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(Continued from previous post Praying for a Miracle From A Bottle, that is what the mechanic called the stuff he put in my car last week)
I just drove my car the 100 miles needed to see if the "Miracle in a Bottle" would work, well it didn't I need to replace the tranny. And I just got the quote from the shop. OMG! I think my eyes actually popped outa my head for a minute.
I started to get scared because I don't have enough money for this, even if I never spent that money on me, the house, and the kids. Which looking over my account statements wasn't that much.
So I was worried, where am I going to get the money to do this, just about $3,000 (with labor). OMG again. Typing it hurts :). So I calculated how much money I have minus bills I just paid and the things I need for the house (Laundry detergent and that stuff) I am short about $700. So here I was stressing about the other $700 and I even tried to call the apartment manager to see if they'd let me pay half my rent on the 1st and the other half on the 20th (really don't know how I would handle that one anyway. That would mean no money at all at the end of the month) for August. Well the person I need to talk to wasn't in and won't be in till Monday. I planned to take the car in on Monday and let them have it. They already ordered my tranny.
Okay, then the healthy girl kicks in. One, the car really doesn't need to go in on Monday, it needs fixing, but it can wait another few days. Two, I know that at times the shop will allow people to have a payment plan. And so I have decided instead of getting myself all worked up and having a lousy weekend, my plan is to apply for the program to make payments (bad credit could stop this from happening, sigh another area touched by the family disease of alcoholism) if I don't qualify, which I have hopes I will since I can give them over half of it down, then I will drive my car home and park it till I can get her fixed. Just not looking forward to more time that it takes to get the kids up earlier to get them to daycare by bus and then taking the ferry to work and all that.
I was really looking forward to having a savings account with actual money in it. But as someone said it's only money, and that is so true. It is only money and I have lived this long without being able to have a savings account with money in it, so at least I won't have to adjust to the change there.
I am okay, it will be okay, and HP has his hands on me.
Besides if miracles really came from bottles then maybe they would seem too ordinary to be miracles.
Yours in recovery,
Dolphin123
-- Edited by Dolphin123 at 19:17, 2006-07-21
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((dolphin)) you are a truely amazing person. You always seem to see the bright side of things even inside a tunnel. Some girls at work were talking about karma and how bad things happen to you if you do bad,( I think it was over a flat tire) but this is not true. bad thing happen to everyone everyday. I love the way you take lemons and make lemonades. thanks for reminding me of this.
Like many of us being around the A has cost me thousands. One of my core resentments towards him is that he totally takes it for granted. If I ask him for anything, like I just asked him to fix a fan for me he acts like I am asking him to move a mountain or something. He appreciates nothing. I know I truly appreciate the small things in life after being around him and his total self absorption and demands. I know I will in time appreciate being on my own and not having him drain every life cell out of me. I need to think of this when I am feeling resentful that I have nothing after he's smashed stuff up for the umpteeth time. He broke a clock he gave me a week ago. He does not even make the effort to see if he can fix it.
I am glad that you can be so so practical it is so necessary around an A. They do nothing unless it is in the interest of their disease.
Sorry to hear it didn't work on the car. My eyes would have popped at the estimate too. Good for you finding a way to settle your mind and find some peace. I wish you good luck! Take care.
Oh, my friend, I could so relate to your post. Spent my summer last year w/ the car problems. HP took care of me through each problem I encountered. All I had to do was turn it over.
I know you have a strong program and will work through this. You had fun with your kids and did something nice for yourself - take pride in that. The rest will work itself out if you do the legwork.
Good luck
Karen
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hmm Isn't it funny how the A's in our lives think their is a "miracle in a bottle"?
If you lived closer I would suggest a great transmission man. He does the work in a day. But prices vary depending on make & model & some he will not touch. We have had to have the transmission rebuilt twice.
count your blessing that you have mass transportation available. where I live there is nothing. We are without a vehicle since Monday. (my doing) but this coming Monday it will be ready. The carb can be rebuilt.I have to find 3 or 4 more rides till then. I am so tired of calling everyone I know ( about a dozen) and getting no answers back. This is the third time hmm I think the first was 7months, then 7 weeks , and now 7 days wow. that is a strange number.
a few years ago,a ride 34 miles and back cost us $20. we could only go to one place. One of our neighbors/friends had a newer model Toyota Corolla and this was before prices went above $2.00 . This is the same person who knew I had a Dr appt in town thursday then they went to town and called and bragged about it. We had to pay her $5.00 for a 30 mile trip home. Wel 15 each way.
but yes you do seem to see the solutions. I am working on that, not there yet still angry as ...... Good Luck! Hope your daily travels are not too bad. I hope you can borrow money too.
I don't know if this car is new or what and worth putting $3,000 in to ... But have you considered just buying another car with the cash that you do have?
We've had to buy several for our son for different reasons and have managed to find him really nice cars from 1500-2800.
We bought from private owners instead of a car lot so we didn't have to pay the middle man. Your local paper or Craigslist.org is a good place to look online. Find your state and go from there.
Just a thought... Christy
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