Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...

DM2021 · DM2021

We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...

texas yankee · texas yankee

One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...

Lyne · Lyne

If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...

msjuliet · msjuliet

Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me. Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get? If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes. We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our c...

Lyne · Lyne

Do we not have a member for Saturday's daily? :)

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's C2C reading brings to light what we all go through in Al-Anon and as time goes on, our negative thinking does some-times become a focal point in our day. It is called "Stinking Thinking" but when we have those moments, when we slide backinto negative thoughts and attitudes, we are encouraged...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that it only natural to want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. Often, when we are facing especially challenging problems or long-lasting situations, we might think that something is wrong with us if we cannot easily and quickly solve th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading asks the question: having lived with alcoholism, are we the innocent victims of others' abuse? But with further thought, we realize that we too have harmed others. Some feel an exaggerated sense of responsibility, thinking they owe amends to just about everyone. Listing those we...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer observes some newcomers' desire to understand the why of alcoholic drinking, rather or more than why and how they allowed their own lives to become derailed. The answer for the former comes easy to no one. Alanon guides us to a high level, but sufficient concept that they suffer from an il...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding compassion and understanding for others. The writer describes an alcoholic father who was also violent. The writer always considered him as bad, evil and weak. While the writer understood that alcoholism is a disease, he/she continued t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading sums up, for the author, how they learned that their pretensions and expectations for giving a speech to a, new to the author,Al-Anon group were a bit to grand. All their plans were dashed when pretty much everything went wrong. What they quickly learned was thattheir HP knew better...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about new challenges we face when a loved one finds sobriety. Many of us have spent years waiting for our loved ones to find sobriety, and may have created happily-ever-after endings that would happen when our loved one found sobriety. Not only does...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Maddening: trying to communicate ideas with an alcohol induced person who defies reason, logic, tears, or pleadings. Even less comprehended for both sides are exchanges that involve anger. Today's reading further encourages us to consider an exchange with someone we don't share a common langu...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says that newcomers present with self-pity, resentment, and fears. What they learn in alanon changes their outlook: they gain confidence, poise, come out of their shells, and can concern themselves with others. These results are nothing short of miracles. Reminder: The first gi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading focuses on our perception of conscious contact with a Higher Power. The writer describes spiritual life being condensed to: quiet the mind; open the heart. The writer experiences this in this way: anything quieting the mind=meditation, anything that ope...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reminder: "A well-developed sense of humor helps me detach from my personal struggles and triumphs." "I will avoid taking myself too seriously today." Todays Quote: "One inch of joy surmounts of grief a span, because to laugh is proper to the man." ~ Francois Rabelais One-Day-At-A-Ti...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is definitely time to share some of the things that have been going on in my world--the one that revolves around me. Yes, I am full of it today. But, honestly, do I really need to say honestly? If I can't be honest on here when can I really be? So, now that that is said, I can get to the stuff that I am going thr...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses how difficult it can be to find compassion for oneself and others, and especially for "certain people." We have to look past anger and rage for kindness. We need to let go of resentment from unrealistic expectations. We should ask ourselves, How Important is It? Compassion m...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of being nicer to ourselves. The author has learned to ignore the voices in their head that tell them that they are not good enough. These voices are a symptom of damaged self-esteem that results from living with the effects of alco...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon meeting opening reminds us of our purpose: to share our experience (of using program principles), strength (from the program, ) and hope (our improved outlook for our future) that helps us remain focused and is encouraging for others. Reminder: Do I consider these elements in what I share,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on some of the protocols of alanon meetings, specifically as they relate to the concepts and traditions of the program. The writer describes being taken aback by how peaceful and quiet the meetings seemed. As someone who had lived in an alcoholic home...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently I had to be in the presence of my exH for an extended period of time as part of a legal proceeding. This was the first time I've been that close to him, for that long, in 2 years. I know he has been under strict court ordered alcohol monitoring for almost a year and thus is as dry as he has been in almos...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that many Al-Anon members lost touch with their feelings as a result of living in the contradictory and explosive world of alcoholism. Many Al-Anon members lose touch with themselves as well. Recovery does not mean becoming a different person; for...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A head full of injuries and a heart full of despair often accompany the new member to an Alanon meeting, and are sometimes what fuel the content of first shares. Good it is that a new member finds the group that hears these first pain-focused expressions graciously, as it allows the newcomer to proce...

Lyne · Lyne

Some people judge their self-worth by their accomplishments and on what others say. In this manner, a sense of satisfaction is fleeting. But another part of self-worth can be by their ability to love others--saying a kind word, writing a considerate note, or just by appreciating someone else. W...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at grieving and how it relates to recovery. The writer describes losing his father to alcoholism and instead of feeling grief, felt a mixture of relief, pity, a vague type of sadness and a lot of anger. In his view, his father had not died because of a resp...

DM2021 · DM2021

This days reading refers to the previous two Friday readings that speaks to the reader about recovery fromconsistently avoiding painful feelings and situations just to play it safe and that we run the risk of not livingour lives fully. Step four should help us to realize those parts of our personal...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading reminds us that in Al-Anon, with the teachings of the Steps, Traditions, Slogans, courage, faith and our need for each other,each issue we encounter, even the painful ones, will in our journey pass as time goes on and we grow sharing our experience, strength andhope. We ultimately l...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on forgiveness. Before Al-Anon, the author thought forgiveness was a way to exercise power. They could decide to bestow forgiveness on others and demonstrate their own kindness, but they did not forget the infraction. Now, the author sees forg...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Sitting under a tree with pigeons brought this man what pigeons and gravity can gift. At first angry, he realized it wasn't about him...it was about the pigeons, he just got in the way. Lesson: active alcoholics do what they do, including drink, sometimes we may place ourselves in the path. Our choic...

Lyne · Lyne

The member takes a new approach to Step 7--instead of being tearful or too intense, the member suggests looking at shortcomings with a sense of humor. Can we not laugh at ourselves, and stop taking ourselves so seriously? Real change can come with a belly laugh. If we can move out of our own way, we ma...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the effects of negative thinking. The writer describes falling into the habit of negative thoughts when feeling tired, bored or stressed. The tendency is to focus on what is wrong, and that type of thinking can take over. Through al anon, the writer l...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that no one can know what is in one's heart, soul, or mind, nor know how to meet another's needs, if we don't tell them. It is also unrealistic to expect any one person to be able to meet all of someone's needs. The author used some negative emotions like silently fuming, pouting, and t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page comments on the role of faith in allowing some Alanon newcomers to more quickly grasp and benefit from the Higher Power concept than those without or that have lost faith. A practiced faith in something greater than ourselves from previous spiritual endeavors can offer a great start, but...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power of love. The writer describes times of worry when it felt like he/she was not doing anything important in life. It felt to the writer as if nothing of much consequence was getting accomplished. As the writer learned more about love: love fo...

Gailsy · Gailsy

So happy I decided to look this group up again. Did not remember any of my account information so had a hard time getting back in. I already recognize some names from many years ago. tiredtonight and hotrod are 2 Ive noticed from way back. This disease is always with us but sadly I have fallen into the chro...

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	C2C for Friday, May 19, 2023 – Fitting In As We Are (Preview) This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...	DM2021	1	1400	May 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to change May 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...	Skorpi	3	1400	May 18, 2023 by Lyne
	5/16/23 ODAT Making Tough Decisions (Preview) Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...	Enigmatic	2	1370	May 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/15, Where is your focus? (Preview) This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...	Lyne	2	1463	May 15, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today May 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...	yanksfan51	2	1364	May 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 12, 2023 – Listening For the Wisdom (Preview) The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...	DM2021	1	1409	May 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change May 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...	Skorpi	2	1412	May 11, 2023 by Lyne
	ODAt in alanon, Monday, 5/8, Freedom (Preview) This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...	Lyne	3	1362	May 9, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...	yanksfan51	1	838	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change May 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...	Skorpi	3	779	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 05, 2023 – The Concept of Humility (Preview) We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...	DM2021	2	994	May 5, 2023 by Daffodils
	Old Al Anon Alateen Service Manuals (2010-2013 (1), 2014-2017 (2)) (Preview) One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.	texas yankee	0	707	May 5, 2023 by texas yankee
	5/2/23 ODAT What is Prayer, How Might it Help? (Preview) This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...	Enigmatic	2	803	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Monday, May 1, C2C, if only.... (Preview) If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...	Lyne	3	836	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...	yanksfan51	2	757	Apr 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for April 28, 2023 Learning From Our Fears (Preview) In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...	DM2021	1	1161	Apr 28, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...	Skorpi	2	1202	Apr 27, 2023 by Lyne
	4/25/23 ODAT - Remembering Our Powerlessness (Preview) Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...	Enigmatic	4	719	Apr 25, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/24, lacking consistency (Preview) This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...	Lyne	2	1384	Apr 24, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...	yanksfan51	4	1465	Apr 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for April 21, 2023 Tradition Four the Benefits of Diversity (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...	DM2021	3	1445	Apr 21, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change April 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...	Skorpi	4	1460	Apr 20, 2023 by Gailsy
	My Stinking Thinking (Preview) Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...	msjuliet	7	2477	Apr 20, 2023 by Enigmatic
	4/18/23 C2C – Me First (Preview) Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...	Enigmatic	4	2131	Apr 18, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/17, this work is darn hard! (Preview) The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me. Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get? If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes. We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our c...	Lyne	2	1460	Apr 17, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Saturday daily (Preview) Do we not have a member for Saturday's daily? :)	Lyne	3	1417	Apr 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Apr 16 apologies (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary	yanksfan51	1	1350	Apr 16, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Apr 16- apologies (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary	yanksfan51	0	1404	Apr 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	C2C for April 14, 2023 That Old Stinking Thinking (Preview) Today's C2C reading brings to light what we all go through in Al-Anon and as time goes on, our negative thinking does some-times become a focal point in our day. It is called "Stinking Thinking" but when we have those moments, when we slide backinto negative thoughts and attitudes, we are encouraged...	DM2021	4	1574	Apr 14, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change April 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that it only natural to want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. Often, when we are facing especially challenging problems or long-lasting situations, we might think that something is wrong with us if we cannot easily and quickly solve th...	Skorpi	4	1216	Apr 13, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 4/10, are we innocent victims? (Preview) This reading asks the question: having lived with alcoholism, are we the innocent victims of others' abuse? But with further thought, we realize that we too have harmed others. Some feel an exaggerated sense of responsibility, thinking they owe amends to just about everyone. Listing those we...	Lyne	3	1283	Apr 12, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	4/11/23 ODAT Not ‘Why them?’, Why Me… (Preview) This writer observes some newcomers' desire to understand the why of alcoholic drinking, rather or more than why and how they allowed their own lives to become derailed. The answer for the former comes easy to no one. Alanon guides us to a high level, but sufficient concept that they suffer from an il...	Enigmatic	4	1141	Apr 11, 2023 by serenity47
	Hope for Today Apr 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding compassion and understanding for others. The writer describes an alcoholic father who was also violent. The writer always considered him as bad, evil and weak. While the writer understood that alcoholism is a disease, he/she continued t...	yanksfan51	1	1080	Apr 9, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for April 07, 2023 Pretensions (Preview) Todays reading sums up, for the author, how they learned that their pretensions and expectations for giving a speech to a, new to the author,Al-Anon group were a bit to grand. All their plans were dashed when pretty much everything went wrong. What they quickly learned was thattheir HP knew better...	DM2021	2	1139	Apr 7, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about new challenges we face when a loved one finds sobriety. Many of us have spent years waiting for our loved ones to find sobriety, and may have created happily-ever-after endings that would happen when our loved one found sobriety. Not only does...	Skorpi	3	1058	Apr 7, 2023 by DM2021
	4/4/23 ODAT - Ill Communication (Preview) Maddening: trying to communicate ideas with an alcohol induced person who defies reason, logic, tears, or pleadings. Even less comprehended for both sides are exchanges that involve anger. Today's reading further encourages us to consider an exchange with someone we don't share a common langu...	Enigmatic	5	589	Apr 4, 2023 by Daffodils
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 4/3, miracles in alanon?? (Preview) This writer says that newcomers present with self-pity, resentment, and fears. What they learn in alanon changes their outlook: they gain confidence, poise, come out of their shells, and can concern themselves with others. These results are nothing short of miracles. Reminder: The first gi...	Lyne	3	1035	Apr 4, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Apr 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading focuses on our perception of conscious contact with a Higher Power. The writer describes spiritual life being condensed to: quiet the mind; open the heart. The writer experiences this in this way: anything quieting the mind=meditation, anything that ope...	yanksfan51	4	1037	Apr 2, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for March 24, 2023 Disease of Alcoholism (Preview) The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...	DM2021	6	676	Apr 2, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C for March 31, 2023 A Sense of Humor (Preview) Todays reminder: "A well-developed sense of humor helps me detach from my personal struggles and triumphs." "I will avoid taking myself too seriously today." Todays Quote: "One inch of joy surmounts of grief a span, because to laugh is proper to the man." ~ Francois Rabelais One-Day-At-A-Ti...	DM2021	4	1414	Apr 1, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	Another fantastic but sad day (Preview) It is definitely time to share some of the things that have been going on in my world--the one that revolves around me. Yes, I am full of it today. But, honestly, do I really need to say honestly? If I can't be honest on here when can I really be? So, now that that is said, I can get to the stuff that I am going thr...	Hoot Nanny	4	1415	Apr 1, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, Monday, 3/27, compassion requires patience (Preview) The writer discusses how difficult it can be to find compassion for oneself and others, and especially for "certain people." We have to look past anger and rage for kindness. We need to let go of resentment from unrealistic expectations. We should ask ourselves, How Important is It? Compassion m...	Lyne	4	1395	Apr 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change March 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of being nicer to ourselves. The author has learned to ignore the voices in their head that tell them that they are not good enough. These voices are a symptom of damaged self-esteem that results from living with the effects of alco...	Skorpi	2	656	Mar 30, 2023 by Lyne
	3/28/23 ODAT Why Experience, Strength, and Hope (ESH)? (Preview) Alanon meeting opening reminds us of our purpose: to share our experience (of using program principles), strength (from the program, ) and hope (our improved outlook for our future) that helps us remain focused and is encouraging for others. Reminder: Do I consider these elements in what I share,...	Enigmatic	3	1361	Mar 28, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Mar 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on some of the protocols of alanon meetings, specifically as they relate to the concepts and traditions of the program. The writer describes being taken aback by how peaceful and quiet the meetings seemed. As someone who had lived in an alcoholic home...	yanksfan51	3	533	Mar 26, 2023 by StargazerLily
	Even after almost a year of court ordered monitoring (thus no booze), brain damage exists. (Preview) Recently I had to be in the presence of my exH for an extended period of time as part of a legal proceeding. This was the first time I've been that close to him, for that long, in 2 years. I know he has been under strict court ordered alcohol monitoring for almost a year and thus is as dry as he has been in almos...	Fedora	4	1451	Mar 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change March 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that many Al-Anon members lost touch with their feelings as a result of living in the contradictory and explosive world of alcoholism. Many Al-Anon members lose touch with themselves as well. Recovery does not mean becoming a different person; for...	Skorpi	4	1330	Mar 23, 2023 by Fedora
	3/21/23 ODAT The Evolution of Healthy Sharing (Preview) A head full of injuries and a heart full of despair often accompany the new member to an Alanon meeting, and are sometimes what fuel the content of first shares. Good it is that a new member finds the group that hears these first pain-focused expressions graciously, as it allows the newcomer to proce...	Enigmatic	3	1392	Mar 21, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 3/20, how to evaluate worthiness (Preview) Some people judge their self-worth by their accomplishments and on what others say. In this manner, a sense of satisfaction is fleeting. But another part of self-worth can be by their ability to love others--saying a kind word, writing a considerate note, or just by appreciating someone else. W...	Lyne	1	1385	Mar 20, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Mar 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at grieving and how it relates to recovery. The writer describes losing his father to alcoholism and instead of feeling grief, felt a mixture of relief, pity, a vague type of sadness and a lot of anger. In his view, his father had not died because of a resp...	yanksfan51	2	1449	Mar 19, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for March 10, 2023 is about Acceptance (Preview) This days reading refers to the previous two Friday readings that speaks to the reader about recovery fromconsistently avoiding painful feelings and situations just to play it safe and that we run the risk of not livingour lives fully. Step four should help us to realize those parts of our personal...	DM2021	8	715	Mar 19, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for March 17, 2023 That This Too Shall Pass (Preview) Todays reading reminds us that in Al-Anon, with the teachings of the Steps, Traditions, Slogans, courage, faith and our need for each other,each issue we encounter, even the painful ones, will in our journey pass as time goes on and we grow sharing our experience, strength andhope. We ultimately l...	DM2021	3	1120	Mar 18, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change 3/15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on forgiveness. Before Al-Anon, the author thought forgiveness was a way to exercise power. They could decide to bestow forgiveness on others and demonstrate their own kindness, but they did not forget the infraction. Now, the author sees forg...	Skorpi	4	557	Mar 16, 2023 by Lyne
	3/14/23 Pigeons and Seat Selection (Preview) Sitting under a tree with pigeons brought this man what pigeons and gravity can gift. At first angry, he realized it wasn't about him...it was about the pigeons, he just got in the way. Lesson: active alcoholics do what they do, including drink, sometimes we may place ourselves in the path. Our choic...	Enigmatic	3	596	Mar 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 3/13, shortcomings (Preview) The member takes a new approach to Step 7--instead of being tearful or too intense, the member suggests looking at shortcomings with a sense of humor. Can we not laugh at ourselves, and stop taking ourselves so seriously? Real change can come with a belly laugh. If we can move out of our own way, we ma...	Lyne	2	1019	Mar 13, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today March 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the effects of negative thinking. The writer describes falling into the habit of negative thoughts when feeling tired, bored or stressed. The tendency is to focus on what is wrong, and that type of thinking can take over. Through al anon, the writer l...	yanksfan51	2	782	Mar 12, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 3/6, mind reading (Preview) This reading says that no one can know what is in one's heart, soul, or mind, nor know how to meet another's needs, if we don't tell them. It is also unrealistic to expect any one person to be able to meet all of someone's needs. The author used some negative emotions like silently fuming, pouting, and t...	Lyne	4	1443	Mar 8, 2023 by Daffodils
	3/7/23 ODAT Lesson to be Learned from Faith (Preview) This page comments on the role of faith in allowing some Alanon newcomers to more quickly grasp and benefit from the Higher Power concept than those without or that have lost faith. A practiced faith in something greater than ourselves from previous spiritual endeavors can offer a great start, but...	Enigmatic	2	1558	Mar 7, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Mar 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power of love. The writer describes times of worry when it felt like he/she was not doing anything important in life. It felt to the writer as if nothing of much consequence was getting accomplished. As the writer learned more about love: love fo...	yanksfan51	3	1421	Mar 5, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	Missing in action for years (Preview) So happy I decided to look this group up again. Did not remember any of my account information so had a hard time getting back in. I already recognize some names from many years ago. tiredtonight and hotrod are 2 Ive noticed from way back. This disease is always with us but sadly I have fallen into the chro...	Gailsy	3	1463	Mar 5, 2023 by Lyne
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