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C2C Feb 10th The gifts of creativity and imagination.
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Today's reading talks of creativity and of using creativity to express and come to know our true selves, as well as a means of replacing negative thinking with positive action. Further, it reminds us that creativity (whether it's building something, gardening, cooking, or finding new ways of doin...
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Courage to Change Feb. 9
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Hello MIP! Today's reading is one for me The author shares that before they came to Al-Anon, nothing was simple about their life. Work was stressful, time was short, and the author's attention was focused on the alcoholic. As the author shifted their focus from the alcoholic to the program, the...
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2/8/22 ODAT - We Are What We See
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First impressions of Alanon from today's writer after seeing more smiles, happiness than 'should' be among those with past or current alcoholics: they must not have had it as bad as me.If we stick around Alanon long enough, we realize that is not often the case, and that does not even matter. What matt...
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C2C, Monday, 2/7, contributing to my well-being
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The member says that each day one can contribute to their sense of well-being by taking even a small action--you can strengthen a relationship, pursue a goal, or help yourself feel better about you. You cannot dramatically change your life, but you can have a goal to move in a positive direction. Ma...
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Hope for Today Feb 6
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of our relationship to the God of our understanding. The writer distinguishes between acknowledging the presence of God and actually finding a spiritual connection. Through prayer and meditation a more consistent relationship wit...
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February 4 - Hope for Today - Serenity Moments
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Today's author in Hope for Today has learned how to find serenity no matter what chaos is going on around them. Small choices can bring in serenity at any time. Examples are waking up early to quietly watch the sunrise, ducking out of a family gathering to go to another room for a few minutes and say the...
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C2C Thursday 3rd Feb- Serenity
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Today's reading talks of the writer's initial distaste of the concept of serenity, and how dull and useless serenity sounded compared to useful solutions such as curing the alcoholic, or paying the bills! But after spending some time working through the al-anon program, they came to realise that s...
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2/1/22 C2C Right Thing, Wrong Reason?
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The role of intent in the in/action we take toward the alcoholic is considered in today's page. It is an attempt to control if we hope/expect to have an outcome on another's drinking, ensuring continued lack of serenity regardless of outcome. If we follow Alanon's suggestion that we attempt to make c...
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Saturday Service - Literature Daily Volunteer
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Greetings all. We appear to have lost our member who was providing a thread/topic/discussion on Saturdays. If anyone has a desire to be of service, Saturday is open! All that's suggested is that you pick a daily reader from our program literature and then post your thoughts/ESH on it for others to e...
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Wealth of Help and Information
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Hi, it is WendyP, awhile ago I was wanting to send a friend of mine a reading that helped me get through an issue that was causing me great pain, and I thought that it might help them also. I could not remember where I had seen it, and because I am a determined person, and wanted to find it for myself as well, I d...
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C2C, Monday, 1/31, still have defects of character
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This reading discusses how hard we can work our program and still have lapses of self-pity and resentment. It is therefore important to include our Higher Power to overcome these lapses. Reminder: I want to be ready for shortcomings to be removed and I will do what I can to prepare. I can develop a no...
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Hope for Today Jan 30
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the ways we might practice choosing serenity in our lives. The writer describes how many of us who have lived with alcoholism become as obsessed with the alcoholic and his/her behavior as the alcoholic is consumed with alcohol. One of the strateg...
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January 28 - C2C - Keep Coming Back
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Today's reading in Courage to Change says that newcomers may be surprised by the number of years that some members have been in Al-Anon. Some no longer have an active alcoholic or a living alcoholic in their life. And yet they keep coming back. The writer sometimes goes through times of doubt, rebel...
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C2C 27/1
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In today's C2C reading. the writer recalls being so angry about dishes piling up in the sink that they were ready to end a deeply valued relationship. But after sharing the problem with a friend, they realised that the dishes were symbolic of all of the problems within the relationship which felt over...
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Courage to Change January 26
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares some reflections on the 12th Step: Having had a Spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. The author shares that they found real promise and hope in...
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Gratitude
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Today my baby girl turns 19. Last night she and I went to the movies- she drove us there and back- and today she has gone to get (another) tattoo (insert serenity prayer here). Yes, she is that grown up now, and I couldn't be more proud of her, nor grateful for the magical gift she seems to have for transmuti...
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1/25/22 ODAT – Abracadabra vs Judo
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Interesting read today considering the subtle, but important difference between trying to use willpower to suppress and eliminate a fault, versus using the natural but unwanted fault tendency to point to the opposite, preferred quality or tendency.Spoiler alert: the latter is more successful...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 1/24, why can't you stop drinking?
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The writer says when they came to program, they thought the drinker could stop by sheer will power. As they learned that the alcoholic suffers from a disease, why did the writer still speak to the drinker as a "bad'' person? The writer knows the alcoholic is a good and sensitive human, but the writer h...
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Hope for Today Jan 23
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on gratitude. The writer describes gratitude as a gift received through being part of the alanon program. Before the program the writer thought of gratitude as happiness when life happened based on (the writers) wants and needs. Over time, throug...
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Trying to care for myself
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I tested positive for covid on Sunday. I feel awful physically. I am staying home for the next 5 days from work. It has been awful being at home. My bf has me locked away in our bedroom and doesn't let me out. He says he doesn't want to risk getting infected. I've been drinking water from the tap and I had a hal...
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January 21 - ODAT - Comparison
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Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon explains that comparing myself, my lot in life, with others leads to self-pity or resentment. Relying on others to applaud or admire me makes me dependent on others for my own contentment. Real contentment comes from looking at myself and seeing that my...
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c2c 20/1
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Today's reading is about the importance of anonymity. It speaks of leaving behind labels and everything that comes with them. When I first came to al-anon, I wanted people to hear me and know who I was. I didn't really understand the concept of anonymity, because I was so anxious for people to hear me. I...
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Courage to Change January 19
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In today's reading, the author suggests that letting go of self-condemnation could help us to love ourselves more. It IS important to identify and recognize flaws, but focusing on the too much can be detrimental to progress. Every tiny step moves us closer to wholeness, health, and serenity. Takin...
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1/18/22 C2C Best Way to Help Qualifier: Focus on Self?
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Many come to Alanon with a desperate desire to help their qualifier, the alcoholic. Upon hearing Alnon's suggestion to keep the focus on ourselves, some conclude, prematurely, that such an approach can only be heartless.One such member waited long enough to consider another possibility: the nat...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday 1/17, murderous weapons
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The writer describes murderous weapons towards the alcoholic as: indignation in a strident voice, irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria, self-righteousness, etc. These weapons are a killer for the alcoholic to look for a better life, they kill love and respect, they cause unb...
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Hope for Today Jan 16
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of humility in our growth. The writer describes having trouble early in the program with understanding how to develop humility. The writer decided to put the focus on being teachable- and what could be changed within in order to becom...
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ESH please
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My A has decided to blame me for her drinking. I know Im not to blame for her alcohol use. Im to blame for 5 yrs of living half-time near my son, which causes her pain. I have apologized several times for causing her pain. However, there are at least 35 years that I either did not know her and did not live...
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David G
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I haven't checked in with the board lately David and have cause to do so now as I have heard what is happening regarding sub-surface volcanos in your area. They haven't mentioned anything that I have read about your neighborhood and I am beyond curious for the present. If you get and can read this ple...
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Participation is the key to Harmony
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Just finished chairing an alanon meeting, on zoom. I mentioned this in one of my shares that when I originally started attending that meeting, I felt like an AA member going to an alanon meeting, but over the past year or so they have made me feel very welcome. One member gave me a little push and I started...
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January 14 - Hope for Today - Boundaries
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Today's reading in Hope for Today takes a look at setting limits -- boundaries -- around unacceptable behavior. The author sometimes fears that if they set a limit with someone, they will be abandoned. Sometimes they set rigid boundaries in hopes of eliminating the problem forever. Their most su...
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Volunteer for Daily Reader/Share on Thursdays
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Greetings all. We have an open day for which there is no daily reading/share - Thursday(s). If one or two are willing to do this (split this), feel free to either respond here or send me a PM. Happy Thursday!
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Courage to Change January 12
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Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on how a bee hive can teach the lesson of detachment - when a colony of bees is at work, as long as one keeps a safe distance and doesn't poke one's nose into the hive, we will be fine. The author reflects that it is their choice, when they sense that a situat...
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1/11/22 Say Something Often Enough...
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Today's read relates a cautionary tale of a member who held the real and perceived woes of the day in countenance and in any conversation chanced upon. Every opportunity was taken to recount and relive the bad things that seemed to happen and the misdeeds of the alcoholic.Predictably, her encounter...
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C2C, Monday, 1/10, worry and fear
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The writer describes what happens when we focus on worry and fear: we see terrifying pictures, hear paranoid voices, and have self-criticism. The more attention we give this static,we lose our foothold in reality, and nothing useful gets accomplished. We can break this cycle of worry and fear by...
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Looking 4 online chat help
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Hi, my name is Frank I am looking for an online chat to help me. I am new to al-anon but need help starting out. I went to #al-anonchat on irc.chat4all.org . I was greeted by a few ppl there but they told me they could not be of help and i should find an online chat meeting. a person named Tahoe asked a lot of qu...
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Hope for Today Jan 9
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our reactions to others and about understanding that we are responsible for our own happiness. The writer describes suffering in response to his/her partners alcoholic behavior. When the writer contacts his/her sponsor, the writer is told that a r...
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Member input sought on the business board.
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Greetings MIP family. The chatroom feature of our board has been facing repeated problems of late. It would be appreciated if members could check out the link here to help us reconcile those problems and assess the function in general. Thank you!
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January 7 - Hope for Today - The 3 C's
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Today's reading in Hope for Today takes a look at Al-Anon's beloved three C's about our powerlessness over alcoholism -- I didn't Cause It, I can't Control it, and I can't Cure it. To the author of this reading, embracing this slogan relieves them of the guilty feeling that they could have done mor...
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Importance of A Group
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On Christmas Day, I chaired a zoom meeting in my district. Until recently, I haven't chaired any al-anon meetings but one day I put on my big boy pants and tried it. Wasn't too bad. I do it regularly and now I'm beginning to feel more a part of that group. It's not my home group. My home group has not held meet...
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Courage to Change January 5
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Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares about the meaning of "compassion." When the author first arrived at Al-Anon, they thought compassion meant making excuses or covering for the alcoholic. Through Al-Anon, the author learned that making excuses and covering for others is "enabling" -...
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Boundaries- manipulation?
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Hello, new to Alanon and this forum. Boundaries are something I am still learning and working on. I have a question though, if I set a boundary, say "I will stay at my parent's house if I feel unsafe" or "I will ask you to leave the relationship and house if you are not in active recovery, working steps an...
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C2C 1/4/22 The Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with One Step...
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Today's writer recalls feelings of loneliness and desperation at time of Alanon discovery, of wanting the serenity that members there seemed to enjoy.The opportunity was not lost as the newcomer absorbed what had worked for others: Attending/sharing at meetings, work the Steps (in order, one at...
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C2C, Monday, 1/3: I can change the past if I stop repeating it in the present.
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The writer of Mondays reading explores how to make positive changes: -ask, am I moving in a positive direction? -am I going to meetings and practicing the principles?-am I breaking out of unhealthy and unsatisfying patterns of the past? -can I set goals and take small risks on a daily basis? -can I ta...
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Happy New Year MIP Family!!
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Sending my best wishes to the MIP Family for a very prosperous and enlightening 2022!!
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Funny, but not really
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Whats funny, but perhaps its more ironic, is that I can go for months in a mental state of letting go, live and let live, think, how important is it, etc. etc. etc. Since Christmas Eve, when my As drinking was apparent and in my face, I have not been able to let it go. So the question Im asking myself, after...
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Hope for Today Jan 2
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Good morning everyone: And Happy New Year! Todays reading is about the power of the serenity prayer. The writer describes this as the first tool used in recovery. Not being able to alter the past, having the power to change our attitudes and resentments and having hope about the potential for our ow...
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Back to the drawing board for me.
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Funny how things come together. I posted a little while back about how I am writing a book about living through domestic violence and how I wasn't sure if I could or couldn't mention that al-anon was a HUGE part of my way out. That prompted some discussions and thinking about privacy and anonymity that I...
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December 31 - Hope for Today - Consistency
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The December 31 reading in Hope for Today reflects on the consistently repeated phrases heard in the Suggested Welcome and Closing at Al-Anon meetings.No situation is really hopeless, and we can find contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or notWe can put our prob...
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Courage to Change December 29
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that there are times when everything the alcoholic in their life does irritates them. It seems that the alcoholic even pours the breakfast cereal wrong! The author uses this as an opportunity to reflect on what is going on internally. Is there a revie...
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C2C, Monday 12/27: Differing opinions? Carry your QTIP!
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The writer ponders the issue of facing different opinions, and what to do at that point: take a stance that one is right and one is wrong, defend oneself, take the disagreement personally, or be grateful that there are numerous ways of looking at life. The writer goes on to say if we can practice grati...
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12/28/21 ODAT What Road is Paved With Good Intentions, for 400
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Today's reading encourages exploration of our intentions, particularly the gaps between intended and actual outcomes.For a variety of reasons, it is possible that our intention in anything from offering kind encouragement, increasing productivity, offering kind assistance, to creating an...
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The chatroom
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I got a report this morning that the person who took over the old chatroom is still bothering people. If this person is in the new chatroom, please send a message to me. In the new chat room I have the power to ban this person if we're in the chat at the same time. If you're still going to the old chatroom, stop...
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Service Positions - Moderation for Chat/Meeting Room - Al-Anon
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https://alanon.activeboard.com/t68108906/service-positions-moderation-for-chatm...
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EARTHROCK
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Im wondering if this earth rocker is the DAViD you had problems with and banned in here on the board. Just prior to earthrocker showing up in the chatroom. David was in the chatroom. Someone asked him about being banned on here and he wouldnt say why. He banned Tahoe a 20 year alanon member on MIP...
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Not silent anymore
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Last week I posted about not asking the question I knew the answer to. Well last night at our Xmas dinner with family, my A made about 5 trips to the car. We all knew she was drinking. And I knew she was drinking last week but didnt ask. Well I didnt ask this morning, but said I wanted to tell her something...
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Not so merry...
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After decades of using MIP's #alanon chatroom I'm sad to say that it has had a 'hostile takeover' by a narcissistic jerk and is no longer controlled by MIP. The jerk using the nickname 'earthrocker' banned me from the chatroom, and I have no access to it. He is exactly what an alanon chatroom doesn't n...
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Silence C2C 25 December
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In Al-Anon we learn to Think before reacting to angry outbursts and drunken accusations. We also learn the value of silence.
But silence can be more cutting that cruel words when it is used to punish.
Deliberately ignoring someones attempts to communicate can be no better than a battle of words. Ra...
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EARTHROCKER
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Earthrocker has taken control of the MIP chatroom for alanon group. He even bestowed upon himself moderator control unless someone from MIP gave it to him?? He banned a very long time member of MIP Tahoe. Tahoe used to be moderator in there for along time. A while back his moderator status was r...
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Hope for Today Dec 26
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on finding love we are seeking- within ourselves. The writer describes going from an alcoholic home hoping to feel love and then transferring that expectation of love to an alcoholic boyfriend. The writer lived for his love and kept wanting and exp...
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Merry Christmas!
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hello Alanon Family, hope all is well, im been gone from here a long time,needing get back. im glad to be posting now, all has been ok in my world ,non perfect but ok. still single and loving it compared to where i was 8 yrs ago before my alanon recovery. hope to chat to others here,.......hugs looking up
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