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C2C April 14th- Reframing our thinking
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Today's reading is all about catching ourselves when we are in negative thought patterns and "replacing them with positive thoughts". By adjusting the tape we have playing in our heads, we can transform our attitude and difficulties can become far more manageable or even, sometimes, enjoyable. I...
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Magic of the Program
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Al-Anon has been working really well for me for years, but recently, I've had the opportunity to make use of the tools in a new way. I've been fostering kids for almost a year now, and I'm on my third placement. This time, a sibling group of 2. I've had nearly constant opportunity to use the Al-Anon tool...
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4/12/22 C2C Grant me patience, Lord…and hurry!
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Wanting a quick resolution makes sense, who wants extended unpleasantness? Impatience, however, does not bring better results, actually makes things worse as we take more aggressive steps to bring about the outcome we think is best. When these don't work out, and even when they do, we find a way t...
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Hope for Today Apr 10
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our own participation is what contributes to the motion of recovery. The feeling of miracles happening in the program comes from our willingness to work at recovery, not from a magical source. The writer describes beginning service work in ala...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 4/11, self-defeating attitudes
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Monday's reading looks at why newcomers in program seem more eager to know why the alcoholic drinks, than why they allow another's compulsive drinking to affect them so destructively. We need to accept that the alcoholic has an illness, and it's possible the family can help. But primarily we must...
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Courage to Change 4/6
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how alcoholism has certain symptoms, such as mood changes and blackouts. As a person living with the disease of alcoholism, the author finds it useful to acknowledge that they, too, have symptoms similar to the disease of alcoholism, includin...
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c2c April 7th- Humour under pressure.
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Today's reading speaks of the writer's fears when first attending al-anon, expecting a formal affair but instead arrived to a chaotic meeting where they realised a sense of humour and a carry-on attitude was far more valuable than doing things perfectly. The takeaway is that rather than feeling da...
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4/5/22 ODAT - Do I Truly Want Recovery? Am I Willing to do what it Takes?
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Today's page addresses an important reality: that what we tell others and ourselves about the reasons for what we do and why ('I want to help others'), even what we may believe it to be, is quite possibly not accurate. Working the 12 Steps allows us to cut through the excuses and desperation to uncover...
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C2C, Monday, 4/4, changing up the routine
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The writer shares about waking up each morning feeling frantic, having a long list of crises that needed attention, always feeling behind, and sometimes not wanting to get up at all. Such was life living with an alcoholic, prior to program. But with alanon, life can change. They heard that when you o...
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Hope for Today Apr 3
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how there are times we may use busyness (obsessive activity) as a way to self medicate and isolate, in the same way that alcoholics use the buzz of alcohol. The writer describes not necessarily being a workaholic, but at times a learn-aholic and achieve...
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C2C March 31st Go Fly a Kite
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Sorry to post late this week folks. Early last week, late this week- get with the program, Mel! The reading for the 31st discusses how many of us have developed immature cooping mechanisms when living with or perhaps growing up with alcoholism, and that when we arrive at al-anon we often start to grow u...
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Courage to Change March 30
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Hello MIP! In today's share, the author reflects on their early thoughts about Al-Anon. In Al-Anon, we keep the focus on ourselves. The author was concerned about what people would think of them if they acted on that principle. They didn't want to be seen as inconsiderate, thoughtless, or uncaring...
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Bonus Reading: 3/29/22 ODAT - Turn on the Light, Take the Car, Learn from Alanon
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This page observes that some have turned away from a god concept in favor of taking full ownership of life decisions and results, perhaps feeling they can't do worse, and likely will do better. The writer compares this to walking into a room without turning on the light: is the stumble that likely fol...
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Hope For today Maardh 29th.
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with the Hope For Today's reading the person shared about the Struggle of Letting Go, especially when the Alcoholic in their life had left the Home. Of how they let go of their Al-Anon program, also of their mental, physical and spiritual health. Also that the part that still held onto resentment, tow...
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Hope for Today, Monday, 3/28, feeling safe
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The writer states that feeling safe was impossible in the family of origin. Upon coming home the mom would often be passed out on the couch, the dad would come home drunk, he would wake her up and start fighting. The writer took care of the house and younger siblings. They were often afraid that somet...
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Hope for Today Mar 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on compassion and how patience is a necessary part of that. The writer describes choosing compassion toward self and others once patience has been tested to the limits. There are certain people in our lives that require more effort in compassion. ...
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Courage to Change March 23
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Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares how helpful alanon has been in dealing with past disappointments. Dashed hopes, broken dreams, and past hurts have emotions that go with them, and these emotions can surface over time. When these feelings become part of our awareness, treating our...
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It's not easy...
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I just need to vent a little. It's not easy living with an active alcoholic (my choice to stay). For every action I receive, thanks to alanon, I have an arsenal of reactions: -reality changes, I have no expectations -unstable moods, I detach -unprovoked anger, bless them, change me -broken promise...
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C2C March 24th
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I'm getting in a little early with the reading this week (it's probably still Wednesday for many of you) as I have the dreaded virus and after I post this I am going to sleep for an as-yet undetermined amount of time. My goal is to sleep until I am well again, lol. Today's reading talks of reaching acceptan...
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Courage to change March 16
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Hello mip! In today's reading, the author reflects on progress. Progress can be hard to recognize, especially if we are comparing ourselves to some idealized person, or if our standards are unrealistically high. We can be disappointed. However, comparing our present circumstances to our past c...
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3/22/22 Worry… Unreal Gateway to Real Unhappiness
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Our author discusses the persistent habit of worry: it gathers inspiration from past events to fuel anxiety over the horrific events we become certain will occur in the future. Fortunately we are able to draw a powerful tool from Alcoholics Anonymous to help us: living One Day at a Time. If we choose...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 3/21, alanon, the last resort
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This reading reflects upon people arriving at alanon from despair and unhappiness, and feeling like there are no choices left. Although the newcomer often finds relief from talking it all out, members encourage newcomers to do less and less unburdening. There is work to do, new things to be learn...
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Hope for Today March 20
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to detach with love. It is about accepting other people and situations for who and what they are, rather than hanging expectations (and disappointments) on them. The writer describes one of her familys coping methods with alcoholism: tre...
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Comparing
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Hi MIP, I woke up early this morning and of course once I am awake, my brain clicks in and I start to think, not always good at that early time. I was looking at what was happening in my life at the moment. Because of Covid here where I live, it has become rampant within the Schools, and because my Daughter, wh...
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c2c March 17th- this too shall pass.
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Today's c2c reminds us that no matter what we are experiencing, it will eventually pass. We don't always have control over what we experience, and we sometimes have to be patient, but in the midst of all of that, we experience valuable emotions and growth, even if they are painful, frustrating or dist...
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On a lighter note!!
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I do wish we did not have to continually change the clocks twice a year!! I still have to do my car, which takes a manual to do!! {{HUGS}}
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3/15/22 C2C – Forgiveness: Ours to Give?
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Today's contributor once considered forgiveness as a visible sign of their moral superiority, to bestowed as a form of power rather than a true moving forward from an event. As they learned they have neither the right nor wisdom to judge the behavior of others, it became clear that forgiveness was mo...
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C2C, Monday, 3/14, 3 C's
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The writer says that alcoholics drink because they are people that drink--it's not because of you or me. We cannot change this with guilt, shouting, begging, distracting, hiding money, bottles, or keys, lying, threatening, or reasoning. We didn't cause it, we cannot control it, and we sure as hec...
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Hope for Today - March 11 - Self Care
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Today's author learned in Al-Anon about self-care: how to take care of self physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They also added financial responsibility, and took to heart the 7th Tradition: self-supporting, living within their means. They learned to save for their future needs, witho...
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Hope for Today Mar 13
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how despite our best efforts, we may be repeating habits and behaviors instilled in us during childhood. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and learning to deal with life in unhealthy ways. Specifically the writer did not know how...
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c2c 10th March Fear
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Today's C2C speaks of fear, and of how where once fear might have prevented us from participating fully in our own lives, al-anon gives us tools to accept fear and work with it. Instead of being paralysed and imagining terrible outcomes we can take inventory to ensure we are putting our best selves for...
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Courage to Change March 9
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In today's reading, the author shares about the struggle to separate their will from their HP's will. Sometimes, a desperate urge to act can be an indication that it is the authors will, while a calm certainty indicates their HP's will. When there isn't a clear indication, the author can wait, seek th...
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3/8/22 ODAT – Breaking Free From Our Own Mind
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Today's page describes a place filled with discouragement, tormented and circular thoughts, apprehension and confusion. This is the place inside our head that some lived in before finding the miracle of AlAnon. Reminder: Every meeting we attend, page we read, and fellow member we share with take...
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C2C, Monday, 3/7, making changes
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The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely express...
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Hope for Today Mar 6
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in all of us coming together to share experience, strength and hope. The writer describes each: Experience- when we share our individual stories with one another, we are also sharing that no one is alone in this. Living in alcoholism can be...
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C2C march 3rd- maturity.
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Today's C2C speaks of maturity. The writer recognises that when they first began their journey, their behaviour was very immature. It suggests that in taking inventory and considering what maturity looks like for us an an individual, we can work out our goals and how we can use al-anon to achieve the...
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Learned Behaviour
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Hi to MIP, recently I have been reading the sharings on the board, also in Hope For Today, it was talking about a lot of issues, like learned behaviour, responsibility, care taking. So I decided to put them all together and share of how I feel about all of them. How did I become a Caretaker, being so respon...
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March 4 - C2C - THINK
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Today's writer in Courage to Change was puzzled by the slogan THINK -- because it was their own thinking that had been causing their problems. Then they realized it was like the safety rule "Stop Look, and Listen." Instead of lashing out when someone is unkind to them, they can pause, THINK and then mak...
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Blessing For Betty
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Personal blessing for Betty (Hotrod) on the Anniversary of her passing. It was on February 29, 2020 that you left us and you are very missed Betty.
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3/1/22 ODAT – Humility: Doorway to Progress, Empowerment, Strength
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Alanon suggests that there can be no progress without humility. This brings forth resistance and puzzlement for some, but eventually we see that humility is not accepting poor behavior, but abandoning self-will and learning to yield to a higher power.From this perspective, we realize that it is o...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/28, detachment and disentanglement
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The writer shares that detachment from alcoholic problems, and disentanglement from difficulties, helps it becomes easier to stop impulsive decisions. We can work on this by pausing, thinking things through, and then forming a constructive action. With practice we will be able to build a seren...
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Hope for Today Feb 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the obstacle that fear can bring to our lives. The writer describes reactions to fear including procrastination, running away or withdrawal. The writer understands that these reactions not only do nothing to help with facing fears, they can actua...
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February 25 - Hope for Today - Let It Begin With Me
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Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that carrying the message, as stated in Step Twelve, does not mean they have to convert other people to Al-Anon. They can share their own experience, strength, and hope, but how that is received is out of their control. They can respond to direct questions ab...
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C2C Feb 24th The benefits of taking inventory
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Today's C2C likens taking our own inventory and finding deficits or defects to finding an empty shelf in a supermarket. In this way the reading invites us to consider finding our shelves "empty" as an opportunity to replenish our stock much as a shop-keeper might do. The reading goes on to say if we don...
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Courage to Change Feb. 23
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, since they had adult responsibilities even as a child, it wasn't a surprise that they grew up to be a care taker. It was automatic and comfortable to put whatever crisis and needs of another in front of their own needs. When the author realized tha...
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2/22/22 C2C - How Alanon Helps Us in Decision Making
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Alanon helped today's writer move away from perfectionism when decision making and accept that we can only make decisions with what we know at the time and do our best with it. Input can come from as many different sources as we allow, and can include our higher power, friends, readings... The reality...
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ODAT, Monday, 2/21, mental sobriety
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The writer says that we punish ourselves far more than life does. We have the power to change our lives if we are willing to use it. Suggestions are to root out doubt and fear from our qualifier's drinking. Suspicion may creep up even if sobriety is attained, for instance if they are late. We should a...
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Hope for Today Feb 20
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Good morning everyone: The sentence that jumped out at me from todays page is from the middle of the text: Recovery is not a contest. Todays reading is about acknowledging that slips and falling back into pre alanon behavior/reactions is part of recovery. Our slogan progress, not perfection is men...
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Motion Re: Meeting/Chat Room on Business Board
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https://alanon.activeboard.com/t68134315/alanon-chatroom/?page=last#lastPostAnchor
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Dealing with conflict and unreasonable people.
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I have a really awful neighbour. I'm sure some people remember; I used to complain about him here all the time. He never got any better, I have just learned to ignore him and go about my increasingly serene life. Anyway, he is always screaming at people, fighting with his girlfriend, smashing things, h...
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February 18 - Hope for Today - Amends
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Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that, when listing all persons they had harmed, to put their own name on the list for amends. Making amends would mean changing their harmful behaviors, and it couldn't be done all at once. It had to be done in small steps, and they could forgive themselves for...
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Courage to Change February 16
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In today's reading, the author shares how living with alcoholism is like living through a tornado. Not only do you have to watch out for the tornado, but also for what the tornado picks up and hurls at you! Alcoholism often brings with it other problems, like verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, illnes...
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C2C Feb 17th
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Today's reading speaks of limited thinking, and how we can become lost in our predicted outcomes, and feel hopeless. But we can't possibly imagine all possible outcomes, so when we feel trapped in our limited thinking, that's when it's time to turn it over to our HP. Often, this is when miracles happe...
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Hi and lurking again.
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Hi everyone. I did the disappearing act and got bit in the rear. Actually things have been ok till aging parents and not knowing boundaries that let the mind give it an leave it with HP
Do y'all think I should be in alanon or acoa?
I appreciate the input. Brass tacks is it's me that has to change but not s...
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2/15/22 Bonus page: ODAT – Gratitude: Dims the Glare of Our Difficulties
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Comments of gratitude at Alanon meetings helped this member refocus by turning away from worry and the business of others to see beauty that is all around and feel the hope of obtaining Serenity. We cannot carry the burden of others; trying to only ensures a decrease in our emotional bandwidth. Remi...
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Courage To Change, Feb, 15th.
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Hi MIP members, on reading this sharing, it talks about 'working a program", and what we have to do is to practice what we are learning,,,,, and being around people who speak and understand the language to be able to use it, and apply it to our lives. For myself, I know that anyone can be my teacher, if I kee...
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C2C Monday, 2/14, confusion?
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The writer says that confusion can be a gift from God. Often if we feel we need an immediate answer, it may not be the right time to take action. It's possible when we become really ready to act, the information will be presented. Knowing too much about options can drive us crazy. The writer suggests...
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February 11 - C2C - Love and Compassion
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Today's reading in Courage to Change reflects on the actions mentioned in Tradition Five. Practicing the Twelve Steps ourselves can give us the healing of compassionate self-love, perhaps through recognizing a loving higher power. Building on the strength of that self-love, we might be able to...
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Hope for Today Feb 13
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Good morning everyone- Todays reflection starts at the end of the page with the Thought for the Day: I tried to get God to listen to me through my prayers. He did, once I stopped telling Him what to do. The writer describes evolution of prayer from: praying not to be punished by God, to praying for specif...
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Learning To Love Myself.
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Hi to all on MIP, I hope this day is good and Serene to all. On reading in my Hope For Today on Feb, 3rd, it brought back memories to me as to how I was back then, and how I am today. I had many questions for myself, some good and some proving that I am a works in progress. The person talks about her Grand Fat...
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