I've seen some things recently about the everyday conflicts that result from us making changes in ourselves--when we practice assertiveness and don't allow ourselves to be manipulated or practice people pleasing; when we recognize destructive patterns in ourselves that were harmful and hurtful previously. I've also noticed a sense of panic about these. I remember that feeling quite well. I was told "Don't quit changing because other people are surprised. Let them be surprised at how you're not going to let them determine the rate or the way your changing and keep being the person God wants you to be." 
 I saw this reading and I thought of my MIP AFG and of that time in my life.

Conflict can produce positive results.

If our policy is to avoid conflict at all cost, we may impede our growth by trying to sweep important issues under the rug and refusing to deal with them. The issues don't disappear, however, and by sweeping them under the rug, we make them more toxic and unwieldy.

Conflict is bound to occur in any vital, important relationship, and the question is how to handle it. Allowing conflict to be brought into the open usually makes it much more manageable than trying to ignore it. If there's fear of conflict, we're less likely to feel free to be ourselves.

When I am willing to talk about what's bothering me, to state my position and listen to yours, to ask for help from a Higher Power, it's very possible that we will reach an understanding that enhances our relationship. Conflict does not need to destroy. Using the Steps, we can build on our differences and both come out stronger.

If I find myself in a situation of conflict today, I will try working through it rather than attempting to avoid it.