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This has been the first week of the rest of my life. I have set clear boundaries with my A ex b/f. He is keeping to most of them. I have been working through the chaos he has tried to lay at my feet. Mainly by stepping over it and moving on (of course, that is after I have a freak out in my head and with my poor sponsor ). I am desperately trying to focus on my side of the street. Giving him the dignity to be himself and deal with his own life. I have had a couple setbacks, but overall, I am really happy with the way I have handled things.
It has been extremely emotional. Actually, I was really surprised at how horribly upset I felt initially, but slowly, slowly, each day of this week I am getting just a bit stronger, and things are coming into focus. I began working step one with my sponsor and focusing on that has really helped.
I have trust in my HP and I am building trust back in myself. Just wanted to share how grateful I am to have found MIP and for alanon.
I am glad you are where you are. You sound like you are growing, and becoming stronger, it is really a great place to be!! Isn't it nice when you finally TRUST HP!!! Really, really trust HP. It is essential to being a happy person, I think.
We go through all of this chaos in our growth, the pain, and the devastation, but it does make us stronger, and lets us know that we are not in the driver seat. We have to let all things go to HP if we want to be satisfied with our lives. I know in setting boundaries and giving someone dignity to deal with their own issues is a process, a learning process. I never knew how to do that before this program. I agree with you, thank goodness for this website and Alanon. It really opens your eyes and heart up to a hopeful, new way of life, doesn't it!!
Congrats on your strength and thanks for posting a positive post... moving forward indeed!!!
Aren't we grateful that you found us? We learn from your example too. It is hard even if we make the right call. Glad you are in touch with your HP. Keep sharing. My hope is that we will all make it.
). I am desperately trying to focus on my side of the street. Giving him the dignity to be himself and deal with his own life. I have had a couple setbacks, but overall, I am really happy with the way I have handled things.