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This morning the A was supposed to go over to a neighbors house. The neighbor has a place that is unrented. I am pretty sure that if the a offered him money (and keep in mind this is my money) that the neighbor would rent him a room on a short term basis. He was supposed to go yesterday but I forget what the excuse was oh yeah I forgot he was still trying for the guiness book of world records on working for places that never pay him.
so this morning he woke up and felt sorry for himself so he didn't do it.
Meantime the truck is broken and really needs to go to the dealer and be serviced. What does he care? After all he has to feel sorry for himself 24/7. After all he can feel like he is doing something 24/7 with his grand plans and allusions. Now he is planning on getting a contractors license with what I am not sure. But that is the next step for him. Oh no he couldn't do the get a job, get a roof over his head stuff, nope he has to leap to the contrators license straight away.
So when I call him and say did you go speak to this guy he says oh no I don't think I can. I feel bad so I am not going to do anything all day.
and then he threatens knowing that I can do nothing. Oh I will drop the dogs off with you and just go die somewhere.
Gee thanks
I feel so wonderful about begging his Uncle to go out in the middle of the night and go find him when he was starving and had no gas and hadn't fed the dogs for 3 days. I feel quite great about that.
I can see the same mechanism in the people who live in the house I am in. Whatever it is going on, if they are in trouble, if its the weekend, the answer is always to drink more.
that is always the answer. In the A's case the answer is to make everything so much worse so he can feel sorry for himself and indulge. And then threaten.
If I had somewhere to put the dogs I would be so relieved but I don't. And God knows when I will.
right now I know they are suffering and I would give anything to have someplace to put them.
sorry for your pain,but...i know how you feel about the dogs..i left my AH in jan{i lived in florida}packed up with my daughter her husband and thier kids and my 4 dogs{great dane,peekapoo,chiluahua/jap chin,shiu zue}when we got to ny my great dane stayed with my daughter mother in law,and i went with my 3 little dogs to a friends house..in march i went back to florida to take care of some things with my house,when i got back where i was staying{my so called friend} said i had to leave.so i went to live with my daughter and her family and my 3 little dogs stayed with my son in laws father.tomorrow me and my 4 dogs are heading backi to florida..so keep your chin and i will pray for you things will out for you and your dogs,they did for me.SAH and i are going to try to make things again{this time we will be alone,no kids or grandkids just us
I do trust the a's Uncle. If the a went up there I would be happy for the dogs to live there. They would be fed!!!!
I am also having a real humdinger time in the place I am living at. Do I have a sign on that says magnet to A's. Last night one of the housemates who has a 7 day notice decided to stop my laundry like 4 times. I think it got really old. I am now looking for yet another place to stay. I'm trying not to panic but work it through but sometimes I just think what else????
I am so very very very angry at the landlord. He made these new tenants pay a huge deposit because he knew they were a problem. Then when they were a problem he took his sweet time about doing anything. Meantime he goes to the bank and rest of us in the house suffer. I believe they will move out but its not soon enough for me. Meantime everyone in the house is on edge all the time and its hard to live there.
The only good thing is I get to see my dogs and I also have work that isn't slave labor and pays something.
