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At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew they were unhappy with me but I didn't know why, so I just tried to work faster. By the end of the shift the supervisor approached me and asked if I was having a hard time with the other co-workers. I was ignoring it untill that point, but when I tried to talk about it my voice got all shaky (really humiliating on my part). He said I was a hard worker and had a great attitude, but that the co-workers should have orienteed me a little for day shift. He explained some of what they were complaining about, and it was news to me! Why couldn't they just have come out and said something to me? I was so shaken up I sobbed in the car. Those other workers are really unpleasant. I've seen them gossip and complain about other people, to know they are doing it about me breaks my heart. I really don't want to go back and deal with them. The supervisor knew what was going on, but that is poor consolation. I have to admit, I considered having one of AH's "hidden" beers. I had a hard enough day anyway. But I'm just going to have to grin and bear it. Anyway, thanks for letting me get this out. Jamie
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Your not an alcoholic so a beer would not have hurt you. Take a hot bath, pop open that beer and relax and let that stress roll off. Nothing wrong with that sweetheart. You need to unwind. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. I'm about to go to sleep for the night so your in my prayers. Good night sweetie and I wish you a better tomorrow. xoxox
Some people just like the chaos of talking about people complaining and just arent happy until someone has the target on their back. Be strong, and dont let them get to you.. ( I know easier said than done) but try... I love the HOT bubble bath :) with my IPOD and candles.... AHHHHHHH, now that is a stress reliever..
oh honey, My tenant was on nights and changed to days to get week ends off.It was so awful she went back to nights.
the other gals would not get off their butts to help, were not a team at all.
Sometimes a group of people put off a very bad atmosphere.
When I worked in the school system as a sp. ed tutor I among others got changed to a different school several years in a row. It was awful. I was always the new one and they acted like I was a dummy and in their territory.
Remember all we can do is change how we deal with it. Stupid not to have someone talk to you anyway. I mean there should be someone appointed to do that on their job description.
Was actually the managers fault.
Can you go back to your other shift?
am glad you came here. You have enough bs at home with out having to go to work and deal with it there too.
Sometimes, some people just make up their minds to be unhappy. Yes, it would have been infinitely easier had they just told you the mistakes you were making, but some folks just can't seem to do that. Also, I think people who work shift work together for a long time develop something of a pack mentality, and you are new to the shift, so outside the pack. That part will pass.
If it were me, I wouldn't give it another thought. Sandle season is coming-- go out get a pedicure!!!!
Of course you are emotional - You are working your bottom off, thinking you are doing what is suppose to be done only to find out it was WRONG and No one bothered to tell you. Of course that is disappointing & discouraging - not to mention the stress from home.
Hope you were able to relax & breathe last night -
The stuff at work - the people not helping at work - It's like the Drinking - It's not about YOU. It's all in their own garden of self.
Just take care of our Jamie. Your supervisor noticed that you are a hard worker. That's a good thing!! Try to keep positive - do what you know is the Next Right Thing. And remember you are doing this for the greater good of you & your kids. That is what is most important.
If you begin to feel overwhelmed at work, on your break go to the restroom, lock the door - look in the mirror & say "Jamie, this is not about you - You are a good person & your HP Loves YOU & So does all of your MIP Family" Plus it also helps to make a funny face in the mirror - if anything it will help you smile :)
Hope you have a great day, Jamie!!
Peace, Rita
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I know what it feels like to work wth a bunch of gossipy, mean people that talk behind your back. I always wondered why they couldn't just tell someone what they were doing wrong instead of whispering about people behind their backs. It took me a long time to realize that in the big scheme of things, they mean nothing. In the end, if the supervisor likes you, everything should be okay. Remember, these people don't matter and don't let them have the power to make you feel bad. When I finally gave up caring about what others said about me behind my back, they gave up talking about me because it just didn't have any effect anymore. Hope you're feeling better. Lindy
Hi, Thanks so much everyone, there is a lot of good stuff here that I couldn't get anywhere else. So many things mentioned were true- the supervisor likes me, the other workers have a "pack mentality", in the whole scheme of things this isn't going to matter very much, sandal season is coming up, and a beer and/or a bath wouldn't hurt me. Most of all HP and MIP love and are there for me
debilyn wrote: Sometimes a group of people put off a very bad atmosphere.
Can you go back to your other shift?
am glad you came here. You have enough bs at home with out having to go to work and deal with it there too.
what are your options? love,debilyn
I would love to go back to the other shift, and could. But here's the truth-
When I worked the evening shift, oftentimes I would call home on break to find my AH was not home, but the kids were. He would slip out the door without saying anything to them, so they never knew where he was or even how long he'd been gone. I couldn't keep my mind off of what he was doing, when he would be back, and if the kids (8 & 10 year old girls) were safe. I would be angry, stressed, and worried. Any attempts to communicate this with him failed. He would insist he only slipped out for a minute, and only then because he really had to (not to drink a beer or two at all). I could not reason with him. He would agree with me, but do it again. In addition, the care he took for them when he was home still left something to be desired (I might have previously mentioned it), and my daughter would often complain that he was drunk and grumpy. That made me go to the waiting list for the day shift. Now that I'm in on the much sought after day shift team, I would love to go back to nights, but I think dealing with theese [insert unpleasant plural noun here] is just part of my pennance. I have to take care of those girls at home. Thanks everyone, I'll get through this, and if I don't, it's only because I will have found something better. Great place to air work related grievances!
Jamie
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