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Not sure how to feel
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Hello! Today marks 8 days since husband has had a drink of vodka. Yes, I had everything to do with it as I told him how much I hate it when he drinks. So he quit...cold turkey. He does have a few (maybe 3-4) at night, but that does not make him mean or even drunk like when he drank vod...
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Really pissed
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A stopped drinking again over the weekend but too late to correct his latest financial escapades. Seems he wrote a check for $152.00 to the place fixing his ATV last week and didn't tell me about it. That check plus other pos spending he did on his bank card all hit yesterday....
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lebe27
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how do you get a sponsor?
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i kind of sort of understand how an alcoholic gets a sponsor in AA. the notion of having one in Al-Anon, i'd never heard of it before i came here. my local Al-Anon is inactive right now, someone told me a few of the old members go to CoDA but i can't make the meeting that one night of the week. how does one get a s...
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purpleraven
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Need to vent
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I have not posted here in a while but I just want to know if anyone here has experienced a happy ending living with an alcoholic? Does this nonsense ever end and you get back the person you married??
I'm so tired of the fighting, the resentment, and the broken promises....I honestly can't even stand be...
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the whale (the message at the end is so true)
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I am almost due to leave. one more day then wednesday at noon. It looks like it might rain my whole vacation that is ok, I am going to see people not the sites. I will be without the computer till august 1. I wanted to share this email with my alanon family. hmm pictu...
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hmrnrnmm
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Getting nervous
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Hello (((Everyone)))
I'm nervous now. It's the final day, the first people look at the house tomorrow at 430. I did not get everything done of course cause I was trying to fit 2 years worth of stuff into one month along with the depression and other feelings that are all bundled up in this divorce. It is...
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Jennifer
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Scared of Husband's Sponsor
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Hi all,
I posted this on the AA side, and was wondering if anyone has ESH on this. I shared about this in a meeting and was doing well, but that sh***y committee is going off and I am hot and miserable at work and can't get them to shut up.
I have a question, and I am stuggling for words, w...
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Dolphin123
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You people are so fine...
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Thanks for the support and good birthday wishes.
Diva - who is 39 again today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Diva
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Reason Season Or a Lifetime
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People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficu...
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kerry5
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Working Working Working
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Hello (((Everyone)))
Working Working Working Garage is cleaned out ... no small task ... seems I am a packrat and my A is a slob  One large trailer, one strong brother, one sweeping mother, and one father who looked in every box (I now know where i absorbed the packrat thing from) one m...
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Jennifer
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separated
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I am currently separated from my AH who is in recovery. We have been separated about 5 months now. He said he's filing for divorce, but I haven't heard anything for a month . . . no response to my e-mails or phone calls.
I think I have gone from being angry and accusing to him, to pathe...
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krise
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room moderator
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ok so i'm not sure if its ok to say this, but i just won't use names
there is a room moderator that has become very rude
i'm not sure if i offended them in some way or wat, but everytime i say something, they either question it, act like i'm lying, or say i'm being innapropriate while i'm telling st...
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Miranda
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A morning Debilyn will appreciate
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Good Morning (((All))) and most especially ((Debilyn)) this morning,
I was thinking of you the whole time I was crawling around in a slant ceiling attic cubby. You see my cats found a cushion left by previous owner and decided to burrow into it, puffs of foam everywhere. Easy answer right? just shop...
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Jennifer
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Update
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((((Hi Everyone))) hope all is welll and a good weekend is being had by all.
As some of you know, I have been struggling with whether I am or am not an alcoholic.
Well, I know in my heart and soul I am.
I went to an AA meeting last night and said, my name is G and I am an alcoholic. Wow, the words just...
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beachbaby
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Eden part two
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The dogs next door, great dogs, run to the fence to watch. Then alll of mine run over there and they begin a barking war that you would think someone is getting torn apart. If you open the gate they are allll wiggling idiots. ??? territory I guess.
I lift and empty the pools and put the hose in. oh...
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debilyn
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Loneliness of a Different Sort (Adult in Nature)
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OK. I am lonely. I have tons of friends, a family who loves me. But, the one man in my whole life that I've wanted the most, is so distant to me. I know in my head that it's the alcohol. But, my body craves him holding me, holding my hand, brushing my hair back from my eyes, th...
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Becky1
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Convention
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I went to an Al-Anon convention this weekend - was not as great as I expected, but my fault for having an expectation . . .
Anyway, I did hear two things that I had not heard in recovery that I really liked - wanted to share - hope they help you as much as they helped me . . .
1. Religion is for pe...
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Rita G
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$$$
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Hi, all--I know I haven't been here for awhile (two jobs now), but I would like to hear how many of you how handle this situation.
My A goes to the bar just about every day now--he was self employed and has just about stopped all activity regarding work. He has a small pension and took early...
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Annie
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Not been heard- long and confusing
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Hi all,
My bf is in early recovery and I see one huge problem rising and it will have impact on both our recoveries. I’m not been heard by him, even he thinks he is listening.
When he was drinking, I was trying to tell him a little bit about myself and about my past. He doesn’t remember...
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daisy2
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Not been heard part 2
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I had hard thought about myself and maybe over reacting myself. It was selfish think to say no to such a small think. I set high standard to future father of my kids, that’s maybe the problem. We are talking about starting family in future and I watch him closely how is he with his daughter. I shouldn’t be s...
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daisy2
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simple things made complicated
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Yesterday evening my ex A and I discussed in a reasonable manner the way we were going to transport our son to Irish summer camp. The distance is negligible for many living in other countries but it is over a bank holiday august weekend and over hellish terrain. I wanted us to share the driving, I could dr...
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maire rua
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it's already working!
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i'm afraid to get too excited, i don't want to jinx myself ... but my A and i had a breakthrough this weekend and i honestly think it's because i started Al-Anon!!! he was pissy about it at first, and pumping me for info, it was like he didn't want me to be in recovery. it was frustrating and i wanted to just gi...
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purpleraven
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Just deal with it?
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Ok, so my A has never been an active drinker as long as I've known him but from a lot of the posts that I've read, it seems like a lot of the behaviors are the same whether he drinks or not. Behaviors such as he is right and I am wrong all the time, controlling things (i.e. telling me...
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mysticmidian
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Could use some support
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Have you ever found yourself in that really dark, scary place? I'm so sad and just can't shake it. Everyone has bad days and I know I've had more than my share since January, but I'm finding myself in so deep I can't find my way back. The divorce is dragging and becoming increasingly nasty. I know that's pa...
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findingmyway
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Out of the doldrums!!!
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I have felt so much better this evening, thanks to the support of all of you. Thank you. THANK YOU!!! Look out. The old Diva is back in full swing...
Tomorrow is my birthday, and the A got me a pair of cockatiels. I have never had birds before, although I devote a lot of time to caring for the wild ones in t...
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Diva
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Finally back!! Not avoiding you all
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I was on vacation, had a great one until flight back, it took 24 hours, for 1000 miles. Long story, but the stress of it all has left me in a hypertentive crisis and numb on my complete left side, so I am ordered to bed until resolved. Or until I get a hold of one of my regular doctors.
I have mis...
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jrtjosey
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confrontation on bad treatment
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Today, for the first time since I remember I stood up for myself when treated in a shabby way. I feel nervous, and have a knot in my stomach as I sent my response by email and said what I meant in an honest way. Will this get easier in time? Sometimes I feel like such an imposter.
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maire rua
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"Out of the mouths of drunkards and babies comes the truth"
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My mother told me that out of the mouths of Drunkards and Babies comes the truth. I want to know is this true. My boyfriend is very kind to me when sober but when drunk he is very very verbally abusive. Its like living with a man with a spilt personality. Its horrible. Can...
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waterlesschain
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Unable to get into chat room, what am I doing wrong?
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Hi,
I've been trying to get into the chat but I keep getting the message "unable to connect." I am trying to enter through the website link that I found in the above post. Help!
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mysticmidian
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DH/DUI/1st time here.....
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 Hello all,
I don't know what to say except thank God that I have found you! And thank you for being here!
I have been struggling with this, and so few people know. Our families do not all even know. For what purpose? I do not want to be condemned. It affects so much of our fa...
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midwestgirlatheart
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Thank you
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Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who shared on the topics of "Anger" and "Separated." I have read and reread them and will continue to do so to soak up as much wisdom as I can :)
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krise
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Diva!!! You say it's your birthday??????
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ahem.....(clears throat in preparation for singing)
cues the band..and a 1 and a 2.........
You say it's your birthday
Happy birthday to you, yeah
They say it's your birthday
We're gonna have a good time
I'm glad it's your birthday
Happy birthday to you
Ah
Ah
Ah...
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david62
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there is hope
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Hi everyone,
I have not posted in awhile, been reading a lot and replying but had not posted myself. I realized this morning as I was reading that I had not posted because so often in the past I only did so when I was feeling desperate, mixed up, angry, frustrated .... you all know the feelings, an...
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confused
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Worried
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Hi group,Some of u know my situation, married to my hub who was an active drinker 4 over 20 yrs, past 4 months started shooting cocaine, i left him 1 month ago, took our 2 kids 600 miles away to my old hometown, i'm in contact few times week with him, he's still using but not as much, he got behind in ren...
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serenity62
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Anger
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Just had to share this, because it has been brewing in me.
My husband is an alcoholic/addict. I met him when he was 6 months sober, then a year into our marriage a back injury kicked off his addiction again, which lasted a couple years. It was an awful time, he almost died a couple of times,...
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krise
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What my life is like walking on water..
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Life is like walking on water you just keep taking one step at a time!!! My journey to recovery is like wallking on water there are times when I am afraid and unsure of walking on water but I have my HP,sponsor,and tools to help me through thoses times of being unsure!!! There are times walking on water in m...
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bubbles1990
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Alcoholism runs in families
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Not anything we don't already know but something that is sticking in my mind today. A got an email from his sister last night. Her 17 year old son got stopped by the cops last night with 2 cases of beer and some dope after cutting cop off. She wants A to talk to him about what a bad r...
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lebe27
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AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH
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Great. we were getting along great till I disagreed with her. She had the bright idea to go next door and buy the neighbors 1991 Lincoln Continental. The rear end is almost dragging the ground. They did offer to sell it to us the other day for $200. Now it is a different story.
Seems we have a 1971 17ft cam...
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hmrnrnmm
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Just as
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One of my son's gave me a patio swing. I really wanted a patio to put it on. I made up my mind I can do this Could not afford to get material all at one shot so it took time piece by peace to build. Just as Alanon taught me to take piece by pieace of things with in me. My feelings dealings situations all types of t...
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angel123
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the solution: "OH FRIGGIN' WELL!!!!!"
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That, just for tonight, is my solution to a problem I'm having letting go of someone/something.
I think it might be the best one yet... :)
Jonibaloni -- Edited by jonibaloni at 08:58, 2006-07-22
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jonibaloni
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re:anger
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i was just reading the posts on anger and that is where i am today. i feel all that resentment. but i really apperciated the post from the sober alcoholic. that is why i go to open aa meetings. to remember to have compassion. everything that was said seems so right on. all the opinions i could relate to. i ha...
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serendipity
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Feeling the resentment and anger today.
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Most of the time I cope very well. I have a naturally happy nature, and pride myself on the fact that I can handle life quite well. I have nothing at all to worry about really, except the A. Usually, I accept that he is sober and, I hope, likely to remain so. But every now and then, the resentment and anger cre...
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Diva
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anyone here in oklahoma city or albuquerque area?
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Hi,
I was just wondering if anyone here is in the Oklahoma City, OK or Albuquerque, NM area.  My husband and I are moving someone to Albuquerque a week from tomorrow (we have a moving business), and will be traveling Interstate 40 west from Tennessee straight to Albuq...
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lmt123
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another stick in the pincushion that was my heart
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Does anyone know if memory loss is common among alcoholics? I'm not talking about blackouts,I know about those.Here's why I ask.
I was looking for something in a drawer and I came across about 4 or 5 birthday cards I had gotten in different years from my husband.We've been married 36 years,the last 1...
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drucilla06
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CAN I ACCEPT DISAGREEMENT AND CRITICISM GOOD NATURELY, WITH AN OPEN MIND, RECOGNIZING IN IT A POTENTIAL FOR GROWTH?
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For me trying to be the one who was always right. (or thought I was especially with the A) I would not listen to others and their suggestions and go about doing things "my way". As my A's drinking escalated the more I tried to prove to him and others that I was right and he was wrong. I would not listen to other...
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gardengal
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eden part one
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Browni: four months, chocolate brown and butterscotch. red dobie/choc lab mix.
Estersue: 1200 pound pink farm pig, seven years old.
Fannie Alice: 6mo old pink farm pig.
Sauvy: great pyrenees.
Barlow: big bronze turkey
Chief: big ole white appy mix
luster, augra, spi...
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debilyn
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Coincidence? I think not - Geaux HP!!
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Before Al-Anon, I used to think things happened by chance, accident or coincidence - not so much anymore - Let me explain . . .
About 5 yrs before getting into Al-Anon, my younger brother who is very active in AA, gave me an Al-Anon speaker tape. The speaker was a lady from California. I li...
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Rita G
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There wasn't a miracle in a bottle for me
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Hi roomies,
(Continued from previous post Praying for a Miracle From A Bottle, that is what the mechanic called the stuff he put in my car last week)
I just drove my car the 100 miles needed to see if the "Miracle in a Bottle" would work, well it didn't I need to replace the tranny. And I just got the quot...
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Dolphin123
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my diabolical plan to disable the truck a week before I was to leave
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Well, We got a ride to town today to drop of the part ( carborator). We were able to get dog food & our medications. I got to work early. I was due at noon. I sat on a porch out of site & did my daily readings. I was in a better mood. I have been accused of being negative.
My A says she is hurting an...
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hmrnrnmm
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Secrets
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I believe he has secrets. He has a yahoo email address; he has a web-cam that I just discovered yesterday. I have issues with trust anyway, and I find incriminating evidence. He also received an email on his regular email site from some porn site. He said it was something he had no knowledge of and delete...
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Diva
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After My Slip
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I posted a couple of days ago about a slip I had.
While I was at the library, using the computer to post, my A sent me a text message.......I'm sorry, are you coming home. I sent back "Why" He sent "Because I love you and want you here"
Weird. Just the night before, I was fat, u...
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Becky1
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Child Services Visit...
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Today child services is at my house to interview myself and my kids related to the incident a few weeks ago at my house. This for me is the consequence of me dropping the restraining order on my husband. Standard stuff but I am pretty freaked out over it. It is somewhere that I thought...
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AlaMom
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someone 'vanishes' from your life.....
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How in the world do you deal with someone just 'vanishing' from your life? How do you not think it's about YOU...??? I don't believe the person is drinking... it is a woman friend, online... just said 'goodbye' and nothing else.
Grieving.
Help.
 -- Edited by jonibaloni at 09:53, 2006...
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jonibaloni
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breathalyzer
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Hello
I am new to this site....I have a long term partner who seems to have struggled with alcohol since I have known her. I feel lucky in so many ways because there is no abuse and in fact she is always kind, considerate and caring whether drunk or sober. The problem is that we have a new bab...
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codyvic
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I am still around!
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For those that are keeping up with me, we are all doing ok. I am so bad at posting, I am used to just going to the chat room and letting those know who are on line at the time.
Anyway, I am doing ok today. I am on a major spiritual path of a lifetime. I believe my HP has a plan for me.&n...
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smpoli
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sad and devastating news
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It's been awhile since I have logged on here. I don't know how to say this other than to just say it...my husband committed suicide Thursday, July 6th.
Friggen alcoholism.
Those that know me here know that we had been having difficulties in our marriage for the past 4 yrs w/relapses and contin...
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Wonderful night for myself
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I wanted to share something that was wonderful that I did for myself last night. When I started the program I had lost all interest I had in music. I had just walked away from it all. Gradually in time my love for music has returned again. When I joined the program I had given up everything I had enjoy...
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DoN4me
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Fooled again
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Well, after ten beautiful days of sobriety, he is passed out on the floor of our bedroom. I spoke with him just after 5 pm and he sounded just fine. As soon as I got home at 5:30 I could tell something was up and by the time dinner was over he was staggering. He must of pounded some of those 8% alcohol beers they...
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babysteps
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What's with obsession?
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Hello Everyone,
I have not posted in a while. I was on a much needed four day weekend and enjoyed myself. Feels good to say that.  My A and I are plugging along. He's keeping busy with work and his music projects. I'm keeping busy with work, recovery, kids, and...
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twinmom2
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Here we go again...
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Hi everyone,
My Dad is the A in my life, allegedly clean and doing all the right things. My mother just told me that she found a Tiffany bag with a receipt for an expensive bracelet bought in April. The bracelet was gone, and he did not give it to her. He made some lame excuse about it being an early Chris...
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