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Post Info TOPIC: Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends


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Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends


Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour.  I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband.  I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool.  I wish there was some way we could just talk about what has happened and come to an agreement that would work for both of us.  What a dream .. trying to be civil to someone that is only thinking about his next drink.  I still plan on moving out but I am stuck until I get all the legal stuff in place.  So how do I act like I don't have a broken heart until then ..... try to stay cool and calm.  I have been going to as many meetings as I can and that has really helped even though it seems to make him madder each time I go.  I now that I will make it through this weekend but right now I still don't know how.  Thanks for letting me vent

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Pat,


Start right now and continue through the weekend..........


God Grand me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change


Courage to change the things I can and


WISDOM to know the difference.


If that doesn't work....continue with


I DID NOT CAUSE THIS


I CANNOT CHANGE THIS


I CANNOT CONTROL THIS


 


((((((((SUPER SIZE BEAR HUGS)))))))



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Hello Pat , yur doing great going to meetings even if it does make him angry . He will adjust eventually.  As for your weekends I hated them too but I found ways to get out of the house which made life lot easier for me. Go and get your hair shampooed and blowdryed just for the hell of it .  Take yourself out to lunch .   Go to a movie - anything to not have to stay home and wait for the blow up that u know is comming.  You put one foot in front of the other and have a good weekend regardless of what he is doing .


No one said this is going to be easy but it is possible . Keep the focus on yourself and your needs for a change.    Louise



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Hi Pat.  Boy, do I know what you're feeling!  This is my first weekend, ever, alone and without a car.  I decided that it would not hold me back.  I made a phone call to a friend asking if she would like to spend the day with me.  No call back.  No big deal.  I am finding out who my real friends are.  This is a good thing.  So, I decided to call a rental car agency that I've rented from in the past.  I was not going to wallow.  I am not going to let him take my life away.  So, because it's Saturday and they're not open Sunday I think I get the car for 19.95 for both days.  I'll find out for sure when they get here.  Life goes on.  We just have to push it along a bit. 

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