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Fifi · Fifi

sooooo two weeks from now,Aboyfriend gets out of rehab...unable to go back to his former living situation(tho he primarily lived with me and my two daughters) because they are drinkers. unwilling to move to his mother's(thank god). does not want to go to 1/2 way house, tho he hasn't explored that p...

snoopy · snoopy

I found this on another messageboard and it touched me so much that I ask your permission to share it with you. This must be one heck of a guy. If I had a husband with a fraction of these principles, I would be still married. Imagine-- no lying, no cheating, no manipulati...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting this month only will be held on January 14th, 2007 at 9pm est. If you have anything to add for the agenda or any new concerns please let me know. Kerry

Nvizable_mike · Nvizable_mike

I would like to thank all of you who sent Christmas cards and care packages to us at the Miricales in Progress recovery house. Your support ment so mutch to all of us. As Christmas aproched I was feeling so alone and was sarting to f...

albertarose · albertarose

Happy New Year everyone! I have not been on much due to the holidays and being sick with an aweful cold. I am ready for the new year to begin right and with that, some new changes that I have to make. The most biggest change I must concentrate on is TRUST!!!!!! Trust is so hard for me as I have been abused in eve...

Fifi · Fifi

so can i feel sorry for myself here? i HATE to do that. i just dropped off my kids at their dad's house....the kids are there one night a week only....it was all nice and cozy and cleaned by his new partner....i come home to my house - big,messy,full of toys,laundry,dishes,papers and the anxiety of m...

afmom03 · afmom03

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abryann · abryann

So, tonight I was going to my first f2f alanon meeting. I was super nervous, but determined. I was running a little late because my boyfriend kept talking to me (I think he thought if he made me run late, I would decide not to go). So, when I got there, I hurried in and sat at a table with s...

gardengal · gardengal

Each year millions of people "say" they are going to this and do that.........but in alanon we learn to not only say we are going to change in some ways, but we do it to improve our life situations. I for one take each new year as another challenge, how can I make my life more simpler, less stre...

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((((((roomies)))))))))))))) If any of you were wondering what happened to Ally (aka hen) her internet is down. She will be back as soon as they fix it. I'm praying that it is not much longer. We miss you hen!!!!! Take care Shad

debilyn · debilyn

Are we all invisible??? (c: Just kidding, so what do you think? I mean how did all the shares make ya feel? You brought up something we all relate to. Are you ok? Please do not disappear. That took courage to share your feelings. I am glad you did. love,debilyn

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

On match dot com I have a terrific career working for a non-profit, which allows me to occasionally wander through swamps starting the woods on fire. The work is rewarding and I could not imagine doing anything else. Not your ordinary lawyer! It's a sign... An internet surfing lawyer who is singl...

mmerlino · mmerlino

Lately, things in my life seem to be going in circles. And, as I led a meeting I realized that if I surrender on a daily basis. I will not only become one with my HP, but also find that my option to use and the choice to use is eliminated. Because, with that surrender I adapt my will to my&n...

faraway06 · faraway06

MIP Friends-- Happy new year!! I hope it is filled with happiness, hope, health for everyone. Just took my 5th step today with a fellow member and feel really good about how far I've come, and so much more realistic than I used to be about how far I have to go. I'm so grateful to this program for h...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Wow, I can't believe it has been only six days since I found MIP. Things have been going a little more smoothly lately, almost smooth enough to forget there was even an issue. I found a nearby meeting, but because I was trying to secretive, I ended up taking care of the kids while he was out somewhere. His d...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My A and I split a few weeks ago. I have a nice new place to live and although it's lonely without him, I'm setting in. I'm doing okay. I had no choice but to split I felt. His drinking was getting worse and worse and I couldn't cope with it at all in the end. I thought I was doing the right thing by...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A I live with is in a huge sulk. He's playing video games night and day (he's always done that). He has let many of his bills go. He is not even initiating work anymore. I can't imagine what some of his customers must think (he is an electrician) he has cut his phone off. He has also le...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am having such a really really bad day at the moment. The hotel didn't pay me. They are jerking me around. I now have to wait a few days and then file for the labor board if needbe. Needless to say that is a tremendously long process and I hope I don't have to go down that. Of cours...

irish54 · irish54

Hi family! Well, the holidays were very difficult, and yes, I'm glad they are over. My daughter (grandaughter) who left home the 10th of Dec. did come for a little bit Christmas Eve and then again for a few hours Christmas day. She didn't say much, although did say she loves me when she left.&...

kabbie · kabbie

hello all, i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him. i'm g...

jennifer9 · jennifer9

I just wanted to give some hope to those out there who might be new to al-anon. I've been going to meetings for about one and a half years now. I was a real mess when I first arrived and wasn't really sure how it could help me because like most people I was seeking someone to tell me what to do. I left the first me...

johello · johello

I am new here ( just before xmas). I just want to thank the angel who talked to me that scarey night when I got a call from the police telling me my husband got picked up for a dui. Her words calmed me , let me know that the situation was not caused by me.I only wish I could cont...

hudsond · hudsond

I have been thinking a lot lately about ruts and pits. I read a book over the holidays called Get out of the Pit. I found the book very helpful. It basically tells how at some point or another we all get in a pit, and although we can't get out of them ourselves, if we ask our HP (God) for help He wil...

Gailey · Gailey

I have been reading alot but not posting. I have not been to a f2f for almost 3 weeks. Mainly because my regular weekly meeting is on Monday nights. There is another one I go to on Thursday nights occasionally. I was thinking about it last night but decided not to go. Things, at the moment, are pretty q...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), I know this seems like an odd thing to do, but please bear with me. This has nothing to do with politics, I promise you. I would like to take a moment to honor the passing of President Gerald Ford. Whether or not your republican, democrat, atheist, political or not I a...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I called the A tonight, don't know why just had the urge, he's starting a new job tomorrow and all. So of course he asks me how come I don't call more often and are we going to get back together and when can he come home (I hope he was joking) and he kept brining up things either I didn't want to talk about...

jewely · jewely

before i say anything, i would like to say this........., recently i have recieved the gift of being able to LOL [laugh out loud], shortly after getting this gift, i recieved the blessing to COL [cry out loud], yesterday for the first time i can remember in years, i decided to GOL [grump out loud], wit...

Diva · Diva

My thoughts have returned to an earlier time in my life. I was 14 years old when I met him. The undisputed love of my life. My youthful innocence was awed by this "older man" of 18. Bill was gorgeous to look at; blond curly hair, clear blue eyes that cut directly through my clothing, and a smile that could me...

Christy · Christy

(((family))) Thought I'd share a memo that my A recieved at work. I guess it's normal for Alaska, but can you imagine getting this memo in any other office facility? From: ANCHORAGE, Building Services Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:55 AM Subject: Reminder: Moose Danger Importan...

Klutz · Klutz

My A mother has been abusive both physicaly and verbaly to me. (If you want details look at my other posts) This past christmas i or my brother did not go home. I think that she FINALLY got the point that she was sick and that she was going to loose her family. my dad even said enou...

lmt123 · lmt123

I can certainly relate to feeling invisible, like your post mentioned, Drucilla. I've felt that way a lot, but I believe it's one of my MAJOR character defects. I just wanted to tell everyone that I don't usually respond to all posts (lol, hard to believe THAT one, I know...), but I do re...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((friends)))))))))), Well this year I am gonna try and make some major changes in my life....first of all I started a new job yesterday...more money and with raising two teens on my own I can use all of that I can get.....lol... Second of all, living single again....wow t his has been a...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

At 5:48 am today Thursday January 4, 2007, after the latest lashing out at me, I finally give up and no longer wish to take the emotional abuse of my recovering alcoholic/drug addicted wife. Anything else has to be better than this. I absolutely positively have done nothing wrong but s...

lebe27 · lebe27

(((friends))) Son called yesterday. He had been seeing his boss' daughter on the sly. She is 17 or 18 but parents don't want her having a boyfriend. A mutual friend of theirs spilled the beans New Year's Eve I guess. Son spends alot of time at their house and often eats th...

danz123 · danz123

Hi friends, Wow! Higher power spoke to me loud and clear. I read the following in my church bulletin over the weekend. I asked my pastor where he got it. He said someone e-mailed it to him. Then yesterday I received an e-mail from another alanoner w/th...

ColeShan · ColeShan

So, I am new to this, but not new to the effects of alcholism. I grew up in a family where my father was and still is a hard core drunk. My partner of five years has finally surrendered to the disease of alcholism and is working a program. My partner has been sober for four months. I had begged her to get sober a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reading through some past stuff that my sponsor had sent to me the other day, and stumbled across this one, that made me smile..... He told me to think of the steps in four parts: Steps 1-3 "GIVE up" Steps 4-6 "FESS up" Steps 7-9 "MAKE up" Steps 10-12 "KE...

Fifi · Fifi

happy new year everyone so i am trying so hard to focus on me and take care of me and my life while A boyfriend is away at rehab getting sober, but it is HARD WORK. getting doctors and dentist appointment for me and the kids, having fun with them (we flew a kite today and the joy in their eyes...ahhh), seein...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

Wow, this really is a rollercoaster! I mean just the other nite I was here saying "why do we do this?" But even before that post I had asked for some suggestions on helping my 12 year old son cope. See, my son had not experienced the effects of alcoholism until I married my husba...

rita · rita

Any one out there want to be a sponsor for a newbie????

Rose · Rose

Hi everyone. My name is Rose married to an A and have a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old son. I feel like I am losing my mind at times. My A was sober for so many years and we decided to have a baby. Ever since my son was born my A has gone from good to bad to worse the older my son gets. My A also suffers from depression/anxiet...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, You have to have a dream in order to make the dream come true. I was in the car with my nine year old neice and three year old nephew. She asked me what I would wish for if I was granted one wish. This got me thinking.... She said she would wish people would stop eating animals!!! (st...

serendipity · serendipity

i do believe addiction is addiction is addiction. but, my ex is a crack addict/alcoholic. i have heard of very,very few crack addicts maintaining sobriety for any real length of time. seems that 3 years is average. my ex went about 3 years every time and then his relapses lasted (on average) 18 months....

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP family))) I hope each of you had a great Holiday. I enjoyed my time off from work. The kids and I had a good time together going to the parks, playing with their new toys, and just resting. The biggest struggle these days is getting on the same page with my AH about par...

bear · bear

It had all been going so well....too well probably that I hadn't seen this coming. Before my A went into rehab I was working my programme (still am) and for the first time in a long time come to terms, or so I thought, with detachment. He was very actively drinking but I felt like I was getting...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...

hudsond · hudsond

Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...

Rebecca · Rebecca

"Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...

Rebecca · Rebecca

anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?

marmare · marmare

Has anyone heard from Dolphin?

Rose · Rose

thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...

kissers · kissers

I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...

renah · renah

So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...

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	i know i need to be clear-help (Preview) sooooo two weeks from now,Aboyfriend gets out of rehab...unable to go back to his former living situation(tho he primarily lived with me and my two daughters) because they are drinkers. unwilling to move to his mother's(thank god). does not want to go to 1/2 way house, tho he hasn't explored that p...	Fifi	9	550	Jan 6, 2007 by confused
	This must be one heck of a guy!!! ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I found this on another messageboard and it touched me so much that I ask your permission to share it with you. This must be one heck of a guy. If I had a husband with a fraction of these principles, I would be still married. Imagine-- no lying, no cheating, no manipulati...	snoopy	55	1683	Jan 6, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Business Meeting (Preview) Business Meeting this month only will be held on January 14th, 2007 at 9pm est. If you have anything to add for the agenda or any new concerns please let me know. Kerry	kerry5	1	302	Jan 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	**THANKS FOR CHRISTMAS CARDS**** (Preview) I would like to thank all of you who sent Christmas cards and care packages to us at the Miricales in Progress recovery house. Your support ment so mutch to all of us. As Christmas aproched I was feeling so alone and was sarting to f...	Nvizable_mike	12	572	Jan 6, 2007 by DanaAngel
	Trusting my AH (Preview) Happy New Year everyone! I have not been on much due to the holidays and being sick with an aweful cold. I am ready for the new year to begin right and with that, some new changes that I have to make. The most biggest change I must concentrate on is TRUST!!!!!! Trust is so hard for me as I have been abused in eve...	albertarose	4	523	Jan 6, 2007 by jewely
	glum (Preview) so can i feel sorry for myself here? i HATE to do that. i just dropped off my kids at their dad's house....the kids are there one night a week only....it was all nice and cozy and cleaned by his new partner....i come home to my house - big,messy,full of toys,laundry,dishes,papers and the anxiety of m...	Fifi	5	355	Jan 6, 2007 by Christy
	I'm Home! (Preview)   ...	afmom03	2	308	Jan 6, 2007 by lmt123
	Oops, wrong meeting! (Preview) So, tonight I was going to my first f2f alanon meeting. I was super nervous, but determined. I was running a little late because my boyfriend kept talking to me (I think he thought if he made me run late, I would decide not to go). So, when I got there, I hurried in and sat at a table with s...	abryann	4	374	Jan 6, 2007 by david62
	Resolutions silly? NOT when it comes to alanon ones! (Preview) Each year millions of people "say" they are going to this and do that.........but in alanon we learn to not only say we are going to change in some ways, but we do it to improve our life situations. I for one take each new year as another challenge, how can I make my life more simpler, less stre...	gardengal	0	308	Jan 6, 2007 by gardengal
	Ally is ok but her internet is not (Preview) ((((((((((((((roomies)))))))))))))) If any of you were wondering what happened to Ally (aka hen) her internet is down. She will be back as soon as they fix it. I'm praying that it is not much longer. We miss you hen!!!!! Take care Shad	shadow1	6	355	Jan 6, 2007 by jewely
	Hey Drucilla!!!! (Preview) Are we all invisible??? (c: Just kidding, so what do you think? I mean how did all the shares make ya feel? You brought up something we all relate to. Are you ok? Please do not disappear. That took courage to share your feelings. I am glad you did. love,debilyn	debilyn	2	366	Jan 6, 2007 by jewely
	Lookey what I found... (Preview) On match dot com I have a terrific career working for a non-profit, which allows me to occasionally wander through swamps starting the woods on fire. The work is rewarding and I could not imagine doing anything else. Not your ordinary lawyer! It's a sign... An internet surfing lawyer who is singl...	carolinagirl	1	334	Jan 5, 2007 by rtexas
	Faith and Trust (Preview) Lately, things in my life seem to be going in circles. And, as I led a meeting I realized that if I surrender on a daily basis. I will not only become one with my HP, but also find that my option to use and the choice to use is eliminated. Because, with that surrender I adapt my will to my&n...	mmerlino	1	305	Jan 5, 2007 by MsgBo
	letting go lovingly--ESH?? (Preview) MIP Friends-- Happy new year!! I hope it is filled with happiness, hope, health for everyone. Just took my 5th step today with a fellow member and feel really good about how far I've come, and so much more realistic than I used to be about how far I have to go. I'm so grateful to this program for h...	faraway06	2	537	Jan 5, 2007 by CJ
	Almost a week (Preview) Wow, I can't believe it has been only six days since I found MIP. Things have been going a little more smoothly lately, almost smooth enough to forget there was even an issue. I found a nearby meeting, but because I was trying to secretive, I ended up taking care of the kids while he was out somewhere. His d...	RainyJamie	3	366	Jan 5, 2007 by RainyJamie
	he resents me (Preview) Hi everyone, My A and I split a few weeks ago. I have a nice new place to live and although it's lonely without him, I'm setting in. I'm doing okay. I had no choice but to split I felt. His drinking was getting worse and worse and I couldn't cope with it at all in the end. I thought I was doing the right thing by...	annmarie	7	584	Jan 5, 2007 by doxie
	Detachment such a difficult one (Preview) The A I live with is in a huge sulk. He's playing video games night and day (he's always done that). He has let many of his bills go. He is not even initiating work anymore. I can't imagine what some of his customers must think (he is an electrician) he has cut his phone off. He has also le...	maresie2	6	540	Jan 5, 2007 by Fifi
	really bad day (Preview) I am having such a really really bad day at the moment. The hotel didn't pay me. They are jerking me around. I now have to wait a few days and then file for the labor board if needbe. Needless to say that is a tremendously long process and I hope I don't have to go down that. Of cours...	maresie2	5	493	Jan 5, 2007 by doxie
	Update (Preview) Hi family! Well, the holidays were very difficult, and yes, I'm glad they are over. My daughter (grandaughter) who left home the 10th of Dec. did come for a little bit Christmas Eve and then again for a few hours Christmas day. She didn't say much, although did say she loves me when she left.&...	irish54	4	306	Jan 5, 2007 by irish54
	100 days of recovery (Preview) hello all, i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him. i'm g...	kabbie	3	421	Jan 5, 2007 by kabbie
	wanted to share (Preview) I just wanted to give some hope to those out there who might be new to al-anon. I've been going to meetings for about one and a half years now. I was a real mess when I first arrived and wasn't really sure how it could help me because like most people I was seeking someone to tell me what to do. I left the first me...	jennifer9	4	353	Jan 5, 2007 by faraway06
	an angel that night (Preview) I am new here ( just before xmas). I just want to thank the angel who talked to me that scarey night when I got a call from the police telling me my husband got picked up for a dui. Her words calmed me , let me know that the situation was not caused by me.I only wish I could cont...	johello	6	450	Jan 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Pits (Preview) I have been thinking a lot lately about ruts and pits. I read a book over the holidays called Get out of the Pit. I found the book very helpful. It basically tells how at some point or another we all get in a pit, and although we can't get out of them ourselves, if we ask our HP (God) for help He wil...	hudsond	4	355	Jan 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Is this a normal action? (Preview) I have been reading alot but not posting. I have not been to a f2f for almost 3 weeks. Mainly because my regular weekly meeting is on Monday nights. There is another one I go to on Thursday nights occasionally. I was thinking about it last night but decided not to go. Things, at the moment, are pretty q...	Gailey	11	628	Jan 5, 2007 by david62
	In memory (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), I know this seems like an odd thing to do, but please bear with me. This has nothing to do with politics, I promise you. I would like to take a moment to honor the passing of President Gerald Ford. Whether or not your republican, democrat, atheist, political or not I a...	Karilynn	12	577	Jan 5, 2007 by MaggiG
	Need to vent for a minute (Preview) I called the A tonight, don't know why just had the urge, he's starting a new job tomorrow and all. So of course he asks me how come I don't call more often and are we going to get back together and when can he come home (I hope he was joking) and he kept brining up things either I didn't want to talk about...	carolinagirl	6	605	Jan 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	what do the initials my A's or my AH's mean? (Preview) before i say anything, i would like to say this........., recently i have recieved the gift of being able to LOL [laugh out loud], shortly after getting this gift, i recieved the blessing to COL [cry out loud], yesterday for the first time i can remember in years, i decided to GOL [grump out loud], wit...	jewely	7	1195	Jan 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Bad, bad Bill. (Preview) My thoughts have returned to an earlier time in my life. I was 14 years old when I met him. The undisputed love of my life. My youthful innocence was awed by this "older man" of 18. Bill was gorgeous to look at; blond curly hair, clear blue eyes that cut directly through my clothing, and a smile that could me...	Diva	18	940	Jan 5, 2007 by marmare
	A little humor :) (Preview) (((family))) Thought I'd share a memo that my A recieved at work. I guess it's normal for Alaska, but can you imagine getting this memo in any other office facility? From: ANCHORAGE, Building Services Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:55 AM Subject: Reminder: Moose Danger Importan...	Christy	7	588	Jan 5, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	your getting sober...and what i forgive you now?!?!? (Preview) My A mother has been abusive both physicaly and verbaly to me. (If you want details look at my other posts) This past christmas i or my brother did not go home. I think that she FINALLY got the point that she was sick and that she was going to loose her family. my dad even said enou...	Klutz	5	464	Jan 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Drucilla...I understand being invisible...to everyone I've missed... (Preview) I can certainly relate to feeling invisible, like your post mentioned, Drucilla. I've felt that way a lot, but I believe it's one of my MAJOR character defects. I just wanted to tell everyone that I don't usually respond to all posts (lol, hard to believe THAT one, I know...), but I do re...	lmt123	0	296	Jan 5, 2007 by lmt123
	New Year New Start (Preview) (((((((((friends)))))))))), Well this year I am gonna try and make some major changes in my life....first of all I started a new job yesterday...more money and with raising two teens on my own I can use all of that I can get.....lol... Second of all, living single again....wow t his has been a...	Andrea12	7	455	Jan 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	I give up. Initiating Divorce proceedings (Preview) At 5:48 am today Thursday January 4, 2007, after the latest lashing out at me, I finally give up and no longer wish to take the emotional abuse of my recovering alcoholic/drug addicted wife. Anything else has to be better than this. I absolutely positively have done nothing wrong but s...	Cucamonga	11	589	Jan 5, 2007 by Cucamonga
	Not a Great Start to the New Year (Preview) (((friends))) Son called yesterday. He had been seeing his boss' daughter on the sly. She is 17 or 18 but parents don't want her having a boyfriend. A mutual friend of theirs spilled the beans New Year's Eve I guess. Son spends alot of time at their house and often eats th...	lebe27	4	708	Jan 5, 2007 by lin0606
	I Hope You Dance (Preview) Hi friends, Wow! Higher power spoke to me loud and clear. I read the following in my church bulletin over the weekend. I asked my pastor where he got it. He said someone e-mailed it to him. Then yesterday I received an e-mail from another alanoner w/th...	danz123	10	7086	Jan 5, 2007 by Andrea12
	New and totally lost (Preview) So, I am new to this, but not new to the effects of alcholism. I grew up in a family where my father was and still is a hard core drunk. My partner of five years has finally surrendered to the disease of alcholism and is working a program. My partner has been sober for four months. I had begged her to get sober a...	ColeShan	17	578	Jan 5, 2007 by jewely
	Categorizing the Steps (Preview) I was reading through some past stuff that my sponsor had sent to me the other day, and stumbled across this one, that made me smile..... He told me to think of the steps in four parts: Steps 1-3 "GIVE up" Steps 4-6 "FESS up" Steps 7-9 "MAKE up" Steps 10-12 "KE...	canadianguy	2	475	Jan 4, 2007 by bcanuck
	trying to walk the talk (Preview) happy new year everyone so i am trying so hard to focus on me and take care of me and my life while A boyfriend is away at rehab getting sober, but it is HARD WORK. getting doctors and dentist appointment for me and the kids, having fun with them (we flew a kite today and the joy in their eyes...ahhh), seein...	Fifi	10	558	Jan 4, 2007 by CJ
	A Healing Moment! (Preview) Wow, this really is a rollercoaster! I mean just the other nite I was here saying "why do we do this?" But even before that post I had asked for some suggestions on helping my 12 year old son cope. See, my son had not experienced the effects of alcoholism until I married my husba...	Spiritually Calm	0	273	Jan 4, 2007 by Spiritually Calm
	Newbie (Preview) Any one out there want to be a sponsor for a newbie????	rita	1	312	Jan 4, 2007 by debilyn
	New Here (Preview) Hi everyone. My name is Rose married to an A and have a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old son. I feel like I am losing my mind at times. My A was sober for so many years and we decided to have a baby. Ever since my son was born my A has gone from good to bad to worse the older my son gets. My A also suffers from depression/anxiet...	Rose	9	461	Jan 4, 2007 by Rose
	wishes and dreams (Preview) Hi everyone, You have to have a dream in order to make the dream come true. I was in the car with my nine year old neice and three year old nephew. She asked me what I would wish for if I was granted one wish. This got me thinking.... She said she would wish people would stop eating animals!!! (st...	annmarie	8	508	Jan 4, 2007 by snoopy
	addiction vs. alcoholism (Preview) i do believe addiction is addiction is addiction. but, my ex is a crack addict/alcoholic. i have heard of very,very few crack addicts maintaining sobriety for any real length of time. seems that 3 years is average. my ex went about 3 years every time and then his relapses lasted (on average) 18 months....	serendipity	3	454	Jan 4, 2007 by lin0606
	A's marijuana use is increasing (Preview) (((Hello MIP family))) I hope each of you had a great Holiday. I enjoyed my time off from work. The kids and I had a good time together going to the parks, playing with their new toys, and just resting. The biggest struggle these days is getting on the same page with my AH about par...	twinmom2	9	1102	Jan 4, 2007 by Rita G
	I keep Wanting to start an argument... (Preview) It had all been going so well....too well probably that I hadn't seen this coming. Before my A went into rehab I was working my programme (still am) and for the first time in a long time come to terms, or so I thought, with detachment. He was very actively drinking but I felt like I was getting...	bear	6	495	Jan 4, 2007 by Rita G
	Making Changes (Preview) If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...	twinmom2	2	379	Jan 4, 2007 by david62
	I feel so much better (Preview) It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...	carolinagirl	4	352	Jan 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Back from trip and ready to go (Preview) Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...	hudsond	4	381	Jan 3, 2007 by CJ
	Remind me why we do this? (Preview) I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...	Spiritually Calm	6	756	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	She understands now... and it breaks my heart. (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...	rtexas	11	710	Jan 3, 2007 by Becky1
	Sueing a spouse? (Preview) I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...	Friendofyours	9	619	Jan 3, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Agree 100% wit Ditto (Preview) "Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...	Rebecca	1	297	Jan 3, 2007 by ditto
	Missing Persons...... (Preview) anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?	Rebecca	3	445	Jan 3, 2007 by twinmom2
	Dolphin? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Dolphin?	marmare	1	323	Jan 3, 2007 by shadow1
	twinmom2 ?? (Preview) thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...	Rose	4	347	Jan 3, 2007 by Rose
	Gaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! (Preview) Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...	Tiger2006	16	572	Jan 3, 2007 by rtexas
	Email from A...ERRRRRRRRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!! (Preview) Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...	carolinagirl	8	607	Jan 3, 2007 by marmare
	Looking at friendships that harm me (Preview) I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...	kissers	3	479	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Not Drinking and I am still angry (Preview) So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...	renah	5	532	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	don't read this because I don't exist (Preview) Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...	drucilla06	25	923	Jan 3, 2007 by hudsond
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