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I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has been an alcoholic all of this time.
It has been livable but not an enjoyable life.
He recently became steadily weaker, had loss of muscle mass, loss of appetite and weight.
He then suffered two seizures.
My daughter who knows how to give cpr happened to be at the house and we revived him after the first seizure. He didn't want to go to the hospital. Our doctor came to the house and was present for the 2nd. He agreed to go to the hospital then.
The seizures were caused by excessive drinking and not eating (I brought him his meals in bed and he would pour them down the toilet).
He was in the hospital a week while he was given a battery of tests. They found that alcoholism has effected every major organ in his body - something he doesn't accept.
Since we have been home, he has been acting very strange. He basically doesn't like me at all. He will sit with my friends, pledge them to secrecy and tell them that I need to be committed. To satisfy him, I went to our Doctor, I am depressed - not bi-polar, having senile-dementia or anything. He at first was talking to my daughter about divorcing me and running away with her. He was also making passes at her. My daughter was very upset by this. He has been her "father figure" since she was 12 years old.
He blames me for causing him to drink so much - because he was so unhappy with me.
And says that he is going to live his own life now. I have Never had any influence over his behavior.
Tell me, I have read a patient suffers "psychosis" after these alcoholic episodes. They are dt's without stopping drinking - from excessive drinking. Do things get better? Do they get worse?
My husband had a horrendous detox. He was very thin, weak and out of it. It took about 2 solid months for his brain to work properly again. He was passive but would forget that he took his meds, get up in the middle of the night thinking it was time to go to work..just off the wall stuff. He did recover though and is doing better then ever. I think their body has to learn how to survive w/o alcohol. It's a total shock to be w/o it since it has been their fuel for so long.
In the interum you can come here, attend online meetings and f2f. Whatever works. You can learn to deal with what is happening and get healthy too through Alanon.
Christy
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Welcome to Miracles in Progress. We offer don't offer advice but experience, strength and hope. Read as much as you can about alcoholism and maybe there will be answer there for you. Whether they drink or not they may exhibit irrational behavior. When they drink they seem to lose their boundaries and that seems to be what it is happening with your daughter. Keep coming back.
