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"Blessed is ye who expects nothing for ye shall never be disappointed"
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I think I will adopt this as my new slogan, I actually found a plaque with this on it.
"Blessed is ye who expects nothing for ye shall never be disappointed"
I went on my vacation. I had expected my niece to have called or stop by like she said she would when and if I came up some 300 to 400 miles. We...
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Update on surgeries
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Hi (((((((((((((everyone)))))))))))))))
As most of you had asked me for an update on my surgeries.
I’m going to disillusion you about our great Canadian health care system.
As far as my back surgery goes, it looks like I have to wait the 6 months to get in to see the surgeon for another consultat...
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can someone explain 13th stepping
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I've heard this and read it here, but don't really know what it means.
Thanks,
evey
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evey
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How to not respond tp button pushers
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I try so to let my buttons not be pushed by my Mom and older brother. I've tried simply staying away.They put me on a guilt trip and I stupidly allow it to happen. I had to take her to an MD appt. today and she just kept bringing up my brother this and that. I stayed cool as long as I could. My...
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nothing new update
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Nope have not heard a word. Got on med that is tearing the H out of my gut..
But today I dragged myself out and dug out the mudhole bigger. Thinking how strange I am. Out there in a gauze dress and leather flipflops slopping out the pigs waller! I did this for me.
Funny, doing things for us. How what we mig...
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Divorce ESH anyone
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Hello friends old and new
I am getting a divorce from my active A. I filed August 2005 and went to court in April. Now we are coming down to the final settlement and my nerves are shot.
My lawyer goes to court tomorrow and he tells me this today at 11:15 and that is when he shows me the revised s...
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megan
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Reality is biting....
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Hi everyone:
Just had to get some things out. I am sad. The other day I was angry, now I'm just sad...
A and I are not connecting, drifting further and further apart. He is working sometimes, gone "running errands" most nights. He calls me on my cel phone and doesn't leave...
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hersh
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I am off the Crazy Train
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Just an update on what I have decided what is BEST for me.
I found this site 6 months ago or so. I have been here off and on for the past few months I have sat in many meetings online and have only went to one f2f meeting. I had an A/BF and his ex wife was there at the meeting. They had been divorced for over 10 yea...
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my patience ran out...
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I've noticed that I can sometimes get quite nasty with my Aboyfriend, and this is really starting to bother me. I am not a nasty person at all, but sometimes he just won't stop bickering and finding fault....and i suppose I just get really irate.
Normally, I walk away, tune out etc, but if we're on a c...
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annmarie
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lost newbe
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Hi, I have been looking all night for a al-anon meeting to attend in mississippi. I come from a very long history of drug addicts and alcholics and it was not until recently that I have discovered that I have a major problem with enabling the addicts in my life I love them very much but it's th...
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cook book update 7/31/06
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Hello everyone,
This is to update you on the progress of the Miracles In Progress Cook Book. It is still be put together. I am getting 365 inspirations and motivational thoughts to put with all the recipes. I am having to be very careful for copywrites. This has become a bi...
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John
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Is Something Missing?
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Hi all,
I just went into a post that I posted and noticed that I had a typo typed mush instead of much lol big difference there. I can't edit my post that option is gone, but it was there earlier because earlier today I edited a reply on another post.
Does anyone else see this or not see it?:...
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Regular meetings
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I was looking for dates of meetings and found this
Regular Al-Anon Meeting - Regular meeting, not an Alateen, Newcomers, Adult Child Focus, etc.
Closed Discussion (CD) - Limited to members and prospective member. These are persons who feel their lives have been or are being deeply affec...
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Kyann
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Can someone explain please?
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(((((((((((((Hi roomies)))))))))))),
Alot of times when we are in meetings we are reminded that certain terms such as ACOA, or taking from a book (such as More on the Language of Letting Go) is not an Alanon term, or is not conference approved liturature. What is "approved lit" or "accepted...
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Karilynn
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HUMONGOUS PERSONAL-GOALS BLESSING
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I received a letter today stating that I am being CONSIDERED for an accelerated nursing program that I applied for...
Just one last interview, and home-free August 19th.
I have fought hard as a double-winner to grow in as many ways as I possibly can, and this would be the icing on the cake!!...
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jonibaloni
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Humour as a weapon
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Do any of the rest of you experience this???
My other half often uses humour as a weapon. I am finding more and more that something not quite inappropriate but not appropriate either will come out of her mouth. If I mention it I hear "you just don't have a sense of humour"
It is starting t...
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what i learn staying up late
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i had just read and replyed to diva's post last night and thought i'd go read then sleep. but as i was turning off the tv the host and the guest were discussing the mel gibson thing and the disease. so i sat and watched the segment. the host apparently is a recovering(?) alcholic and spoke from that point of...
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Tired of the vicioius circle
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Hello, everyone. My AH was off work Fri. thru Mon. Of course it was a four day drunk. He spent half a day with me and the rest with his drinking buddy. It may sound weird, but I was kinda glad he was gone, because I haven't been feeling well.
Him and his buddy came in about...
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"ANGER", Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
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"Often anger is a sign of engagement with life. People who are angered are touched deeply by the events of their lives and feel strongly about them. As an emotion, it has limitations and it certainly has very bad press, but my experience with ill people suggests that there is something healthy about it...
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jonibaloni
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Thank You for this program!!!
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It's been a tough week! I've done a whole lot of digging and finding things I haven't liked or enjoyed. There have been a lot of memories resurfacing, a lot of feelings, a lot of pain and a lot of awareness’s. I began my week wanting to remove the entire program from my brain, then wanted to get away from me,...
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sandie123
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Feeling Blue
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Hi all,
I haven't been on much since Saturday. We had a packed day at church on Sunday.
Monday I was putting the final touches on a going away party that I had planned for my co-worker, who is also my best friend. She and her family are moving to Michigan. I haven't posted about it because I haven't allo...
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Dolphin123
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It has occurred to me to wonder...
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about some tenets of AlAnon. Most pointedly that we need to remember the
"alcohol is speaking." Is it really a teaching of Al Anon that we should dismiss any unkind, deceitful, hateful talk the "disease" talks, blaming it on the "disease", and excusing it for that reason? I don't quite get this prem...
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Diva
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When in doubt go to the Grand Canyon!
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Hi Alanoners,
I was scheduled to attend a conference in Las Vegas last week. My burdens were heavy so I figured that I needed to do something different to get different results. The Grand Canyon is close to my home (as opposed to most visitors). I took the long way around and went through the Grand Cany...
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nmike
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Emotional Night
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Hi all,
Last night was a weird night.
I had asked help from a funding source to help pay for part of the car repair, and that came through. They are going to pay some of it. I also got news that they thought my car was going to be ready yesterday (Tuesday), but when they test drove it, the tranny...
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Dolphin123
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Doormat situation
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How can I stop certain people treating me like a door mat and acting with no consideration. Today I dropped my son off at the airport, had informed people I would be late for work,yet the minute I came in the door, they descended on me with last minute requests. It really irritates me that people can const...
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maire rua
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Da Board
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I tried something different today when I came to the board. Instead of posting first and reading your wonderful shares second… I decided to listen to y’all first and then see how that felt. What occurs to me is that I need to remember that multiple perspectives and encouragement are another way of allo...
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sparkette
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I Hate Weekends
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Sunday morning he had to go to work for a couple of hours. He got home, made us breakfast. I was just doing housework, and mentioned to him I'd like to paint the bedroom. He said really snappy "I don't care WHAT color you paint it" and I asked why he was being so mean, he said, well, he was...
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should be HALTS
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Lets add sick to that. It hit me today, now i know what is making me not bounce back. I am sick. My tooth has hurt for weeks now. Have no dental insurance as medicare is all.
So I have a tooth infection, no wonder I keep having nightmares and waking up feeling crummy.duh.
Called around, I am on dis...
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debilyn
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Anger ceasing....
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Hi everyone!
Thought I would let you know about some progress I have been making. Yesterday I was angry, so angry. Angry when I left AH in the morning - the last thing I told him was the smell of alcohol made me sick to my stomach and I was beginning to fall out of love with him because of his dr...
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hersh
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a few questions for HP
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Sweet friend in my soul, my teacher, my liaison to myself, thank you for being in my life. I smile as I ponder this “spiritual urgency” as I am reminded that my spirit is not bound by the confines of time. And yet, I thank you for the help I am about to receive, and for which I eagerly await.
I am rem...
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mac57
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When is it Intervening to save a life vs. intervening and enabling
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So i've been doing what i'm supposed to do, let him figure it out on his own, he ran out of money, had no transportation and nowhere to go during day 5 of the binge, so last resort, ended up at the mom and dad's house (alcoholic activity there) Spoke with him yesterday, said he was trying to detox hims...
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sdisnie
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Went to my therapist
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Saw my therapist yesterday and asked for assistance in making sure I was asserting myself properly. She said the timing was wrong - but that I am doing the right thing. I told her I didnt want to treat my boyfriend like a child - because he isnt a child. She said "sometimes they are - an...
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Cyn
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help with anger
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Where does my anger come from? I don’t have a lot of experience with it until recently. I feel like a marionette, completely not in control. I’m a SHREW! Hating it, too. Any ESH is welcome. Tonight was bad!
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Jill
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how is it possible?
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to detach and yet still cohabitate with an A spouse? When there are very young children involved, they will no doubt be affected negatively right? To me this just seems like enabling, and I am having a very hard time understanding the concept. How can I love th...
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jres
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totally disgusted
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My husband has been using for at least 6yrs that I know of. He goes on binges lasting 4-18 hrs then a few weeks could go by before it happens again. He has gone months, but then the cycle starts again. He is young, but has major medical issues on top of using. I have been a stay at home mom for 5yrs, but have deci...
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MSKM301
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Anorexia or Eating Disorder?
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I was talking to a friends last night. We were talking about fear and this led us into anorexia. It sent me into a panic, so I knew there was more than meets the eye on this topic.
To start with I dislike food. It always seems like things revolve around food and this gets me so angry. I would be happy not ea...
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sandie123
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Guilt and ups and downs!!
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Why does this feel so bad???
Everything was fine lastnight. I went to a face to face meeting, had a good time. I was calm. Then came home and AH was gone, fine. I figured he was out again, I just wanted to sleep. He comes home, buzzed, not really drunk, wants to...
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hersh
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Avoiding getting dragged into the morass.
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In our house my partner has cornered this room as her den. Obstensibly it is somewhere she can go to smoke as she is the only smoker in the family. Effectively however she uses it as her bolt hole where none of the family will bother her until she decides to take part in family life. At that point family life...
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Mike5056
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Asserting myself cont.
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I know we are all in our own situation - my situation is one that I am not with an A anymore - but because of my previous relationships with A's I have to relearn correct ways to do things.
I asserted myself last night, I feel like I give too much and not get anything in return - which is 100% my own faul...
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Cyn
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Please Help.
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Any luck with couples counseling?
My A wife has spent time about four of the past 18 months in rehabs and is not working any sort of program at all. The one thing I can get her to do is go to a marriage counselor with me. The counselor is very good and we are learning h...
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jeeves
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Not giving in
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I started a post last night about asserting myself and got a phone call from my boyfriend and had to finish it quickly. Needless to say - the conversation ended VERY badly once again. I have to say this first - I am not ignorant to the fact that my boyfriend is going through some stressful sit...
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Cyn
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I am so lost and tired of life
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Hi there,
I am in the process of filing out my ODSP papperwork and one of the problem I am having is depression.
I am trying to write the self report and as I am writting about all the thibgs I can't do anymore or how & where my body hurts - I get really upset and can't write it. I already suffer f...
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kathy570
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Please share your Experience/Ideas
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I was on the phone yesterday with my Mom and she made a comment that at first made me angry but then started me to thinking.....I am in the process of separating from my husband....I made the mistake at 17 years old of giving up everything and putting 150% into my marriage and family. I forgot to sav...
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tishrijo
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REMINDER for us WOMEN.....
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I have WORTH TODAY...
Why??
Not because my house is meticulously clean 24/7.... it's not.
Not because I am a subservient wife, running around all day in an A-pattern skirt and apron, pretending to be June Clever..... I don't.
Not because my children behave 100% of the time, are perfectly pol...
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jonibaloni
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a wonderful story
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The Cracked Pot A wonderful story... An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of...
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daisy2
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Sharing the emotions
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Here it is Saturday morning. I have read all the new posts and responses and tried to glean what I need from them. I have found some relief from the weekend blues that come to our home. Our adult son is a weekend drinker and drinks alone. He always has these great plans on Friday and through the week to do thi...
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omajoy
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Asserting yourself
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So I finally figured out my biggest problem in life - asserting myself and getting the things I need and want and thinking about what is good for ME.
A big lightbulb came on today after a fight my boyfriend and I have been having this week. We've been fighting consistently for the last couple of w...
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Cyn
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thank you
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i just wanted to thank everyone for your replies. i already feel better just getting back on this message board with all of you. and you all have wonderful ideas that i will give a try. thank you so much. :)
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Slogans in Action
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This was given to us at the Louisiana State Al-Anon Convention. I'm sure some of you may have seen it before, but is was just so great not to share - Hope it helps you - I made a copy and put it where I could read it everyday to help me keep my focus on recovery. - Rita -
Slogans In Action
Just...
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Rita G
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Help with my son
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My son is 24 years old and he's an alcoholic. He's been out of the house for over 2 years now and has a roomate. He just ended up in the hospital with Alcohol posioning. When I went to see him, he was in restraints and on a suicide watch. I'm terrified to say the least.
I know the drill. I know about enablin...
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Reese
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Need Washing??
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A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all...
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kerry5
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What is
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this Loving Detachment that I hear about and how do you do it?
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Prancer
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Searching for hope
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Hello - I am new to this board and am happy to have found it.
I grew up with an alcoholic father, and thought I was OK with it.
However I recently found out the person I thought was the love of my life, is also an alcoholic and suffers from depression. Long story short, I know he loves me - the...
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somethingtobemadabout
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getting him into AA
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Is there any way any of you have found to get your loved one into AA? Mine is a tough case, I guess. I have pointblank asked him to please attend meetings just to see if he could find help. He sometimes expresses that he wants to end the weekend drinking, he is sick of the way things are, and he "probably" need...
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omajoy
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He's Home!
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Hi roomies,
Well last night during the meeting my hubby called from Alaska to say that he was at the air port in Dutch Harbor and he would be flying into the airport here at 6:30am. Poor guy the first words out of my mouth were not loving kind words of a woman happy to have her hubby coming home my fir...
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Dolphin123
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I'm new here too
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Just found you all and wanted to say hi.
I have lurked on various al-anon boards over the years. This time I am going to try to stay.
I have been married to my A for almost 15 years. He has just recently starting going to AA, and I fully support that. Our children need to see him sober...
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GreenGem
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Binge Drinking
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Binge drinking is terrible part of alcoholism. Of course any type of alcoholism is bad, but with binge drinking you do get a taste of the real person underneath the disease. The binge drinker i know doesn't drink everyday, doesn't come home after work and drink until they pass out, doesn...
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sdisnie
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Letting Go/Letting God - Prayers please
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I feeling like my life just exploded. This afternoon I got a call from a nurse at a local clinic telling me that my Father was being taken by ambulance to the ER for a Heart Attack. My first reaction was where was my mother -- that was why she was calling. My mother has suffered fo...
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Lunamoth
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Painful stuff
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I have myself back ok for the moment. But need to share/vent.
A has not called again that I know of. Hearing, "you cannot rationalize insanity."
In the Big Book I learned, along with get on program or die, was they also can go insane, no return kind.
Anyway first I want to say, I was in the shower, aft...
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debilyn
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New to Board
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This is my first time on the board. My husband is an alcoholic but refuses to admit it. He hasn't worked in about 3 years because of health problems, some relating to his drinking. Though he won't admit he drinks, he's constantly talking about how he probably won't be around in 3 or 4...
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cd2005
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