Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mmerlino · mmerlino

Lately, things in my life seem to be going in circles. And, as I led a meeting I realized that if I surrender on a daily basis. I will not only become one with my HP, but also find that my option to use and the choice to use is eliminated. Because, with that surrender I adapt my will to my&n...

faraway06 · faraway06

MIP Friends-- Happy new year!! I hope it is filled with happiness, hope, health for everyone. Just took my 5th step today with a fellow member and feel really good about how far I've come, and so much more realistic than I used to be about how far I have to go. I'm so grateful to this program for h...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Wow, I can't believe it has been only six days since I found MIP. Things have been going a little more smoothly lately, almost smooth enough to forget there was even an issue. I found a nearby meeting, but because I was trying to secretive, I ended up taking care of the kids while he was out somewhere. His d...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My A and I split a few weeks ago. I have a nice new place to live and although it's lonely without him, I'm setting in. I'm doing okay. I had no choice but to split I felt. His drinking was getting worse and worse and I couldn't cope with it at all in the end. I thought I was doing the right thing by...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A I live with is in a huge sulk. He's playing video games night and day (he's always done that). He has let many of his bills go. He is not even initiating work anymore. I can't imagine what some of his customers must think (he is an electrician) he has cut his phone off. He has also le...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am having such a really really bad day at the moment. The hotel didn't pay me. They are jerking me around. I now have to wait a few days and then file for the labor board if needbe. Needless to say that is a tremendously long process and I hope I don't have to go down that. Of cours...

irish54 · irish54

Hi family! Well, the holidays were very difficult, and yes, I'm glad they are over. My daughter (grandaughter) who left home the 10th of Dec. did come for a little bit Christmas Eve and then again for a few hours Christmas day. She didn't say much, although did say she loves me when she left.&...

kabbie · kabbie

hello all, i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him. i'm g...

jennifer9 · jennifer9

I just wanted to give some hope to those out there who might be new to al-anon. I've been going to meetings for about one and a half years now. I was a real mess when I first arrived and wasn't really sure how it could help me because like most people I was seeking someone to tell me what to do. I left the first me...

johello · johello

I am new here ( just before xmas). I just want to thank the angel who talked to me that scarey night when I got a call from the police telling me my husband got picked up for a dui. Her words calmed me , let me know that the situation was not caused by me.I only wish I could cont...

hudsond · hudsond

I have been thinking a lot lately about ruts and pits. I read a book over the holidays called Get out of the Pit. I found the book very helpful. It basically tells how at some point or another we all get in a pit, and although we can't get out of them ourselves, if we ask our HP (God) for help He wil...

Gailey · Gailey

I have been reading alot but not posting. I have not been to a f2f for almost 3 weeks. Mainly because my regular weekly meeting is on Monday nights. There is another one I go to on Thursday nights occasionally. I was thinking about it last night but decided not to go. Things, at the moment, are pretty q...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), I know this seems like an odd thing to do, but please bear with me. This has nothing to do with politics, I promise you. I would like to take a moment to honor the passing of President Gerald Ford. Whether or not your republican, democrat, atheist, political or not I a...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I called the A tonight, don't know why just had the urge, he's starting a new job tomorrow and all. So of course he asks me how come I don't call more often and are we going to get back together and when can he come home (I hope he was joking) and he kept brining up things either I didn't want to talk about...

jewely · jewely

before i say anything, i would like to say this........., recently i have recieved the gift of being able to LOL [laugh out loud], shortly after getting this gift, i recieved the blessing to COL [cry out loud], yesterday for the first time i can remember in years, i decided to GOL [grump out loud], wit...

Diva · Diva

My thoughts have returned to an earlier time in my life. I was 14 years old when I met him. The undisputed love of my life. My youthful innocence was awed by this "older man" of 18. Bill was gorgeous to look at; blond curly hair, clear blue eyes that cut directly through my clothing, and a smile that could me...

Christy · Christy

(((family))) Thought I'd share a memo that my A recieved at work. I guess it's normal for Alaska, but can you imagine getting this memo in any other office facility? From: ANCHORAGE, Building Services Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:55 AM Subject: Reminder: Moose Danger Importan...

Klutz · Klutz

My A mother has been abusive both physicaly and verbaly to me. (If you want details look at my other posts) This past christmas i or my brother did not go home. I think that she FINALLY got the point that she was sick and that she was going to loose her family. my dad even said enou...

lmt123 · lmt123

I can certainly relate to feeling invisible, like your post mentioned, Drucilla. I've felt that way a lot, but I believe it's one of my MAJOR character defects. I just wanted to tell everyone that I don't usually respond to all posts (lol, hard to believe THAT one, I know...), but I do re...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((friends)))))))))), Well this year I am gonna try and make some major changes in my life....first of all I started a new job yesterday...more money and with raising two teens on my own I can use all of that I can get.....lol... Second of all, living single again....wow t his has been a...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

At 5:48 am today Thursday January 4, 2007, after the latest lashing out at me, I finally give up and no longer wish to take the emotional abuse of my recovering alcoholic/drug addicted wife. Anything else has to be better than this. I absolutely positively have done nothing wrong but s...

lebe27 · lebe27

(((friends))) Son called yesterday. He had been seeing his boss' daughter on the sly. She is 17 or 18 but parents don't want her having a boyfriend. A mutual friend of theirs spilled the beans New Year's Eve I guess. Son spends alot of time at their house and often eats th...

danz123 · danz123

Hi friends, Wow! Higher power spoke to me loud and clear. I read the following in my church bulletin over the weekend. I asked my pastor where he got it. He said someone e-mailed it to him. Then yesterday I received an e-mail from another alanoner w/th...

ColeShan · ColeShan

So, I am new to this, but not new to the effects of alcholism. I grew up in a family where my father was and still is a hard core drunk. My partner of five years has finally surrendered to the disease of alcholism and is working a program. My partner has been sober for four months. I had begged her to get sober a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reading through some past stuff that my sponsor had sent to me the other day, and stumbled across this one, that made me smile..... He told me to think of the steps in four parts: Steps 1-3 "GIVE up" Steps 4-6 "FESS up" Steps 7-9 "MAKE up" Steps 10-12 "KE...

Fifi · Fifi

happy new year everyone so i am trying so hard to focus on me and take care of me and my life while A boyfriend is away at rehab getting sober, but it is HARD WORK. getting doctors and dentist appointment for me and the kids, having fun with them (we flew a kite today and the joy in their eyes...ahhh), seein...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

Wow, this really is a rollercoaster! I mean just the other nite I was here saying "why do we do this?" But even before that post I had asked for some suggestions on helping my 12 year old son cope. See, my son had not experienced the effects of alcoholism until I married my husba...

rita · rita

Any one out there want to be a sponsor for a newbie????

Rose · Rose

Hi everyone. My name is Rose married to an A and have a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old son. I feel like I am losing my mind at times. My A was sober for so many years and we decided to have a baby. Ever since my son was born my A has gone from good to bad to worse the older my son gets. My A also suffers from depression/anxiet...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, You have to have a dream in order to make the dream come true. I was in the car with my nine year old neice and three year old nephew. She asked me what I would wish for if I was granted one wish. This got me thinking.... She said she would wish people would stop eating animals!!! (st...

serendipity · serendipity

i do believe addiction is addiction is addiction. but, my ex is a crack addict/alcoholic. i have heard of very,very few crack addicts maintaining sobriety for any real length of time. seems that 3 years is average. my ex went about 3 years every time and then his relapses lasted (on average) 18 months....

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP family))) I hope each of you had a great Holiday. I enjoyed my time off from work. The kids and I had a good time together going to the parks, playing with their new toys, and just resting. The biggest struggle these days is getting on the same page with my AH about par...

bear · bear

It had all been going so well....too well probably that I hadn't seen this coming. Before my A went into rehab I was working my programme (still am) and for the first time in a long time come to terms, or so I thought, with detachment. He was very actively drinking but I felt like I was getting...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...

hudsond · hudsond

Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...

Rebecca · Rebecca

"Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...

Rebecca · Rebecca

anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?

marmare · marmare

Has anyone heard from Dolphin?

Rose · Rose

thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...

kissers · kissers

I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...

renah · renah

So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...

kclady · kclady

I just wanted to tell all of you how much you are helping me with your es&h. I am a long time member of alanon but I have been away for several years. I am reading your posts and I am so glad that I came here. You are ALL beautiful to me.

Raven · Raven

Hello Everyone! For some unknown reason I am unable to enter the chatroom, no matter what way I try to come in. This is working for me, so I thought I would let you all know I am still around, trying patiently to get into the room. I miss you all! If anyone knows how I can get into chat it would b...

lilms · lilms

Hi, This may seem like a silly question but I have seen enough of this in the last bit to wonder. The A in my life smokes an enormous amount of pot. I would say anywhere in between 8 and 12 times a day. Even when she does not drink or is trying to quit drinking she still continues to smoke up bu...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))), Happy New Year! We had a great online meeting this morning. It got me thinking about what we want to do for ourselves this year. Now I'm not talking about working our program, getting healthier etc. Don't get me wrong these are all great things to do. What I am ta...

lilms · lilms

Diva, Do I need to say more?????

lilms

FairyTales · FairyTales

I know that I have spent way too much time on this over the weekend and took the focus off of myself but I just don't know what to do. I got off early on Friday before my husband. Well, I was on the phone about my internet with comcast so my husband called me on my cell phone and ask where I was at.&n...

jennifer9 · jennifer9

I feel hopeless right now and was wondering what to do. I'm recently separated from my A. It's been a long road and through a year of al-anon I've managed to try and treat him with respect and kindness and I've let go of most of the anger. I'm obviously not perfect in this area, but there has been a huge chang...

debilyn · debilyn

I am struggling to keep my home. I am at the point where i am thinking about what I plan to do. decided since my last learning experience I am in a new chapter of my life. I have to find who i am again and what I really want. Been experiencing things I am tired of. When I depend on me I am much happier. When I don'...

debilyn · debilyn

Now my son has gone bonkers. He is bi polar. The last two days he has called and been awful. Sounding so like the A when he emotionally abused me. When he called last night I was shocked how awful he was. Does not cuss much but any is too much for me. I won't go into it. I immediately told my self it is his dis...

mgeneralpatton · mgeneralpatton

I am brand new into Alanon I haven't even went to my first meeting yet I actually went to an AA meeting with my husband and was approached by two different women about Alanon so I decided I would try it out. My problem is that I am having a very hard time right now with my husband being in jail and my family diso...

serendipity · serendipity

i haven't spoken to my ex inlaws in years now. i saw my sil and mil on christmas eve but i didn't speak to them nor they to me and i was fine with that. i actually let it go and really didn't give them any thought at all which is huge progress for me. but my ex sil called the other day and left a message for me to call...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I found a meeting, tomorrow night at 7:00, I can walk to it (about a mile, but I love to walk). I don't want my H to know about it. Is that normal? To tell the truth, I've been terrified that we would find these posts, I even had a nightmare about it. I just feel like I have been so broken down that I need to rebuil...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Faith and Trust (Preview) Lately, things in my life seem to be going in circles. And, as I led a meeting I realized that if I surrender on a daily basis. I will not only become one with my HP, but also find that my option to use and the choice to use is eliminated. Because, with that surrender I adapt my will to my&n...	mmerlino	1	265	Jan 5, 2007 by MsgBo
	letting go lovingly--ESH?? (Preview) MIP Friends-- Happy new year!! I hope it is filled with happiness, hope, health for everyone. Just took my 5th step today with a fellow member and feel really good about how far I've come, and so much more realistic than I used to be about how far I have to go. I'm so grateful to this program for h...	faraway06	2	496	Jan 5, 2007 by CJ
	Almost a week (Preview) Wow, I can't believe it has been only six days since I found MIP. Things have been going a little more smoothly lately, almost smooth enough to forget there was even an issue. I found a nearby meeting, but because I was trying to secretive, I ended up taking care of the kids while he was out somewhere. His d...	RainyJamie	3	329	Jan 5, 2007 by RainyJamie
	he resents me (Preview) Hi everyone, My A and I split a few weeks ago. I have a nice new place to live and although it's lonely without him, I'm setting in. I'm doing okay. I had no choice but to split I felt. His drinking was getting worse and worse and I couldn't cope with it at all in the end. I thought I was doing the right thing by...	annmarie	7	542	Jan 5, 2007 by doxie
	Detachment such a difficult one (Preview) The A I live with is in a huge sulk. He's playing video games night and day (he's always done that). He has let many of his bills go. He is not even initiating work anymore. I can't imagine what some of his customers must think (he is an electrician) he has cut his phone off. He has also le...	maresie2	6	484	Jan 5, 2007 by Fifi
	really bad day (Preview) I am having such a really really bad day at the moment. The hotel didn't pay me. They are jerking me around. I now have to wait a few days and then file for the labor board if needbe. Needless to say that is a tremendously long process and I hope I don't have to go down that. Of cours...	maresie2	5	449	Jan 5, 2007 by doxie
	Update (Preview) Hi family! Well, the holidays were very difficult, and yes, I'm glad they are over. My daughter (grandaughter) who left home the 10th of Dec. did come for a little bit Christmas Eve and then again for a few hours Christmas day. She didn't say much, although did say she loves me when she left.&...	irish54	4	262	Jan 5, 2007 by irish54
	100 days of recovery (Preview) hello all, i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him. i'm g...	kabbie	3	380	Jan 5, 2007 by kabbie
	wanted to share (Preview) I just wanted to give some hope to those out there who might be new to al-anon. I've been going to meetings for about one and a half years now. I was a real mess when I first arrived and wasn't really sure how it could help me because like most people I was seeking someone to tell me what to do. I left the first me...	jennifer9	4	306	Jan 5, 2007 by faraway06
	an angel that night (Preview) I am new here ( just before xmas). I just want to thank the angel who talked to me that scarey night when I got a call from the police telling me my husband got picked up for a dui. Her words calmed me , let me know that the situation was not caused by me.I only wish I could cont...	johello	6	408	Jan 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Pits (Preview) I have been thinking a lot lately about ruts and pits. I read a book over the holidays called Get out of the Pit. I found the book very helpful. It basically tells how at some point or another we all get in a pit, and although we can't get out of them ourselves, if we ask our HP (God) for help He wil...	hudsond	4	316	Jan 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Is this a normal action? (Preview) I have been reading alot but not posting. I have not been to a f2f for almost 3 weeks. Mainly because my regular weekly meeting is on Monday nights. There is another one I go to on Thursday nights occasionally. I was thinking about it last night but decided not to go. Things, at the moment, are pretty q...	Gailey	11	583	Jan 5, 2007 by david62
	In memory (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), I know this seems like an odd thing to do, but please bear with me. This has nothing to do with politics, I promise you. I would like to take a moment to honor the passing of President Gerald Ford. Whether or not your republican, democrat, atheist, political or not I a...	Karilynn	12	534	Jan 5, 2007 by MaggiG
	Need to vent for a minute (Preview) I called the A tonight, don't know why just had the urge, he's starting a new job tomorrow and all. So of course he asks me how come I don't call more often and are we going to get back together and when can he come home (I hope he was joking) and he kept brining up things either I didn't want to talk about...	carolinagirl	6	556	Jan 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	what do the initials my A's or my AH's mean? (Preview) before i say anything, i would like to say this........., recently i have recieved the gift of being able to LOL [laugh out loud], shortly after getting this gift, i recieved the blessing to COL [cry out loud], yesterday for the first time i can remember in years, i decided to GOL [grump out loud], wit...	jewely	7	1138	Jan 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Bad, bad Bill. (Preview) My thoughts have returned to an earlier time in my life. I was 14 years old when I met him. The undisputed love of my life. My youthful innocence was awed by this "older man" of 18. Bill was gorgeous to look at; blond curly hair, clear blue eyes that cut directly through my clothing, and a smile that could me...	Diva	18	900	Jan 5, 2007 by marmare
	A little humor :) (Preview) (((family))) Thought I'd share a memo that my A recieved at work. I guess it's normal for Alaska, but can you imagine getting this memo in any other office facility? From: ANCHORAGE, Building Services Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2007 11:55 AM Subject: Reminder: Moose Danger Importan...	Christy	7	545	Jan 5, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	your getting sober...and what i forgive you now?!?!? (Preview) My A mother has been abusive both physicaly and verbaly to me. (If you want details look at my other posts) This past christmas i or my brother did not go home. I think that she FINALLY got the point that she was sick and that she was going to loose her family. my dad even said enou...	Klutz	5	428	Jan 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Drucilla...I understand being invisible...to everyone I've missed... (Preview) I can certainly relate to feeling invisible, like your post mentioned, Drucilla. I've felt that way a lot, but I believe it's one of my MAJOR character defects. I just wanted to tell everyone that I don't usually respond to all posts (lol, hard to believe THAT one, I know...), but I do re...	lmt123	0	252	Jan 5, 2007 by lmt123
	New Year New Start (Preview) (((((((((friends)))))))))), Well this year I am gonna try and make some major changes in my life....first of all I started a new job yesterday...more money and with raising two teens on my own I can use all of that I can get.....lol... Second of all, living single again....wow t his has been a...	Andrea12	7	410	Jan 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	I give up. Initiating Divorce proceedings (Preview) At 5:48 am today Thursday January 4, 2007, after the latest lashing out at me, I finally give up and no longer wish to take the emotional abuse of my recovering alcoholic/drug addicted wife. Anything else has to be better than this. I absolutely positively have done nothing wrong but s...	Cucamonga	11	547	Jan 5, 2007 by Cucamonga
	Not a Great Start to the New Year (Preview) (((friends))) Son called yesterday. He had been seeing his boss' daughter on the sly. She is 17 or 18 but parents don't want her having a boyfriend. A mutual friend of theirs spilled the beans New Year's Eve I guess. Son spends alot of time at their house and often eats th...	lebe27	4	664	Jan 5, 2007 by lin0606
	I Hope You Dance (Preview) Hi friends, Wow! Higher power spoke to me loud and clear. I read the following in my church bulletin over the weekend. I asked my pastor where he got it. He said someone e-mailed it to him. Then yesterday I received an e-mail from another alanoner w/th...	danz123	10	6479	Jan 5, 2007 by Andrea12
	New and totally lost (Preview) So, I am new to this, but not new to the effects of alcholism. I grew up in a family where my father was and still is a hard core drunk. My partner of five years has finally surrendered to the disease of alcholism and is working a program. My partner has been sober for four months. I had begged her to get sober a...	ColeShan	17	533	Jan 5, 2007 by jewely
	Categorizing the Steps (Preview) I was reading through some past stuff that my sponsor had sent to me the other day, and stumbled across this one, that made me smile..... He told me to think of the steps in four parts: Steps 1-3 "GIVE up" Steps 4-6 "FESS up" Steps 7-9 "MAKE up" Steps 10-12 "KE...	canadianguy	2	434	Jan 4, 2007 by bcanuck
	trying to walk the talk (Preview) happy new year everyone so i am trying so hard to focus on me and take care of me and my life while A boyfriend is away at rehab getting sober, but it is HARD WORK. getting doctors and dentist appointment for me and the kids, having fun with them (we flew a kite today and the joy in their eyes...ahhh), seein...	Fifi	10	516	Jan 4, 2007 by CJ
	A Healing Moment! (Preview) Wow, this really is a rollercoaster! I mean just the other nite I was here saying "why do we do this?" But even before that post I had asked for some suggestions on helping my 12 year old son cope. See, my son had not experienced the effects of alcoholism until I married my husba...	Spiritually Calm	0	233	Jan 4, 2007 by Spiritually Calm
	Newbie (Preview) Any one out there want to be a sponsor for a newbie????	rita	1	271	Jan 4, 2007 by debilyn
	New Here (Preview) Hi everyone. My name is Rose married to an A and have a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old son. I feel like I am losing my mind at times. My A was sober for so many years and we decided to have a baby. Ever since my son was born my A has gone from good to bad to worse the older my son gets. My A also suffers from depression/anxiet...	Rose	9	420	Jan 4, 2007 by Rose
	wishes and dreams (Preview) Hi everyone, You have to have a dream in order to make the dream come true. I was in the car with my nine year old neice and three year old nephew. She asked me what I would wish for if I was granted one wish. This got me thinking.... She said she would wish people would stop eating animals!!! (st...	annmarie	8	470	Jan 4, 2007 by snoopy
	addiction vs. alcoholism (Preview) i do believe addiction is addiction is addiction. but, my ex is a crack addict/alcoholic. i have heard of very,very few crack addicts maintaining sobriety for any real length of time. seems that 3 years is average. my ex went about 3 years every time and then his relapses lasted (on average) 18 months....	serendipity	3	410	Jan 4, 2007 by lin0606
	A's marijuana use is increasing (Preview) (((Hello MIP family))) I hope each of you had a great Holiday. I enjoyed my time off from work. The kids and I had a good time together going to the parks, playing with their new toys, and just resting. The biggest struggle these days is getting on the same page with my AH about par...	twinmom2	9	1037	Jan 4, 2007 by Rita G
	I keep Wanting to start an argument... (Preview) It had all been going so well....too well probably that I hadn't seen this coming. Before my A went into rehab I was working my programme (still am) and for the first time in a long time come to terms, or so I thought, with detachment. He was very actively drinking but I felt like I was getting...	bear	6	449	Jan 4, 2007 by Rita G
	Making Changes (Preview) If you have always been afraid of change then making changes doesn't feel so wonderful. I am a creature of habit. I don't like change. Even as a child going to the next grade level gave me anxiety because it was a new teacher, new kids, etc. My AH has always been in constant chan...	twinmom2	2	341	Jan 4, 2007 by david62
	I feel so much better (Preview) It's funny how much things have changed since I first came here. I have known for many years that even when it seems like the end of the world things get better and life goes on usually for the better. I have been genuinely happy lately. I don't think about my AH nearly so much any more d...	carolinagirl	4	313	Jan 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Back from trip and ready to go (Preview) Hello to all!! You were missed, but I've been very busy and for the most part had a wonderful time! We had a safe trip up to New Jersey and back, we had a great time with my family--yes I think even my husband can say that! We went to New York City and saw the sights--oh I didn't think my legs wou...	hudsond	4	321	Jan 3, 2007 by CJ
	Remind me why we do this? (Preview) I'm really struggling right now with why on earth I put myself and my son through this mind game ... the mind game of alcoholism. It's never easy, there's nothing simple about it. Right now, I can't understand why I spend the time trying to stay one step ahead of the game, always having to th...	Spiritually Calm	6	694	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	She understands now... and it breaks my heart. (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I haven't posted much over the holiday week. I have been off and mostly hit the boards from my office, so it's been tough to get on. All and all the holidays have been a blessing. The kids and I have had a great time, but Mom (my AW) is a whole different story. I calle...	rtexas	11	668	Jan 3, 2007 by Becky1
	Sueing a spouse? (Preview) I have a question. I live in a home that is in my husbands name. If I file for divorce and he refuses to sell and would rather have it taken (foreclosed) can I do anything to take ownership since he is an alcoholic? Anyone had this issue? My husband uses financial control over me, just wondering what you t...	Friendofyours	9	574	Jan 3, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Agree 100% wit Ditto (Preview) "Anyway, when I started to think clearly, when I put my needs first, when I realized I was grieving for something that didn’t exist, I was able to let go. A friend put it very succinctly to me when he said: “you mean you are afraid to let go of something that you d...	Rebecca	1	256	Jan 3, 2007 by ditto
	Missing Persons...... (Preview) anyone see or hear from Twinmom lately? i havent seen a post from her in a while, since she got married actually..... .hope she is o.k. anyone hear from her?	Rebecca	3	405	Jan 3, 2007 by twinmom2
	Dolphin? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Dolphin?	marmare	1	283	Jan 3, 2007 by shadow1
	twinmom2 ?? (Preview) thank you for responding to my "New Here" message as well as everyone else. I just wanted to write you since you since you also have 3 1/2 yr old twins. I just don't want my son to experience this anymore. i hate that fact that he hears us argue about As' drinking. He even has asked my A recently, what happe...	Rose	4	301	Jan 3, 2007 by Rose
	Gaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! (Preview) Gaaaa! I'm applying to graduate school! You'd think it was Harvard. You'd think I was going to MIT. You'd think I was packing up my things and moving half way across the world to the University of Timbuktu. But no. Wright State. School of Graduate Studies. Colle...	Tiger2006	16	533	Jan 3, 2007 by rtexas
	Email from A...ERRRRRRRRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!! (Preview) Thank you, I just got another offer for that G company the Christain guy who wanted to hire me away from M and G. Listen, I want you back. I am making the effort not to date anyone because my sponcer says I shouldn't. You have to tell me what you want. Because I know you are trying to get dates onlin...	carolinagirl	8	565	Jan 3, 2007 by marmare
	Looking at friendships that harm me (Preview) I've been friends with someone since high school. A couple years ago, she hit bottom with her alcoholism. I remember all the blaming I was given by deciding to end the friendship because of the many broken promises. She had introduced me to someone years ago and we started dating. He would constantly b...	kissers	3	434	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Not Drinking and I am still angry (Preview) So I have been relieved that AH has not been drinking but I find that I am still angry and frightened whether he is or isn't. If he is eating loudly I feel angry at his eating loudly. I blame the irritation on him but I need to take a look at myself. (Although it seems...	renah	5	487	Jan 3, 2007 by Tiger2006
	don't read this because I don't exist (Preview) Hello MIP, I am not having a good day.Maybe this is alanon related,maybe not.I just need to reach out.I need to know that I really do exist somewhere for someone.My AH,soon to be ex, would say I am feeling sorry for myself.Maybe I am.But I say I am facing a reality about my life that I have b...	drucilla06	25	884	Jan 3, 2007 by hudsond
	Your experience, strength and hope. (Preview) I just wanted to tell all of you how much you are helping me with your es&h. I am a long time member of alanon but I have been away for several years. I am reading your posts and I am so glad that I came here. You are ALL beautiful to me.	kclady	4	328	Jan 3, 2007 by twinmom2
	Hello! (Preview) Hello Everyone! For some unknown reason I am unable to enter the chatroom, no matter what way I try to come in. This is working for me, so I thought I would let you all know I am still around, trying patiently to get into the room. I miss you all! If anyone knows how I can get into chat it would b...	Raven	22	1038	Jan 3, 2007 by elzbeth
	Question for the double winners (Preview) Hi, This may seem like a silly question but I have seen enough of this in the last bit to wonder. The A in my life smokes an enormous amount of pot. I would say anywhere in between 8 and 12 times a day. Even when she does not drink or is trying to quit drinking she still continues to smoke up bu...	lilms	7	632	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	Reconnecting with oneself (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))), Happy New Year! We had a great online meeting this morning. It got me thinking about what we want to do for ourselves this year. Now I'm not talking about working our program, getting healthier etc. Don't get me wrong these are all great things to do. What I am ta...	Karilynn	5	579	Jan 3, 2007 by nmike
	FOR DIVA (Preview) Diva, Do I need to say more????? lilms	lilms	1	300	Jan 3, 2007 by debilyn
	I'm not sure what to do (Preview) I know that I have spent way too much time on this over the weekend and took the focus off of myself but I just don't know what to do. I got off early on Friday before my husband. Well, I was on the phone about my internet with comcast so my husband called me on my cell phone and ask where I was at.&n...	FairyTales	8	499	Jan 3, 2007 by debilyn
	Dilemma (Preview) I feel hopeless right now and was wondering what to do. I'm recently separated from my A. It's been a long road and through a year of al-anon I've managed to try and treat him with respect and kindness and I've let go of most of the anger. I'm obviously not perfect in this area, but there has been a huge chang...	jennifer9	8	378	Jan 2, 2007 by CJ
	talking out loud about an alanoner coming alive (Preview) I am struggling to keep my home. I am at the point where i am thinking about what I plan to do. decided since my last learning experience I am in a new chapter of my life. I have to find who i am again and what I really want. Been experiencing things I am tired of. When I depend on me I am much happier. When I don'...	debilyn	12	591	Jan 2, 2007 by debilyn
	abusive son (Preview) Now my son has gone bonkers. He is bi polar. The last two days he has called and been awful. Sounding so like the A when he emotionally abused me. When he called last night I was shocked how awful he was. Does not cuss much but any is too much for me. I won't go into it. I immediately told my self it is his dis...	debilyn	9	472	Jan 2, 2007 by debilyn
	Inlaws who needs 'em (Preview) I am brand new into Alanon I haven't even went to my first meeting yet I actually went to an AA meeting with my husband and was approached by two different women about Alanon so I decided I would try it out. My problem is that I am having a very hard time right now with my husband being in jail and my family diso...	mgeneralpatton	7	394	Jan 2, 2007 by lin0606
	hp knows when i'm ready (Preview) i haven't spoken to my ex inlaws in years now. i saw my sil and mil on christmas eve but i didn't speak to them nor they to me and i was fine with that. i actually let it go and really didn't give them any thought at all which is huge progress for me. but my ex sil called the other day and left a message for me to call...	serendipity	3	334	Jan 2, 2007 by Christy
	Found a meeting (Preview) I found a meeting, tomorrow night at 7:00, I can walk to it (about a mile, but I love to walk). I don't want my H to know about it. Is that normal? To tell the truth, I've been terrified that we would find these posts, I even had a nightmare about it. I just feel like I have been so broken down that I need to rebuil...	RainyJamie	5	418	Jan 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
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