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I lost in court
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I had a hearing for yesterday for the restraining order I pulled on my almost ex, keeping his truck and emergency support. I got 1 out of three. The restraining order is in effect for 1 year. I only got this because he admitted pulling a gun. Lied about only pulling it on himsel...
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So Today
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So today I wake with only a small amount of anxiousness...this is good for me. The weekend was exhausting as most of mom's house is packed, sorted, etc. It is a very emotional journey. I have not talked to my A since Friday, as he went fishing for the weekend. I sat last night re...
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marmare
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Gambling
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I began my own recovery journey from alcoholism and drug addiction in 1987. I have also had a lot of therapy - like 17 years - to deal with depression, anxiety and avoidance issues. It's been long hard road, but worth every step. I am well employed and own my own condo now, which is paid for.
About...
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babz
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Have I really had enough?
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I keep asking myself, that question. Will I ever have had enough? LOL I have to smile at that because every time I have had enough, jumped at the bait, lost myself in my A's problems, he becomes charming, sober, and caring. I have been at my mother's house 2 1/2 months. While sh...
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marmare
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I know I am not alone...
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My husband was doing good for several days, just drinking beer and not vodka, not getting drunk every night. Then he told me that I was making his life miserable b.c I was all over him for his drinking. I realized that he was not ready for any kind of help, so I detached my self from the whole th...
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desperate for help
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Religious Promotion or Endorsement is NOT Allowed Here!
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If I want to quote religious scriptures, promote or advertise my religious beliefs, belittle, degrade others beliefs, condemn them with the wrath of God, or threaten them with hell etc.. I could and should join a like minded chat room, or a local ministry.. It doesn't belong in A...
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turning it over
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Greetings all,
Two weeks ago I started my god box and placed the outcome of my current job in it. For the last two hours the committee in my head (the old thought patterns), is taking it out.
I keep telling the committee it's not mine anymore...yet I keep dwelling on it and worry a...
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frog58
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puzzled
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jaja
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If You're Going Through Hell
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For some reason, I love this song! I like to turn it up real loud and sing along! I'm going to keep on going, and I'm not gonna slow down or show that I am scared. I'm getting out of my personal hell! One Day at a Time. Thanks to HP and my Al-anon Angel friends. Yee-haw! ...
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Becky1
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can you guide me to a good reading on poor self-esteem and codependance
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shamama
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My fear of divorce
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Not because I will miss all of the drama, or even him for that matter at this point because I'm totally fed up with the drinking, the verbal abuse, and the broken promises. I have had it. He ruins almost every social event, weekend, and holiday for everyone.
Everytime he gets drunk I get to hear a...
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Every Rule
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Based upon some topics I have begun to wonder the following:
Every rule has its exceptions.
If this is true and we focus on the exceptions and not the rule, are we taking politcal correctness to absurd lengths?
For instance: if alcoholism generally involves denial, but there are some alcoholi...
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ditto
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I Cant Get Busy/or Better if.....
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I'm trapped!!! Trapped because my "A" husband still hasn't fixed the brakes on my car, and it's just sitting out in the yard lookin' like a piece of junk crap! The sun is taking the paint off in places...the battery is just a few months new, but already loosing charge because it's&n...
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afmom03
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Al-Anon vs ACoA?
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Hello.
I've just joined both forums as I don't know which is right for me. I went to an ACoA meeting twice before. I got uncomfortable because no one talked to me nor really explained the format. Everyone gathered around in a circle kind of tranced. Each took a turn talking...
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CarrieB
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Short bios
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I liked Isabela's post so much, I thought it might be fun for those of us who wish to write a short biographical sketch of ourselves. I feel that I know so many of you, and would love to hear what you do, what you enjoy, what your interests are; the usual stuff. Not one word about the A. Anyone interested? I wi...
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Diva
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Urgent Prayers needed for our dog
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I was at work today. My A, Tina calls around 1pm. She left with me this am to take two of our pets to the vet. The dog ,Bess has a rash on her nose . It is a fungus like ringworm. The cat, Bug has flea dermetitis. He had a shot for his bad allergy. just one flea breaks him out.
Tina got home and found severa...
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hmrnrnmm
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Ambiguity in relationships
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In HOPE FOR TODAY, the writer of a reading not too far ago discusses how her home life--alcholic and violent--created such fear in her that, any time she was in a position of authority, usually in an employment situation, the consistent pattern that emerged was fear based control; inab...
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Tiger2006
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All I have to say is....
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Today was/is a good day
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Freatlast
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MY RECOVERY
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Hi all,
as you know by now, im doing my own thing with my recovery and some of you will not agree with me, but im here becouse i want to share and maybe someone is in same situation as me.
I started to look at my relationship with my Abf in different light. I picked some books from my mother. Nothing to do wi...
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daisy2
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still very very happy Update
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updata, hubby has done 7 meetings in 7 days with AA. WOW what a change, whole mentality has changed, not stopped drinking yet completly, but they dont encourage that right away. This is all he has been talking about and it has made a huge difference in the way he thinks. and because of this chat line, at le...
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cher
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The next morning...
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So here's my situation now... I told my A, cocaine-addicted husband that he needed to get help or get out. I've said it many times, but this week I said it again, meant it and plan to follow through with my threat. I'm calling a lawyer first thing Monday and one of us is moving out of our house. He doesn't kno...
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artygirl
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a fool
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whoa is this what it feels like to be a fool??? To think I spouted my love for him, and shared his fake love in jail to me. TT saw it, said don't get sucked into the drama.
abbyal saw it. others saw it. All these years, using me, taking all he could.
Never being there. giving me bits of hope since I wa...
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debilyn
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Can you accept the fact that you cant control the alcoholic nor any other adult person and truly accept that alcoholism is an illness?
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Oh man, am I there yet? For years I have tried and tried to control the alcoholics drinking,,failing miserabley each time. Falling down in dispair, but eventually getting up and trying again and again. I was definately slamming my head against a brick wall! Because I loved my husband of 30 years, I was...
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gardengal
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Would be so lost w/out ya'll
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Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha
You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is?
I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...
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debilyn
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me again, sorry
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I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent.
I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae.
Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...
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debilyn
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Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends
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Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...
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Gramma Pat
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I'm pretty sure my marriage is over.
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I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...
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artygirl
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new boundry
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my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...
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serendipity
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alanon international convention
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start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up...........
July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA
Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...
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frog58
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Update on Vinny
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Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...
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hmrnrnmm
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Selfish me.
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My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here.
He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...
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sld488
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had it with myself
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Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...
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evey
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Diva ?
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Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile."
If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one??
Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar?
I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...
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debilyn
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Minding my own business and its hard!
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Hi all,
I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...
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beachbaby
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hi, just yakking
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Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day.
Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done.
Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go.
But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...
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debilyn
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Sanity this weekend???
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Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...
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omajoy
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All I can do....
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Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...
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hersh
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Trying to maintain balcance (not really sure if this will make any sense)
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Hi all,
I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance.
You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...
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Dolphin123
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wow what a day
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Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...
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shadow1
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Say a Prayer
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Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...
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maire rua
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Frustrations
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Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...
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ragingchild
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Hi, I'm new here
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I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through.
My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...
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jmarie22
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Help
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I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...
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Jmr
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let's look at the other side of the coin...
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(((((((alanon friends)))))
There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them.
I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad.
First I want to say that in a re...
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drucilla06
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Do I discount the good in my AW
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(((Everyone)))
I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now...
Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...
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rtexas
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12 Step Poem
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Hi all,
This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go!
I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...
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Dolphin123
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Hanging in there & my life so far............
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Hmmm, Well in my real world I have only been able to get to a daytime meeting noon to 1pm on Mondays or Thursday. I tried to make sure I made it to one meeting a week. There are usually 4 people including me. Sometimes there are up to 8 people at times. There have been times that it is only m...
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hmrnrnmm
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Tough Stuff Please Help
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My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...
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Miranda
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a slip
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I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...
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nycbt
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heard from ERbin!!!
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Erin sent me a note...
Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all.
Josey
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jrtjosey
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I have to have control of my life.....
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As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...
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daymama
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Time to let go
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Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...
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nachoqtpie
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How Important Is It?
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((( Hello Group)))
In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"?
In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond.
I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...
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twinmom2
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just an update
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hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...
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Vicky R
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Let us be careful...
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Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...
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Diva
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New to the Board
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Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain.
good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all
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Gemuk91
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It was nice to hear
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Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...
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marmare
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Love... what is it anyway???
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Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term.
love n.
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....
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sandie123
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Wide Open Spaces...
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Howdy everyone:
Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting.
But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...
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hersh
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Looking for Temp Male Sponsor Online
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Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...
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moto
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