. My first love - my high school love - my marriage to the only man I have ever been wi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

A is still in jail, been there since the 1st. Pretty sad when there's not a soul in the world who will give you $100 and vouch for you. Job was lost yesterday (he can't even get anyone to pick up his check and bail him out with his own money). MIL called to ask me to do it and I said no so now she's...

sharky · sharky

Looking for some practical info. AH got a DUI a few weeks ago; our auto insurance agent is now trying to get ahold of him. I"m guessing they're going to cancel our insurance, or at least raise the rates. I don't give a flip about AH's coverage at this point, but I really need to have af...

shadow1 · shadow1

(((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) I’m in some desperate need of ES&H. For those of you that don’t know I live with my active AH. On the weekends usually in the mornings, while sober he will go into a fit of rage. It always starts with the kids not doing what they are supposed to do and then it goes on f...

serendipity · serendipity

thanks so much for your replies to my last post. the kindness and understanding flow right into me and give me new thoughts to think. i'm scared. i guess that is what it's boiling down to for me. i am seeing so much fear in myself trying to strike out and do this "live my own life" thing...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it - and stay there, lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove lid again... but also, she will never sit down on a cold one any more. --Mark Twain "Last night I asked for help, but...

hudsond · hudsond

Life is going good. Why do I feel so uneasy? My ah has been sober for almost 6 months. He is very active in his program-going to 10-12 meetings a week, talking to his sponsor almost every night, has others calling him and is talking to them, listening to speaker tapes at home, working his steps, yada, y...

QOD · QOD

So I didn't really know what topic to use to describe this post......it is just laughable to me. Of course, I may just be a bit hysterical over it all. On Friday when I got home from work, there was a message from this guy that my AH has been trying to get a job with for the last 2-1/2 months. He had taken...

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

Ive had a prayer answered.... My brother is now in rehab. Ive prayed for some sort of help for one of my family memebers. Im so pleased with the prayer answered. My Mom is not very happy with me. I told her I couldnt fix the situation. She got mad at me and pretty much called me heartless. I told My Mom I did lov...

davidssibling · davidssibling

Thank you for responding to me five days ago,,,,,,,, oh how I needed to talk to someone, how lonely, frusterated, scared I was. I couldn't send back replys, as I was not familuar with this setup of IMs, and stuff,,,,,,, I'm still learning. I just want to let you know, I found my way into the room,...

Diva · Diva

The youthful, tanned body has become gorgeously mature. He's tall, and straight, and proud as a peacock. The blond, curly hair has become a rich silver mass of gentle curls hanging down his forehead and into his eyes. The bedroom blue eyes are even more knowing and twinkling. The badness ha...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) Tomorrow one year ago my now AH and I split up. Everything moved so quickly. My AH was drinking very heavily then. I was a mess. I was frustrated beyond belief and my life seemed to be surrounded by chaos, anger, resentment, manipulation, constant bickering. We both had had eno...

QOD · QOD

My AH has been working on getting this new job for over 2 months now. Supposedly it required tons of background work and paperwork that was taking some time. He had gotten down to the last 2 things.....the drug test and physical. He had the drug test on Friday morning. Thursday night, he took a home t...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Ah has left me no choice. I used to recieve foodstamps when he was a full blown alcoholic because he hoarded money so I had to go after him for child support, well.......he's doing it again. He leaves me "just enough" to pay the bills and thinks he deserves whatever he wants.....now mind...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Please keep us in your prayers. especially my father and my children. She would have been 68 on Friday. It's been a long journey.

kellygirl · kellygirl

I just returned to my office after attending my first Al-Anon meeting...OMG, how great it was. It just "clicked" within me...while I have a LONG way to go, I really feel like a burden has been lifted from my shoulders. What wonderful people they were, and they validated my own story and help...

kellygirl · kellygirl

This is going to seem like such a silly question, but how can I tell for sure that my H is an alcoholic?...He left me and our 3 kids last March and is living with another woman...am I just using alcohol as an excuse for him leaving us? Yea, I'm a newbie

-- Edited by kellygirl at 16:52, 2007-01-30 -...

TexasAngel · TexasAngel

Hello, I am new to this forum and to Al-Anon. I have started a program called "Celebrate Recovery" at a local church...has any one here heard of this program? If so...what are your thoughts? Thanks TA

fozzie · fozzie

My A is my husband - been married almost 23 years. About four - five years ago I started to realize he had real problems with alcohol. I've done everything I can think of - yelled, cried, badgered, reasoned, been compassionate... You know what I mean - we've all been there. Sometimes I think i...

Akasha · Akasha

It's been a while since I have posted any sort of update on our situation here. Not sure anyone really remembers us...but good news is always a good thing to share, yes? My AH (addiction not restricted to just alcohol) has been sober now almost 7 months. He is working his program and is in constant...

Diva · Diva

Edit Post | Quote | Reply Yesterday morning I nearly died! No joke here. I had stopped in to have a word with my internist. Taking a chance that she may have time to see me, and she did. We were talking about stress and how it can react, and I began telling her about the A, and how his behavior has affected my li...

Serenity · Serenity

-- Edited by John at 08:06, 2007-02-05

Diva · Diva

to have made so many of you smile reading through the "Bad, Bad, Bill" series of posts. Renewing a cherished love relationship from so long ago has been a ray of sunshine for me too. I'll keep you all posted. So far, it's exciting as can be!!! Any of you remember the song, "B...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Major Ziggy to Alanon Base.......lol Today was rather eventful. My son as been sick all weekend making no improvement. This morning, his fever shot up even higher and had no clue where he was at. The baby was to be home soon from a weekend at her A dad's house. I called former AH and gave him a run d...

CJ · CJ

Hi family. It's been quite a while since I started a topic, and recent events have put my skills to the test. A hearing for the criminal trial (DV) was held a few days ago. The state (not I) pressed charges and Awife and lawyer entered into a diversion agreement - it won't proceed to trial, as lon...

davidssibling · davidssibling

It's me, Eve, and I just want to say, wow, the chat room is such a great place. Three days ago I found it, and there was a converstaion or many conversations happening. Thought maybe I was in wrong room. I asked if it was really a room for al-anon, and the people stopped the chit chat, and asked how I was,...

QOD · QOD

I feel there may be some clarification needed regarding my last post. Obsession? There is no obsession when it comes to tracking my AH's credit card transactions. Only concern. 1st - I am not tracking him 24/7 or even at home. I do not have a computer at home. So there is NO - ZERO - neglect towar...

fozzie · fozzie

I think I'm ready to give my A husband a choice. I know choice is just a fancy word for ultimatum, and ultimatums generally don't work (see all the wonderful replies to my previous post), but this is for myself and the kids. We had a big family weekend this weekend at my parents' house. The...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah and i spend alot of time together with the kids. it is for the most part tolerable and fun. buti'll start relating a story that i've heard on the news and he inturupts me with something more important. so, i see, he is just being rude. it is part of his mania taking hold again. all the signs a...

kellygirl · kellygirl

Sometimes I am actually jelous of my AH...a small part of me envy's his seemingly carefree existance with the bartender skank in the smoke filled trailor. No bills, no nagging wife, no children throwing up at 3 o'clock in the morning, no toilets to plunge or dog poo to pick up. just a carefree e...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I did some research yesterday about the arrest and am just feeling resigned to the idea that this is just the way it's gonna be and it's time for me to move on. I thought I was moving on before but still had that string of hope that we might get back together someday, that he would get better. I am a...

maresie2 · maresie2

As some of you may remember when I first came into this room more than a year ago I was absolutely lost in resentment and chaos with the A. I have definitely had my moments over the past year. I've been totally desolate at times, I have also been petrified at what the A might do next. I never did see the...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) Well as I heard a few times when first coming to this program, you will need this work probably more when your A gets sober. It is becoming more and more true. I was just so glad to have him "back" in this world that I was pretty much just staying put, sticking with him like gl...

Marianne · Marianne

I would like to tell you why I am on this forum. I left my AexH who was a violent drunk when my son Sam (that's him on the left) was three, his sister two and his brother, a baby. A couple of years after leaving him I met a guy ( let's call him AP) I really fell for him, he was kind ,gentle, fun and loved my...

Fifi · Fifi

wish i had the energy to share events/feelings/responses/questions of the past few days in my life with you all and get some specific replies. but i am exhausted and definitely numb and foggy feeling and just wanted to ask you to keep me in your hearts and prayers. i am emotionally so exhausted....try...

maresie2 · maresie2

Dealing with the A, working nights (I currently work shifts) and more have left me incredibly isolated. I think I have to say my codependence also leaves me isolated. I over react, over identify, people please, martyr myself in relationships. I recently read a biography of a child growing up in an a...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting Sunday Ferbruary 4th at 9pm est Follwing the alanon meeting. Agenda Meeting Schedule. New Comer Meeting Financial Report. New Business Will hear all new business from members. If you have any new business you can send me a private email here or bring it up at the meeting. Thanks...

ally · ally

((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))) My emotions have been like a rollercoaster since Christmas. I am going through so much confusion and pain. One day I'm happy, next day I land right back down there on my butt. I was happy yesterday. And today the bottom has fallen out of my world. One of my relationshi...

evey · evey

Hello all, It has been awhile, been visiting and reading but not posting. My Ah will die of alcoholism. There it's said. I have done everything I can. So has his family. He had a withdrawel seizure at work and was taken to the hospital. Low blood count(30,000) it should be 100,000 min, fatty liver, e...

Wilted · Wilted

Yesterday my AH came home from work with not only the regular six pack he has been drinking every day, but an additional 3 six packs that a customer had stopped off at my husband's job and given him. When he shared that information with me, the first thought that popped in my head was: "Here goes...

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	My job will be ending soon (Preview) I posted before about my pending layoff. They only employed me while they needed the help. Once the work was complete I was given notice along with a dozen others. I've been seeing new faces at work too. Apparently they do this once a year. It reminded me of how the A treated me. He used me until he was f...	kissers	2	490	Feb 7, 2007 by evey
	good reading !!! (Preview) Hi alanoners, just something posted on another board, thought you would like to read it, interesting.................. Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 10:50 am Post subject: Broken Dreams I received this in a meditation this morning and wanted to share it coz it's really good!! Broken Dre...	serenity62	3	427	Feb 7, 2007 by Moon
	she didn't call........... (Preview) she said she would call. she didn't call. i don't know wether she needs me to watch baby tomorrow or not. i turned the phone off at ten p.m. it is so hard for me not to call......., '' is everything all right? does she need me tomorrow? is she out with her friends, if so, where is baby? did s...	jewely	7	542	Feb 7, 2007 by aunitedway
	TIME TO LET GO OF HIM (Preview) Just had one of the worst days of my life. My friend and I had become very close the last few months. Moved the friendship upto another level. So we were very intimate. I was very happy. I had feelings for him, I love him, have done for a long time. We ended the relationship a few weeks ago, he said he felt guil...	ally	8	680	Feb 7, 2007 by johello
	Maverick...I sent you a private message (Preview) you will see it at the top of your page by your name	Gailey	0	387	Feb 7, 2007 by Gailey
	Dating a dry A (Preview) So I haven't seen my previous A bf in weeks...I ended a 7 year relationship because I just wanted to focus on me and my kids rather than the antics of alcoholism. After an encounter at Target...go figure...Last week my post told about a date I went on with an man I have known for years . I didn't k...	kicky	9	708	Feb 7, 2007 by emma
	trapped and suffocating (Preview) I have been married to the same ah for 26 years, but recently i was dx with a chronic disabling disease. I have been given tranqulizers and pain medication to help me get through the rough spots. Last night i caught him again taking my meds and at higher than recomended doses while his was so drunk. I ca...	suzyque2	7	1111	Feb 7, 2007 by suzyque2
	How to get my brother to talk to his family after 5 years (Preview) MY brother stopped comminicating with his entire family 5 years ago with no reason at all. This includes the extended family too. After my parents hadn't heard from him and no phone calls were accepted along with returned mail, they decided to call the police in Houston. The police did a "p...	Serenity	7	597	Feb 7, 2007 by gardengal
	TRUST IN AL-ANON (Preview) (((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))) One of the most Important things in my life has always been "TRUST". I have never had much of it. I have always had so many insecurities, believing I was different from everyone else. I had this label on me, I could not be normal. Etc..... So when I joined Al-...	ally	9	1182	Feb 7, 2007 by gardengal
	Got my papers! (Preview) I turned in my questionaire paperwork yesterday to obtain a separation from my AH. They told me it could take 2-3 weeks to get the formal ones back. I was like "Whoa!" I didn't want to wait that long. Turns out I didn't have to. they called me this morning and told me they were read...	QOD	5	509	Feb 7, 2007 by carolinagirl
	FOR SHAWN (Preview) ((((((((((((((((SHAWN))))))))))))))))))) Thanks for your reply to my post.....(trust in al-anon) I would just like to say to you. You have been a good friend to me, since you joined this room. We can share things with eachother, private things. And we have trust both ways. I don't like to see my...	ally	1	516	Feb 7, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Fed up (Preview) I have been married to my husband for 28 years. His alcohol abuse has always been a big problem for me. After all these years of him treating me like crap I am filing for divorce. My question to you is, How do I find myself again? For years I became the person who made the least amount of waves so he wouldn...	AloneinNH	4	549	Feb 7, 2007 by Leetle
	What an aftermath! (Preview) It is 2 weeks ago tonight that my A ended that 11 day drinking binge he went on. Of course that's not the first long binge he's ever been on and I have watched the progressiveness of the disease over the years. The longest he ever stayed sober was for 3 yrs. and when he picked up again (about...	jaja	2	409	Feb 7, 2007 by Leetle
	the resentment stuff (Preview) I have been working super hard on the resentment issue in the last few months. I feel like I've come a long way on it. Nevertheless I had a lot of denial about how bad I've been with it. I've also been in denial about what I looked like and was like around others when I was totally consumed with a...	maresie2	2	509	Feb 7, 2007 by Leetle
	not him too! (Preview) my father's friend, the co-excutor on his will, the one who has been living in his house, the one who i have been trusting unconditionally to handle the finances of the estate......is a crack addict! i knew he was alcoholic and i dropped him off to rehab 2 weeks ago. i was at the house taking care of th...	serendipity	4	678	Feb 6, 2007 by lin0606
	Update and Thank you!!! (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) We buried my mother today, it is her birthday. This has been an incredible week -- there just aren't the words to express the emotions. We postponed everything to round up my other siblings (there are four of us) One of my brothers, who teaches in China, that I haven't se...	Lunamoth	7	530	Feb 6, 2007 by emma
	Self care (Preview) For some reason I can move heaven and earth for the A and everyone else and simple acts of caring for myself seem fraught with obstacles I can't overcome. Ask me to do something for someone else I can move through any kind of red tape. When it comes to myself however I am always getting detoured. My t...	maresie2	1	351	Feb 6, 2007 by hudsond
	Yeah but is it really a disease? (Preview) I know this is obvious and I actually accepted alcoholism as a disease along time ago, I just have a hard time applying it to him. He has hep C and cancer. I know that those are diseases and he suffers from them. Funny, they don't really come up very much. Anyway, doesn't he choose to drink? Last ni...	RainyJamie	13	1356	Feb 6, 2007 by Moon
	Stress... (Preview) *Stress*A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold...	ShelBell	5	493	Feb 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Reasons why A's drink or use (Preview) So, in the last week or so, i have read several post here & on another site with people struggling about feeling guilt about why their A's drank or use - feeling some responsibility for that & some of the other behaviors- some of my friends from my f2f meeting were also talking about this - th...	Rita G	15	736	Feb 6, 2007 by Diva
	He must be in Self-Destruct Mode! (Preview) I am in a strange mood this morning. I took my separation questionaire to my lawyer yesterday to have them officially drafted for signing. It was a weird feeling. Good but bad. Ya know. Like I am putting an end to an era. My first love - my high school love - my marriage to the only man I have ever been wi...	QOD	4	559	Feb 6, 2007 by maresie2
	He's STILL in jail - how to deal with others enabiling!!! (Preview) A is still in jail, been there since the 1st. Pretty sad when there's not a soul in the world who will give you $100 and vouch for you. Job was lost yesterday (he can't even get anyone to pick up his check and bail him out with his own money). MIL called to ask me to do it and I said no so now she's...	carolinagirl	4	489	Feb 6, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Protecting Yourself Financially - Auto Insurance? (Preview) Looking for some practical info. AH got a DUI a few weeks ago; our auto insurance agent is now trying to get ahold of him. I"m guessing they're going to cancel our insurance, or at least raise the rates. I don't give a flip about AH's coverage at this point, but I really need to have af...	sharky	6	620	Feb 6, 2007 by Diva
	I just want him out!!! (Preview) (((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) I’m in some desperate need of ES&H. For those of you that don’t know I live with my active AH. On the weekends usually in the mornings, while sober he will go into a fit of rage. It always starts with the kids not doing what they are supposed to do and then it goes on f...	shadow1	7	598	Feb 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	"i'm a victim" rant (Preview) thanks so much for your replies to my last post. the kindness and understanding flow right into me and give me new thoughts to think. i'm scared. i guess that is what it's boiling down to for me. i am seeing so much fear in myself trying to strike out and do this "live my own life" thing...	serendipity	5	791	Feb 6, 2007 by maresie2
	It's a bird! It's a plane! It's...God's will? (Preview) We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it - and stay there, lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. She will never sit down on a hot stove lid again... but also, she will never sit down on a cold one any more. --Mark Twain "Last night I asked for help, but...	Tiger2006	4	535	Feb 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Feeling insecure (Preview) Life is going good. Why do I feel so uneasy? My ah has been sober for almost 6 months. He is very active in his program-going to 10-12 meetings a week, talking to his sponsor almost every night, has others calling him and is talking to them, listening to speaker tapes at home, working his steps, yada, y...	hudsond	7	523	Feb 6, 2007 by hudsond
	Laughable! He's not ready to come home! HAHAHA (Preview) So I didn't really know what topic to use to describe this post......it is just laughable to me. Of course, I may just be a bit hysterical over it all. On Friday when I got home from work, there was a message from this guy that my AH has been trying to get a job with for the last 2-1/2 months. He had taken...	QOD	5	572	Feb 6, 2007 by QOD
	prayer answered (Preview) Ive had a prayer answered.... My brother is now in rehab. Ive prayed for some sort of help for one of my family memebers. Im so pleased with the prayer answered. My Mom is not very happy with me. I told her I couldnt fix the situation. She got mad at me and pretty much called me heartless. I told My Mom I did lov...	purplebutterfly	3	499	Feb 6, 2007 by maresie2
	Jerry F (Preview) Thank you for responding to me five days ago,,,,,,,, oh how I needed to talk to someone, how lonely, frusterated, scared I was. I couldn't send back replys, as I was not familuar with this setup of IMs, and stuff,,,,,,, I'm still learning. I just want to let you know, I found my way into the room,...	davidssibling	1	557	Feb 5, 2007 by Jerry F
	Oh my goodness kiddies!!! WOW!!! (Preview) The youthful, tanned body has become gorgeously mature. He's tall, and straight, and proud as a peacock. The blond, curly hair has become a rich silver mass of gentle curls hanging down his forehead and into his eyes. The bedroom blue eyes are even more knowing and twinkling. The badness ha...	Diva	12	818	Feb 5, 2007 by drucilla06
	HP works in mysterious ways... A reflection post (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) Tomorrow one year ago my now AH and I split up. Everything moved so quickly. My AH was drinking very heavily then. I was a mess. I was frustrated beyond belief and my life seemed to be surrounded by chaos, anger, resentment, manipulation, constant bickering. We both had had eno...	twinmom2	4	544	Feb 5, 2007 by maresie2
	He's gone AGAIN!! What am I supposed to do? (Preview) My AH has been working on getting this new job for over 2 months now. Supposedly it required tons of background work and paperwork that was taking some time. He had gotten down to the last 2 things.....the drug test and physical. He had the drug test on Friday morning. Thursday night, he took a home t...	QOD	15	706	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	I hate to do what I'm about to do.......... (Preview) Ah has left me no choice. I used to recieve foodstamps when he was a full blown alcoholic because he hoarded money so I had to go after him for child support, well.......he's doing it again. He leaves me "just enough" to pay the bills and thinks he deserves whatever he wants.....now mind...	Friendofyours	7	813	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	My mother passed this morning... ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Please keep us in your prayers. especially my father and my children. She would have been 68 on Friday. It's been a long journey.	Lunamoth	46	1526	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	Attended My First Meeting This Morning! (Preview) I just returned to my office after attending my first Al-Anon meeting...OMG, how great it was. It just "clicked" within me...while I have a LONG way to go, I really feel like a burden has been lifted from my shoulders. What wonderful people they were, and they validated my own story and help...	kellygirl	8	555	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	Is he or isn't He? (Preview) This is going to seem like such a silly question, but how can I tell for sure that my H is an alcoholic?...He left me and our 3 kids last March and is living with another woman...am I just using alcohol as an excuse for him leaving us? Yea, I'm a newbie -- Edited by kellygirl at 16:52, 2007-01-30 -...	kellygirl	6	650	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	Has anyone heard of "Celebrate Recovery"? (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum and to Al-Anon. I have started a program called "Celebrate Recovery" at a local church...has any one here heard of this program? If so...what are your thoughts? Thanks TA	TexasAngel	9	4379	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	Is staying enabling??? (Preview) My A is my husband - been married almost 23 years. About four - five years ago I started to realize he had real problems with alcohol. I've done everything I can think of - yelled, cried, badgered, reasoned, been compassionate... You know what I mean - we've all been there. Sometimes I think i...	fozzie	11	735	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	AH's Recovery & Probation (Preview) It's been a while since I have posted any sort of update on our situation here. Not sure anyone really remembers us...but good news is always a good thing to share, yes? My AH (addiction not restricted to just alcohol) has been sober now almost 7 months. He is working his program and is in constant...	Akasha	3	1023	Feb 5, 2007 by abbyal
	This one deserves a post of its own. Read this carefully and remember it could be YOU!!! (Preview) Edit Post \| Quote \| Reply Yesterday morning I nearly died! No joke here. I had stopped in to have a word with my internist. Taking a chance that she may have time to see me, and she did. We were talking about stress and how it can react, and I began telling her about the A, and how his behavior has affected my li...	Diva	23	848	Feb 5, 2007 by carolena
	tea2, please answer my question (Preview) -- Edited by John at 08:06, 2007-02-05	Serenity	3	952	Feb 5, 2007 by Serenity
	It is such a joy to me.... (Preview) to have made so many of you smile reading through the "Bad, Bad, Bill" series of posts. Renewing a cherished love relationship from so long ago has been a ray of sunshine for me too. I'll keep you all posted. So far, it's exciting as can be!!! Any of you remember the song, "B...	Diva	11	624	Feb 5, 2007 by lilms
	Touching Alanon Base (Preview) Major Ziggy to Alanon Base.......lol Today was rather eventful. My son as been sick all weekend making no improvement. This morning, his fever shot up even higher and had no clue where he was at. The baby was to be home soon from a weekend at her A dad's house. I called former AH and gave him a run d...	ZiggyDoodles	7	638	Feb 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Bad Bad Behaviour (Preview) Hi family. It's been quite a while since I started a topic, and recent events have put my skills to the test. A hearing for the criminal trial (DV) was held a few days ago. The state (not I) pressed charges and Awife and lawyer entered into a diversion agreement - it won't proceed to trial, as lon...	CJ	13	680	Feb 5, 2007 by Rita G
	New (Preview) It's me, Eve, and I just want to say, wow, the chat room is such a great place. Three days ago I found it, and there was a converstaion or many conversations happening. Thought maybe I was in wrong room. I asked if it was really a room for al-anon, and the people stopped the chit chat, and asked how I was,...	davidssibling	7	626	Feb 5, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Clarification of my previous post -"AH Still Gone but not Missing" (Preview) I feel there may be some clarification needed regarding my last post. Obsession? There is no obsession when it comes to tracking my AH's credit card transactions. Only concern. 1st - I am not tracking him 24/7 or even at home. I do not have a computer at home. So there is NO - ZERO - neglect towar...	QOD	5	856	Feb 5, 2007 by QOD
	It might be time... (Preview) I think I'm ready to give my A husband a choice. I know choice is just a fancy word for ultimatum, and ultimatums generally don't work (see all the wonderful replies to my previous post), but this is for myself and the kids. We had a big family weekend this weekend at my parents' house. The...	fozzie	4	624	Feb 5, 2007 by maresie2
	daily petty irratations (Preview) my ex ah and i spend alot of time together with the kids. it is for the most part tolerable and fun. buti'll start relating a story that i've heard on the news and he inturupts me with something more important. so, i see, he is just being rude. it is part of his mania taking hold again. all the signs a...	serendipity	4	671	Feb 4, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Jelous of AH at times.....too twisted? (Preview) Sometimes I am actually jelous of my AH...a small part of me envy's his seemingly carefree existance with the bartender skank in the smoke filled trailor. No bills, no nagging wife, no children throwing up at 3 o'clock in the morning, no toilets to plunge or dog poo to pick up. just a carefree e...	kellygirl	11	664	Feb 4, 2007 by AndiLynn
	The last straw (Preview) I did some research yesterday about the arrest and am just feeling resigned to the idea that this is just the way it's gonna be and it's time for me to move on. I thought I was moving on before but still had that string of hope that we might get back together someday, that he would get better. I am a...	carolinagirl	3	468	Feb 4, 2007 by doxie
	Moving on from being totally mired in resentment (Preview) As some of you may remember when I first came into this room more than a year ago I was absolutely lost in resentment and chaos with the A. I have definitely had my moments over the past year. I've been totally desolate at times, I have also been petrified at what the A might do next. I never did see the...	maresie2	2	576	Feb 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	Sober but troubles... (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) Well as I heard a few times when first coming to this program, you will need this work probably more when your A gets sober. It is becoming more and more true. I was just so glad to have him "back" in this world that I was pretty much just staying put, sticking with him like gl...	hersh	8	614	Feb 4, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Alcohol II The Movie ( long post) (Preview) I would like to tell you why I am on this forum. I left my AexH who was a violent drunk when my son Sam (that's him on the left) was three, his sister two and his brother, a baby. A couple of years after leaving him I met a guy ( let's call him AP) I really fell for him, he was kind ,gentle, fun and loved my...	Marianne	7	657	Feb 4, 2007 by Susan K
	asking for prayers (Preview) wish i had the energy to share events/feelings/responses/questions of the past few days in my life with you all and get some specific replies. but i am exhausted and definitely numb and foggy feeling and just wanted to ask you to keep me in your hearts and prayers. i am emotionally so exhausted....try...	Fifi	11	572	Feb 4, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Being isolated (Preview) Dealing with the A, working nights (I currently work shifts) and more have left me incredibly isolated. I think I have to say my codependence also leaves me isolated. I over react, over identify, people please, martyr myself in relationships. I recently read a biography of a child growing up in an a...	maresie2	5	500	Feb 4, 2007 by Leetle
	Business Meeting (Preview) Business Meeting Sunday Ferbruary 4th at 9pm est Follwing the alanon meeting. Agenda Meeting Schedule. New Comer Meeting Financial Report. New Business Will hear all new business from members. If you have any new business you can send me a private email here or bring it up at the meeting. Thanks...	kerry5	2	460	Feb 3, 2007 by kerry5
	WHY DO RELATIONSHIPS CAUSE SO MUCH PAIN (Preview) ((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))) My emotions have been like a rollercoaster since Christmas. I am going through so much confusion and pain. One day I'm happy, next day I land right back down there on my butt. I was happy yesterday. And today the bottom has fallen out of my world. One of my relationshi...	ally	9	772	Feb 3, 2007 by marty
	acceptance of reality (Preview) Hello all, It has been awhile, been visiting and reading but not posting. My Ah will die of alcoholism. There it's said. I have done everything I can. So has his family. He had a withdrawel seizure at work and was taken to the hospital. Low blood count(30,000) it should be 100,000 min, fatty liver, e...	evey	2	450	Feb 3, 2007 by evey
	The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak... (Preview) Yesterday my AH came home from work with not only the regular six pack he has been drinking every day, but an additional 3 six packs that a customer had stopped off at my husband's job and given him. When he shared that information with me, the first thought that popped in my head was: "Here goes...	Wilted	5	533	Feb 3, 2007 by CJ
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