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debilyn · debilyn

Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...

debilyn · debilyn

I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...

artygirl · artygirl

I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...

frog58 · frog58

start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...

sld488 · sld488

My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...

evey · evey

Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...

omajoy · omajoy

Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...

hersh · hersh

Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...

maire rua · maire rua

Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...

jmarie22 · jmarie22

I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...

Jmr · Jmr

I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Hmmm, Well in my real world I have only been able to get to a daytime meeting noon to 1pm on Mondays or Thursday. I tried to make sure I made it to one meeting a week. There are usually 4 people including me. Sometimes there are up to 8 people at times. There have been times that it is only m...

Miranda · Miranda

My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...

nycbt · nycbt

I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey

daymama · daymama

As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...

Vicky R · Vicky R

hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...

Diva · Diva

Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...

Gemuk91 · Gemuk91

Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all

marmare · marmare

Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...

sandie123 · sandie123

Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....

hersh · hersh

Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...

moto · moto

Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...

Souljacker · Souljacker

I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...

Freatlast · Freatlast

I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...

Souljacker · Souljacker

Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...

nmike · nmike

Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...

bluebjade · bluebjade

I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...

daisy2 · daisy2

TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...

sarah · sarah

Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...

annmarie · annmarie

I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi guys, I mentioned a week or so ago I was really anxious about mtg my ex bf A for some coffee. I thought it might be a good idea for me to put some closure on our seperation. We never formally broke up just stopped talking when he went to rehab and it was suggested by his sponsor...

daymama · daymama

Well, I'm having another one of those days. I just can't seem to get inside myself to help myself. Rehash, we're married 28 years, my A was sober (no treatment, just AA) for quite a few years and started drinking again. The past 5 years have been crappy. Lots of lies and deceit. ...

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

Well, those of you that live in the Cincinati, Ohio area, have probably heard the news of little Marcus Feisel has been missing for more than 24 hours. (For those of you not in the Cincinnati area, news link here) Thi...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) Ok... you can laugh if you want but I was a boy scout. I find it odd as I have spent time over the last few months taking stock of who I am that I keep coming back to some very ingrained principals that I have adopted and stuck to throughout my life. Guess I keep trying to figure out w...

TLC2 · TLC2

I remember at one time, years ago now, when I could actually detatch, and honestly didn't care if my A drank or not. I decided to go on with my life, and enjoy myself, do things just for me. Somewhere on this rollercoaster ride, I lost that, and a very important person-me. I started obsces...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, Over the last year or so, I have experienced a significant shift in several of my close friendships. Due to life circumstances, several of my friends have been so busy with their own lives that they have not been nearly as available as they used to be, and I really have be...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I have probably said this before a million times. But again it hit me. Ok now I get it. again. The mean A or monster does not love me, in fact hates me and everything to do with me. Tells everyone lies about me, they believe it becuz they do not realize it is not the man who I married. My A husband, love...

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	Would be so lost w/out ya'll (Preview) Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...	debilyn	3	422	Aug 19, 2006 by maresie2
	me again, sorry (Preview) I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...	debilyn	3	465	Aug 19, 2006 by TLC2
	Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends (Preview) Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...	Gramma Pat	4	506	Aug 19, 2006 by Freatlast
	I'm pretty sure my marriage is over. (Preview) I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...	artygirl	4	646	Aug 19, 2006 by beachbaby
	new boundry (Preview) my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...	serendipity	4	471	Aug 19, 2006 by Jerry F
	alanon international convention (Preview) start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...	frog58	2	639	Aug 19, 2006 by isabela40
	Update on Vinny (Preview) Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...	hmrnrnmm	2	416	Aug 18, 2006 by artygirl
	Selfish me. (Preview) My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...	sld488	3	407	Aug 18, 2006 by doxie
	had it with myself (Preview) Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...	evey	3	511	Aug 18, 2006 by Jill
	Diva ? (Preview) Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...	debilyn	2	398	Aug 18, 2006 by debilyn
	Minding my own business and its hard! (Preview) Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...	beachbaby	1	455	Aug 18, 2006 by sld488
	hi, just yakking (Preview) Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...	debilyn	2	435	Aug 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Sanity this weekend??? (Preview) Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...	omajoy	3	428	Aug 18, 2006 by omajoy
	All I can do.... (Preview) Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...	hersh	1	376	Aug 18, 2006 by ollie
	Trying to maintain balcance (not really sure if this will make any sense) (Preview) Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...	Dolphin123	6	502	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	wow what a day (Preview) Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...	shadow1	6	406	Aug 18, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Say a Prayer (Preview) Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...	maire rua	2	444	Aug 18, 2006 by hersh
	Frustrations (Preview) Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...	ragingchild	8	506	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	Hi, I'm new here (Preview) I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...	jmarie22	4	420	Aug 18, 2006 by Diva
	Help (Preview) I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...	Jmr	8	457	Aug 18, 2006 by Mike5056
	let's look at the other side of the coin... (Preview) (((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...	drucilla06	11	820	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Do I discount the good in my AW (Preview) (((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...	rtexas	5	573	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	12 Step Poem (Preview) Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...	Dolphin123	1	797	Aug 17, 2006 by Andrea12
	Hanging in there & my life so far............ (Preview) Hmmm, Well in my real world I have only been able to get to a daytime meeting noon to 1pm on Mondays or Thursday. I tried to make sure I made it to one meeting a week. There are usually 4 people including me. Sometimes there are up to 8 people at times. There have been times that it is only m...	hmrnrnmm	3	784	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Tough Stuff Please Help (Preview) My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...	Miranda	9	653	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	a slip (Preview) I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...	nycbt	7	465	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	heard from ERbin!!! (Preview) Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey	jrtjosey	5	533	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	I have to have control of my life..... (Preview) As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...	daymama	5	477	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Time to let go (Preview) Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...	nachoqtpie	4	517	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	How Important Is It? (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...	twinmom2	4	438	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	just an update (Preview) hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...	Vicky R	3	423	Aug 17, 2006 by Vicky R
	Let us be careful... (Preview) Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...	Diva	12	688	Aug 17, 2006 by diamond
	New to the Board (Preview) Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all	Gemuk91	3	364	Aug 17, 2006 by lmt123
	It was nice to hear (Preview) Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...	marmare	2	376	Aug 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	Love... what is it anyway??? (Preview) Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....	sandie123	8	672	Aug 17, 2006 by canadianguy
	Wide Open Spaces... (Preview) Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...	hersh	2	595	Aug 17, 2006 by Becky1
	Looking for Temp Male Sponsor Online (Preview) Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...	moto	1	418	Aug 17, 2006 by Dolphin123
	thinking of leaving (Preview) I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...	Gramma Pat	5	584	Aug 17, 2006 by Belongtome
	A Sincere Heatfelt Thank You (Preview) I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...	Souljacker	3	466	Aug 17, 2006 by hersh
	The 12 Steps (Preview) I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!	Freatlast	3	478	Aug 17, 2006 by Freatlast
	Feeling Stupid (Preview) Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...	JulieLynn	4	441	Aug 17, 2006 by omajoy
	Right site or should I be in some relationship site? (Preview) Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...	Souljacker	13	495	Aug 17, 2006 by Souljacker
	Didn't make my meeting (Preview) No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...	sisdragonfly1957	2	502	Aug 17, 2006 by kitty
	Speaking out of the side of his mouth (Preview) Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...	nmike	3	511	Aug 17, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Turning my will over (Preview) Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...	itsgot2bgd	1	410	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	First things First (Preview) That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...	twinmom2	4	4400	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Just found out he cheated!! (Preview) Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...	sisdragonfly1957	10	767	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	UPDATE (Preview) I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...	bluebjade	3	405	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Trust (Preview) TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...	daisy2	7	534	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Still hurts (Preview) Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...	TLC2	5	505	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Help Please (Preview) Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...	sarah	8	548	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Reflections and Discovery (Preview) Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...	TLC2	4	501	Aug 16, 2006 by TLC2
	those who are critical of us (Preview) I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...	annmarie	9	657	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Update re: ex bf and coffee (Preview) Hi guys, I mentioned a week or so ago I was really anxious about mtg my ex bf A for some coffee. I thought it might be a good idea for me to put some closure on our seperation. We never formally broke up just stopped talking when he went to rehab and it was suggested by his sponsor...	beachbaby	5	657	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	I feel like I'm living outside the bubble.... (Preview) Well, I'm having another one of those days. I just can't seem to get inside myself to help myself. Rehash, we're married 28 years, my A was sober (no treatment, just AA) for quite a few years and started drinking again. The past 5 years have been crappy. Lots of lies and deceit. ...	daymama	3	582	Aug 16, 2006 by abbyal
	Service to the HP (Preview) Well, those of you that live in the Cincinati, Ohio area, have probably heard the news of little Marcus Feisel has been missing for more than 24 hours. (For those of you not in the Cincinnati area, news link here) Thi...	nachoqtpie	3	355	Aug 16, 2006 by twinmom2
	The last boy scout... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Ok... you can laugh if you want but I was a boy scout. I find it odd as I have spent time over the last few months taking stock of who I am that I keep coming back to some very ingrained principals that I have adopted and stuck to throughout my life. Guess I keep trying to figure out w...	rtexas	6	610	Aug 16, 2006 by drucilla06
	lost my ability to detatch! (Preview) I remember at one time, years ago now, when I could actually detatch, and honestly didn't care if my A drank or not. I decided to go on with my life, and enjoy myself, do things just for me. Somewhere on this rollercoaster ride, I lost that, and a very important person-me. I started obsces...	TLC2	7	568	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Getting the Focus Back Where It Belongs (Preview) Roomies, Over the last year or so, I have experienced a significant shift in several of my close friendships. Due to life circumstances, several of my friends have been so busy with their own lives that they have not been nearly as available as they used to be, and I really have be...	BlueCloud	4	405	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	duh (Preview) Well I have probably said this before a million times. But again it hit me. Ok now I get it. again. The mean A or monster does not love me, in fact hates me and everything to do with me. Tells everyone lies about me, they believe it becuz they do not realize it is not the man who I married. My A husband, love...	debilyn	2	363	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
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