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i have not posted in awhile, and just wanted to say hello. my daughter is at 100 days or so of recovery, and my husband and i the same. he's actually been more faithful than i to alanon the past few weeks, but the holidays and end of year work obligations keep me a bit more tied up than him.
i'm grateful for the 100 days. still have a lot of work to do. i struggle with trust issues and feel more resentment than is healthy over all i've been through because of my daughter's addiction the past year. daughter is in a halfway house, working her program. she struggles with managing money and still likes to manipulate/bully when given the chance. her maturity level is behind other young adults her age, and she can be very hard to deal with. she is too dependent on us, and we're trying to "wean her". we have really good days, and then some pretty bad ones.
Great to hear from you - 100 days recovery for all three of you - that is awesome. I hope that all of you continue to grow & heal in your respective programs. Remember all the stuff that happened didn't happen overnight - so the healing won't happen overnight either. It will probably take time -
"I'm not where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be - I'm exactly where God wants me to be"
Progress not Perfection.
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
that is such good news and gives me hope for my A son. I'm glad you decided on the halfway house. I think it was you that was struggling with whether or not to let her come home after rehab.
yes, gailey - we did struggle with what to do after rehab stay. in the end, it was a very easy decision to have her in a halfway house. she was not ready to come home, and we were not ready to have her here. even day visits are stressful at this point. she's making a lot of positive changes, and so are my husband and i. but it is very slow work. 1 step forwards, 2 back - sometimes. other days are great! i wanted to post so folks could be encouraged. so i'm glad it made you feel that way. i sure feel for all of you moms and wives and husbands and girl/boy friends and children and on and on - dealing with active addiction. it's a crime what it does to people, just a crying shame. i've been very humbled. i'm grateful for every day we have alcohol and drug free - even with all the challenges.
