Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

horselover58 · horselover58

I would like to share an analogy that I thought of the other day. I got the idea when I read an email from a friend of mine, her hubby is a drinking buddy with my hubby. It all started out when one man in their group got into a very serious motorcycle accident Sunday night after a weekend of drinking & ridi...

Rita G · Rita G

It seems like quite a few of us have been struggling lately with the consuming thoughts about what the A's in our lives our doing? Are they drinking/using? Are they really going to meetings? Are they really working a program? Is the AA thing for real? I say "us" because this is one of my to...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH got a DWI about a month ago and he told me he was going to treatment. He was going to be court ordered anyway, so he decided to do this to make him look better. Of course I didn't believe he was in treatment for one second, but after talking to him for a long time last night, he either is really in treatment...

meglet · meglet

AB/F has a new career...this career wouldn't be possible without his new-found sobriety. I am grateful for that. However, with this new career, he seems to have taken up being 'friendly' with other women. Some of these women have taken it upon themselves to contact him outside of business h...

serendipity · serendipity

I don't know how my ex surrounds himself with AA people that will tell him abandoning his kids and treating his ex wife like a total piec of dog doo is ok in the program. I DON'T GET IT!!!! How can any sober person in AA look at what he is/has done and say that it's ok? or right? How can they stick by him? When he...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I picked up the other two kids and told them that I was going to line them all up and ask the culprit to come forward. They already knew that I knew it was'nt them and I told them not to mention that I had been to their school and checked to see if they had it. I offered the opportunity to step forward and made i...

Jen · Jen

Took my ds to the dentist this morning. My A was going to haul water while we were gone. He did not do that. He decided to take a nap instead. It is raining now. The water should have been done before the road got wet again. Now it will make a mess of the road when he tries to drive on it. In the past I would have ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Situation: My oldest daughter (12) told me a few days back that my middle child has been stealing money out of my purse. Soooooo as a result I have been paying extra close attention to my cash. This morning I get up and all my cash is gone - six dollars! I have 3 children and witout fail every one of them will...

Jill · Jill

Dear Lord,So far today, I'm doing all right.I haven't gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self indulgent. I have not whined, complained, cursed, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit card! However, I'll be getting out of bed in a minute, and I think I...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am going thru a horrible time. My Alcoholic boyfriend not only cheated, but he left me for another woman. She is an alcoholic as well. I pray for them, but it might be better for Charlie to hit a major bottom to help see what he is doing to himself, and others. I had him show up yesterday, with one of his guy...

ally · ally

Guys, Men are out of bounds for me for a while.. Gees us it's tough work being in love...So I have went back to my first love...And hes the only man for me now.... Here he is...lol Most of you might know him.. And most of you know how much I Love him... Love Mee Am in recovery...gimme peace NOW you know im Craz...

nmike · nmike

(((((drucilla))))) Haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope everything is going well. Nancy

Maria123 · Maria123

Well most especially today is because you see, it's our younguns birfday. H-A-P-P-Y B-I-R-T-H-D-A-Y STILLKICKIN

Love ya, Maria P.S. I...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Hello family Maggi again is writing to convey another loss. Maggi lost her best friend from work this evening . Denise passed away tonight at 6 o clock for what we are not sure. She was instrumental in my acceptance of Ed's death. She had been getting over her fathers death. Denise was one of those folk...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

This morning I received a call from my ex A b/f. He blocked his # so I picked up the phone. I should know by now to never answer calls that come up restricted or private caller!! He was just calling to see how I am doing. I told him that I'm keeping busy, going out, meeting people, etc etc. He freaked! Hi...

Maria123 · Maria123

May 6, 2007 AL-ANON AGENDA I. Minutes Approval II. Ops Schedule III. Old Business a. None IV. Treasurer's Report V. New Business a. Al-Anon registration of this group has expired due to its no...

jaja · jaja

I just read Serendipity's post and, at one point wondered the same thing. My A was and still goes to AA but when I've brought up issues about our marriage and that it is stagnant - neither here nor there - he comes up with comments I couldn't believe his sponsor said (his sponsor has about 34 yrs. of s...

chris52 · chris52

((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))) Living in Turkey,I don't get the chance to keep very up to date with current music. Although it's getting better. (LOL!) There's this song that I have been hearing a lot recently,though I understand it's been around since 2005. Drives me nuts because I just love it and...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It's my job to keep people (sick people mostly) safe, healthy, comfortable, and if I can, happy. Everyone remarks about this natural talent I have with the clients. A few of them are hard to please and very needy. Today I was scrambling around to get this and do that to satisfy someone who will never be s...

serendipity · serendipity

i just feel like i can't do it. i can't get out of bed, or get dressed, do the house stuff. i'm wrecked. where is my choice here? i don't want to be like this. i don't want to keep calling him. i want to stop crying. but as hard as i try to stop and go in a better direction i'm not. i feel like i've lost control. of my...

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

I found this a few years ago and copied it and hung it on the kitchen cupboard. You know how you do that and then it becomes part of the scenery and you really don't pay attention to it anymore. I was standing there finishing a cup of coffee yesterday morning and it grabbed my attention and after re-readi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Hubby came out his surgery just fine yesterday. It was shorter than usual and he woke up rather quickly. All went really well! He was able to sit up and eat dinner (alas not pizza as he's been craving ) but he ate it anyway. He's obviously in pain, but they've got him fairly well...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi everyone,i finnally made it back here after a long time away sorry its taken me this long to get back,my life seems to be going to shambles,my mom recently went to the nursing home for multiple illness and my dad is now having heart problems and may have to have open heart surgery between mom and dad bot...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well husband is scheduled to go to court on Monday and I'm pondering going to see him since this is also visiting day. I know I know tiger...quit rubbernecking...but I just can't seem to help myself. I'm curious I want to know I want to hear all the sordid details. I'm half way moved on but the other hal...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have to go to court tomorrow to get the eviction taken off my record. I dont' see how I can't win and have it dismissed but I am not in control I would so appreciate it if you could all pray for me then. I need moral support and understanding. This is another mess the A set up and landed me with. He has made m...

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

2 weeks ago I told him I'm leaving at the end of the school year because of his drinking, smoking and unemployment and constant borrowing money from his parents (almost monthly for 7 years - they need to stop - but they won't). Things I've said before but never followed through on. This time I mean it....

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

AH was sober for 20 years and started drinking 2 years ago. In Feb I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings because I had to let go. AH then went into treatment and seemed to be doing well so I let him come back. Soon red flags started showing up all over. I kept asking him if I could help and he continued...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Welp.... this is a first for me. Went to my meeting today and the score was Guys 4 Girls 2.... I was blown away. I have been going there for over a year now and that is a first. Acturally the first time we had more than 3 guys at all. I am so easily entertained. LOL I have been brooding...

serendipity · serendipity

I can't even see straight. I don't even know if I can type. I can't stop sobbing. My mother (the bitch) just toloe me she saw my ex at the store with his new love. He was driving. They were grocery shopping. I hate him. how could he possibly move on?? I can't. i want to but i just can't. Heart is broken again. W...

tlallen · tlallen

Hello. I'm a college freshman at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and I'm writing a paper on the effects of alcoholic parents on children. After growing up with an alcoholic mother myself, this is a topic of special interest for me. I've prepared a survey to help with my paper, and if any of you...

serendipity · serendipity

I am so lonley. This saddness is just not letting up. I guess I'm grieving the loss of my marriage. I made my ah my best friend. I had other friends, I do have other friends, I have the love and support of this program. But (heard that one comming didn't ya?) I miss him. I think that is crazy. But (there it is a...

hopefully · hopefully

My A does not admit he has a problem b/c he never misses a day of work. We've been together for 14 yrs & slowly I've become more & more isolated. That's why I'm scared & anxious to go to an Alanon meeting this week. I have no family or friends for thousands of miles. I often do not leave the house f...

Gailey · Gailey

Sometimes I wonder what would be worse: my A son never getting recovery or getting it and relapsing, like so many do, further down the road. I know it sounds rather crazy but at least I know what he is doing now....that would be drinking...so I don't have to wonder about it. I know, I know....I need to deta...

ally · ally

((((((John)))))))) Whoever said Life was easy was lying....lol So your at the centre of attention again...You must be getting pretty fed up by now right...? I just would like to say.. I have been a member of your site for a year, I have been glad of the site for many reasons...... My Life was a complete ma...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Whether you think you are or not.... if you are here - you are a risk taker. You took a risk at a better life by reaching out for help in this program. There are so many trials we go through together, and getting through to the other side is taking a risk. Could things acturally get w...

barisax · barisax

It says a lot about us. When we become adults, most of us have a choice when it comes to our friends. We don't chose our family, but as adults we DO have the option as to which members of the family we spend time with... and which ones we avoid. I *do* believe in playing favorites when it comes to how people...

kitty · kitty

Two weeks ago my friend called me from the airport talking for an hour... so clear & happy to come home; telling me about all the transformations he wanted to undergo; talking about implementing changes to make the world a better place; excited about exploring meditation & meta-physic...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello (((Friends))) I feel like I'm settling into a routine in the house without my AH. The kids and I worked in the yard this weekend, we kept busy and it felt really good. There is still some struggle with the kids missing him and of course I miss him too. The boys and I have a counseling session sch...

debilyn · debilyn

I know you are having a tough time, yet learning and progressing. how are you and the kiddos??? love,debilyn

maresie2 · maresie2

When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...

annmarie · annmarie

Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....

java · java

Letting GoTo "let go" does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. ...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I have been praying recently for God to relieve me of my insanity. To grant me the freedom that serenity and that the program offers. That comes with sanity. I've gotten tired of being angry, I said. I've gotten tired of being on the defense, of creating senarios for what my Mom "will most likel...

Katy · Katy

For weeks now my Ah has been distant and cold towrads me, I have tried to carry on and not let it get to me but in the end it always does, I have tried on many accasions to ask what was wrong, but he won't say, he doesn't talk to me about anything, I want closure it's killing me, living with this day after day, he t...

kitty · kitty

I started to talking to an old b/f... met him 3-4 yrs ago, after a few months freaked out w/ the situation as he is alcoholic, work-a-holic & has a dead marriage. I freaked out over being the home wrecker, the other woman, so I ended it. Last year was with him a scant 2 months. We did drink bottles of w...

carosie · carosie

THE CRACKED POT An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung onthe ends of a p which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot ar...

java · java

"BELIEVE IN YOURSELF" I came across this poem the other day and thought wow! I wanted to share it with you and some of my thoughts. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND IN YOUR DREAM THOUGH IMPOSSIBLE THINGS MAY SEEM. SOMDAY, SOMEHOW YOU'LL GET THROUGH TO THE GOAL YOU HAVE IN VIEW. MOUNTAINS FALL AND SEAS...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

OK, I made arrangments to have lunch with my ex Á b/f's mom (her and I were and are very close despite her son breaking up with me) What a fabulous time I had!! Our lunch lasted almost 4 hours. We talked and talked and talked. She is by far one of the sweetest women I have ever met. It just amazes me that m...

belle1 · belle1

trying to see if this will work on attachments of files -- Edited by belle1 at 17:10, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:21, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:25, 2007-04-24

serendipity · serendipity

I just went back and read all of my posts from the past year. Seems to me I was healthier last year than I am at this moment. I'm thinking that I had so much time to talk with my dad about life and what's important. Things felt so much clearer to me then. In this past year, letting my ex ah back into my life real...

maresie2 · maresie2

Thank you all for your prayers about jobs. I am still waiting to hear on one particular job that would help me out a great deal. If had that job I could make it out of the debt that's been generated by having to move. Right now I am going to have to go back to working minimum wage. I have not had good experien...

ShelBell · ShelBell

I will out of town for a few days and won't have access to you all. I will be back Friday afternoon and will catch up with eveyone then. Have a great week!!!! Lots of love

maresie2 · maresie2

I now have to go to court on Wednesday despite the fact I have moved out and been gone from the flat/apartment for 6 weeks. I have to do that in order to protect my credit/record in ever being able to rent again. Needless to say the A has not left the apartment yet. He's moved some of his stuff but not all of...

hopefully · hopefully

I'm new to your site & have been reading your posts for about a week. I think I reached the end of my rope about a week ago & just reading your posts to each other & your kindness & caring has helped more than you can know. I got the phone #s of 2 alanon groups in my area & am going to call tom...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Good morning my sweet family. Well tomorrow is hubby's surgery. The closer it gets, the harder I have to try not to get uptight. I have to turn him over to the very good doctors and HP. Like the night I told him to leave when he was drinking I have to detach a bit. Hard not to know wha...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH, who happens (thank HP) to be sober for the time being, is on his way to PA to pick up his sister. Yesterday she passed out drunk while home alone with her 15 mo. old daughter. When her husband called the police to find out what he should do they came to the house. She called this morning asking for help....

Alanoner · Alanoner

I think that is the wrong title, because this post is about ways to NOT have an addicted kid. Of course it in not foolproof, but each person that has tried it has been succesful with it. I can't take credit for it since my parents invented it, my siblings and I just followed their training that we knew work...

lmt123 · lmt123

(((((((Twinmom))))))) I just read your post from several days ago regarding your sons' birthday and your feelings towards your A and that situation . Sorry this is late, but here's a hug from me to ((((((((((you))))))))))! I hope your days have been better since then! Hang in there ~ I've been th...

cac · cac

Today I am in a good place and I should share so that someone else can find hope in my situation. My husband got released from rehab on Saturday morning. He has been to 5 meetings in 2 days. I am so proud of him. I am so hopeful. He is surrounding himself with people in the program. Today he is going to outpatie...

bob6502 · bob6502

These pictures were taken by a friend of mine when we went for a walk one day. I was thinking as I was doing my homework about all the possibilites that HP can create or has in store for us. Many things beyond our own limited imagination. Hp created this bird, something in my own limited imagination I would...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Old job vs. New job (Preview) I would like to share an analogy that I thought of the other day. I got the idea when I read an email from a friend of mine, her hubby is a drinking buddy with my hubby. It all started out when one man in their group got into a very serious motorcycle accident Sunday night after a weekend of drinking & ridi...	horselover58	3	517	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	What are THEY doing? (Preview) It seems like quite a few of us have been struggling lately with the consuming thoughts about what the A's in our lives our doing? Are they drinking/using? Are they really going to meetings? Are they really working a program? Is the AA thing for real? I say "us" because this is one of my to...	Rita G	3	688	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	"Treatment talk" or really in treatment?? (Preview) My AH got a DWI about a month ago and he told me he was going to treatment. He was going to be court ordered anyway, so he decided to do this to make him look better. Of course I didn't believe he was in treatment for one second, but after talking to him for a long time last night, he either is really in treatment...	Lindy	5	727	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Mostly a lurker, but I'm really hurting.... (Preview) AB/F has a new career...this career wouldn't be possible without his new-found sobriety. I am grateful for that. However, with this new career, he seems to have taken up being 'friendly' with other women. Some of these women have taken it upon themselves to contact him outside of business h...	meglet	3	697	May 4, 2007 by Jerry F
	I hate AA (Preview) I don't know how my ex surrounds himself with AA people that will tell him abandoning his kids and treating his ex wife like a total piec of dog doo is ok in the program. I DON'T GET IT!!!! How can any sober person in AA look at what he is/has done and say that it's ok? or right? How can they stick by him? When he...	serendipity	10	3057	May 3, 2007 by kissers
	What I did about the money stealing... (Preview) I picked up the other two kids and told them that I was going to line them all up and ask the culprit to come forward. They already knew that I knew it was'nt them and I told them not to mention that I had been to their school and checked to see if they had it. I offered the opportunity to step forward and made i...	carolinagirl	5	605	May 3, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Feeling pretty good about myself today (Preview) Took my ds to the dentist this morning. My A was going to haul water while we were gone. He did not do that. He decided to take a nap instead. It is raining now. The water should have been done before the road got wet again. Now it will make a mess of the road when he tries to drive on it. In the past I would have ba...	Jen	3	418	May 3, 2007 by Jen
	A little off the subject and seeking advice or ESH (Preview) Situation: My oldest daughter (12) told me a few days back that my middle child has been stealing money out of my purse. Soooooo as a result I have been paying extra close attention to my cash. This morning I get up and all my cash is gone - six dollars! I have 3 children and witout fail every one of them will...	carolinagirl	11	702	May 3, 2007 by Diva
	Prayer (Preview) Dear Lord,So far today, I'm doing all right.I haven't gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self indulgent. I have not whined, complained, cursed, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit card! However, I'll be getting out of bed in a minute, and I think I...	Jill	3	359	May 3, 2007 by Jen
	WANT TO LEARN ACCEPTANCE AND LET THIS MADDNESS GO. (Preview) I am going thru a horrible time. My Alcoholic boyfriend not only cheated, but he left me for another woman. She is an alcoholic as well. I pray for them, but it might be better for Charlie to hit a major bottom to help see what he is doing to himself, and others. I had him show up yesterday, with one of his guy...	hippietrippiechick	9	784	May 3, 2007 by gardengal
	ALLY'S ONLY MAN (Preview) Guys, Men are out of bounds for me for a while.. Gees us it's tough work being in love...So I have went back to my first love...And hes the only man for me now.... Here he is...lol Most of you might know him.. And most of you know how much I Love him... Love Mee Am in recovery...gimme peace NOW you know im Craz...	ally	7	506	May 3, 2007 by ally
	drucilla are you there? (Preview) (((((drucilla))))) Haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope everything is going well. Nancy	nmike	2	344	May 3, 2007 by annmarie
	It's All About Stillkickin AKA Buzzfree (Preview) Well most especially today is because you see, it's our younguns birfday. H-A-P-P-Y B-I-R-T-H-D-A-Y STILLKICKIN Love ya, Maria P.S. I...	Maria123	11	545	May 3, 2007 by java
	death (Preview) Hello family Maggi again is writing to convey another loss. Maggi lost her best friend from work this evening . Denise passed away tonight at 6 o clock for what we are not sure. She was instrumental in my acceptance of Ed's death. She had been getting over her fathers death. Denise was one of those folk...	MaggiG	10	687	May 2, 2007 by bubbles1990
	Jealousy rears its ugly head (Preview) This morning I received a call from my ex A b/f. He blocked his # so I picked up the phone. I should know by now to never answer calls that come up restricted or private caller!! He was just calling to see how I am doing. I told him that I'm keeping busy, going out, meeting people, etc etc. He freaked! Hi...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	621	May 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Sunday, May 6th Business Meeting Agenda, 9 PM Eastern Standard Time (Preview) May 6, 2007 AL-ANON AGENDA I. Minutes Approval II. Ops Schedule III. Old Business a. None IV. Treasurer's Report V. New Business a. Al-Anon registration of this group has expired due to its no...	Maria123	0	292	May 2, 2007 by Maria123
	Just what is being commited to AA? (Preview) I just read Serendipity's post and, at one point wondered the same thing. My A was and still goes to AA but when I've brought up issues about our marriage and that it is stagnant - neither here nor there - he comes up with comments I couldn't believe his sponsor said (his sponsor has about 34 yrs. of s...	jaja	5	745	May 2, 2007 by lin0606
	If only I had known how to save a life (Preview) ((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))) Living in Turkey,I don't get the chance to keep very up to date with current music. Although it's getting better. (LOL!) There's this song that I have been hearing a lot recently,though I understand it's been around since 2005. Drives me nuts because I just love it and...	chris52	2	549	May 2, 2007 by RainyJamie
	people pleasing person (Preview) It's my job to keep people (sick people mostly) safe, healthy, comfortable, and if I can, happy. Everyone remarks about this natural talent I have with the clients. A few of them are hard to please and very needy. Today I was scrambling around to get this and do that to satisfy someone who will never be s...	RainyJamie	6	574	May 2, 2007 by RainyJamie
	not one more step (Preview) i just feel like i can't do it. i can't get out of bed, or get dressed, do the house stuff. i'm wrecked. where is my choice here? i don't want to be like this. i don't want to keep calling him. i want to stop crying. but as hard as i try to stop and go in a better direction i'm not. i feel like i've lost control. of my...	serendipity	8	600	May 2, 2007 by serendipity
	Row, row, row your boat... (Preview) I found this a few years ago and copied it and hung it on the kitchen cupboard. You know how you do that and then it becomes part of the scenery and you really don't pay attention to it anymore. I was standing there finishing a cup of coffee yesterday morning and it grabbed my attention and after re-readi...	DelilahJones	2	416	May 2, 2007 by hudsond
	Quick update (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Hubby came out his surgery just fine yesterday. It was shorter than usual and he woke up rather quickly. All went really well! He was able to sit up and eat dinner (alas not pizza as he's been craving ) but he ate it anyway. He's obviously in pain, but they've got him fairly well...	Karilynn	8	467	May 2, 2007 by hersh
	sad and depressed (Preview) hi everyone,i finnally made it back here after a long time away sorry its taken me this long to get back,my life seems to be going to shambles,my mom recently went to the nursing home for multiple illness and my dad is now having heart problems and may have to have open heart surgery between mom and dad bot...	pattyann1963	6	454	May 2, 2007 by nmike
	Moving on but not moving on... (Preview) Well husband is scheduled to go to court on Monday and I'm pondering going to see him since this is also visiting day. I know I know tiger...quit rubbernecking...but I just can't seem to help myself. I'm curious I want to know I want to hear all the sordid details. I'm half way moved on but the other hal...	carolinagirl	9	662	May 2, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	Please send prayers for me at 9:00 am. PST time (Preview) I have to go to court tomorrow to get the eviction taken off my record. I dont' see how I can't win and have it dismissed but I am not in control I would so appreciate it if you could all pray for me then. I need moral support and understanding. This is another mess the A set up and landed me with. He has made m...	maresie2	4	333	May 2, 2007 by Rita G
	AH just doesn't get it (Preview) 2 weeks ago I told him I'm leaving at the end of the school year because of his drinking, smoking and unemployment and constant borrowing money from his parents (almost monthly for 7 years - they need to stop - but they won't). Things I've said before but never followed through on. This time I mean it....	DelilahJones	5	476	May 2, 2007 by DelilahJones
	made one more attempt and failed (Preview) AH was sober for 20 years and started drinking 2 years ago. In Feb I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings because I had to let go. AH then went into treatment and seemed to be doing well so I let him come back. Soon red flags started showing up all over. I kept asking him if I could help and he continued...	tryingtoheal	3	406	May 2, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	Guys outnumbered the Girls (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Welp.... this is a first for me. Went to my meeting today and the score was Guys 4 Girls 2.... I was blown away. I have been going there for over a year now and that is a first. Acturally the first time we had more than 3 guys at all. I am so easily entertained. LOL I have been brooding...	rtexas	5	595	May 2, 2007 by cac
	Hurt help me (Preview) I can't even see straight. I don't even know if I can type. I can't stop sobbing. My mother (the bitch) just toloe me she saw my ex at the store with his new love. He was driving. They were grocery shopping. I hate him. how could he possibly move on?? I can't. i want to but i just can't. Heart is broken again. W...	serendipity	5	465	May 2, 2007 by annmarie
	Children of Alcoholics Survey (Preview) Hello. I'm a college freshman at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and I'm writing a paper on the effects of alcoholic parents on children. After growing up with an alcoholic mother myself, this is a topic of special interest for me. I've prepared a survey to help with my paper, and if any of you...	tlallen	7	1386	May 1, 2007 by tea2
	sad, confused, lonley (Preview) I am so lonley. This saddness is just not letting up. I guess I'm grieving the loss of my marriage. I made my ah my best friend. I had other friends, I do have other friends, I have the love and support of this program. But (heard that one comming didn't ya?) I miss him. I think that is crazy. But (there it is a...	serendipity	9	577	May 1, 2007 by pattyann1963
	Isolation & functioning A (Preview) My A does not admit he has a problem b/c he never misses a day of work. We've been together for 14 yrs & slowly I've become more & more isolated. That's why I'm scared & anxious to go to an Alanon meeting this week. I have no family or friends for thousands of miles. I often do not leave the house f...	hopefully	5	971	May 1, 2007 by abbyal
	don't know which is worse (Preview) Sometimes I wonder what would be worse: my A son never getting recovery or getting it and relapsing, like so many do, further down the road. I know it sounds rather crazy but at least I know what he is doing now....that would be drinking...so I don't have to wonder about it. I know, I know....I need to deta...	Gailey	6	603	May 1, 2007 by rtexas
	FOR JOHN aka (OPSY) (Preview) ((((((John)))))))) Whoever said Life was easy was lying....lol So your at the centre of attention again...You must be getting pretty fed up by now right...? I just would like to say.. I have been a member of your site for a year, I have been glad of the site for many reasons...... My Life was a complete ma...	ally	1	477	May 1, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Risk taking (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Whether you think you are or not.... if you are here - you are a risk taker. You took a risk at a better life by reaching out for help in this program. There are so many trials we go through together, and getting through to the other side is taking a risk. Could things acturally get w...	rtexas	4	742	May 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	The Company We Keep (Preview) It says a lot about us. When we become adults, most of us have a choice when it comes to our friends. We don't chose our family, but as adults we DO have the option as to which members of the family we spend time with... and which ones we avoid. I do believe in playing favorites when it comes to how people...	barisax	5	612	May 1, 2007 by Rita G
	Disease Picks Up Where It Leaves Off (Preview) Two weeks ago my friend called me from the airport talking for an hour... so clear & happy to come home; telling me about all the transformations he wanted to undergo; talking about implementing changes to make the world a better place; excited about exploring meditation & meta-physic...	kitty	2	491	May 1, 2007 by Rita G
	Feeling a little healthier (Preview) Hello (((Friends))) I feel like I'm settling into a routine in the house without my AH. The kids and I worked in the yard this weekend, we kept busy and it felt really good. There is still some struggle with the kids missing him and of course I miss him too. The boys and I have a counseling session sch...	twinmom2	7	641	May 1, 2007 by sash
	a carolinagirl where are you only. (Preview) I know you are having a tough time, yet learning and progressing. how are you and the kiddos??? love,debilyn	debilyn	1	309	May 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
	My worst fears (Preview) When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...	maresie2	5	534	May 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	to John (Preview) Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....	annmarie	0	425	May 1, 2007 by annmarie
	Letting go and Letting God (Preview) Letting GoTo "let go" does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. ...	java	5	897	May 1, 2007 by kissers
	The denial cloud is lifting...and is that...sanity?! (Preview) I have been praying recently for God to relieve me of my insanity. To grant me the freedom that serenity and that the program offers. That comes with sanity. I've gotten tired of being angry, I said. I've gotten tired of being on the defense, of creating senarios for what my Mom "will most likel...	Tiger2006	3	495	May 1, 2007 by CJ
	Where I am at right now! (Preview) For weeks now my Ah has been distant and cold towrads me, I have tried to carry on and not let it get to me but in the end it always does, I have tried on many accasions to ask what was wrong, but he won't say, he doesn't talk to me about anything, I want closure it's killing me, living with this day after day, he t...	Katy	8	569	May 1, 2007 by Katy
	Projection (Preview) I started to talking to an old b/f... met him 3-4 yrs ago, after a few months freaked out w/ the situation as he is alcoholic, work-a-holic & has a dead marriage. I freaked out over being the home wrecker, the other woman, so I ended it. Last year was with him a scant 2 months. We did drink bottles of w...	kitty	4	816	May 1, 2007 by bubbles1990
	The cracked pot (Preview) THE CRACKED POT An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung onthe ends of a p which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot ar...	carosie	5	482	Apr 30, 2007 by aunitedway
	Believe in Yourself (Preview) "BELIEVE IN YOURSELF" I came across this poem the other day and thought wow! I wanted to share it with you and some of my thoughts. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND IN YOUR DREAM THOUGH IMPOSSIBLE THINGS MAY SEEM. SOMDAY, SOMEHOW YOU'LL GET THROUGH TO THE GOAL YOU HAVE IN VIEW. MOUNTAINS FALL AND SEAS...	java	1	406	Apr 30, 2007 by rtexas
	Lunch with my ex A b/f's mom (Preview) OK, I made arrangments to have lunch with my ex Á b/f's mom (her and I were and are very close despite her son breaking up with me) What a fabulous time I had!! Our lunch lasted almost 4 hours. We talked and talked and talked. She is by far one of the sweetest women I have ever met. It just amazes me that m...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	542	Apr 30, 2007 by TLM
	allys pic in france (Preview) trying to see if this will work on attachments of files -- Edited by belle1 at 17:10, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:21, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:25, 2007-04-24	belle1	7	599	Apr 30, 2007 by ET
	What A Difference A Year Makes (Preview) I just went back and read all of my posts from the past year. Seems to me I was healthier last year than I am at this moment. I'm thinking that I had so much time to talk with my dad about life and what's important. Things felt so much clearer to me then. In this past year, letting my ex ah back into my life real...	serendipity	3	609	Apr 30, 2007 by aunitedway
	update (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers about jobs. I am still waiting to hear on one particular job that would help me out a great deal. If had that job I could make it out of the debt that's been generated by having to move. Right now I am going to have to go back to working minimum wage. I have not had good experien...	maresie2	4	504	Apr 30, 2007 by Jennifer
	Going out of town (Preview) I will out of town for a few days and won't have access to you all. I will be back Friday afternoon and will catch up with eveyone then. Have a great week!!!! Lots of love	ShelBell	1	290	Apr 30, 2007 by rtexas
	hard to stay positive (Preview) I now have to go to court on Wednesday despite the fact I have moved out and been gone from the flat/apartment for 6 weeks. I have to do that in order to protect my credit/record in ever being able to rent again. Needless to say the A has not left the apartment yet. He's moved some of his stuff but not all of...	maresie2	8	613	Apr 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Thank you for caring (Preview) I'm new to your site & have been reading your posts for about a week. I think I reached the end of my rope about a week ago & just reading your posts to each other & your kindness & caring has helped more than you can know. I got the phone #s of 2 alanon groups in my area & am going to call tom...	hopefully	10	577	Apr 30, 2007 by hope4us
	Putting it in the hand of HP and the good doctors (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Good morning my sweet family. Well tomorrow is hubby's surgery. The closer it gets, the harder I have to try not to get uptight. I have to turn him over to the very good doctors and HP. Like the night I told him to leave when he was drinking I have to detach a bit. Hard not to know wha...	Karilynn	17	653	Apr 30, 2007 by leo
	SIL Coming to Stay (Preview) My AH, who happens (thank HP) to be sober for the time being, is on his way to PA to pick up his sister. Yesterday she passed out drunk while home alone with her 15 mo. old daughter. When her husband called the police to find out what he should do they came to the house. She called this morning asking for help....	babysteps	4	405	Apr 30, 2007 by babysteps
	One way to deal with addict kids (Preview) I think that is the wrong title, because this post is about ways to NOT have an addicted kid. Of course it in not foolproof, but each person that has tried it has been succesful with it. I can't take credit for it since my parents invented it, my siblings and I just followed their training that we knew work...	Alanoner	25	899	Apr 30, 2007 by ShelBell
	to twinmom... (Preview) (((((((Twinmom))))))) I just read your post from several days ago regarding your sons' birthday and your feelings towards your A and that situation . Sorry this is late, but here's a hug from me to ((((((((((you))))))))))! I hope your days have been better since then! Hang in there ~ I've been th...	lmt123	1	337	Apr 30, 2007 by twinmom2
	HOPE!! (Preview) Today I am in a good place and I should share so that someone else can find hope in my situation. My husband got released from rehab on Saturday morning. He has been to 5 meetings in 2 days. I am so proud of him. I am so hopeful. He is surrounding himself with people in the program. Today he is going to outpatie...	cac	2	412	Apr 30, 2007 by annmarie
	Higher Powers imagination (Preview) These pictures were taken by a friend of mine when we went for a walk one day. I was thinking as I was doing my homework about all the possibilites that HP can create or has in store for us. Many things beyond our own limited imagination. Hp created this bird, something in my own limited imagination I would...	bob6502	6	821	Apr 30, 2007 by cac
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