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I've hit a brick wall in terms of my plan b. For the past two years I have been steadily making progress with it. Now I may, state again may, have a good job opportunity but, isn't there always a but, there is a 90 minute commute involved and I have a 10 year old son. I would be gone from 6a.m to 6p.m. M-F off weekends.
I really do not want to leave my son and be so far from him. I also do not want to lose my house. Jobs in my area do not pay, everyone commutes to the city to work.
I am really petrified. Hate to admit it, but I am. I hate alcoholism. I loved my "old" life and alcoholism took it away. I know that was quite a few years ago that I had that old life but today it seems like yesterday and I miss it.
evey
p.s. if you pray, add me in for the right decision
You know this decission is much like any other. Maybe write out the options and contingencies for taking care of the kiddo. Before and after school care, a trusted neighbor or family member. Maybe one of his teachers would have some ideas.
If you can't find plans that you are comfortable with... maybe it's not the "right" oportunity.
Only you can know for sure. Keep an eye open for your HP's guidence and you will know the answers.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
TX is right. Inventory this decision. Why is it that you like this job? Why is it that this job won't work? And why is it that you can't make this job work? This would be a great thing to discuss with your son, too!
(I can't always manage to do this myself, but when I can.....)
......it REALLY helps to remind myself that I don't have to make all the decisions in advance. If I get the offer, can I accept it and give it a try for say 6 months and then review? It's often easier to find a job when I already have one - maybe having the job far away will give me space and credibility to apply for some jobs closer to home. Maybe I'll find a neighborhood nearer the job that I wouldn't mind moving to after all. Maybe I'll hate the job and chalk it up to experience. Maybe I'll love it and really want to make it work. The point is, I CAN'T KNOW IN ADVANCE. I think of it as moving through a bunch of curtains... even if each one is filmy - I can't see the whole picture on the other side until I move forward. If the curtain is opaque, it may seem like I haven't made any progress at all. But what's sure is that I'll never get to see the picture on the other side if I don't move through those curtains. Kind of a visualization of doing the footwork, and leaving the results to HP. Not always easy, I know; but it really helped me to be able to say to myself, "you have a plan until September. You can worry about it again then. For right now, you already have a plan in place. And that's okay."
