Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

texaslady417 · texaslady417

I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...

angel123 · angel123

Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...

serendipity · serendipity

my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...

Jill · Jill

I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...

shamama · shamama

bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...

peewee · peewee

This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW

LosingHope · LosingHope

Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...

megan · megan

Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...

Gailey · Gailey

I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol

) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))),

dori · dori

Hi, My 20 year old daugther still at home and has a job .She did take off for a month though.She has to pay the cell phone bill now that is a cell phone for her brother , myself and her. She couldnt pay it this month so I was going to pay it .Today was the last day to pay it .Something happen to my...

jj · jj

He I am 2:30 in the morning and can't sleep!!! So I decuided to pop in and see how every one was doing. Read a few post and so on. (((Cdb))) sorry your daughter relapsed I hold her and your family in my prayers. I am also really happy to see you on the board!!! My codependancy h...

Tammy · Tammy

Finally got my computer fixed ... !!! So much has happened since my last post... The last few weeks have been very hard for me.. My husband and I have been at each others throats.. We took seperate vacations and on the way home I listened to a message on his cell phone left by a female and assumed he wa...

confused · confused

I am so frustrated right now that I want to scream. My son leaves for camp tomorrow. Until today, I thought that my AH and I were both going to drive him there. (2.5 hours to New Hampshire) Well, now he is going to work instead. Ok, but he had just told me yesterday t...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am looking for work again. My temporary assignment ended. I feel like I am going to have to be far more vague with the A around my money. If he thinks I have some he finds a way for me to have to pay some of the bills. I think I need to be vague in order to protect myself. I know that...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

HAPPY CANADAY DAY TO ALL MY FELLOW CANADIANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maria123 · Maria123

Would you all please say a prayer for Mira? She's not feeling well, and I am sure she could use our prayers

Maria

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, I was just talking to a client of ours that is placed at a local treatment center in a receptionist position as a way to gain some work experience. She was talking to us about this kid she met at the treatment center. He had come in to do an intake to start services there. He completed...

marriage2 · marriage2

Do you ever sit back and wonder WHY ME? Not in the pity sense but just in general. I have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 3. He was sober when we met and was upfront about being an alcoholic. But he lied about the length of his sobriety. He padded his sobriety date by 4 years. Wh...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Here is a quote sent to me in email by our CEO. Now he is not talking about my life in the email, but... boy it sure hit home. Have a great weekend! Take care of you! "If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principle...

ET · ET

Okay, I'm new to this group, but not new to the horrors of living with an addict. My ex-husband (from a 25 year long relationship), for awhile destroyed my life. It's a really long story, I'm going to try to summarize it the best I can - it's such a long story, but I'll try to make it shorter.I would so much ap...

gardengal · gardengal

Many of us including myself find themselves revisiting situations that have come and gone. I for one still wonder "why me", and all the other things that creep up in our minds periodically. Not so good memories come along , and we seem to let it go there and rehash situations that we cannot possib...

Cyn · Cyn

Life has been difficult with me and my boyfriend - life has been difficult for HIM - and his reaction to it and me has been difficult for me. I keep saying I am trying to give him what he needs, he keeps saying maybe I am trying to hard and thats the problem. However this is all I am doing: letti...

cdb · cdb

Dr. Phil was on a family whose son was using drugs. I related so much to the mom! The son seemed to be doing well with treatment after 2 weeks but as alot of us know, that is just the begining of the long life battle with addiction. Not only for the son, but for the entire family. I sure related to that show! cdb...

Maria123 · Maria123

"Prayer is for me, not for God, who knows what I am going through without explanation. With prayer I say I am willing to be helped. The meaning behind my prayers comes from my heart, not from words." Source: Courage to Change Loved June 30th's story of the little boy ~ I have been bur...

Rita G · Rita G

Sometimes I wish I could be one of those people are so unaffected by emotions - sometimes that just seems so tempting. . . As I have posted before, our daughter, an addict, got out of rehab last Thursday, this week she has already returned to old behaviors. Self-diagnosing herself with pneumo...

Tony · Tony

Well after trying to receive love from her for over 2 years, I am done. I cannot mainly believe that first year of what I thought was bliss and almost perfection has turned into THIS; however it has, and I accept that. I realize now the woman whom I fell in love with never existed. She was a facade creat...

txmom · txmom

Yesterday, Today And Tomorrow Today is the tomorrow I worried about yesterday. And today was such a lovely day, that I wondered why I worried about today yesterday. So today I am not going to worry about tomorrow. There may not be a tomorrow anyway. So today I am going to live as if there is no tomor...

kerry5 · kerry5

THIS IS AN ACTUAL INCIDENT On the last day before Christmas, I hurried to go to the supermarket to buy the remaining of the gift I didn't manage to buy earlier. When I saw all the people there, I started to complain to myself: "It is going to take forever here and I still have so many other places to go..." "C...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I heard a great line tonight on a talk show. Ironically enough the show was about damaged relationships between fathers and daughters. There are no coincidences just "God"incidences. The line is "Pain is the expectation of control". How true this can be for those of us...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Everyone))) Some good news on the board today... guess I'll share mine. I finally made a decision to get off my butt and start a side business. I have held a Cosmotology license for a long time and have worked in salons making part time money. I did a business cours...

abbyal · abbyal

Ok this is driving me nuts , someone who comes in the room has thier closing out statement as the 3 L's ------------ but have listed 4. soooooooooooo i never really thought of myself as a perfectionist and I try to mind my own business most days . But that is driving me nuts !!!!!!!!!! O...

vangellic · vangellic

I need to talk with someone and decided to log in to this message board for some comfort......... maybe someone out there might know or has also been diagnosed with liver damage and is going through the final stages. I live with an alcoholic (I am not) that has just been diagnosed with no li...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

whether traveling, or staying home! ....I hope those of you who are home near the computer, check in for those who are struggling to make it through this holiday. For me, the fourth of July was and has been the #1 Flashback holiday (for post-traumatic stress syndrome ...

annmarie · annmarie

I've spent many years trying to get to the stage where I could actually admit I was powerless over alcohol, and that my life had become unmanageable. I think the main problem was that I always assumed that I was in the midst of other people's problems. Problems caused by As in my life as I saw it. And be...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Told my ex/bf that I didn't want to see him any more. 2 weeks ago today. I wrote him a letter yesterday telling him a few more things that didn't get said. Haven't seen or heard from him in 2 weeks and I'm staying so sad and depressed. I guess I thought he would try and see me. Told him that if he decided that he d...

lilms · lilms

Just a quick note to say thank you to Abby for providing me with a

lightbulb moment. From now on I will enjoy the silences that occur in my household when my other half has her knickers in a knot. I will put on the music and dance, I will watch a show I enjoy on the television, I will no long...

allison · allison

talked to a sober husband last night and this morning.He has joined AA and has a sponser.He sounds better than he has in a long time.I know better than to get my hopes up too high but I hope for his sake,my sake,and our childrens sake this helps.I miss the man I married and want him home again.But I know I can...

sandie123 · sandie123

I'm still dealing with my family vacation loaded with lots of alcohol. I tried getting to a meeting yesterday (the only one I could make) and it was cancelled. I was so looking forward to it. This weekend is the BIG party. I know I need to detach. I also just found out my husband just got his 4th DUI. I st...

Robinks · Robinks

how did your court go yesterday? I said a big prayer for you. robin

dori · dori

Hi, I was scanning down the posts rereading some and I came across yours and I read what you wrote about the next time you call the police or take the keys in the honor of my sister. That is the nicest thing any one has done for me inm along time it made me cry of joy thank you . dori

nmike · nmike

Our son was home on his 2 week leave. He left last Sat to go back into combat in Iraq. Although my AH and I are separated, we came together to greet our son and do whatever it took to help him enjoy a respite from his daily life. He saw his grandmothers and cousins and and brother and played with the babies he ha...

sandie123 · sandie123

Well, here I am on "vacation" trying so hard to keep the focus on ME. It is a family vacation filled with all sorts of the disease. I am having such a hard time with the discussions and situations. I feel so bad for my kids having to deal and listen to all this 'diseased talk' when they are having such a hard ti...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: I guess I just need some validation for my feelings! Things with my mom have been strained our whole lives. She left us when I was 14 years old, drank heavily then and pretty much never stayed in touch with us (my father raised us). Though she drinks rarely now,...

meowpur · meowpur

Hi: I'm Barbara. I'm new here and have only posted once. I am having a hard time with people. I think I'll become a non people. My husband is not speaking to me. We had a fight 3 days ago. I kept it from esculating into a screaming match by using tec...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I feel like I'm at the end of my rope with the A. All week he has been extremely angry and manipulative. First it was about buying a guitar and angry because we didn't have the money for him to continue putting it on lay-a-way. Then he was angry because he thought I was telling him he cou...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hi, kind people. I posted here many months ago about the destruction of my marriage due to this disease. My ex husband and I were using addicts / alcoholics for years together. The birth of our daughter (born addicted) finally brought me to sobriety. I stopped seeing him when sh...

AlaMom · AlaMom

is not always a terrible thing to do. I have posted a couple of times about the situation of my father moving very far away. Two days ago I was all over the map emotionally but didnt even realize it. It wasnt until after I raged at my husband and said some very hurtful things that I reali...

gardengal · gardengal

Living with an alcoholic seriously affects our feels of self worth. We get sick. We suffer from guilt thinking that we caused the problem, and and we sit at home or at work in worry and fear, anxiety and stress. This makes us sicker. We hold things in and let if fester and grow within us, and our reactions t...

daisygirly · daisygirly

Hi...I really want to join in on the chat room but the chat room is coming up when I open the page. Everything else opens on the page execpt where the chat should be going on it's just an empty black box. Anyone have any ideas why this is happening and how I can fix it..??? thanks!

evey · evey

Hi, I posted a couple of weeks ago about my AH almost dying due to alcohol poisoning and how I confronted him after it in a liquor store. He agreed to go to rehab and he has been there for 5 days.Hate to say it, but I have gotten more done in these 5 days than I have in 6 months. I did see a...

Gailey · Gailey

One of mine is sitting in my recliner alone in the early morning while drinking my coffee and watching the hummingbirds outside my window eating from my feeder. Those little birds are so amazing to me. What's yours?

Barbara · Barbara

Yikes spoke with my mother the other day and now my younger brother who is back in court July 27th lost his part time gas station job! He came to work two hours late - his boss said he gave him enough chances and let him go. He knew he had to "keep his back clean" and now he's done this?! My mother is afraid he'll...

Powerless · Powerless

I found out that I am pregnant and due March 05, 2007. I am a little excited, but mostly terrfied. I can't think of a more irresponsible thing to do. My oldest daughter lives with her dad, I can't afford the two that live with us. My husband is finally getting clean and working a...

jajanma · jajanma

What are some of the ways you all deal with the money thing? I have become an expert at hiding money, but doing that makes me feel sick, because he is always calling me a liar, and I guess that makes him right, but I don't know how else to deal with it. I am just starting back to work again after 3 years of stayin...

smub · smub

I am posting here for the first time. I really need to vent..otherwise I will think about all this all day and it will impact everything I do today (it is only 7 am now!)..and maybe I will even lose my mind more. My husband of 5 1/2 years is an active alcoholic. I knew from the first month toge...

txmom · txmom

A Life Lesson From A Mule A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule braying. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble o...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, I just logged back on and the baord is fixed, the posts are now in order of start date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ty for fixing it Webmaster!

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Can't let go of resentments (Preview) I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...	texaslady417	5	626	Jul 3, 2006 by nmike
	Thank You (Preview) Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...	angel123	1	487	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Am I controlling or being controlled (Preview) I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...	hmrnrnmm	6	699	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	now what am i doing? (Preview) my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...	serendipity	3	561	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Finding relief (Preview) I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...	Jill	1	575	Jul 3, 2006 by annmarie
	the worrying if they are dead or not (Preview) bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...	shamama	5	563	Jul 3, 2006 by shamama
	2 L's and HN (Preview) This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW	peewee	3	437	Jul 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	In Desperation (Preview) Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...	LosingHope	8	878	Jul 2, 2006 by abbyal
	My latest divorce saga (long) (Preview) Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...	megan	10	510	Jul 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Dr Wayne Dyer (Preview) I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...	Gailey	2	483	Jul 2, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Private Messages (Preview) Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol ) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...	Karilynn	2	380	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	Prayers for Alanon families please (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))),	Karilynn	6	466	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	Bills pay them or not pay them (Preview) Hi, My 20 year old daugther still at home and has a job .She did take off for a month though.She has to pay the cell phone bill now that is a cell phone for her brother , myself and her. She couldnt pay it this month so I was going to pay it .Today was the last day to pay it .Something happen to my...	dori	5	630	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	can't sleep (Preview) He I am 2:30 in the morning and can't sleep!!! So I decuided to pop in and see how every one was doing. Read a few post and so on. (((Cdb))) sorry your daughter relapsed I hold her and your family in my prayers. I am also really happy to see you on the board!!! My codependancy h...	jj	3	644	Jul 2, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Catching UP !!! (Preview) Finally got my computer fixed ... !!! So much has happened since my last post... The last few weeks have been very hard for me.. My husband and I have been at each others throats.. We took seperate vacations and on the way home I listened to a message on his cell phone left by a female and assumed he wa...	Tammy	4	332	Jul 1, 2006 by nmike
	expectations - resentment - come off my pink cloud - ESH PLEASE! (Preview) I am so frustrated right now that I want to scream. My son leaves for camp tomorrow. Until today, I thought that my AH and I were both going to drive him there. (2.5 hours to New Hampshire) Well, now he is going to work instead. Ok, but he had just told me yesterday t...	confused	3	666	Jul 1, 2006 by abbyal
	looking for work (Preview) I am looking for work again. My temporary assignment ended. I feel like I am going to have to be far more vague with the A around my money. If he thinks I have some he finds a way for me to have to pay some of the bills. I think I need to be vague in order to protect myself. I know that...	maresie2	5	518	Jul 1, 2006 by maresie2
	happy c-day (Preview) HAPPY CANADAY DAY TO ALL MY FELLOW CANADIANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!	notsonew1111	3	2145	Jul 1, 2006 by peewee
	Mira (Preview) Would you all please say a prayer for Mira? She's not feeling well, and I am sure she could use our prayers Maria	Maria123	3	454	Jul 1, 2006 by peewee
	Words Can Kill (Preview) Hi Roomies, I was just talking to a client of ours that is placed at a local treatment center in a receptionist position as a way to gain some work experience. She was talking to us about this kid she met at the treatment center. He had come in to do an intake to start services there. He completed...	Dolphin123	9	748	Jul 1, 2006 by jkiss03
	NEW and LONG (Preview) Do you ever sit back and wonder WHY ME? Not in the pity sense but just in general. I have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 3. He was sober when we met and was upfront about being an alcoholic. But he lied about the length of his sobriety. He padded his sobriety date by 4 years. Wh...	marriage2	4	893	Jul 1, 2006 by lmt123
	Change and uncertainty (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Here is a quote sent to me in email by our CEO. Now he is not talking about my life in the email, but... boy it sure hit home. Have a great weekend! Take care of you! "If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principle...	rtexas	3	552	Jul 1, 2006 by Dolphin123
	How do I move on, let go of the pain? (Preview) Okay, I'm new to this group, but not new to the horrors of living with an addict. My ex-husband (from a 25 year long relationship), for awhile destroyed my life. It's a really long story, I'm going to try to summarize it the best I can - it's such a long story, but I'll try to make it shorter.I would so much ap...	ET	5	717	Jul 1, 2006 by ET
	Heard something today, wanted to share, found this statement very powerful (Preview) Many of us including myself find themselves revisiting situations that have come and gone. I for one still wonder "why me", and all the other things that creep up in our minds periodically. Not so good memories come along , and we seem to let it go there and rehash situations that we cannot possib...	gardengal	2	900	Jul 1, 2006 by gardengal
	Doing things differently (Preview) Life has been difficult with me and my boyfriend - life has been difficult for HIM - and his reaction to it and me has been difficult for me. I keep saying I am trying to give him what he needs, he keeps saying maybe I am trying to hard and thats the problem. However this is all I am doing: letti...	Cyn	1	535	Jul 1, 2006 by cdb
	Did anyone see Dr. Phil today? (Preview) Dr. Phil was on a family whose son was using drugs. I related so much to the mom! The son seemed to be doing well with treatment after 2 weeks but as alot of us know, that is just the begining of the long life battle with addiction. Not only for the son, but for the entire family. I sure related to that show! cdb...	cdb	8	590	Jul 1, 2006 by cdb
	Prayers (Preview) "Prayer is for me, not for God, who knows what I am going through without explanation. With prayer I say I am willing to be helped. The meaning behind my prayers comes from my heart, not from words." Source: Courage to Change Loved June 30th's story of the little boy ~ I have been bur...	Maria123	9	423	Jul 1, 2006 by cedarpines
	Too many emotions (Preview) Sometimes I wish I could be one of those people are so unaffected by emotions - sometimes that just seems so tempting. . . As I have posted before, our daughter, an addict, got out of rehab last Thursday, this week she has already returned to old behaviors. Self-diagnosing herself with pneumo...	Rita G	5	639	Jun 30, 2006 by nmike
	I'm done. (Preview) Well after trying to receive love from her for over 2 years, I am done. I cannot mainly believe that first year of what I thought was bliss and almost perfection has turned into THIS; however it has, and I accept that. I realize now the woman whom I fell in love with never existed. She was a facade creat...	Tony	9	633	Jun 30, 2006 by Tony
	Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow (Preview) Yesterday, Today And Tomorrow Today is the tomorrow I worried about yesterday. And today was such a lovely day, that I wondered why I worried about today yesterday. So today I am not going to worry about tomorrow. There may not be a tomorrow anyway. So today I am going to live as if there is no tomor...	txmom	4	776	Jun 30, 2006 by dori
	Drunk driving story real touching (Preview) THIS IS AN ACTUAL INCIDENT On the last day before Christmas, I hurried to go to the supermarket to buy the remaining of the gift I didn't manage to buy earlier. When I saw all the people there, I started to complain to myself: "It is going to take forever here and I still have so many other places to go..." "C...	kerry5	3	688	Jun 30, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Heard a great line... (Preview) I heard a great line tonight on a talk show. Ironically enough the show was about damaged relationships between fathers and daughters. There are no coincidences just "God"incidences. The line is "Pain is the expectation of control". How true this can be for those of us...	AlaMom	3	363	Jun 30, 2006 by peewee
	Made a big decision (Preview) (((Hello Everyone))) Some good news on the board today... guess I'll share mine. I finally made a decision to get off my butt and start a side business. I have held a Cosmotology license for a long time and have worked in salons making part time money. I did a business cours...	twinmom2	7	496	Jun 30, 2006 by peewee
	3 L's (Preview) Ok this is driving me nuts , someone who comes in the room has thier closing out statement as the 3 L's ------------ but have listed 4. soooooooooooo i never really thought of myself as a perfectionist and I try to mind my own business most days . But that is driving me nuts !!!!!!!!!! O...	abbyal	1	627	Jun 30, 2006 by angel123
	HELP! (Preview) I need to talk with someone and decided to log in to this message board for some comfort......... maybe someone out there might know or has also been diagnosed with liver damage and is going through the final stages. I live with an alcoholic (I am not) that has just been diagnosed with no li...	vangellic	4	466	Jun 30, 2006 by lebe27
	Have a Safe Holiday and....quote (Preview) whether traveling, or staying home! ....I hope those of you who are home near the computer, check in for those who are struggling to make it through this holiday. For me, the fourth of July was and has been the #1 Flashback holiday (for post-traumatic stress syndrome ...	wallsal55	0	545	Jun 30, 2006 by wallsal55
	Step One (Preview) I've spent many years trying to get to the stage where I could actually admit I was powerless over alcohol, and that my life had become unmanageable. I think the main problem was that I always assumed that I was in the midst of other people's problems. Problems caused by As in my life as I saw it. And be...	annmarie	1	562	Jun 30, 2006 by aunitedway
	Feeling so down today! (Preview) Told my ex/bf that I didn't want to see him any more. 2 weeks ago today. I wrote him a letter yesterday telling him a few more things that didn't get said. Haven't seen or heard from him in 2 weeks and I'm staying so sad and depressed. I guess I thought he would try and see me. Told him that if he decided that he d...	sisdragonfly1957	4	453	Jun 30, 2006 by aunitedway
	Thank you Abbyal (Preview) Just a quick note to say thank you to Abby for providing me with a lightbulb moment. From now on I will enjoy the silences that occur in my household when my other half has her knickers in a knot. I will put on the music and dance, I will watch a show I enjoy on the television, I will no long...	lilms	1	332	Jun 30, 2006 by abbyal
	feeling better (Preview) talked to a sober husband last night and this morning.He has joined AA and has a sponser.He sounds better than he has in a long time.I know better than to get my hopes up too high but I hope for his sake,my sake,and our childrens sake this helps.I miss the man I married and want him home again.But I know I can...	allison	2	610	Jun 30, 2006 by ET
	Still Struggling for Sanity (Preview) I'm still dealing with my family vacation loaded with lots of alcohol. I tried getting to a meeting yesterday (the only one I could make) and it was cancelled. I was so looking forward to it. This weekend is the BIG party. I know I need to detach. I also just found out my husband just got his 4th DUI. I st...	sandie123	6	568	Jun 30, 2006 by leo
	tiredtonite (Preview) how did your court go yesterday? I said a big prayer for you. robin	Robinks	1	421	Jun 30, 2006 by Robinks
	jennifer- drunk driveing.. (Preview) Hi, I was scanning down the posts rereading some and I came across yours and I read what you wrote about the next time you call the police or take the keys in the honor of my sister. That is the nicest thing any one has done for me inm along time it made me cry of joy thank you . dori	dori	2	489	Jun 30, 2006 by Jennifer
	Pray for peace (Preview) Our son was home on his 2 week leave. He left last Sat to go back into combat in Iraq. Although my AH and I are separated, we came together to greet our son and do whatever it took to help him enjoy a respite from his daily life. He saw his grandmothers and cousins and and brother and played with the babies he ha...	nmike	6	409	Jun 30, 2006 by afmom03
	Patience is needed but I'm loosing it quick (Preview) Well, here I am on "vacation" trying so hard to keep the focus on ME. It is a family vacation filled with all sorts of the disease. I am having such a hard time with the discussions and situations. I feel so bad for my kids having to deal and listen to all this 'diseased talk' when they are having such a hard ti...	sandie123	12	576	Jun 30, 2006 by peewee
	Difficult Mother (Preview) Hi everyone: I guess I just need some validation for my feelings! Things with my mom have been strained our whole lives. She left us when I was 14 years old, drank heavily then and pretty much never stayed in touch with us (my father raised us). Though she drinks rarely now,...	hersh	3	331	Jun 30, 2006 by peewee
	feel alone (Preview) Hi: I'm Barbara. I'm new here and have only posted once. I am having a hard time with people. I think I'll become a non people. My husband is not speaking to me. We had a fight 3 days ago. I kept it from esculating into a screaming match by using tec...	meowpur	4	403	Jun 30, 2006 by annmarie
	Need some ESH (Preview) I feel like I'm at the end of my rope with the A. All week he has been extremely angry and manipulative. First it was about buying a guitar and angry because we didn't have the money for him to continue putting it on lay-a-way. Then he was angry because he thought I was telling him he cou...	twinmom2	7	468	Jun 30, 2006 by debilyn
	Really need some support now ... (Preview) Hi, kind people. I posted here many months ago about the destruction of my marriage due to this disease. My ex husband and I were using addicts / alcoholics for years together. The birth of our daughter (born addicted) finally brought me to sobriety. I stopped seeing him when sh...	phoebemoonpie	12	541	Jun 30, 2006 by phoebemoonpie
	Saying goodbye... (Preview) is not always a terrible thing to do. I have posted a couple of times about the situation of my father moving very far away. Two days ago I was all over the map emotionally but didnt even realize it. It wasnt until after I raged at my husband and said some very hurtful things that I reali...	AlaMom	1	400	Jun 29, 2006 by cdb
	When was the last time you went to a doctor or dentist, and really took care of yourself? (Preview) Living with an alcoholic seriously affects our feels of self worth. We get sick. We suffer from guilt thinking that we caused the problem, and and we sit at home or at work in worry and fear, anxiety and stress. This makes us sicker. We hold things in and let if fester and grow within us, and our reactions t...	gardengal	8	448	Jun 29, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Chat room is coming up (Preview) Hi...I really want to join in on the chat room but the chat room is coming up when I open the page. Everything else opens on the page execpt where the chat should be going on it's just an empty black box. Anyone have any ideas why this is happening and how I can fix it..??? thanks!	daisygirly	1	299	Jun 29, 2006 by confused
	update (Preview) Hi, I posted a couple of weeks ago about my AH almost dying due to alcohol poisoning and how I confronted him after it in a liquor store. He agreed to go to rehab and he has been there for 5 days.Hate to say it, but I have gotten more done in these 5 days than I have in 6 months. I did see a...	evey	2	334	Jun 29, 2006 by AlaMom
	One of life's simple pleasures (Preview) One of mine is sitting in my recliner alone in the early morning while drinking my coffee and watching the hummingbirds outside my window eating from my feeder. Those little birds are so amazing to me. What's yours?	Gailey	6	458	Jun 29, 2006 by cdb
	Brothers court date coming up July 27 - now he lost his part time job! (Preview) Yikes spoke with my mother the other day and now my younger brother who is back in court July 27th lost his part time gas station job! He came to work two hours late - his boss said he gave him enough chances and let him go. He knew he had to "keep his back clean" and now he's done this?! My mother is afraid he'll...	Barbara	2	364	Jun 29, 2006 by cdb
	I'm pregnant!!! (Preview) I found out that I am pregnant and due March 05, 2007. I am a little excited, but mostly terrfied. I can't think of a more irresponsible thing to do. My oldest daughter lives with her dad, I can't afford the two that live with us. My husband is finally getting clean and working a...	Powerless	13	508	Jun 29, 2006 by Tammy
	The money issue (Preview) What are some of the ways you all deal with the money thing? I have become an expert at hiding money, but doing that makes me feel sick, because he is always calling me a liar, and I guess that makes him right, but I don't know how else to deal with it. I am just starting back to work again after 3 years of stayin...	jajanma	4	446	Jun 29, 2006 by seachange
	I feel like a crazy dumbell!! (Preview) I am posting here for the first time. I really need to vent..otherwise I will think about all this all day and it will impact everything I do today (it is only 7 am now!)..and maybe I will even lose my mind more. My husband of 5 1/2 years is an active alcoholic. I knew from the first month toge...	smub	4	442	Jun 29, 2006 by RamzDear
	Life Lesson from a Mule (Preview) A Life Lesson From A Mule A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule braying. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble o...	txmom	4	334	Jun 29, 2006 by mastiff
	Message Board Fixed! (Preview) Hi Roomies, I just logged back on and the baord is fixed, the posts are now in order of start date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ty for fixing it Webmaster!	Dolphin123	3	344	Jun 29, 2006 by Christy
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