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hi everyone,i finnally made it back here after a long time away sorry its taken me this long to get back,my life seems to be going to shambles,my mom recently went to the nursing home for multiple illness and my dad is now having heart problems and may have to have open heart surgery between mom and dad both they keep me busy busy,after my visit with my mom tonight i came home my hubby at work and my son was sitting here sick with the flu,i went to my hubbys chester drawer to c if he had any meds to give to my son and found a small jack daniels whiskey bottle empty,that jus added to my problems or depression,now im all down i may be jus getting myself worked up over nothing ,i hope so.i havent the time for me and havent in a long time but i really never have had time for me ive never knew who patty really is,for dealing with everybody elses problems im am sooo scared,and sad i jus want to go of into a corner somewhere quietly and cry,but i havent any tears to do that,im a very codependent person,i would love to admit myself into a codependent home for help with it cause it does get in my weay of living a serene life alot,,hopefully i can get back here soon and continue staying in touch with all of you this is a truely gr8t place to be it has helped me alot in the past and even now to remember the slogens ,the 3 Cs is one of my favoritesand big helpers with my family,my siblings r whom im really codependent with.im tired now i type with one hand cause i dont know how to type,ttyl love u all,pattyann1963
Hi Patty!!! Breathe in, breathe out, repeat, repeat! You are very understandably overwhelmed as anyone in your situation would be. Do you have any positives in your life? Make a list & concentrate on the few good things you can think of. You have your health, you have a beautiful son, etc. It helps me a lot when I'm overwhelmed to count what I'm grateful for. Try to NOT concentrate on things you can't control & aren't responsible for. Try to be good to yourself. Fix a nice cup of tea. Put on some soothing music. Hug your son. Pray that tomorrow will be better & you will have more strengh to deal with it all. Love.....Hope
ty hopefully ,yes i need to breath more,just scared here seems like its never gonna end so i can start working on my relationship with my hubby,ive been having to put him on the back burner seems like to take care of my mom and dad,i jus hope he is not picking up alcohol drinkn agin that in itself would be a total disaster if he has ,too long a story right now to say why,but it would be beleive me,love pattyann
Remember the 3 C's --cause, control & cure. Your H's drinking has nothing to do with you or your parent's needing you right now. You won't have your parents forever (I know) & I'm really sorry to hear about their poor health. But you can't be of any help to anyone if you don't take care of yourself!! Stress can make you physically ill & you must be good to you! Please take care of yourself. Love to you & your son....Hope
It always seems that we have no time to help ourselves, but you know what... if you don't take care of you too, you won't be able to help out if someone really needs you.
For many of us, we put others first but in working this program I found that a healthy me can be more help than a sick me.
Take care of you and the rest will follow. I am glad you are here. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
