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Jennifer


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Well I asked for it .... and now the meeting is set. I guess my HP isn't really concerned with my financial problems since nothing happened today about that.

What did happen .. my inquiries into returning to school were answered. I have an appointment set to meet with a counselor. I'm a little scared, can I really deal with getting divorced, going bankrupt and going back to school for the first time in 15 years, moving home with my parents, work? The school situation sounds almost ideal but the rest? And honestly I probably would be approved for every grant out there right about now considering LOL

Meanwhile it appears my A missed another court date, perhaps this time they will not allow bail or a signature bond. I can keep hoping. I feel bad that he is not making decisions to move forward like I am. i have to trust that HP has him exactly where he is supposed to be. I wonder though why does anyone need to be in such a hellish place?

I had a vision of myself in a certain situation far into the future. Say a prayer for me that it is what my HP intends .... it was so very nice. I think I would be truly happy there. Fulfilled in most every way, inside and out.

Thanks Jennifer

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evey


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(((Jennifer)))

You should be proud of yourself, nothing changes if nothing changes, I need to put that into action for myself, it is inspiring for me to see the courage you have to make that change. To answer your question, yes you can deal with it, piece by piece you will rebuild yourself, congratulations for having the guts to start.


evey

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Jerry F


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Aloha Jenn!!

Keep going you're making progress.  Some focus on your alcoholic but good focus on yourself and what you want to do with your life.   Take little bites and stay in the moment.  It's okay to dream and better to do without expectations.  Program your life and work your program.  Good luck with the counselor. They are kinda like an education sponsor.

(((((hugs))))))

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Diva


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Evey and Jerry F have said it all. Just tossing in my best wishes.  You can handle it.  Go girl! 

Diva

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maresie2


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The  A I live with is on some low spin.  He does nothing much all day. He barely exists on the money he makes.  Normally I would be terribly hurt, resentful and angry.  Since I've given up on him being a boyfriend I can ccept it now.

I admire your detatchment. I have to really work on having detachment. I also have to for me work on getting as much support as I can.

I am glad I am moving forward. I do not know how long it will take me to get to the leaving part. There are many many things for me to sort out. I overcame one financial obstacle only to encounter another. I reach out a lot more these days.

I have dreams that I might one day have a real partnership. I know now what one doesn't look like. I do hold you in my prayers. I do hope you will make it through these difficult times. 
I can only imagine what it is to give up a house.  I know for me last November was a turning point. My fear was at an all time high.I felt poised on catastrophe. A friend was really "there" for me and I felt like even if the worst catastrophe happened I would still survive.  I know I will survive and I  will come out of this relatioship different, stronger, more centered, clearer than I have ever been.

Thank you for sharing. I sometimes feel so alone in the messes the A creates and the insecurity and the mess.  I also know I contributed to the mess at certain points and my non contribution is very very new.

Maresie.



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your  .  im so proud of you to go back to school  thats wonderful.   

trying not to project can be hard at times especiailly when the thoughts that grab at me are negative.  Today,  i thrive on being able to focus ahead.,  stay in the now.  to be able to look forward.  ever  positive.  i'm continuiously reminding  myself ~   I know I can     Let Go and Let my HP/God have those things, "stuff'"      thoughts     that might be trying to stop me.      

     i can  take it one step at a time    and  remember,  i have support of my friends and my program,  to always be true and good to me.  i know i will   and i do see and feel the changing.    its a good feeling.    those that love me see and feel it too.  thats even better.


your in my thoughts and prayers ((((jennifer))))  so glad yourHere

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