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HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...

carolena · carolena

Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...

serendipity · serendipity

I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...

wp · wp

Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN *DAYLIGHT* time, about 3AM EASTERN *STANDARD* time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...

serendipity · serendipity

is there a trick i don't know?

albertarose · albertarose

When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...

Maria123 · Maria123

Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose

. I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria

serendipity · serendipity

My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...

lilms · lilms

I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...

serenity62 · serenity62

HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...

Tammy · Tammy

Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...

Tammy · Tammy

As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...

andrea · andrea

Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends))))) Am still not ready to write about plan B, having a hard enough time just figuring it out. I do have a bright spot to look forward to. I have been invited to a chocolate tasting. How yummy is that????

Have a great day all lilms

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((Roomies)))))))) I have received notice that the server is being moved and the chat room will be down. "Due to a move to a new DataCentre, Chat4all will be down between 22:30 CET, 12/04/2007 and 8:00 CET, 13/04/2007." This converts to 4:30 pm est to 2:00 am est I think lol. Hope th...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Administrative Professional's Day is April 25th. I want to send good wishes in advance to all Alanoners who serve in Al-Anon as leaders of meetings, as sponsors, as greeters, as members who give financial support when the basket is passed or through giving online, as someone who reaches out to newco...

andrea · andrea

Hi, I'm new at this, I hope I can get some insight on how to understand my son, I do now that he is using drugs and now has started drinking by himself at night so he can fall asleep, and then in the morning can't get up to go to work, he is 22 years old has not finished high school and has no futur in front of him. I h...

TLM · TLM

I am so being tested right now! Okay, sometimes my A is sober and works his program, and sometimes not. And that is testing me, but I am praying and trying really hard to have serenity around it, and take care of myself. NOW the receptionist in my office, who sits closest to me, has taken to drinking on h...

maresie2 · maresie2

I managed to find something temporary for a few weeks. It is not the answer I need but it is something and will mean I am not homeless for at least a few weeks. I am going to have to take on another job on top of that. I simply cannot bear to be around the A anymore. I have to go get my cats and a few things and then I...

Kim65 · Kim65

A few days ago I posted about 'losing it' with my A. He'd just come home after another week long binge. I told him to leave, and he refused. I remember feeling that rage shoot up through my body . . . I felt violence, hatred and despair. Then I posted here, which centered me. So after sleeping it off for a...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Just when I'm doing ok he calls. We talk like we always have. He listens to me and I listen to him. We talk and talk and talk. We hang up the phone and the tears fill my eyes. I miss him so much. I wish these calls were coming 5 years from now and he were to tell me that he's been straight. He may have his rea...

LaDawn · LaDawn

So I was watching Oprah today and it was about addictions this man on there was an alcoholic for over 50 years and he went through a research trial on a medication (a pill) that would reduce cravings for alcohol, he said after taking the first pill he never craved alcohol again and had been sober for 2 year...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

-- Edited by JulieLynn at 19:33, 2007-04-11

maresie2 · maresie2

I've been with the A at this address for 7 years. One of my principal hobbies has been the garden. I've hauled in soil, fertlizer, planed bushes, got pots, the place looked great. When the whole issue of moving came up I told the A over and over again that I wanted to make sure that all the plants went to peop...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

I will try to pray, even when I am afraid to face You and myself, even when I keep falling asleep, or feel as though I am going around in circles, even when it seems that nothing is happening. . . . Let me see myself in the light of Your mercy and choose You. --HENRI NOUWEN ======================== This is th...

serendipity · serendipity

I came to the awareness that when my ex was "in love" with me, willing to do whatever I wanted, here at my beck and call, I couldn't stand him. I hated him. As soon as he pulled away I was heartbroken "oh how could he when I loved him so much." Or I would be stumped by the timing of me feel...

CJ · CJ

(((Family))) Thanks so much for the kind words and well wishes from my last post. I'm home safe along with the rest of the crew I work with. It was very nice to know and feel cared about, so thanks. Side note: A sibling of mine, whose marriage I though was very strong, is going through a tough time. I ca...

debilyn · debilyn

Where did ya go??? love,debilyn

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...

cloud123 · cloud123

Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...

letitb · letitb

OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...

maresie2 · maresie2

At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...

Diva · Diva

in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

I am a woman in my late 30's who is currently going through a very drawn out divorce with a verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive man. My husband was not an alcoholic or a drug user. Divorce papers were filed over this past summer after we were seperated for 8 months. i had been involved with...

lilms · lilms

Alright, This will be the last you all here from me on this subject

I did indeed find peeps (walmart) and bought a package of pink ones. OMG they are way to sweet for me but now I can say I have demolished a peep.

lilms

lilms · lilms

I have started working over the past couple of days on a plan B. I hate it. Will try this again later, too hard to write. love ya all bunches lilms

Diva · Diva

the phrase, "dry drunk." Does this mean that the person no longer drinks, but is still a maybe controlling, maybe combative, maybe unfaithful, maybe violent jerk? The world is loaded with jerks, both alcoholic and not. Explain to me...I am open to listening to the definition. I am no...

serendipity · serendipity

My 4 year old LOVES getting doggie kisses....from the dog. Besides the grossness factor is there any reason that she should not get sloppy doggie kisses all over her face? Any diseases? She just cracks up which ofcourse makes us all giggle......

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((MIP Friends)) Hope everyone had a blessed Easter weekend. My weekend started off great. The kids and I had off on Good Friday. We got a lot done. Friday night my brother kept the kids for the night so my AH and I could go out and do something and be able to sleep in a little Saturday morning. I envited...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...

TLM · TLM

I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...

lilms · lilms

Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me)

proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me)

hope thi...

artygirl · artygirl

Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...

carolena · carolena

Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.

Leetle · Leetle

Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (my poor back). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.

Angel1 · Angel1

As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...

maresie2 · maresie2

I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...

wp · wp

Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...

Maria123 · Maria123

ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...

debilyn · debilyn

my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...

netty34ny · netty34ny

Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Why are some days harder than others? (Preview) Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	548	Apr 12, 2007 by nmike
	sad, trying to detach, venting (Preview) Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...	carolena	7	528	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	I have to leave it alone (Preview) I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...	serendipity	2	654	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	arrival of peeps! (Preview) Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw	wp	7	487	Apr 12, 2007 by ErinB
	CHAT ROOM CLOSED AS ANNOUNCED ... (Preview) See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN DAYLIGHT time, about 3AM EASTERN STANDARD time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...	Sunny2007	1	448	Apr 12, 2007 by shadow1
	can't get into chat (Preview) is there a trick i don't know?	serendipity	3	465	Apr 12, 2007 by serendipity
	Was asked to be Alanon speaker for a function in my area. (Preview) When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...	albertarose	10	2830	Apr 12, 2007 by albertarose
	Birthday (Preview) Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose . I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria	Maria123	9	613	Apr 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	There is STILL no bread at the hardware store (Preview) My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...	serendipity	8	646	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Confused, are we rating posts now? (Preview) I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...	lilms	10	936	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	I got a SPONSOR :) (Preview) HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...	serenity62	4	434	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	just another day in paradise :( (Preview) Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...	Tammy	4	539	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	DIVA, I HAVE THE BOOK!!!! (Preview) ((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...	lilms	5	502	Apr 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	okay, NOW what ????? (Preview) As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...	Tammy	6	616	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	Another DWI for AH, financially ruined (Preview) My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...	Lindy	10	620	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	need help understanding my son (Preview) Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...	andrea	8	681	Apr 12, 2007 by mel123
	How do you handle irresponsability? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...	rtexas	7	673	Apr 11, 2007 by wp
	A bright spot amidst plan B (Preview) ((((Friends))))) Am still not ready to write about plan B, having a hard enough time just figuring it out. I do have a bright spot to look forward to. I have been invited to a chocolate tasting. How yummy is that???? Have a great day all lilms	lilms	9	667	Apr 11, 2007 by wp
	NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13 (Preview) ((((((((((Roomies)))))))) I have received notice that the server is being moved and the chat room will be down. "Due to a move to a new DataCentre, Chat4all will be down between 22:30 CET, 12/04/2007 and 8:00 CET, 13/04/2007." This converts to 4:30 pm est to 2:00 am est I think lol. Hope th...	shadow1	2	522	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	good wishes in advance (Preview) Administrative Professional's Day is April 25th. I want to send good wishes in advance to all Alanoners who serve in Al-Anon as leaders of meetings, as sponsors, as greeters, as members who give financial support when the basket is passed or through giving online, as someone who reaches out to newco...	Sunny2007	3	575	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	need help understanding my son (Preview) Hi, I'm new at this, I hope I can get some insight on how to understand my son, I do now that he is using drugs and now has started drinking by himself at night so he can fall asleep, and then in the morning can't get up to go to work, he is 22 years old has not finished high school and has no futur in front of him. I h...	andrea	8	728	Apr 11, 2007 by andrea
	What is the lesson here???? (Preview) I am so being tested right now! Okay, sometimes my A is sober and works his program, and sometimes not. And that is testing me, but I am praying and trying really hard to have serenity around it, and take care of myself. NOW the receptionist in my office, who sits closest to me, has taken to drinking on h...	TLM	7	639	Apr 11, 2007 by QOD
	starting over (Preview) I managed to find something temporary for a few weeks. It is not the answer I need but it is something and will mean I am not homeless for at least a few weeks. I am going to have to take on another job on top of that. I simply cannot bear to be around the A anymore. I have to go get my cats and a few things and then I...	maresie2	9	468	Apr 11, 2007 by QOD
	Speaking of expectations . . . (Preview) A few days ago I posted about 'losing it' with my A. He'd just come home after another week long binge. I told him to leave, and he refused. I remember feeling that rage shoot up through my body . . . I felt violence, hatred and despair. Then I posted here, which centered me. So after sleeping it off for a...	Kim65	2	638	Apr 11, 2007 by TLM
	Another day missing him bad!! Trying to stay strong (Preview) Just when I'm doing ok he calls. We talk like we always have. He listens to me and I listen to him. We talk and talk and talk. We hang up the phone and the tears fill my eyes. I miss him so much. I wish these calls were coming 5 years from now and he were to tell me that he's been straight. He may have his rea...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	17	755	Apr 11, 2007 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	Any luck with prescription meds to reduce alcohol cravings???? (Preview) So I was watching Oprah today and it was about addictions this man on there was an alcoholic for over 50 years and he went through a research trial on a medication (a pill) that would reduce cravings for alcohol, he said after taking the first pill he never craved alcohol again and had been sober for 2 year...	LaDawn	12	1210	Apr 11, 2007 by sash
	A perfect example of expectations leading to disappointment (Preview) -- Edited by JulieLynn at 19:33, 2007-04-11	JulieLynn	4	800	Apr 11, 2007 by twinmom2
	the garden (Preview) I've been with the A at this address for 7 years. One of my principal hobbies has been the garden. I've hauled in soil, fertlizer, planed bushes, got pots, the place looked great. When the whole issue of moving came up I told the A over and over again that I wanted to make sure that all the plants went to peop...	maresie2	4	563	Apr 11, 2007 by TLC2
	spiritual food (Preview) I will try to pray, even when I am afraid to face You and myself, even when I keep falling asleep, or feel as though I am going around in circles, even when it seems that nothing is happening. . . . Let me see myself in the light of Your mercy and choose You. --HENRI NOUWEN ======================== This is th...	Sunny2007	3	405	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	acceptance and action (Preview) I came to the awareness that when my ex was "in love" with me, willing to do whatever I wanted, here at my beck and call, I couldn't stand him. I hated him. As soon as he pulled away I was heartbroken "oh how could he when I loved him so much." Or I would be stumped by the timing of me feel...	serendipity	6	509	Apr 11, 2007 by serendipity
	Love you guys n dolls (Preview) (((Family))) Thanks so much for the kind words and well wishes from my last post. I'm home safe along with the rest of the crew I work with. It was very nice to know and feel cared about, so thanks. Side note: A sibling of mine, whose marriage I though was very strong, is going through a tough time. I ca...	CJ	10	1020	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	sunny (Preview) Where did ya go??? love,debilyn	debilyn	3	972	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	denial denial denial (Preview) The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...	maresie2	4	658	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Insanity and alcoholism (Preview) Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...	maire rua	4	583	Apr 10, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Happy Easter Love clouds family..New pics of the baby (TYLER) & Brianna (Preview) Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...	cloud123	7	536	Apr 10, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Having a bad day (Preview) At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...	RainyJamie	7	679	Apr 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Finding Peace and Serenity (Preview) Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...	BlueCloud	3	595	Apr 10, 2007 by Kim65
	quick insight needed on "investing" in my SO (Preview) OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...	letitb	9	1069	Apr 10, 2007 by Mobirdie
	doing ok today, after two days of visits w/ my A (Preview) The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...	hippietrippiechick	1	430	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	repeating patterns (Preview) At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...	maresie2	4	417	Apr 10, 2007 by emma
	for those of you who are interested.... (Preview) in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva	Diva	6	722	Apr 10, 2007 by Diva
	The end of a relationship with an alcoholic (Preview) I am a woman in my late 30's who is currently going through a very drawn out divorce with a verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive man. My husband was not an alcoholic or a drug user. Divorce papers were filed over this past summer after we were seperated for 8 months. i had been involved with...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	13	3563	Apr 10, 2007 by Cucamonga
	I FOUND A PEEP!!! (Preview) Alright, This will be the last you all here from me on this subject I did indeed find peeps (walmart) and bought a package of pink ones. OMG they are way to sweet for me but now I can say I have demolished a peep. lilms	lilms	3	539	Apr 10, 2007 by Karilynn
	Plan B in progress and it sucks (Preview) I have started working over the past couple of days on a plan B. I hate it. Will try this again later, too hard to write. love ya all bunches lilms	lilms	8	577	Apr 9, 2007 by debilyn
	Someone please explain to me... (Preview) the phrase, "dry drunk." Does this mean that the person no longer drinks, but is still a maybe controlling, maybe combative, maybe unfaithful, maybe violent jerk? The world is loaded with jerks, both alcoholic and not. Explain to me...I am open to listening to the definition. I am no...	Diva	10	681	Apr 9, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	quick ? for my animal lover friends (Preview) My 4 year old LOVES getting doggie kisses....from the dog. Besides the grossness factor is there any reason that she should not get sloppy doggie kisses all over her face? Any diseases? She just cracks up which ofcourse makes us all giggle......	serendipity	3	497	Apr 9, 2007 by debilyn
	Need ESH...what to do when the A gets drunk in front of friends (Preview) ((MIP Friends)) Hope everyone had a blessed Easter weekend. My weekend started off great. The kids and I had off on Good Friday. We got a lot done. Friday night my brother kept the kids for the night so my AH and I could go out and do something and be able to sleep in a little Saturday morning. I envited...	twinmom2	13	749	Apr 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	sometimes it stinks to be right (Preview) my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...	serendipity	1	510	Apr 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Thank You all for your wisdom (Preview) I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...	TLM	0	479	Apr 9, 2007 by TLM
	Ally (Preview) Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me) proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me) hope thi...	lilms	0	507	Apr 9, 2007 by lilms
	alcoholic "flashback" (Preview) Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...	artygirl	4	740	Apr 9, 2007 by Leetle
	new ggrandson (Preview) Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.	carolena	6	481	Apr 9, 2007 by Rita G
	Plan B (Preview) Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (*my poor back*). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.	Leetle	2	433	Apr 9, 2007 by Maria123
	Rebuilding self-esteem (Preview) As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...	Angel1	6	735	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	still in pain (Preview) I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...	maresie2	3	518	Apr 9, 2007 by QOD
	Proof of Peeps 2 both posts have pics (Preview) Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07	wp	2	667	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	New and needing to vent. (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...	Denoraphy	6	649	Apr 9, 2007 by cloud123
	All I Need to Know I Learned from the Easter Bunny (Preview) ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...	Maria123	8	1503	Apr 9, 2007 by frantic
	doxie, dry drunk progressive (Preview) my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...	debilyn	2	499	Apr 9, 2007 by mel123
	~New to Alanon~ (Preview) Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...	netty34ny	4	577	Apr 8, 2007 by lin0606
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