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C2C – October 14, 2022
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Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...
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Courage to Change October 12
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Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...
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10/11/22 C2C If Knowledge is Power...
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A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...
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C2C – October 07, 2022
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Todays reading is about, "Dont just do something, sit there." Made me stop and think for sure!!! But what the author is trying to get across is that action is not always the best method to deal withsome issues. Always needing to take action is not always the best mindset; sometimes it is best to"not a...
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Hope for Today, Monday, 10/10, Step One Backwards
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The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...
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Hope for Today Oct 9
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the situations we may find ourselves in when we have the opportunity to deal with unresolved issues from our past. The writer describes facing people from childhood, or situations that felt like flashbacks to an alcoholic childhood home, (before com...
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Courage to Change October 5
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on negativity. The author shares that sometimes, they can get so bogged down in negativity, they forget where they are or where they are going in life. Negativity, the author realizes, keeps their life at a standstill. With Al-Anon, the author ha...
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10/4/22 ODAT
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Alanon guides us to take responsibility for our own, not others' actions. Our spiritual goal: not slide into anger or resentment when they try to blame us for their woes, and not to fall into the trap of escalation by defending ourselves. This is a challenge that one member likened to having the 'devil...
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C2C, Monday, 10/3, How do you get compassion for an A?
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First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to t...
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Hope for Today Oct 2
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the importance service work for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up on an alcoholic home where she was told her fate was to be rejected from college, not amount to anything and end up barefoot and pregnant. The writer was determined to pr...
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C2C – September 30, 2022
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In todays reading the author challenges the reader to change or "experiment" with one issuethat they maybe having on a daily basis. The goal is that if we change our habit of respondingto a particular difficult situation in a more positive way we may discover that we can turn"failures" into a more po...
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9/20/22 ODAT How do I Really Feel About Them?
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It is likely that we have witnessed irresponsible or irrational behavior executed by the alcoholic. The danger, suggests today's page, is that we allow ourselves to feel, hold and perhaps nurture contempt toward them. Alcoholics are not children who require our corrective measures, they are (i...
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Courage to Change September 28
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, that author reflects on "placing principles above personalities." The author shared that during a business meeting, their pet project was shot down, but another passed. They were struggling with injured pride, when this Al-Anon slogan entered their head. They we...
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9/27/22 ODAT – How To: Manage Others’ Lives
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Spoiler alert: we can't, and trying to leads to frustration for all. So concluded today's author who acknowledged trying to change a spouse's by trying to determine their thoughts and then attempting to steer them as they thought best. Alanon suggests this is not our job, right or responsibility, w...
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C2C, Monday, 9/26, when negative becomes positive
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This writer thought that anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear were "bad" feelings. But program says feelings are not bad or good--they are just a part of who we are. The writer goes on to say that good can sometimes come from those feelings: -anger can prompt constructive change-resentment can b...
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Starting over again.....Again
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I moved to a new State with my youngest daughter and left my husband since after a few years of begging him to treat her in a loving manner and his refusal, I did what was right for her mental health. He had gone as far as to laugh when she was feeling suicidal when she couldn't understand why her birth father...
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Hope for Today Sept 25
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning to resist the need to control, especially the behavior of other people, in our lives. The writer describes preparing for a visit from family, which often instigates a relapse into compulsive controlling behavior on the writers part. Th...
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C2C – September 23, 2022
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In todays reading the author talks about how they found it difficult to hold back in response to "insults and rudeness." That they thought that Al-Anon told them that they did not have to "accept unacceptable behavior." Instead we are reminded that Al-Anon tries to teach us that we should not all...
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C2C September 22 Sharing with the right people in the right place
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Today's C2C speaks of the benefits to both speaker and listener when sharing, honestly and fearlessly, as per the 5th step. Sharing our experiences and disclosing our poor decisions and motivations to the right person or people in the right setting achieves so much more than simply lightening the b...
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Courage to Change Sept. 21
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their relationship with change. They share that they used to fear change. Although living with alcoholism was living in constant chaos, it was familiar chaos and this lead them to feel that they have some control over the chaos. Thanks to Al-An...
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recovery is not an option
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Recovery is not an option. For me it is necessary. I have been experiencing a lot of issues out of my control. I feel that I would rather call things I go through issues rather than problems. Sometimes I guess these are relevant & really not interchangeable. I am so glad that I might be lessening the l...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 9/19, heads or tails
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This writer ponders the two ways of looking at the decision to stay with an A: 1) One can say, I just won't put up with it, or 2) We can correct our faults, keep our mouth closed, and keep hands off of other's problems. Alcoholism is only one of the disasters that can affect a marriage. It is suggested that...
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Hope for Today Sept 18
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about defining spiritual concepts for ourselves within Alanon. The writer describes coming to the program and feeling apathetic about a Higher Power. For the writer, reading through the steps and all the references to God was met with skepticism. What rea...
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C2C – September 16, 2022
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Todays reading points out how our most "negative thoughts" seem like reality/truth/prophecy. Accepting that "todays choices" (hence living One-Day-At-A-Time) and trusting our future toour HP is what will help us grow from that negativity we may be harboring on a daily basis.Reminder: "Toda...
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c2c September 15th
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Today's c2c talks about realising that sometimes "problems" can turn out to be blessings in disguise and it cites the example of being so exhausted from lack of sleep due to worry that the writer was unable to act against her own best interests. This is certainly an interesting take on stress-relate...
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Courage to Change September 14
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Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that living with the disease of alcoholism taught them that it was best to not hope for anything. The heartbreak of getting hopes up, only to be disappointed again and again was too much to bear. Eventually, the author shut down all their feelings and refus...
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9/13/22 C2C What Have I Spent my 'Money' on Today…
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This author resolves to treasure moments of time as opportunities to strengthen relationships and better self. Regardless of circumstances, the 12 Steps can help us do that as will meetings, readings and associating with fellow Alanoners. In each moment, I can make a positive impact. Time as curr...
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C2C, Monday, 9/12, acceptance is not submission
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The writer speaks about when dealing with a change, problem, or discovery, awareness frequently is followed by acceptance, and then action can be taken. We call this process the Three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. A new awareness can be uncomfortable, but unless we can face reality,...
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Hope for Today Sept 11
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about being aware of the balance in our lives. The writer describes thinking of recovery as a triangle: Higher Power at the top, Al-anon tools such as steps, meetings, service next, the individuals physical, emotional and spiritual health next, and job, fa...
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C2C – September 09, 2022
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Todays reading reminds us that help comes to each of us in such positive and wondrous ways,especially during meetings and posts.The reading goes on to say that we are reminded that "miracles" do happen and that we arenot alone, all we need do is reach out or share.Quote: "As I walk, As I walk, The unive...
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DH newly sober (yea!) - yet his behavior makes me worried...
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Hello everyone! I'm looking for supportive stories about new sobriety as I am working through some challenging emotions and situations. My DH and I are poly and have a closed triad with our partner (m). DH has struggled with alcohol addiction for many years and recently received his second DUI (fir...
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9/6/22 ODAT – Get Off Their Back
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Powerful reading today that touches on the very heart of Alanon: dropping our efforts to control others. Controlling can take many forms: direct, subtly manipulative, outright reconstruction or light interference, obsessive observation, counseling, taking over their responsibilities. A...
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Courage to Change September 7
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Hello MIP! Today's reading is about tradition seven, and what it takes for a group to be fully self-supporting. The author reflects that self-supporting doesn't only involve paying rent, but that it also involves service positions, and people stepping up to make the group the kind of group that t...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 9/5, looking within
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Monday's reading speaks of discovering ourselves, as in the real person we are. Looking within can open our eyes to seeing what needs improving. We can be afraid we won't like what we see, and we may have doubts that we can change. However we may also find a surprise--many good qualities under layer...
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Hope for Today Sept 4
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about how much we receive (with program work) when we give. The writer describes a time when she was not able to get around very easily and fell into a period of self pity. The writer was frustrated that the people surrounding her were not mind reading...
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C2C – September 02, 2022
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Todays reading (a bit short and sweet today) talks to us about the grief caused by the damageand loss of loved ones/friends due to the disease of alcoholism.The reading goes on to say that part of dealing with that grief is admitting to oneself how theeffects of alcoholism changed their life and accep...
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C2C September 1st
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Today's reading discusses the importance of being willing to take inventory as a group in much the same way as we do as individuals, and the importance of doing this to uphold the second tradition. It's hard for me to comment on Group Conscience as I tend to "leave that to the grown-ups" (I know, that's v...
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Courage to Change August 24
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on anger. They share that usually, they are a gentle, easy-going person, but when they get angry, they unleash a torrent of angry profanity. What made them stop and think about their behavior was their little dog getting his paws tangled in an exten...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 8/29, expectations
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The writer talks about frustration and disappointments when we expect too much. It's good to have high standards, but only if we can accept with serenity, when the results fall short. We expect more of an alcoholic than they can deliver, and often the expectations we have for ourselves are way too d...
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8/30/22 ODAT – Pause…Rework
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This contributor acknowledges a time we may have reached the point in our family situation that seems to call for action, the end of our rope. They suggest, however, that rather than move directly to a course of action, perhaps even the 'obvious' one we have heard by well-intentioned but not thorough...
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Courage to Change August 31
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their past efforts to change people to suit their own desires and needs. The author often thought of the problem as being with the other person if the author's needs weren't met. They wanted someone to be present, but not overly imposing. Upon fur...
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Hope for Today Aug 28
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning who we are and how we define ourselves. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and as a result, having a false sense of self. The writer felt invisible and without a voice. When the writer felt something, it felt like the exper...
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C2C – August 26, 2022
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Todays reading talks about denial. Denial about the disease of alcoholism and denial of our own participation and asks us "why?" We are reminded that we alone cannot control or defeat the disease and therefore try to devise other methods to cope and one ofthem is denial.The reading goes on to say t...
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Gaslighting
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Just looking for some ESH here on how you all deal with gaslighting from an A. That seems to be my biggest downfall at the moment, reacting to it and it's causing me to ride the crazy train again. Well, I am causing myself to ride it, I already know that. I'm just having a hard time stopping. Thanks in adva...
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C2C August 25th
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Today's C2C compares emotional growth (and the ability to experience emotions) with learning to play a piano; with mastery comes an appreciation for the highs and lows as they are a powerful reminder that we are alive and experiencing it fully. I think this is quite a beautiful reading and it gives a n...
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8/22/22 ODAT - Resting Martyr Face
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In the comfort and friendly confines of an Alanon meeting, one member noted the ease of smiling and good humor. Is this the face we present at home was one member's question to the group? Or do we exhibit our martyr face to express our unhappiness with other's decisions. Reminder - Do I use Martyr face to...
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Finding a Sponsor
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Ive been in Al Anon a couple of years and want to work the steps with a sponsor. Ive related to several women on zoom meetings but for valid reasons they are not available/ready to sponsor. How can I find one that is ready and willing? Feeling discouraged and even more alone.
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Hope for Today, Monday, 8/22, self-sabotaging
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The author came to alanon looking for instructions on how to become an adult. Lessons had come from parents, employers, spouses, children, friends--everybody except a Higher Power and oneself. The author could stop self-sabotaging if they stopped looking on the outside for something that cou...
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Hope for Today Aug 21
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to trust our own judgment in making decisions, and allowing others to trust us as well. The writer describes having grown up in a home where the parents (in an overly controlling way) told the writer what to do. The response was two extremes: ei...
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c2c August 18th
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Today's C2C speaks of the principle of remaining unaffiliated with outside causes. It's an interesting one, because through al-anon many of us are freed from a life consumed by obsession with other people's lives and that leaves room for our own enrichment. Al-anon can't then be used as a platform t...
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C2C – August 19, 2022
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Todays reading talks about how difficult it is sometimes to accept the fact that we love someone we cannot trust. How, with each disappointing incident we recover, only to be disappointed again! The reading goes on to say that our "heartache" can be alleviated if we learn to accept "reality" and t...
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today's reading & self care
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I read today's reading from C2C this morning. I realized that earlier this year I wasn't taking very good care of myself. I am doing so much better & am trying to fill the voids w/ healthy things. I don't work right now but I read somewhere that Saturday's child works hard for a living. I take it that li...
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8/16/22 Remember to Take Care of You
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Today's page reminds us that taking a timeout during stressful times may seem impossible but is exactly what we need to do. Making time for food, rest, Alanon refueling and other personal care is essential if we want to give ourselves the best chance of maintaining serenity. Reminder: I am the only p...
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C2C, Monday, 8/15, How important is it?
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The writer says that when living with the chaos in an alcoholic family, it can be hard to know the difference between an inconvenience and a major crisis. The slogan, How Important Is It?, helps us put things in proportion. If plans fall through, an unexpected bill arrives, or we are disappointed in...
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Hope for Today Aug 14
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about learning to respond to feelings and emotions rather than react to them. The writer describes how life felt unmanageable when decisions were being made in reaction to uncomfortable emotions. Through program work, talking with sponsor, physical exe...
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C2C – August 12, 2022
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Todays reading focuses on the Third Step which says that there are times that we need to "turn our will and life over to Gods care." The author discusses how when a family member was faced with a dire medical issue, how they felt they knew better for them. In the process of that struggle they found they...
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C2C August 11th
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Today's C2C talks of the power of attending al-anon meetings, especially when we are in a funk and don't want to go. The reading suggests those are the times a meeting can benefit us most, and when we are most likely to hear exactly what we needed to hear. I can't tell you how often al-anon, in one way or ano...
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8/9/22 ODAT – Anger: Change our Focus, Change the Outcome
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Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our though...
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Courage to Change July 27
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In today's reading, the author reflects on the words of the suggested closing: "...let there be no gossip or criticism of one another." The author realized that, although they try to leave their judgmental attitude at the door, they pick it up promptly after meetings and carry it with them, judgment...
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C2C – August 05, 2022
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Todays reading speaks about how the author, before Al-Anon, had resentments that took up much of the writers days/years. They noticed, over time, that after getting involved in the Al-Anon program, that their need to justify how they felt; constantlyhashing over the grievances, blame and/or da...
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