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In today's reading, the author shares that it only natural to want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. Often, when we are facing especially challenging problems or long-lasting situations, we might think that something is wrong with us if we cannot easily and quickly solve the problem. Instead of launching into self-criticism, the author suggests that we might surrender, accept our own discomfort, and pray for guidance.
Today's Reminder: Willpower cannot eliminate in a day the troubles that have taken root and flourished for decades. Things take time.
Today's Quote: "You cannot create a statue by smashing the marble with a hammer, and you cannot by force of arms release the spirit of man." Confucius
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I remember my mom saying often when I was a child "God, grant me patience, and grant it right now!"
I can get very impatient, especially with myself. When I am facing a challenging problem, I often focus on myself and what I am doing, and after a while ask myself why it isn't working yet. Some things need more time, and sticking with my approach without impatience is important. Being patient as well and waiting for solutions can also be very challenging. I do believe that when the time is right, a solution will present itself. Waiting until the time is right is often the hard part!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Good Morning. Thank you Skorpi for your service/ESH and Debbie for your share. I am in that terrible place when you are seeing all the signs and waiting in anxious anticipation for what's to come. I reached out to my mother for comfort. Truth is I secretly hoped for a "come home darling " but she suggested of all things the Serenity Prayer. Not satisfied, I thought of calling a close uncle-in-law and begging him to take my spouse on a trip and would gladly drain my savings to pay for it! Needless to say, I took my mother's response as a sign to get back to basics- Al-Anon style. Grateful to have members who teach me how to wait patiently and a program that provides tools to function in my dysfunction. We have another gorgeous day here...birds are chirping away...beautiful music. Enjoy:)
Thank you Skorpi for your service and for all above ESH. Alanon has taught me many things. Always helpful to me is to remember to: pause, think, and pray. Also, time takes time. Breathe. :)
Thanks Skorpi and everyone for the shares. I can feel impatient with my hp's timing. When my desire is for an instant answer, it's because I want to released from the emotional discomfort that can sometimes accompany uncertainty. Imposing my will rather than waiting patiently for my higher power's answer, will for me; affords me instant gratification, relief from uncomfortable feelings such as worry, fear, anxiousness, lack of control. In forcing outcomes. When reacting rather than letting go, I am willing to risk a possible negative outcome for relief from obsessive thinking, uncomfortable feelings. I'm grateful for Alanon and the tools to help me keep strengthening my relationship with my loving higher power, to surrender my will and trust that I and others are being lovingly cared for and that more will be revealed in my loving hp's time. I work my program when I keep open to being teachable by my higher power. My hp sometimes gifts me, humbles me by way of love and patience I receive from those with whom I've shown impatience and acted unlovingly. I do better, feel better when I take a breath rather than act on impulse. Fully present I have conscious contact with my loving higher power. I can ask my hp to help me with acceptance of the present moment and clarity as to whether any action and/or what action to take. Things go better, I have more serenity and am less reactive when I invite my loving higher power into everything that I do.
Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears. Forum 1994
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