Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about frustration and disappointments when we expect too much. It's good to have high standards, but only if we can accept with serenity, when the results fall short. We expect more of an alcoholic than they can deliver, and often the expectations we have for ourselves are way too d...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This contributor acknowledges a time we may have reached the point in our family situation that seems to call for action, the end of our rope. They suggest, however, that rather than move directly to a course of action, perhaps even the 'obvious' one we have heard by well-intentioned but not thorough...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their past efforts to change people to suit their own desires and needs. The author often thought of the problem as being with the other person if the author's needs weren't met. They wanted someone to be present, but not overly imposing. Upon fur...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning who we are and how we define ourselves. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and as a result, having a false sense of self. The writer felt invisible and without a voice. When the writer felt something, it felt like the exper...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading talks about denial. Denial about the disease of alcoholism and denial of our own participation and asks us "why?" We are reminded that we alone cannot control or defeat the disease and therefore try to devise other methods to cope and one ofthem is denial.The reading goes on to say t...

SunnyFrog · SunnyFrog

Just looking for some ESH here on how you all deal with gaslighting from an A. That seems to be my biggest downfall at the moment, reacting to it and it's causing me to ride the crazy train again. Well, I am causing myself to ride it, I already know that. I'm just having a hard time stopping. Thanks in adva...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C compares emotional growth (and the ability to experience emotions) with learning to play a piano; with mastery comes an appreciation for the highs and lows as they are a powerful reminder that we are alive and experiencing it fully. I think this is quite a beautiful reading and it gives a n...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

In the comfort and friendly confines of an Alanon meeting, one member noted the ease of smiling and good humor. Is this the face we present at home was one member's question to the group? Or do we exhibit our martyr face to express our unhappiness with other's decisions. Reminder - Do I use Martyr face to...

Notsonewbie · Notsonewbie

Ive been in Al Anon a couple of years and want to work the steps with a sponsor. Ive related to several women on zoom meetings but for valid reasons they are not available/ready to sponsor. How can I find one that is ready and willing? Feeling discouraged and even more alone.

Lyne · Lyne

The author came to alanon looking for instructions on how to become an adult. Lessons had come from parents, employers, spouses, children, friends--everybody except a Higher Power and oneself. The author could stop self-sabotaging if they stopped looking on the outside for something that cou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to trust our own judgment in making decisions, and allowing others to trust us as well. The writer describes having grown up in a home where the parents (in an overly controlling way) told the writer what to do. The response was two extremes: ei...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of the principle of remaining unaffiliated with outside causes. It's an interesting one, because through al-anon many of us are freed from a life consumed by obsession with other people's lives and that leaves room for our own enrichment. Al-anon can't then be used as a platform t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading talks about how difficult it is sometimes to accept the fact that we love someone we cannot trust. How, with each disappointing incident we recover, only to be disappointed again! The reading goes on to say that our "heartache" can be alleviated if we learn to accept "reality" and t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I read today's reading from C2C this morning. I realized that earlier this year I wasn't taking very good care of myself. I am doing so much better & am trying to fill the voids w/ healthy things. I don't work right now but I read somewhere that Saturday's child works hard for a living. I take it that li...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds us that taking a timeout during stressful times may seem impossible but is exactly what we need to do. Making time for food, rest, Alanon refueling and other personal care is essential if we want to give ourselves the best chance of maintaining serenity. Reminder: I am the only p...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that when living with the chaos in an alcoholic family, it can be hard to know the difference between an inconvenience and a major crisis. The slogan, How Important Is It?, helps us put things in proportion. If plans fall through, an unexpected bill arrives, or we are disappointed in...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about learning to respond to feelings and emotions rather than react to them. The writer describes how life felt unmanageable when decisions were being made in reaction to uncomfortable emotions. Through program work, talking with sponsor, physical exe...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading focuses on the Third Step which says that there are times that we need to "turn our will and life over to Gods care." The author discusses how when a family member was faced with a dire medical issue, how they felt they knew better for them. In the process of that struggle they found they...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C talks of the power of attending al-anon meetings, especially when we are in a funk and don't want to go. The reading suggests those are the times a meeting can benefit us most, and when we are most likely to hear exactly what we needed to hear. I can't tell you how often al-anon, in one way or ano...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our though...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the words of the suggested closing: "...let there be no gossip or criticism of one another." The author realized that, although they try to leave their judgmental attitude at the door, they pick it up promptly after meetings and carry it with them, judgment...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading speaks about how the author, before Al-Anon, had resentments that took up much of the writers days/years. They noticed, over time, that after getting involved in the Al-Anon program, that their need to justify how they felt; constantlyhashing over the grievances, blame and/or da...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I may just be passing through or I may stay a little while. I had been working at the recovery house. Then, the pandemic hit. We all know how that story went. Eventually, I retired in April of last year, but just when ya thinks youre out, they pulls ya back in again. I think thats from one of the godfather mov...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer is preparing for change, tremendous change, when working Step 6. There can be great fear about if shedding too many characteristics; what will be left? The unknown can be terrifying, yet change is desired. HP is there for guidance, and yet in Step 6, one does not have to change anyth...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Todays reading is about how the tools and practices within alanon help us to find our rights and personal growth. The writer describes being affected by his/her fathers alcoholism by experiencing depression, overeating and low self-esteem. After attending several alanon meetings, the write...

Youknowme · Youknowme

I have just submitted the last assignment for my degree. I already know that I have passed. I'm telling you guys about it because man, it's been a crazy long road but I truly don't believe I could have pulled myself together well enough to finally get here without al-anon. In truth, there's a pretty good...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hello everyone

Today's C2C speaks of developing the ability to accept and grow from constructive criticism because we are, at the same time, learning not to judge our personal value and worth on how we think others perceive us. It mentions being able to "risk disapproval" and having the courage t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about their past. They initially insisted that alcoholism didn't exist in their family, and that everything was fine. They were totally normal. When the author began to accept that alcoholism was a disease that impacted the whole family, t...

Lyne · Lyne

The member discusses letting people take advantage of them. That caused an enormous amount of anger, resentment, and guilt. The member wondered why they denied their own feelings to gain someone else's approval. They realized they lacked courage. Would they be willing to accept that not ever...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

If only able to put Alanon slogans into practice, we could almost be spiritually perfect thought today's writer. Using Live and Let Live as an example, these four words encourage us to experience the rich joy and happiness that is possible when we are living at our best. Often more difficult, we are...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I walked through my fears w/ some anxiety. My friend from al anon helped immensely. She was there through the whole thing. I am far less afraid than I was. Today I am back on track & feel like I want to hang out w/ y'all again. It didn't take as long as I thought it would. I am grateful that I can return &...

Lyne · Lyne

I'm going to copy this paragraph: I came to alanon to discover how to get a loved one to stop drinking, hoping that my life would then return to normal. In alanon I came to understand that I did not cause alcoholism, I can't control it, and I can't cure it [the 3 C's]. But I can apply the Twelve Steps to my o...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power and role our minds play in recovery. The writer describes learning that the power of his/her own mind can help or hurt, but its a choice which way that will go. The writer then goes on to examine both steps 3 and 11 more thoroughly. In 3 (Made a d...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C reading is a reminder that even though we might invest ourselves in recovery and seemingly see no results for long periods of time, moments of clarity, serenity and detachment can come seemingly out of the blue if we persist. They aren't "out of the blue" but in fact the culmination of fait...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading writes about the spiritual aspect of Al-Anon (Step Two) and how the whole program is based on the ability of themembers to experience, the wonder of knowing that there is a "Power greater than ourselves, that which we can rely".The author is very clear, that there is "no pa...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers the depth of the illusions we can carry. The writer noted how they became determined to stop controlling others, only to realize that the thought they could control others was in fact, an illusion... Illusion is also the source of the perception they lack something internall...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our interpretation of God as we understood Him. (Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.). The writer describes having some trouble with this phrase after a short time in al-anon. While some strug...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...

DM2021 · DM2021

Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...

Lyne · Lyne

This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...

DM2021 · DM2021

This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...

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	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 8/29, expectations (Preview) The writer talks about frustration and disappointments when we expect too much. It's good to have high standards, but only if we can accept with serenity, when the results fall short. We expect more of an alcoholic than they can deliver, and often the expectations we have for ourselves are way too d...	Lyne	5	2050	Sep 1, 2022 by Lyne
	8/30/22 ODAT – Pause…Rework (Preview) This contributor acknowledges a time we may have reached the point in our family situation that seems to call for action, the end of our rope. They suggest, however, that rather than move directly to a course of action, perhaps even the 'obvious' one we have heard by well-intentioned but not thorough...	Enigmatic	3	755	Sep 1, 2022 by Youknowme
	Courage to Change August 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their past efforts to change people to suit their own desires and needs. The author often thought of the problem as being with the other person if the author's needs weren't met. They wanted someone to be present, but not overly imposing. Upon fur...	Skorpi	2	1899	Sep 1, 2022 by Youknowme
	Hope for Today Aug 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning who we are and how we define ourselves. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and as a result, having a false sense of self. The writer felt invisible and without a voice. When the writer felt something, it felt like the exper...	yanksfan51	2	1368	Aug 28, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – August 26, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading talks about denial. Denial about the disease of alcoholism and denial of our own participation and asks us "why?" We are reminded that we alone cannot control or defeat the disease and therefore try to devise other methods to cope and one ofthem is denial.The reading goes on to say t...	DM2021	4	1538	Aug 27, 2022 by DM2021
	Gaslighting (Preview) Just looking for some ESH here on how you all deal with gaslighting from an A. That seems to be my biggest downfall at the moment, reacting to it and it's causing me to ride the crazy train again. Well, I am causing myself to ride it, I already know that. I'm just having a hard time stopping. Thanks in adva...	SunnyFrog	6	1567	Aug 26, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	C2C August 25th (Preview) Today's C2C compares emotional growth (and the ability to experience emotions) with learning to play a piano; with mastery comes an appreciation for the highs and lows as they are a powerful reminder that we are alive and experiencing it fully. I think this is quite a beautiful reading and it gives a n...	Youknowme	3	1610	Aug 25, 2022 by Lyne
	8/22/22 ODAT - Resting Martyr Face (Preview) In the comfort and friendly confines of an Alanon meeting, one member noted the ease of smiling and good humor. Is this the face we present at home was one member's question to the group? Or do we exhibit our martyr face to express our unhappiness with other's decisions. Reminder - Do I use Martyr face to...	Enigmatic	5	1607	Aug 25, 2022 by Youknowme
	Finding a Sponsor (Preview) Ive been in Al Anon a couple of years and want to work the steps with a sponsor. Ive related to several women on zoom meetings but for valid reasons they are not available/ready to sponsor. How can I find one that is ready and willing? Feeling discouraged and even more alone.	Notsonewbie	4	2026	Aug 24, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 8/22, self-sabotaging (Preview) The author came to alanon looking for instructions on how to become an adult. Lessons had come from parents, employers, spouses, children, friends--everybody except a Higher Power and oneself. The author could stop self-sabotaging if they stopped looking on the outside for something that cou...	Lyne	1	1478	Aug 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to trust our own judgment in making decisions, and allowing others to trust us as well. The writer describes having grown up in a home where the parents (in an overly controlling way) told the writer what to do. The response was two extremes: ei...	yanksfan51	2	1607	Aug 21, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	c2c August 18th (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of the principle of remaining unaffiliated with outside causes. It's an interesting one, because through al-anon many of us are freed from a life consumed by obsession with other people's lives and that leaves room for our own enrichment. Al-anon can't then be used as a platform t...	Youknowme	2	1592	Aug 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – August 19, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading talks about how difficult it is sometimes to accept the fact that we love someone we cannot trust. How, with each disappointing incident we recover, only to be disappointed again! The reading goes on to say that our "heartache" can be alleviated if we learn to accept "reality" and t...	DM2021	1	1516	Aug 19, 2022 by Lyne
	today's reading & self care (Preview) I read today's reading from C2C this morning. I realized that earlier this year I wasn't taking very good care of myself. I am doing so much better & am trying to fill the voids w/ healthy things. I don't work right now but I read somewhere that Saturday's child works hard for a living. I take it that li...	Hoot Nanny	2	1502	Aug 17, 2022 by Lyne
	8/16/22 Remember to Take Care of You (Preview) Today's page reminds us that taking a timeout during stressful times may seem impossible but is exactly what we need to do. Making time for food, rest, Alanon refueling and other personal care is essential if we want to give ourselves the best chance of maintaining serenity. Reminder: I am the only p...	Enigmatic	2	1463	Aug 16, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 8/15, How important is it? (Preview) The writer says that when living with the chaos in an alcoholic family, it can be hard to know the difference between an inconvenience and a major crisis. The slogan, How Important Is It?, helps us put things in proportion. If plans fall through, an unexpected bill arrives, or we are disappointed in...	Lyne	1	2107	Aug 15, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about learning to respond to feelings and emotions rather than react to them. The writer describes how life felt unmanageable when decisions were being made in reaction to uncomfortable emotions. Through program work, talking with sponsor, physical exe...	yanksfan51	2	1601	Aug 14, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – August 12, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading focuses on the Third Step which says that there are times that we need to "turn our will and life over to Gods care." The author discusses how when a family member was faced with a dire medical issue, how they felt they knew better for them. In the process of that struggle they found they...	DM2021	1	1369	Aug 12, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C August 11th (Preview) Today's C2C talks of the power of attending al-anon meetings, especially when we are in a funk and don't want to go. The reading suggests those are the times a meeting can benefit us most, and when we are most likely to hear exactly what we needed to hear. I can't tell you how often al-anon, in one way or ano...	Youknowme	2	1513	Aug 11, 2022 by DM2021
	8/9/22 ODAT – Anger: Change our Focus, Change the Outcome (Preview) Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our though...	Enigmatic	3	1559	Aug 9, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change July 27 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the words of the suggested closing: "...let there be no gossip or criticism of one another." The author realized that, although they try to leave their judgmental attitude at the door, they pick it up promptly after meetings and carry it with them, judgment...	Skorpi	2	2108	Aug 9, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – August 05, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading speaks about how the author, before Al-Anon, had resentments that took up much of the writers days/years. They noticed, over time, that after getting involved in the Al-Anon program, that their need to justify how they felt; constantlyhashing over the grievances, blame and/or da...	DM2021	5	730	Aug 9, 2022 by DM2021
	The More Things Change...... (Preview) I may just be passing through or I may stay a little while. I had been working at the recovery house. Then, the pandemic hit. We all know how that story went. Eventually, I retired in April of last year, but just when ya thinks youre out, they pulls ya back in again. I think thats from one of the godfather mov...	Wolfie55	2	1437	Aug 9, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, 8/8, preparing for change (Preview) Today's writer is preparing for change, tremendous change, when working Step 6. There can be great fear about if shedding too many characteristics; what will be left? The unknown can be terrifying, yet change is desired. HP is there for guidance, and yet in Step 6, one does not have to change anyth...	Lyne	1	1453	Aug 8, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 7 (Preview) Todays reading is about how the tools and practices within alanon help us to find our rights and personal growth. The writer describes being affected by his/her fathers alcoholism by experiencing depression, overeating and low self-esteem. After attending several alanon meetings, the write...	yanksfan51	1	1521	Aug 7, 2022 by DM2021
	Woohoo! (Preview) I have just submitted the last assignment for my degree. I already know that I have passed. I'm telling you guys about it because man, it's been a crazy long road but I truly don't believe I could have pulled myself together well enough to finally get here without al-anon. In truth, there's a pretty good...	Youknowme	6	1049	Aug 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C August 4th (Preview) Hello everyone Today's C2C speaks of developing the ability to accept and grow from constructive criticism because we are, at the same time, learning not to judge our personal value and worth on how we think others perceive us. It mentions being able to "risk disapproval" and having the courage t...	Youknowme	4	549	Aug 6, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change August 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about their past. They initially insisted that alcoholism didn't exist in their family, and that everything was fine. They were totally normal. When the author began to accept that alcoholism was a disease that impacted the whole family, t...	Skorpi	3	1365	Aug 4, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/25, saying yes when you mean no (Preview) The member discusses letting people take advantage of them. That caused an enormous amount of anger, resentment, and guilt. The member wondered why they denied their own feelings to gain someone else's approval. They realized they lacked courage. Would they be willing to accept that not ever...	Lyne	7	1360	Aug 3, 2022 by DM2021
	8/2/22 ODAT - Live and Let Live: Compact, Powerful Program Message (Preview) If only able to put Alanon slogans into practice, we could almost be spiritually perfect thought today's writer. Using Live and Let Live as an example, these four words encourage us to experience the rich joy and happiness that is possible when we are living at our best. Often more difficult, we are...	Enigmatic	2	1352	Aug 3, 2022 by Lyne
	I walked through my fears (Preview) I walked through my fears w/ some anxiety. My friend from al anon helped immensely. She was there through the whole thing. I am far less afraid than I was. Today I am back on track & feel like I want to hang out w/ y'all again. It didn't take as long as I thought it would. I am grateful that I can return &...	Hoot Nanny	2	1465	Aug 2, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 8/1, The essence of alanon (Preview) I'm going to copy this paragraph: I came to alanon to discover how to get a loved one to stop drinking, hoping that my life would then return to normal. In alanon I came to understand that I did not cause alcoholism, I can't control it, and I can't cure it [the 3 C's]. But I can apply the Twelve Steps to my o...	Lyne	1	1622	Aug 1, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power and role our minds play in recovery. The writer describes learning that the power of his/her own mind can help or hurt, but its a choice which way that will go. The writer then goes on to examine both steps 3 and 11 more thoroughly. In 3 (Made a d...	yanksfan51	1	1719	Jul 31, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c 28/7 (Preview) Today's C2C reading is a reminder that even though we might invest ourselves in recovery and seemingly see no results for long periods of time, moments of clarity, serenity and detachment can come seemingly out of the blue if we persist. They aren't "out of the blue" but in fact the culmination of fait...	Youknowme	2	2202	Jul 30, 2022 by Lyne
	Spirituality – C2C – July 29, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading writes about the spiritual aspect of Al-Anon (Step Two) and how the whole program is based on the ability of themembers to experience, the wonder of knowing that there is a "Power greater than ourselves, that which we can rely".The author is very clear, that there is "no pa...	DM2021	1	2108	Jul 29, 2022 by Lyne
	7/26/22 C2C - Trading Illusion for Spiritual Reality (Preview) Today's page considers the depth of the illusions we can carry. The writer noted how they became determined to stop controlling others, only to realize that the thought they could control others was in fact, an illusion... Illusion is also the source of the perception they lack something internall...	Enigmatic	3	1982	Jul 27, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today July 24 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our interpretation of God as we understood Him. (Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.). The writer describes having some trouble with this phrase after a short time in al-anon. While some strug...	yanksfan51	2	2266	Jul 26, 2022 by Enigmatic
	I have found that I forgot I need al-anon again! (Preview) My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...	Breakingfree	3	2116	Jul 23, 2022 by Youknowme
	Leaving My Husband - Still Can't Believe he is Really an Alcoholic? (Preview) I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...	allsmiles228	5	738	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	7/19/22 C2C Boundaries…Why? (Preview) Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...	Enigmatic	4	2244	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Placing Principles above Personalities – C2C – July 22, 2022 (Preview) Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...	DM2021	2	1528	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	short & to the point(saying goodbye for now)... (Preview) This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...	Hoot Nanny	3	1625	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	C2c 21/7 (Preview) Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...	Youknowme	2	2283	Jul 21, 2022 by DM2021
	Newly Married and discovered Husband is Alcoholic (Preview) Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...	allsmiles228	14	2604	Jul 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/18, Easy Does It (Preview) The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...	Lyne	2	1535	Jul 18, 2022 by DM2021
	July 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...	yanksfan51	1	1604	Jul 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Some guilt and shame (Preview) Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...	Hoot Nanny	3	1635	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	We All Have Our Own Timeframe – C2C – July 15, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...	DM2021	4	1590	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Need support/suggestions (Preview) Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...	Dancer66	3	1058	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change July 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...	Skorpi	3	1598	Jul 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	7/12/22 ODAT - Live and Let Live…MMOB (Preview) This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...	Enigmatic	2	2050	Jul 12, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/11, dealing with anger (Preview) This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...	Lyne	2	882	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Question (Preview) What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?	Hoot Nanny	1	895	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for today July 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...	yanksfan51	1	895	Jul 10, 2022 by DM2021
	Boundaries (Preview) Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...	mamamary1964	6	2368	Jul 9, 2022 by Lyne
	Natures Lessons – C2C – July 08, 2022 (Preview) This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...	DM2021	4	1318	Jul 8, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C July 7th (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...	Youknowme	2	1302	Jul 7, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 6th (Preview) Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...	Skorpi	2	1021	Jul 6, 2022 by DM2021
	7/5/22 C2C – A View of Detachment as Freedom (Preview) This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...	Enigmatic	2	1314	Jul 5, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/4, feeling accepted (Preview) The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...	Lyne	1	1305	Jul 4, 2022 by DM2021
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