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HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

First, I want to thank everyone on this board who posts. I have learned so much from you all. I have learned that my "feelings" are quite normal and that the most important thing I can do is not continuously worry about my ex A b/f, but instead to worry about myself and MY recovery from all I'v...

boricuaGA · boricuaGA

Hello everybody, Today I woke up with such a high hope in my heart. Yesterday I went to the bookstore and picked up Melody Beattie's Codeependents Guide To The Twelve Steps. WOW...what an awesome book filled with allowing you to see the revelations that have been there all along. I read the first cha...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

The amount of anger and rage I have for my AH today could probably power the entire city. Just came back from the body shop, this A... hole caused 5K worth of damage to my van. Not to mention I have to sell my home, and probably go through 7 years of bad credit because I can't pay on my credit card debt right n...

boricuaGA · boricuaGA

I am not certain when i can make it to an al-anon meeting...i have a young son and have not found a meeting in my area with babysitting. in the mean time i need to get a book to help me deal with this and better myself. what ive learned so far is that i NEED to detach your suggestions are appreciated...

Gailey · Gailey

I am not having a very good morning. I am having a hard time keeping the focus on me. A son seemed to be doing very well lately (still drinking but not having any problems that I know of). This morning seems to be a not so good morning for him. I did not ask questions but now I find myself projecting alot. I just...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I just got back from my vacation in Alabama with the 3 kids (driving)...and I was sick when I left and even sicker when I got home. Thought I was going to die on Sunday and went to the dr. on Monday. Looks like I might have pneumonia and am on serious antibiotics. My home computer has a terrible viru...

david62 · david62

Happy April 17th! (((((((((((Family))))))))))))) Did that title get your attention??? He he he Today is my 3 year Al-anon birthday! It's funny the way time works for me, its duality. On one hand, it seems like just yesterday when I crawled on my knees into that first recovery experience. In other...

evey · evey

Hello All, I've hit a brick wall in terms of my plan b. For the past two years I have been steadily making progress with it. Now I may, state again may, have a good job opportunity but, isn't there always a but, there is a 90 minute commute involved and I have a 10 year old son. I would be gone from 6a.m to 6p.m....

serendipity · serendipity

I just don't get it. My ex ah just called and I stupidly took the call. Then i stupidly got into it with him. Why? He is with someone new. He told me to stop spreding rumors. he is sober, sane and the girl he is with has 14c years in the program. This is crazy!!!! he has been sober like 6 months, he did what he did t...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, Hope I meet you all well. I have not posted here in a while, and have not been to a face2face since last week thursday. have been so busy with business and things are going ok at home. I was feeling that I am getting away from this wonderful program that brought me this serenity. So here I am checkin...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Well, I did it. I attended my first AA meeting last night. It was kinda how I imagined it to be. There must have been about 45-50 people there. Everyone in the room "shared" except me and my girlfriend that I brought with me and one other person. When they got to me, I just said, "No th...

weggie · weggie

Hello to everyone, this is my first time looking for help online. I have been going to Al-laon meetings when I could. To make a long story short, I have been married to an a for 37 years. I know thru the process that I am an anabler. I have found God and he has helped me thru trouble times. This last inci...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

hi & love to all, i'm in physical pain today (monday) since waking up .... have proper medical care, medicines, etc. ... this is nothing new ... the symptoms had been better for a while ...... this is pattern over last 2 years due to a specific diagnosis of nerve damage in both arms from neck to finge...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

WHEN I entered the Army medical center on base 20 minutes prior to delivering my baby, I had a hard time convincing the staff that I was definitely in the last stages of labor. We had waited 10 minutes in the pre-admittance area when a nurse finally came in and said, "My name is Captain Smith, but you...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH and I have a joint checking account. He is nickel and diming us to death! He thinks it is no big deal to take out $20 per day (or more)...it adds up! I would like to take his name off our account. Does anyone know if I can do this without his permission? I don't feel like I am necessarily trying to control h...

boricuaGA · boricuaGA

This morning I felt great, and I still feel good...just not 'great'... Through out the day I've been doing my research and reading and I have come to realize that I am an enabler. I'm a provoker and sometimes a martyr. What a horrible thing to come to realize. It doesn't feel good, but at the same time,...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((MIP Friends)) For those who have not been updated, my AH is now in a detox facility. He has been there since Monday. I left him with a generous amount of cigarettes and change. The change is all gone so I have not heard from him today. I did phone the nurse to get an update about how he's doing. The nur...

angel123 · angel123

Hope you enjoy love sharon/angel

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

...that things are going OK or at least stable. I have been working so things at home have gone a little on the back burner. My AH is really nice about me being lazy (tired from work), and even though we bicker about stupid stuff (like who directed what movie) there have been no tear stained arguments. I wa...

angel123 · angel123

Where do I begin? I had a stroke on Good Friday, I learned many things that were wrong with my health during my time in Hospital, blood pressure and other things like cloistral triglycerides ,Checking for diabetic few other things. My world has changed upside down and inside out. The doctor wanted to p...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

When I first came into the rooms of Alanon I didn't know anything about alcoholism. It was not until I walked thru the doors of Alanon that I realized that even though it was years later that I would have to personally deal with the disease (my brother, son, and husband), I had lived with the effects of a...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

My AH is 90 days sober. He is going to meetings and working a program as am I. Home life is calm and we are really communicating. He seems happier then he has in years. Very grateful for Alanon for showing me how to let go and let God. Trying to take this one day at a time but think it is a good thing to shar...

gimmpy · gimmpy

I was wondering if I wrote out a contract or expectations of my 19 year old if that would be dumb. I seem to have a difficult time setting them verbally. Someone recently told me that I need to get a back bone instead of a wish bone.. True, but easier said then done. I am always angry now. I come hame and she an...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A is playing the same old song. He is acting like it is something incredible to go up there and live with him. Like I am just waiting around to do that. I am not of course but he can't see that. Of course he can only ever see his own point of view. He's left everything to the last minute and is in a panic. ...

boricuaGA · boricuaGA

Today is a better day than yesterday...why? Because I have made the choice for it to be. Yesterday was the first time I made a choice to reach out to Al-Anon...and I am so thankful I did. After being on the boards and reading everybody's experience, it felt like a relief...like a release. I didnt make i...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Please pray for me to have the strength to stop contacting my A. He is far too into his disease, and I have my own issues to work on. I just found out he does nothing but party over there, and will be having a lady sharing his hotel room for a few days. I give. That's it. I am sick of the BS. I want to get better. I am...

marie096 · marie096

I was very glad I started going to Al-Anon meeting. Although it was my first meeting, I could identify with the things I heard because I live them daily. It seems like a step by step process and a new outlook on life, myself, and my husband. I plan to go back. I have many unanswered questions and I feel m...

newday · newday

Ok...been here and trying to work a good program for about 3 years...recently changed my username. Spent 7 years trying to change/control/cure an A....lol. I finally made the decision to let him go. I was feeling so much better...less chaos...less drama. Along came an old friend who asked me to di...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi everyone, Needed to get this out of my head also, as i have alot of other things in there. I need to let this one out. So i can see it here rather than continously thinking about something that doesnt matter. Today is the anniversary of my mothers death. I have grieved, and i am ok with it now. I still have i...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I guess since my last post, I made one mistake by calling this morning to my A at the hotel and his new girl answered. Basically, I do not need to go into all of it. I can't go back with a man who has cheated on me. That drunk just lost out to a very sweet woman who truly lovs him. I don't know him anymore. I want to k...

Diva · Diva

I am on the third day of an intestinal upset that is at least miserable. At worse, REALLY miserable. Cannot travel like this. Tomorrow is our last chance to hit the road. Hope I feel better by then. One of the many good things about being retired is that we can go when the mood strikes us, so I can put th...

babysteps · babysteps

I have asked my AH the following over and over again... A) "Please don't drink and drive." B) "Please don't take my car without asking" C) "Please say goodbye to me when you go somewhere" I ask these things of him because A) drinking & driving is dangerous and ille...

angel123 · angel123

Great slogan for me today,Hope you enjoy love Sharon/angel

boricuaGA · boricuaGA

hello, this is my very first time on this forum. i have so many different emotions inside that its just bundled up into this knot in my stomach. im not sure what even to say, but here goes... recently my fiance admitted to me that he is an A...almost 1 month ago...things have been occuring that have cause...

Leetle · Leetle

I don't know what I expected when I decided that I couldn't live with my A b/f upon his release from jail. I know I didn't think it would be easy, but I guess I was hoping it wouldn't be this hard. He is giving me the silent treatment, which in reality is helping me to keep my boundaries. I guess I am realizi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((Friends)) Yesterday was one of the worst days in my life. I was woken up by my AH banging on the door at 4 a.m mad as a hornet because he and his best friend had been fighting. He went to the bathroom and I could hear aluminum foil wrestling around, he was clearly intoxicated. I layed down and he left the...

serendipity · serendipity

It's been a bad week. Started last Sunday with the easter thing and I just couldn't seem to get out of my head. I went to my meetings, came here, talked to people and tried to use my tools. No, I did use my tools. But these feelings I have to work through. I put a purchase offer in on a house and I let it go. The out...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi all, I havent posted here in months. When I first joined al anon I had an a in my life, I am an a too. He is no longer in my life and thats a good thing. We recently shared our amends and I hoped we good just go on about our lives and maybe be friends Well, here come the expectations right? I see him all the time...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

It really wasn't as bad as I thought and I was the least addicted to things in the room. I confesed I liked my painkillers probably a bit too much and they said to keep coming back. It was really hard for me to hear stories of crack addicts, alcholics, ect that have had years of abuse and here I am a month into t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

so I pick up today's newspaper, and I had heard about the tragic shooting yesterday...but it was "only" two people and they were "only" in critical condition. And they WERE at one of the THE best hospitals right? And then the paper says 33 people. Dead. And I'm like, No no no no n...

Babsinbloom · Babsinbloom

Last time I posted I was on my way back to my hometown where my children and grandchildren still live. And I did go and spent eight weeks apart from my AH. The peace I felt at not being around his daily drinking was wonderful and while I was there I got the news that after four granddaughters in a row, this Gra...

angel123 · angel123

Hope you enjoy love sharon/angel After you click view image click on it again makes larger to read -- Edited by angel123 at 16:02, 2007-04-17

gardengal · gardengal

It helped me to realize that no matter what I said, did, plotted and planned to get my husband to stop drinking, I could not. Alanon made it very clear , that this program is NOT about getting the A sober, but help me regain my life, again. It made me see that I was creating my own fear of the unknown by trying t...

Terry · Terry

I am new to this. My boyfriend of 4 years "stopped drinking" 3 years ago. But he still seems to have to drink every 5 or 6 months. The thing is, he turns into what we call "the other guy" and it is tough to take. I asked him two years ago not to drink around me. Last night he started d...

serendipity · serendipity

The day before yesterday was awful inside of me. Nothing really happened. It was all inside of me, I was a mess. Trying so hard not to call my ex. Yesterday was so much better! I heard at an online meeting don't drink, just for today. And i made a decision that just for today (yesterday) i would not make any c...

Gailey · Gailey

We all need to pray for the family members of all that have been killed at Virginia Tech just over an hour ago. It is so sad.

serendipity · serendipity

The house I am moving into already has electronic fencing. Does anyone know offhand how much collars cost? I am so excited to be getting my 2 big,stinky mutts back. I have missed them so very much. Ofcourse my mom has had them with her for the past year and she is feeling a little down that her "grand...

QOD · QOD

I must be CRAZY!!!!! My AH went out to eat w/the kids and me on Friday. We had a nice time. He went back to his stepdad's later in the evening to sleep. Then Saturday he came over around 1:30 or so and spent the rest of the weekend w/us. He slept over Sat and Sun and got up and went to work this morning. He wa...

jofarc1 · jofarc1

O.K. this is just crazy......I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and we have had every problem there is as a result of his drinking. The thing is that when we would go out together we would have a lot of fun. Our problems are when he would go drink on his own with his friends (without me). Some thin...

miller7 · miller7

Hi all, I am new to this, so "bear" w/ me. I have a very close friend who is in recovery and on one level we are as close as 2 people can be, closer than our significant others would like, (now our divorced spouses) We have known each other for 10 years and we are each others greatest confidants....

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Friends))) Just wanted to say thank you to each of you who so compassionately responded. Its been sometime for me to get back online. I am taking care of myself and my kids, and trying to remain calm. My AH slept most of the day Saturday. The kids and I stayed at my brother's that night. I did...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

How many times have **YOU** been the lamp on the couch? The solution SO obvious--yet the action not taken?

maresie2 · maresie2

It seems to me there is a pattern with the A's agitation and chaos. He sets up a crisis, acts out then acts normal. Right now he is in this huge agitation with having to move (in chaos) and drama. I don't really see how he will make it where he is going. He has few contacts. He has no support system and he has...

nmike · nmike

I went to an open AA meeting tonight. We listened to a speaker tape. After the speaker we spoke informally. We said that if only that shooter at the college had heard of a 12 step program or recovery or went to meetings maybe he could have dissipated some of his anger and frustration. We felt that the 12 s...

snapdragon · snapdragon

I'm new here. I've been married for five years now - together for about seven. When we first started dating, we pretty much binge drank together - I didn't drink before I started dating him but as soon as I started dating him I started (again). During my youth, I had binge drank but gave that up when I wa...

Maria123 · Maria123

I love it, not really at times, when I think (think being the operative word) that I have my life in order. They say that when you think God doesn't have a sense of humor, tell him your plan.

I thought I didn't need to read One Day At A Time in Alanon anymore as I don't live with an active A and lo and...

Lani · Lani

Overwhelmed? "Life does not happen to us, it happens from us." -- Mike Wickett Are you easily overwhelmed? If so, answer this question in your journal: While growing up, what did you experience too much of? Experiencing too much of something leads to feelings of overwhelm. When were you...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), Okay here I am snowed in because of the noreaster and hubby and I got to talking. We are both very stubborn and tenacious people. I like to blame it on me being a Taurus! But it got me thinking about recovery. When an A is ative they will go to any means to get their fix. They are relen...

serendipity · serendipity

I went for it! I bought the house! I have taken all the steps so far including calling my landlady and apoplgizing for the message I left yesterday if I sounded snotty. That was the hardest. She agreed to let me stay till June 1st which is awsome. The plan is to be closed by end of May. Wow things move fast w...

wp · wp

Hi Debs, I got a response from my friend today and will be looking for you tonight. You might want to consider receiving her email from me. mswp aka pw

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	A thank you... to everyone who posts on this message board (Preview) First, I want to thank everyone on this board who posts. I have learned so much from you all. I have learned that my "feelings" are quite normal and that the most important thing I can do is not continuously worry about my ex A b/f, but instead to worry about myself and MY recovery from all I'v...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	9	644	Apr 19, 2007 by debilyn
	I am no longer blind (Preview) Hello everybody, Today I woke up with such a high hope in my heart. Yesterday I went to the bookstore and picked up *Melody Beattie's Codeependents Guide To The Twelve Steps*. WOW...what an awesome book filled with allowing you to see the revelations that have been there all along. I read the first cha...	boricuaGA	3	579	Apr 19, 2007 by debilyn
	My Anger is through the roof... a vent post (Preview) The amount of anger and rage I have for my AH today could probably power the entire city. Just came back from the body shop, this A... hole caused 5K worth of damage to my van. Not to mention I have to sell my home, and probably go through 7 years of bad credit because I can't pay on my credit card debt right n...	twinmom2	14	817	Apr 19, 2007 by Christy
	Need suggestions for books for me (Preview) I am not certain when i can make it to an al-anon meeting...i have a young son and have not found a meeting in my area with babysitting. in the mean time i need to get a book to help me deal with this and better myself. what ive learned so far is that i NEED to detach your suggestions are appreciated...	boricuaGA	7	779	Apr 19, 2007 by boricuaGA
	Needing to connect this morning (Preview) I am not having a very good morning. I am having a hard time keeping the focus on me. A son seemed to be doing very well lately (still drinking but not having any problems that I know of). This morning seems to be a not so good morning for him. I did not ask questions but now I find myself projecting alot. I just...	Gailey	6	825	Apr 19, 2007 by Rita G
	Everything is falling apart... (Preview) Well, I just got back from my vacation in Alabama with the 3 kids (driving)...and I was sick when I left and even sicker when I got home. Thought I was going to die on Sunday and went to the dr. on Monday. Looks like I might have pneumonia and am on serious antibiotics. My home computer has a terrible viru...	carolinagirl	10	838	Apr 19, 2007 by Rita G
	Getting Rich in Al-Anon (Preview) Happy April 17th! (((((((((((Family))))))))))))) Did that title get your attention??? He he he Today is my 3 year Al-anon birthday! It's funny the way time works for me, its duality. On one hand, it seems like just yesterday when I crawled on my knees into that first recovery experience. In other...	david62	12	754	Apr 19, 2007 by Rita G
	Brick Wall (Preview) Hello All, I've hit a brick wall in terms of my plan b. For the past two years I have been steadily making progress with it. Now I may, state again may, have a good job opportunity but, isn't there always a but, there is a 90 minute commute involved and I have a 10 year old son. I would be gone from 6a.m to 6p.m....	evey	4	404	Apr 19, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	Why? (Preview) I just don't get it. My ex ah just called and I stupidly took the call. Then i stupidly got into it with him. Why? He is with someone new. He told me to stop spreding rumors. he is sober, sane and the girl he is with has 14c years in the program. This is crazy!!!! he has been sober like 6 months, he did what he did t...	serendipity	6	540	Apr 19, 2007 by carosie
	Just checking in (Preview) Hi all, Hope I meet you all well. I have not posted here in a while, and have not been to a face2face since last week thursday. have been so busy with business and things are going ok at home. I was feeling that I am getting away from this wonderful program that brought me this serenity. So here I am checkin...	Cucamonga	2	381	Apr 19, 2007 by Karilynn
	My first AA meeting (Preview) Well, I did it. I attended my first AA meeting last night. It was kinda how I imagined it to be. There must have been about 45-50 people there. Everyone in the room "shared" except me and my girlfriend that I brought with me and one other person. When they got to me, I just said, "No th...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	330	Apr 19, 2007 by belle1
	Happened again (Preview) Hello to everyone, this is my first time looking for help online. I have been going to Al-laon meetings when I could. To make a long story short, I have been married to an a for 37 years. I know thru the process that I am an anabler. I have found God and he has helped me thru trouble times. This last inci...	weggie	6	1572	Apr 18, 2007 by Sunny2007
	From Sunny2007-I'm in physical pain (Monday) (Preview) hi & love to all, i'm in physical pain today (monday) since waking up .... have proper medical care, medicines, etc. ... this is nothing new ... the symptoms had been better for a while ...... this is pattern over last 2 years due to a specific diagnosis of nerve damage in both arms from neck to finge...	Sunny2007	6	500	Apr 18, 2007 by weggie
	A little prospective for your day...... (Preview) WHEN I entered the Army medical center on base 20 minutes prior to delivering my baby, I had a hard time convincing the staff that I was definitely in the last stages of labor. We had waited 10 minutes in the pre-admittance area when a nurse finally came in and said, "My name is Captain Smith, but you...	Tiger2006	0	325	Apr 18, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Banking Question (Preview) My AH and I have a joint checking account. He is nickel and diming us to death! He thinks it is no big deal to take out $20 per day (or more)...it adds up! I would like to take his name off our account. Does anyone know if I can do this without his permission? I don't feel like I am necessarily trying to control h...	babysteps	6	455	Apr 18, 2007 by CJ
	Enabler, Co-dependent & Detachment (Preview) This morning I felt great, and I still feel good...just not 'great'... Through out the day I've been doing my research and reading and I have come to realize that I am an enabler. I'm a provoker and sometimes a martyr. What a horrible thing to come to realize. It doesn't feel good, but at the same time,...	boricuaGA	3	1834	Apr 18, 2007 by twinmom2
	Update (Preview) ((MIP Friends)) For those who have not been updated, my AH is now in a detox facility. He has been there since Monday. I left him with a generous amount of cigarettes and change. The change is all gone so I have not heard from him today. I did phone the nurse to get an update about how he's doing. The nur...	twinmom2	3	347	Apr 18, 2007 by rtexas
	Forum (Preview) Hope you enjoy love sharon/angel	angel123	1	386	Apr 18, 2007 by Sunny2007
	I was just about to say (Preview) ...that things are going OK or at least stable. I have been working so things at home have gone a little on the back burner. My AH is really nice about me being lazy (tired from work), and even though we bicker about stupid stuff (like who directed what movie) there have been no tear stained arguments. I wa...	RainyJamie	6	545	Apr 18, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Hope (Preview) Where do I begin? I had a stroke on Good Friday, I learned many things that were wrong with my health during my time in Hospital, blood pressure and other things like cloistral triglycerides ,Checking for diabetic few other things. My world has changed upside down and inside out. The doctor wanted to p...	angel123	7	908	Apr 18, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Lessons I've learned from an alcoholic (Preview) When I first came into the rooms of Alanon I didn't know anything about alcoholism. It was not until I walked thru the doors of Alanon that I realized that even though it was years later that I would have to personally deal with the disease (my brother, son, and husband), I had lived with the effects of a...	JulieLynn	3	627	Apr 18, 2007 by hudsond
	miracles do happen (Preview) My AH is 90 days sober. He is going to meetings and working a program as am I. Home life is calm and we are really communicating. He seems happier then he has in years. Very grateful for Alanon for showing me how to let go and let God. Trying to take this one day at a time but think it is a good thing to shar...	Elizabeth M	10	596	Apr 18, 2007 by hersh
	question about boundries... (Preview) I was wondering if I wrote out a contract or expectations of my 19 year old if that would be dumb. I seem to have a difficult time setting them verbally. Someone recently told me that I need to get a back bone instead of a wish bone.. True, but easier said then done. I am always angry now. I come hame and she an...	gimmpy	8	657	Apr 18, 2007 by Christy
	Playing the same old song but hearing the lyrics (Preview) The A is playing the same old song. He is acting like it is something incredible to go up there and live with him. Like I am just waiting around to do that. I am not of course but he can't see that. Of course he can only ever see his own point of view. He's left everything to the last minute and is in a panic. ...	maresie2	3	562	Apr 18, 2007 by aunitedway
	Today is a better day (Preview) Today is a better day than yesterday...why? Because I have made the choice for it to be. Yesterday was the first time I made a choice to reach out to Al-Anon...and I am so thankful I did. After being on the boards and reading everybody's experience, it felt like a relief...like a release. I didnt make i...	boricuaGA	2	451	Apr 18, 2007 by Gailey
	O.K. enough pain. I give. I have had it want my own life back (Preview) Please pray for me to have the strength to stop contacting my A. He is far too into his disease, and I have my own issues to work on. I just found out he does nothing but party over there, and will be having a lady sharing his hotel room for a few days. I give. That's it. I am sick of the BS. I want to get better. I am...	hippietrippiechick	9	435	Apr 18, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	My first meeting (Preview) I was very glad I started going to Al-Anon meeting. Although it was my first meeting, I could identify with the things I heard because I live them daily. It seems like a step by step process and a new outlook on life, myself, and my husband. I plan to go back. I have many unanswered questions and I feel m...	marie096	5	407	Apr 18, 2007 by carosie
	sad...again...sucked in...again (Preview) Ok...been here and trying to work a good program for about 3 years...recently changed my username. Spent 7 years trying to change/control/cure an A....lol. I finally made the decision to let him go. I was feeling so much better...less chaos...less drama. Along came an old friend who asked me to di...	newday	2	569	Apr 18, 2007 by ShelBell
	Anniversary of Mothers death (Preview) Hi everyone, Needed to get this out of my head also, as i have alot of other things in there. I need to let this one out. So i can see it here rather than continously thinking about something that doesnt matter. Today is the anniversary of my mothers death. I have grieved, and i am ok with it now. I still have i...	kerry5	8	709	Apr 18, 2007 by danz123
	How do I begin? (Preview) I guess since my last post, I made one mistake by calling this morning to my A at the hotel and his new girl answered. Basically, I do not need to go into all of it. I can't go back with a man who has cheated on me. That drunk just lost out to a very sweet woman who truly lovs him. I don't know him anymore. I want to k...	hippietrippiechick	4	365	Apr 18, 2007 by annmarie
	Vacation probably cancelled! (Preview) I am on the third day of an intestinal upset that is at least miserable. At worse, REALLY miserable. Cannot travel like this. Tomorrow is our last chance to hit the road. Hope I feel better by then. One of the many good things about being retired is that we can go when the mood strikes us, so I can put th...	Diva	9	531	Apr 17, 2007 by wp
	Turned negative controlling behavior into positive boundary setting (Preview) I have asked my AH the following over and over again... A) "Please don't drink and drive." B) "Please don't take my car without asking" C) "Please say goodbye to me when you go somewhere" I ask these things of him because A) drinking & driving is dangerous and ille...	babysteps	2	1179	Apr 17, 2007 by Leetle
	This to Shall Pass (Preview) Great slogan for me today,Hope you enjoy love Sharon/angel	angel123	3	6245	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	I feel so lost and dont know what to do (Preview) hello, this is my very first time on this forum. i have so many different emotions inside that its just bundled up into this knot in my stomach. im not sure what even to say, but here goes... recently my fiance admitted to me that he is an A...almost 1 month ago...things have been occuring that have cause...	boricuaGA	5	594	Apr 17, 2007 by maresie2
	Feeling Numb (Preview) I don't know what I expected when I decided that I couldn't live with my A b/f upon his release from jail. I know I didn't think it would be easy, but I guess I was hoping it wouldn't be this hard. He is giving me the silent treatment, which in reality is helping me to keep my boundaries. I guess I am realizi...	Leetle	3	464	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	AH crashed my car in a drunken stupor (Preview) ((Friends)) Yesterday was one of the worst days in my life. I was woken up by my AH banging on the door at 4 a.m mad as a hornet because he and his best friend had been fighting. He went to the bathroom and I could hear aluminum foil wrestling around, he was clearly intoxicated. I layed down and he left the...	twinmom2	18	612	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	freakin out (Preview) It's been a bad week. Started last Sunday with the easter thing and I just couldn't seem to get out of my head. I went to my meetings, came here, talked to people and tried to use my tools. No, I did use my tools. But these feelings I have to work through. I put a purchase offer in on a house and I let it go. The out...	serendipity	5	542	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	Unrealistic to expect friendship? (Preview) Hi all, I havent posted here in months. When I first joined al anon I had an a in my life, I am an a too. He is no longer in my life and thats a good thing. We recently shared our amends and I hoped we good just go on about our lives and maybe be friends Well, here come the expectations right? I see him all the time...	beachbaby	6	583	Apr 17, 2007 by beachbaby
	I went to an addiction meeting! (Preview) It really wasn't as bad as I thought and I was the least addicted to things in the room. I confesed I liked my painkillers probably a bit too much and they said to keep coming back. It was really hard for me to hear stories of crack addicts, alcholics, ect that have had years of abuse and here I am a month into t...	Friendofyours	4	590	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	What DO you say? (Preview) so I pick up today's newspaper, and I had heard about the tragic shooting yesterday...but it was "only" two people and they were "only" in critical condition. And they WERE at one of the THE best hospitals right? And then the paper says 33 people. Dead. And I'm like, No no no no n...	Tiger2006	2	571	Apr 17, 2007 by Karilynn
	An update from Wilted who is now Babsinbloom... (Preview) Last time I posted I was on my way back to my hometown where my children and grandchildren still live. And I did go and spent eight weeks apart from my AH. The peace I felt at not being around his daily drinking was wonderful and while I was there I got the news that after four granddaughters in a row, this Gra...	Babsinbloom	3	354	Apr 17, 2007 by carolena
	Forum (Preview) Hope you enjoy love sharon/angel After you click view image click on it again makes larger to read -- Edited by angel123 at 16:02, 2007-04-17	angel123	0	304	Apr 17, 2007 by angel123
	How did Alanon redefine your life? (Preview) It helped me to realize that no matter what I said, did, plotted and planned to get my husband to stop drinking, I could not. Alanon made it very clear , that this program is NOT about getting the A sober, but help me regain my life, again. It made me see that I was creating my own fear of the unknown by trying t...	gardengal	4	661	Apr 17, 2007 by Kim65
	Dealing with an intermittent drinker (Preview) I am new to this. My boyfriend of 4 years "stopped drinking" 3 years ago. But he still seems to have to drink every 5 or 6 months. The thing is, he turns into what we call "the other guy" and it is tough to take. I asked him two years ago not to drink around me. Last night he started d...	Terry	6	1130	Apr 17, 2007 by Terry
	just for today (Preview) The day before yesterday was awful inside of me. Nothing really happened. It was all inside of me, I was a mess. Trying so hard not to call my ex. Yesterday was so much better! I heard at an online meeting don't drink, just for today. And i made a decision that just for today (yesterday) i would not make any c...	serendipity	5	522	Apr 17, 2007 by marie096
	something horrible just happened (Preview) We all need to pray for the family members of all that have been killed at Virginia Tech just over an hour ago. It is so sad.	Gailey	12	613	Apr 17, 2007 by Diva
	another quick ? for my animal lover friends (Preview) The house I am moving into already has electronic fencing. Does anyone know offhand how much collars cost? I am so excited to be getting my 2 big,stinky mutts back. I have missed them so very much. Ofcourse my mom has had them with her for the past year and she is feeling a little down that her "grand...	serendipity	2	315	Apr 17, 2007 by Diva
	We had a WONDERFUL weekend!! (Preview) I must be CRAZY!!!!! My AH went out to eat w/the kids and me on Friday. We had a nice time. He went back to his stepdad's later in the evening to sleep. Then Saturday he came over around 1:30 or so and spent the rest of the weekend w/us. He slept over Sat and Sun and got up and went to work this morning. He wa...	QOD	7	563	Apr 17, 2007 by QOD
	He stopped drinking now I'm "wishing" I was out on a Sat. night (Preview) O.K. this is just crazy......I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and we have had every problem there is as a result of his drinking. The thing is that when we would go out together we would have a lot of fun. Our problems are when he would go drink on his own with his friends (without me). Some thin...	jofarc1	5	555	Apr 17, 2007 by jofarc1
	in and out of contact (Preview) Hi all, I am new to this, so "bear" w/ me. I have a very close friend who is in recovery and on one level we are as close as 2 people can be, closer than our significant others would like, (now our divorced spouses) We have known each other for 10 years and we are each others greatest confidants....	miller7	6	497	Apr 17, 2007 by newday
	The drama continues.... (Preview) (((Hello Friends))) Just wanted to say thank you to each of you who so compassionately responded. Its been sometime for me to get back online. I am taking care of myself and my kids, and trying to remain calm. My AH slept most of the day Saturday. The kids and I stayed at my brother's that night. I did...	twinmom2	11	564	Apr 17, 2007 by sweetums
	Something to think about, courtesy of the comic pages (Preview) How many times have YOU been the lamp on the couch? The solution SO obvious--yet the action not taken?	Tiger2006	3	354	Apr 17, 2007 by annmarie
	waiting .... but with sanity rather than immersed in fear (Preview) It seems to me there is a pattern with the A's agitation and chaos. He sets up a crisis, acts out then acts normal. Right now he is in this huge agitation with having to move (in chaos) and drama. I don't really see how he will make it where he is going. He has few contacts. He has no support system and he has...	maresie2	2	502	Apr 17, 2007 by Barbs45
	If only... (Preview) I went to an open AA meeting tonight. We listened to a speaker tape. After the speaker we spoke informally. We said that if only that shooter at the college had heard of a 12 step program or recovery or went to meetings maybe he could have dissipated some of his anger and frustration. We felt that the 12 s...	nmike	1	336	Apr 17, 2007 by CJ
	First Post and I've had all I can take...I think. (Preview) I'm new here. I've been married for five years now - together for about seven. When we first started dating, we pretty much binge drank together - I didn't drink before I started dating him but as soon as I started dating him I started (again). During my youth, I had binge drank but gave that up when I wa...	snapdragon	5	872	Apr 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Letting Go (Preview) I love it, not really at times, when I think (think being the operative word) that I have my life in order. They say that when you think God doesn't have a sense of humor, tell him your plan. I thought I didn't need to read One Day At A Time in Alanon anymore as I don't live with an active A and lo and...	Maria123	1	470	Apr 16, 2007 by Leetle
	OVERWHELMED? quotes (Preview) Overwhelmed? "Life does not happen to us, it happens from us." -- Mike Wickett Are you easily overwhelmed? If so, answer this question in your journal: While growing up, what did you experience too much of? Experiencing too much of something leads to feelings of overwhelm. When were you...	Lani	1	10006	Apr 16, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Stubborness: a good thing (Preview) (((((((Family))))), Okay here I am snowed in because of the noreaster and hubby and I got to talking. We are both very stubborn and tenacious people. I like to blame it on me being a Taurus! But it got me thinking about recovery. When an A is ative they will go to any means to get their fix. They are relen...	Karilynn	3	437	Apr 16, 2007 by serenity62
	O.K. I did it!!!! (Preview) I went for it! I bought the house! I have taken all the steps so far including calling my landlady and apoplgizing for the message I left yesterday if I sounded snotty. That was the hardest. She agreed to let me stay till June 1st which is awsome. The plan is to be closed by end of May. Wow things move fast w...	serendipity	9	414	Apr 16, 2007 by wp
	message for Debs (Preview) Hi Debs, I got a response from my friend today and will be looking for you tonight. You might want to consider receiving her email from me. mswp aka pw	wp	0	390	Apr 16, 2007 by wp
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