Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

WHEN MY Navy Medical Reserve Unit was called up for Operation Desert Storm, I was awakened by a phone call at three o'clock on a Sunday morning with the order to report for duty in four hours for processing. After I hung up the phone, my husband groggily asked, "Who was that?" "Oh, hone...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

The A/DA in my life is my son. Fortunately he is back in program and for the time being seems to be doing very well. I am slowly regaining my relationship with my son and it does feel very good. We had a phone conversation last week and something he said seemed to have little flags all over it saying "...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I saw this today and wanted to pass it along. Have a wonderful day. Peace, Twinmom~ Children Learn If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with shame, they lear...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Our beloved sweet Tea did a post earlier asking what are some of our favorite passages from readings were (look on page 2). Well here I am better late than never! lol I've been doing some rethinking about my life, etc. I'm not trying to dwell on the past or project on the future. I...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) Got a little "love letter" from my wife last friday. It said that she knows that the drinking was a way to cope for her and that it has caused problems in our marriage. Friday nights we normally try to get diner together as a family. The kiddo had plans with a friend so...

Katy · Katy

My now sober ah is still very good at this, the thing is, it pushes those around him that love him away, We, his children, and me, his wife don't understand why, out of the blue usually he will do this, we all seem to be happy and then it happens, it's very upsetting, we try to ignore and not react and detach...

ler0719 · ler0719

Hello. I am brand new to Al-Anon and while I do not know much about it here goes: I am so tired of my alcoholic boyfriend. We lived together up until 2 days ago when I left with out 23 month old son. He drinks constantly. Has been in rehab about 7 times in the past 10 years. We have been together for 4 year...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I am miscarrying. I'm pretty sure ah is no longer sober. The phone calls from him while I was in the ER were unreal. He was cussing at me and calling me every name in the book. This is the drinker I know. The nondrinker would have been kind and caring. He took off work at noon and I thought he might come over to t...

Diva · Diva

SOmeone please explain to me why AlAnon says, "What other people think of me is none of my business." Truly I do not care much what other people think, and "think" is the operative word here. I would not call myself a people-pleaser to excess, but all of us know one or two people w...

Diva · Diva

This morning, at 4:00, my older son left after a four-day visit. Now this son is grown, he is educated and bright, doing well for himself, never a single problem with the law, gentle, kind, sober, never had a problem with abuse of any kind, and a real pain in the ass!!! He is an artist in the true sense of the...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) I feel like I've been shot with a canon and I have a huge hole in me. I look at it but it's not painful...there is just a huge chunk missing, it doesn't feel right. My A is all over the place. He says things that make no sense, he seems nervous and on edge. I hate this. I keep stepping back...

serendipity · serendipity

Well, I just read Kim's post about the goats and it was really inspiring. To keep going, to acknowledge the pain and move despite it and find the joy. I have twice now done things involving my ex and his agf that I will regret. Nothing major just my own confrontational mouth. I come off looking like the cr...

Rita G · Rita G

Happy Birthday Java - Enjoy some calorie free cake!! Hope you have a wonderful birthday!! Rita

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got another letter from the A in jail today. He said he has 8-10 months for the dui and probation violation together. In NC that means he'll be out next week LOL. Really I expect he'll be out in 2-3 months with nowhere to go, not a dime, not even clothes on his back just the hospital clothes he went in with...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

Sealy Sealy Sealy Haven't seen ya online in forever. Worried about ya. Hope all is well. Miss you much. Your friend, Eve

serendipity · serendipity

I feel better. I still miss my ex. The pain, anger, grief is fading. The crazy thoughts are fewer and farther between. Still, I miss him. Now I'm going back in my mind to the last night I saw him when he showed up to my house. The day he left me messages to call him, that he needed me, etc. I didn't respond to an...

Gurl25 · Gurl25

My sister is alcoholic/drug addict currently in rehab (checked herself in by choice). My husband is an alcohoic, possible drug addict - I'm not ready to seperate yet, but it's definitely something I'm considering in the coming months if he hasn't taken any steps to change. So, I'd like to know what s...

gardengal · gardengal

Sometimes the drama of living with an alcoholic we lose ourselves along the way, and get enmeshed in all their crap. I found myself obsessing about my AH, where he was , what he was doing, what time would he be home, and waiting alone at home for his arrival. I would watch the clock tick by hour after hour, a...

lilms · lilms

(((((MIP Family)))))) I made an appointment to go a talk with an impartial person tomorrow. I love my friends but they are definitely biased. I have been sorting out bank accounts, am going to go and open a new one at a different bank tomorrow also. Am going to be taking on more hours at one of my jobs. On...

kissers · kissers

My boss gave me 2 weeks to schedule appointments for a salesperson in the office. I will not receive any type of commission. I told him that I did not feel this was fair and not my responsibility since sales people do their own cold calling. Right now I am being cornered by both the boss and the sales guy. My...

maresie2 · maresie2

This morning the A was supposed to go over to a neighbors house. The neighbor has a place that is unrented. I am pretty sure that if the a offered him money (and keep in mind this is my money) that the neighbor would rent him a room on a short term basis. He was supposed to go yesterday but I forget what the excu...

lilms · lilms

((((((Friends))))))) I truly believe I am at the point of being done. I love my partner but have not for a very long time enjoyed this relationship. I am going to continue along with plan B (amassing funds etc). I cannot believe how extremely calm I am about this, not sad, not broken hearted, none of tha...

sulli · sulli

hello, i am new to the forum although i have been reading the message board for the past year or so and finally plucked up the courage to post my situation which is spiralling out of control. I am originally from the UK and have been living in Cyprus for the past 17 years. i have no way of attending a face t...

Kim65 · Kim65

Some of you may remember my 'horrible day' three weeks ago when I lost two dairy goats to overeating disease. I've been looking and dithering for a while and finally found my three new girls in a nearby burg (well, 82 miles is nearby around here). They are Nubian dairy goats, real big with these immense...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Its been a while since I've posted on here.... Right now things in my life are "good" ... I've been keeping busy, enjoying the sun and sand, enjoying my children, family and friends. And even enjoying the company of my ex A. Although I am not diving back into a relationship with my ex A b/f, w...

bev · bev

we buried my 2 week old cousin on friday,it was such a sad day,and week i was supposed to head back to florida on friday but this was more important..tomorrow im leaving to go back,but im coming back here{ny} july 5 going to spend july 4 with SAH ..and spend some time with his mom..it is going to be hard to be...

confused · confused

I have been married for 15 years and truly could take or leave sex. My husband and I have lost nearly any moments of intimacy in our marriage and it makes me sad. For me there needs to be an emotional connection, a kindness, communication etc. I realize that my issues are not solely about the A, but we ha...

Christy · Christy

"What goes around, comes around" was recently mentioned in a post. Some of us Alanoners are waiting for the A's to get their payback for all the suffering they cause and have caused. My 16 mo. sober husband was home this week from Alaska (he's working there) and we discussed that sentence a...

muppet · muppet

I'm sitting here wondering if I'm being cruel. Two days ago the A has told me he hates me, to fxxx off, never to contact him. Today he denies saying any of this and asks to meet up tomorrow. He says I'm being horrible to him. I said I can't do it. I never know how I stand. He tells me he knows I love him so why am I be...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am trying to do as Carolinagirl suggests and just sit tight and wait it out. The A is still alive barely. The way he looked ont the weekend was desperate. He has some under the table jobs (that is psychologically all he can do). The dogs are still alive. I still have a roof over my head but it is total chaos t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well I have had the visiting form on my counter at home for two weeks and finally filled it out yesterday with a half nice, half not so nice letter to the A. I wonder if I am shooting myself in the foot by not just walking away now. I haven't gotten any mail from him since the letter with the visit form and I am...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH loves to tell me that I treat him disrespectfully. Usually he mutters it under his breath. On the rare occassion that he comes right out and says it, I usually end up apologizing rather than engaging in something I believe will end up being non-productive. Here's what I would really like to say: Re...

sash · sash

In about 10 days, my husband will be sober 90 days. In the beginning it was great. He seemed to really realize what a shi* he had been. I actually could have a conversation with him and no longer had to wonder how long it would take for him to pass out every night. For the past month he has been extremely mo...

Rita G · Rita G

Just have a few minutes before I leave my office for a busy weekend, but I wanted to share bits this wonderful discussion I had with a fellow Al-Anon from my f2f group. . . She was struggling with and beating herself up because she had feelings for someone who has an addiction. My HP lead me to say the...

maresie2 · maresie2

The good news is that I have access to my dogs. The bad news is that I have not been sent or given the rescue groups that were promised to me. I was supposed to get emails about them but they never materialised. That makes me very very leery of asking anyone for anything at all. The bad news is that not one...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) I read a post about Intamacy, and wow, It has given me some food for thought. For the last few years, I have not gone near sex..Because I never trusted anyone enough to let them close to me. Last year I started having sex, as you all know. And It was like learning...

Kim65 · Kim65

This morning, AH handed me a cup of coffee while I went to the bathroom, barely awake . . . and a little later, I heard him on the phone talking about goats . . . he'd called on an ad for two Nubian milking goats, pretty much the answer to my "greatest farm prayers". He told me, "You stay here...

PapaBear · PapaBear

I have a relative who is currently in a Center, for Drug Abuse, and has just finished Detox and into the 12 steps. When they call, they tell me a lot of things -- like it is only the beginning of the battle, they realize they have to learn about themselves, etc. I don't know how to respond. I don't know if t...

Patches · Patches

I am finally learing something...to take care of me through setting realistic boundaries :) and I am so happy! Last weekend I went to my parents house to celebrate my A-dad's b-day and father's day (a week early). My dad has gone to rehab and has relapsed 1 1/2 years latter. At first I was angry and hurt b...

java · java

I was journaling in the middle of the night the other night when I couldn't sleep. I came up with this poem: If I just had me how nice it would be Not to fret and worry over another. If I just had me, I might hug a tree. The tree would grow and provide me shade to sit and contemplate... If I just had me how boring...

Unsure · Unsure

I am losing my mind. As you all know, I married a wonderful man. He has his problems like we all do, but one of them I just can not tolerate any longer in my home. That is the damage that his exwife casues with their 13 year old son. I am at the point of seeking a divorce to get away from it, and thats not like m...

pabell · pabell

Most times, as some of you have read, I'm a flood of emotions. My A husband stated quite frankly last night that I need to get to a place where I'm happy again. I just about choked on my own air. I stood there with my mouth opened in absolute amazement. I was truely shocked, but he took it as scarca...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I had a rotten day at work yesterday. I'd really appreciate some E/S/H on this. I've talked with my sponsor and I feel alot better, but given how this weekend I'll be working Fri/Sat/Su, I'd like to gain some prospective from the experience. I got called into the managers office yesterday. He had got...

BethC · BethC

Growing up with an AH father I think somewhere along the way I shut down. At 18 I got in a relationship with a BF that was physically and emotionally abusive I stayed in it for three years. I think I stayed because "I knew what to expect" and "what was expected of me" it was easy and I un...

Islandlady · Islandlady

New here, Any advice on what to do when you are out in public and the AH decides to drink way too much and act like a fool? People sure do notice! Waitress avoids you, aquaintences roll their eyes, family either doesn't accompany us out anymore or gets angry and embarrassed by the AH behavior. I get upset...

serendipity · serendipity

What does FINE stand for? Starts with a naughty word but I always think it is so clever when someone asks and I say I'm fine and I remember that FINE actually stands for.......I can't remember....anyone know?

java · java

I am feeling very anxious today and defeated. I'm on my fourth marriage and he announced Saturday that he was "done". I am addicted to bad relationships obviously. I've been working a program for 15 years and I feel like I still can't get it right. This guy was no good for me, a dry drunk A. Been...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Why is American society so anti-drug when it comes to pain pills, heroin, pot, coke, etc...but so pro drug when it comes to tobacco, caffeine, alcohol, viagra, prozac...???? Is this some leftover from our puritain forefathers? Seems odd to me that of equally harmful drugs that some would be legal...

Christy · Christy

I just wanted to check how your hubby's tests turned out and how you are holding up? Take care, Christy

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Even when courage is misplaced, it is never a mistake. From Reader's Digest: WORKING as a secretary at an international airport, my sister had an office adjacent to the room where security temporarily holds suspects. One day security officers were questioning a man when they were suddenly cal...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I posted. To be honest, I have really been kinda of embarrassed that I have let myself get in this situation again. I left my active alcoholic husband back in February. I had moved in with my sister, but did not realize that my sister was having her own problems wit...

Gurl25 · Gurl25

Hi, my sister is currently in rehab for alcohol drug addiction - it seems that things are going well - she's the main reason I checked out Al-Anon - although, considering my husband's issues - I should've done this long ago. My sister took steps to get help and I am so proud of her!! My husband has not, we...

bev · bev

family needs prayers,on tuesday june 5,my cousin and his wife lost thier 2 week old son{doctors think it was sids}he was born may,17 he was such a handsome baby boy...makes you think of everything,if i ever lost one of my kids or grandchildren i would be a mess...we just need prayers in this time of heal...

pabell · pabell

I just want to scream. I want to shake the crap out of him. I've pretended for so long that things were ok. Heck, I even convinced myself that things were ok. He's been sober for 5 months, and I have no more of a connection with him now then when he was drinking. People told me to wait a year, that it takes...

zoe · zoe

My brother has been to jail for too many DUI's. He has pretty much burnt everyone in his life. He divorced his wife of twelve years has two children about 5 years ago; one child is severely mentally and physically challenged and the other is a 13 year old girl. He does not have a license, but continues...

afmom03 · afmom03

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Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Because prayer was an elusive concept when I first started... Trying to pray is praying. --Anonymous "Oh, God, help me! If you get me out of this mess, I'll never screw up again." This was our favorite prayer before we entered the Program. We were always bargaining with God. We have learned...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I've seen some things recently about the everyday conflicts that result from us making changes in ourselves--when we practice assertiveness and don't allow ourselves to be manipulated or practice people pleasing; when we recognize destructive patterns in ourselves that were harmful and hurt...

John · John

Hello Family, This is actually Rose. I am need to know who is going to try to make it to North Carolina for the wedding. I know a few of you are and I am so grateful!!! I do have access to some hotel rooms but they are going fast. Please let me know asap Thanks and love you all Rose ImFree2004

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Even though she passed away in Aug 2007, it feels like yesturday. All of my other girlfriends live kinda far away and are busy. It's days like today where I am bored and just want to be happy and laugh and she's not there. If you are female you know what it's like to hang out with your buddy and just be happy be...

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	To every disaster some perspective I suppose.... (Preview) WHEN MY Navy Medical Reserve Unit was called up for Operation Desert Storm, I was awakened by a phone call at three o'clock on a Sunday morning with the order to report for duty in four hours for processing. After I hung up the phone, my husband groggily asked, "Who was that?" "Oh, hone...	Tiger2006	0	377	Jun 14, 2007 by Tiger2006
	A Share (Preview) The A/DA in my life is my son. Fortunately he is back in program and for the time being seems to be doing very well. I am slowly regaining my relationship with my son and it does feel very good. We had a phone conversation last week and something he said seemed to have little flags all over it saying "...	Mobirdie	5	524	Jun 14, 2007 by Rita G
	A Share for our Children (Preview) I saw this today and wanted to pass it along. Have a wonderful day. Peace, Twinmom~ Children Learn If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with shame, they lear...	twinmom2	1	462	Jun 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Self acceptance (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Our beloved sweet Tea did a post earlier asking what are some of our favorite passages from readings were (look on page 2). Well here I am better late than never! lol I've been doing some rethinking about my life, etc. I'm not trying to dwell on the past or project on the future. I...	Karilynn	4	996	Jun 14, 2007 by QOD
	Life is so confusing... (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) Got a little "love letter" from my wife last friday. It said that she knows that the drinking was a way to cope for her and that it has caused problems in our marriage. Friday nights we normally try to get diner together as a family. The kiddo had plans with a friend so...	rtexas	11	951	Jun 14, 2007 by hersh
	Provacation! (Preview) My now sober ah is still very good at this, the thing is, it pushes those around him that love him away, We, his children, and me, his wife don't understand why, out of the blue usually he will do this, we all seem to be happy and then it happens, it's very upsetting, we try to ignore and not react and detach...	Katy	6	661	Jun 14, 2007 by ShelBell
	Empty, numb and confused (Preview) Hello. I am brand new to Al-Anon and while I do not know much about it here goes: I am so tired of my alcoholic boyfriend. We lived together up until 2 days ago when I left with out 23 month old son. He drinks constantly. Has been in rehab about 7 times in the past 10 years. We have been together for 4 year...	ler0719	14	2439	Jun 14, 2007 by twinmom2
	This made a few happy..... (Preview) I am miscarrying. I'm pretty sure ah is no longer sober. The phone calls from him while I was in the ER were unreal. He was cussing at me and calling me every name in the book. This is the drinker I know. The nondrinker would have been kind and caring. He took off work at noon and I thought he might come over to t...	Friendofyours	13	805	Jun 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	Got a question... (Preview) SOmeone please explain to me why AlAnon says, "What other people think of me is none of my business." Truly I do not care much what other people think, and "think" is the operative word here. I would not call myself a people-pleaser to excess, but all of us know one or two people w...	Diva	15	657	Jun 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	Off the topic of As for a minute. (Preview) This morning, at 4:00, my older son left after a four-day visit. Now this son is grown, he is educated and bright, doing well for himself, never a single problem with the law, gentle, kind, sober, never had a problem with abuse of any kind, and a real pain in the ass!!! He is an artist in the true sense of the...	Diva	11	744	Jun 14, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Pity? (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I feel like I've been shot with a canon and I have a huge hole in me. I look at it but it's not painful...there is just a huge chunk missing, it doesn't feel right. My A is all over the place. He says things that make no sense, he seems nervous and on edge. I hate this. I keep stepping back...	Lunamoth	10	803	Jun 14, 2007 by Jennifer
	I Don't Know (Preview) Well, I just read Kim's post about the goats and it was really inspiring. To keep going, to acknowledge the pain and move despite it and find the joy. I have twice now done things involving my ex and his agf that I will regret. Nothing major just my own confrontational mouth. I come off looking like the cr...	serendipity	6	528	Jun 14, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Happy Birthday Java (Preview) Happy Birthday Java - Enjoy some calorie free cake!! Hope you have a wonderful birthday!! Rita	Rita G	8	617	Jun 14, 2007 by java
	Letter from the A (Preview) Got another letter from the A in jail today. He said he has 8-10 months for the dui and probation violation together. In NC that means he'll be out next week LOL. Really I expect he'll be out in 2-3 months with nowhere to go, not a dime, not even clothes on his back just the hospital clothes he went in with...	carolinagirl	3	481	Jun 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Sealy Sealy Sealy (Preview) Sealy Sealy Sealy Haven't seen ya online in forever. Worried about ya. Hope all is well. Miss you much. Your friend, Eve	Eve Eve Eve	0	467	Jun 13, 2007 by Eve Eve Eve
	Right Where I'm Supposed to Be? (Preview) I feel better. I still miss my ex. The pain, anger, grief is fading. The crazy thoughts are fewer and farther between. Still, I miss him. Now I'm going back in my mind to the last night I saw him when he showed up to my house. The day he left me messages to call him, that he needed me, etc. I didn't respond to an...	serendipity	4	694	Jun 13, 2007 by lam0204
	Advice on Bounderies (Preview) My sister is alcoholic/drug addict currently in rehab (checked herself in by choice). My husband is an alcohoic, possible drug addict - I'm not ready to seperate yet, but it's definitely something I'm considering in the coming months if he hasn't taken any steps to change. So, I'd like to know what s...	Gurl25	12	702	Jun 13, 2007 by Gurl25
	Have you been able to take the focus off the alcoholic, and place it on yourself? (Preview) Sometimes the drama of living with an alcoholic we lose ourselves along the way, and get enmeshed in all their crap. I found myself obsessing about my AH, where he was , what he was doing, what time would he be home, and waiting alone at home for his arrival. I would watch the clock tick by hour after hour, a...	gardengal	3	517	Jun 13, 2007 by Gurl25
	Plan B Take two (Preview) (((((MIP Family)))))) I made an appointment to go a talk with an impartial person tomorrow. I love my friends but they are definitely biased. I have been sorting out bank accounts, am going to go and open a new one at a different bank tomorrow also. Am going to be taking on more hours at one of my jobs. On...	lilms	3	528	Jun 13, 2007 by Christy
	I will be getting fired this week (Preview) My boss gave me 2 weeks to schedule appointments for a salesperson in the office. I will not receive any type of commission. I told him that I did not feel this was fair and not my responsibility since sales people do their own cold calling. Right now I am being cornered by both the boss and the sales guy. My...	kissers	5	766	Jun 13, 2007 by Gurl25
	playing the victim (Preview) This morning the A was supposed to go over to a neighbors house. The neighbor has a place that is unrented. I am pretty sure that if the a offered him money (and keep in mind this is my money) that the neighbor would rent him a room on a short term basis. He was supposed to go yesterday but I forget what the excu...	maresie2	3	580	Jun 13, 2007 by maresie2
	Plan B = Done (Preview) ((((((Friends))))))) I truly believe I am at the point of being done. I love my partner but have not for a very long time enjoyed this relationship. I am going to continue along with plan B (amassing funds etc). I cannot believe how extremely calm I am about this, not sad, not broken hearted, none of tha...	lilms	3	528	Jun 13, 2007 by maresie2
	new to the forum .....help (Preview) hello, i am new to the forum although i have been reading the message board for the past year or so and finally plucked up the courage to post my situation which is spiralling out of control. I am originally from the UK and have been living in Cyprus for the past 17 years. i have no way of attending a face t...	sulli	7	685	Jun 13, 2007 by Diva
	OT: As so kindly requested . . . (Preview) Some of you may remember my 'horrible day' three weeks ago when I lost two dairy goats to overeating disease. I've been looking and dithering for a while and finally found my three new girls in a nearby burg (well, 82 miles is nearby around here). They are Nubian dairy goats, real big with these immense...	Kim65	5	725	Jun 13, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Just an update (Preview) Its been a while since I've posted on here.... Right now things in my life are "good" ... I've been keeping busy, enjoying the sun and sand, enjoying my children, family and friends. And even enjoying the company of my ex A. Although I am not diving back into a relationship with my ex A b/f, w...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	2	418	Jun 13, 2007 by twinmom2
	leaving to go back to florida (Preview) we buried my 2 week old cousin on friday,it was such a sad day,and week i was supposed to head back to florida on friday but this was more important..tomorrow im leaving to go back,but im coming back here{ny} july 5 going to spend july 4 with SAH ..and spend some time with his mom..it is going to be hard to be...	bev	2	509	Jun 13, 2007 by Rita G
	Intimacy issues (Preview) I have been married for 15 years and truly could take or leave sex. My husband and I have lost nearly any moments of intimacy in our marriage and it makes me sad. For me there needs to be an emotional connection, a kindness, communication etc. I realize that my issues are not solely about the A, but we ha...	confused	12	5415	Jun 13, 2007 by Denoraphy
	What goes around comes around? (Preview) "What goes around, comes around" was recently mentioned in a post. Some of us Alanoners are waiting for the A's to get their payback for all the suffering they cause and have caused. My 16 mo. sober husband was home this week from Alaska (he's working there) and we discussed that sentence a...	Christy	13	944	Jun 13, 2007 by Baffled
	Confused (Preview) I'm sitting here wondering if I'm being cruel. Two days ago the A has told me he hates me, to fxxx off, never to contact him. Today he denies saying any of this and asks to meet up tomorrow. He says I'm being horrible to him. I said I can't do it. I never know how I stand. He tells me he knows I love him so why am I be...	muppet	7	594	Jun 13, 2007 by Jamekaticy
	sitting tight (Preview) I am trying to do as Carolinagirl suggests and just sit tight and wait it out. The A is still alive barely. The way he looked ont the weekend was desperate. He has some under the table jobs (that is psychologically all he can do). The dogs are still alive. I still have a roof over my head but it is total chaos t...	maresie2	2	430	Jun 12, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Decided to visit the A in jail. (Preview) Well I have had the visiting form on my counter at home for two weeks and finally filled it out yesterday with a half nice, half not so nice letter to the A. I wonder if I am shooting myself in the foot by not just walking away now. I haven't gotten any mail from him since the letter with the visit form and I am...	carolinagirl	1	453	Jun 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Respect and Disrespect (Preview) My AH loves to tell me that I treat him disrespectfully. Usually he mutters it under his breath. On the rare occassion that he comes right out and says it, I usually end up apologizing rather than engaging in something I believe will end up being non-productive. Here's what I would really like to say: Re...	babysteps	4	988	Jun 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Does it get better? (Preview) In about 10 days, my husband will be sober 90 days. In the beginning it was great. He seemed to really realize what a shi* he had been. I actually could have a conversation with him and no longer had to wonder how long it would take for him to pass out every night. For the past month he has been extremely mo...	sash	5	579	Jun 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	It's ok to love an A (Preview) Just have a few minutes before I leave my office for a busy weekend, but I wanted to share bits this wonderful discussion I had with a fellow Al-Anon from my f2f group. . . She was struggling with and beating herself up because she had feelings for someone who has an addiction. My HP lead me to say the...	Rita G	7	680	Jun 12, 2007 by Gurl25
	good news and bad news (Preview) The good news is that I have access to my dogs. The bad news is that I have not been sent or given the rescue groups that were promised to me. I was supposed to get emails about them but they never materialised. That makes me very very leery of asking anyone for anything at all. The bad news is that not one...	maresie2	5	526	Jun 12, 2007 by maresie2
	REMEMBERING SEX...LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) I read a post about Intamacy, and wow, It has given me some food for thought. For the last few years, I have not gone near sex..Because I never trusted anyone enough to let them close to me. Last year I started having sex, as you all know. And It was like learning...	ally	6	811	Jun 12, 2007 by Barbs45
	No idea what to call this (Preview) This morning, AH handed me a cup of coffee while I went to the bathroom, barely awake . . . and a little later, I heard him on the phone talking about goats . . . he'd called on an ad for two Nubian milking goats, pretty much the answer to my "greatest farm prayers". He told me, "You stay here...	Kim65	11	654	Jun 12, 2007 by Gurl25
	How to respond to someone in a Center going thru the Program??? (Preview) I have a relative who is currently in a Center, for Drug Abuse, and has just finished Detox and into the 12 steps. When they call, they tell me a lot of things -- like it is only the beginning of the battle, they realize they have to learn about themselves, etc. I don't know how to respond. I don't know if t...	PapaBear	5	700	Jun 12, 2007 by Gurl25
	Learning...Life is hard, but easier with boundaries (Preview) I am finally learing something...to take care of me through setting realistic boundaries :) and I am so happy! Last weekend I went to my parents house to celebrate my A-dad's b-day and father's day (a week early). My dad has gone to rehab and has relapsed 1 1/2 years latter. At first I was angry and hurt b...	Patches	1	546	Jun 12, 2007 by twinmom2
	if I just had me (Preview) I was journaling in the middle of the night the other night when I couldn't sleep. I came up with this poem: If I just had me how nice it would be Not to fret and worry over another. If I just had me, I might hug a tree. The tree would grow and provide me shade to sit and contemplate... If I just had me how boring...	java	3	519	Jun 12, 2007 by Gurl25
	Losing My Mind (Preview) I am losing my mind. As you all know, I married a wonderful man. He has his problems like we all do, but one of them I just can not tolerate any longer in my home. That is the damage that his exwife casues with their 13 year old son. I am at the point of seeking a divorce to get away from it, and thats not like m...	Unsure	3	491	Jun 12, 2007 by Gurl25
	It's great not to feel alone! (Preview) Most times, as some of you have read, I'm a flood of emotions. My A husband stated quite frankly last night that I need to get to a place where I'm happy again. I just about choked on my own air. I stood there with my mouth opened in absolute amazement. I was truely shocked, but he took it as scarca...	pabell	3	627	Jun 12, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	Rotten day at work (Preview) I had a rotten day at work yesterday. I'd really appreciate some E/S/H on this. I've talked with my sponsor and I feel alot better, but given how this weekend I'll be working Fri/Sat/Su, I'd like to gain some prospective from the experience. I got called into the managers office yesterday. He had got...	Tiger2006	6	617	Jun 12, 2007 by CJ
	Push People Away (Preview) Growing up with an AH father I think somewhere along the way I shut down. At 18 I got in a relationship with a BF that was physically and emotionally abusive I stayed in it for three years. I think I stayed because "I knew what to expect" and "what was expected of me" it was easy and I un...	BethC	6	705	Jun 11, 2007 by Lanchas
	How to handle public displays of alcoholism? (Preview) New here, Any advice on what to do when you are out in public and the AH decides to drink way too much and act like a fool? People sure do notice! Waitress avoids you, aquaintences roll their eyes, family either doesn't accompany us out anymore or gets angry and embarrassed by the AH behavior. I get upset...	Islandlady	9	725	Jun 11, 2007 by Islandlady
	A question (Preview) What does FINE stand for? Starts with a naughty word but I always think it is so clever when someone asks and I say I'm fine and I remember that FINE actually stands for.......I can't remember....anyone know?	serendipity	4	581	Jun 11, 2007 by Diva
	Husband announced he was "done" (Preview) I am feeling very anxious today and defeated. I'm on my fourth marriage and he announced Saturday that he was "done". I am addicted to bad relationships obviously. I've been working a program for 15 years and I feel like I still can't get it right. This guy was no good for me, a dry drunk A. Been...	java	9	1235	Jun 11, 2007 by bill f
	So new question... (Preview) Why is American society so anti-drug when it comes to pain pills, heroin, pot, coke, etc...but so pro drug when it comes to tobacco, caffeine, alcohol, viagra, prozac...???? Is this some leftover from our puritain forefathers? Seems odd to me that of equally harmful drugs that some would be legal...	carolinagirl	6	542	Jun 11, 2007 by bill f
	Afglin? (Preview) I just wanted to check how your hubby's tests turned out and how you are holding up? Take care, Christy	Christy	0	512	Jun 11, 2007 by Christy
	Courage my friend! (Preview) Even when courage is misplaced, it is never a mistake. From Reader's Digest: WORKING as a secretary at an international airport, my sister had an office adjacent to the room where security temporarily holds suspects. One day security officers were questioning a man when they were suddenly cal...	Tiger2006	2	455	Jun 11, 2007 by pabell
	Frustrated (Preview) Hi everyone. It's been a while since I posted. To be honest, I have really been kinda of embarrassed that I have let myself get in this situation again. I left my active alcoholic husband back in February. I had moved in with my sister, but did not realize that my sister was having her own problems wit...	JulieLynn	4	524	Jun 11, 2007 by Becky1
	New here (Preview) Hi, my sister is currently in rehab for alcohol drug addiction - it seems that things are going well - she's the main reason I checked out Al-Anon - although, considering my husband's issues - I should've done this long ago. My sister took steps to get help and I am so proud of her!! My husband has not, we...	Gurl25	7	629	Jun 11, 2007 by Gurl25
	grieving the loss of a loved one (Preview) family needs prayers,on tuesday june 5,my cousin and his wife lost thier 2 week old son{doctors think it was sids}he was born may,17 he was such a handsome baby boy...makes you think of everything,if i ever lost one of my kids or grandchildren i would be a mess...we just need prayers in this time of heal...	bev	9	625	Jun 11, 2007 by Rita G
	Tired of pretending (Preview) I just want to scream. I want to shake the crap out of him. I've pretended for so long that things were ok. Heck, I even convinced myself that things were ok. He's been sober for 5 months, and I have no more of a connection with him now then when he was drinking. People told me to wait a year, that it takes...	pabell	2	607	Jun 11, 2007 by Kim65
	Not sure what to do as a Sister - Need some opinions (Preview) My brother has been to jail for too many DUI's. He has pretty much burnt everyone in his life. He divorced his wife of twelve years has two children about 5 years ago; one child is severely mentally and physically challenged and the other is a 13 year old girl. He does not have a license, but continues...	zoe	5	581	Jun 10, 2007 by CJ
	About DWI (Preview)     &...	afmom03	4	442	Jun 10, 2007 by wille
	Prayer 101 (Preview) Because prayer was an elusive concept when I first started... Trying to pray is praying. --Anonymous "Oh, God, help me! If you get me out of this mess, I'll never screw up again." This was our favorite prayer before we entered the Program. We were always bargaining with God. We have learned...	Tiger2006	1	461	Jun 10, 2007 by kissers
	Conflict vs Crisis (Preview) I've seen some things recently about the everyday conflicts that result from us making changes in ourselves--when we practice assertiveness and don't allow ourselves to be manipulated or practice people pleasing; when we recognize destructive patterns in ourselves that were harmful and hurt...	Tiger2006	1	512	Jun 10, 2007 by confused
	wedding RSVP (Preview) Hello Family, This is actually Rose. I am need to know who is going to try to make it to North Carolina for the wedding. I know a few of you are and I am so grateful!!! I do have access to some hotel rooms but they are going fast. Please let me know asap Thanks and love you all Rose ImFree2004	John	0	671	Jun 9, 2007 by John
	I miss my best friend :( (Preview) Even though she passed away in Aug 2007, it feels like yesturday. All of my other girlfriends live kinda far away and are busy. It's days like today where I am bored and just want to be happy and laugh and she's not there. If you are female you know what it's like to hang out with your buddy and just be happy be...	Friendofyours	5	619	Jun 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
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