The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
In today's reading, the author reflects on decision making.
In the past, their desire to make decisions that got them exactly what they wanted prevented them from making decisions at all. In Al-Anon, the author learned that we can never know the outcomes of our decisions, we can only use information at hand to make the best decision we can.
We can also turn to a higher power for help when making decisions, and listen for our Higher Power's wisdom through the shares of others. The author now understands that it is their responsibility to make decisions wisely, but that the outcomes of those decisions are in the hands of a higher power.
Today's Reminder: With the help of a Higher Power, decision-making can be one of life's great advantages. Each crossroad brings a new challenge, and I am capable of dealing with whatever comes my way.
Today's Quote: "When I used to make specific requests [of God] I was so busy waiting for them to be granted that I didn't realize the answers were staring me in the face." As We Understood....
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Decision making is something I struggle with at times. Sometimes it seems that there are only bad choices available. I've found that practicing the pause and not forcing decisions helps me to make decisions more confidently. When the time is right, I know what the right decision for me is.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Thanks Skorpi for your service and all above ESH. For much of my life decisions were extremely painful for me. I was not only afraid of being wrong, but also of being ridiculed. That was a common occurrence in my FOO. I did get somewhat more comfortable with decisions over time, but I think program has given me tools to work with, and consulting with program friends and my HP all help. Listening, pausing, thinking, collecting data when possible, are all good choices. And then there is always Step 10: Continue to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. :) Progress not perfection.
Man, today's reading(yesterdays reading actually) and these shares are exactly what I needed right now.
I have to make some decisions/choices that are pretty important. I have been turning to my HP for answers and guidance and I still don't know what to do. I am kinda scared to choose on my own because I don't know for sure what the outcome will be.
Your shares have been very helpful.
Have a good night
-- Edited by SunnyFrog on Thursday 23rd of February 2023 05:50:58 PM
