The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This writer says that newcomers present with self-pity, resentment, and fears. What they learn in alanon changes their outlook: they gain confidence, poise, come out of their shells, and can concern themselves with others. These results are nothing short of miracles.
Reminder: The first gift a newcomer receives from contact with alanon is hope. Seeing how others rise above their problems, listening to situations worse than their own, absorbing the atmosphere of love and good-will, send them home with a new lease on life.
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Certainly the attributes above describing newcomers was me, along with anger and a desire to control and change my A. I was miserable most of my life. I still have problems, flaws, and don't cope well every single day, but I have really moved forward with recovery. I've let go of trying to control others, my anger and resentment have come down many notches, I like/love myself even though I still have defects, and I can laugh. I keep coming back as I strive for progress not perfection.
Good Morning Everyone. Thank you Lyne for your service/ESH. Debbie, your share is like a warm blanket on a chilly day. I've been up since 4:00 a.m EDT thinking/wondering (yikes) why I've got this free floating anxiety the size of a football in my stomach. Then I realized, I am sick! I asked HP for help and next thought was self care-go to the gym. Work project and neglected chores around the house can wait. HP will take care of my loved ones. Guess what? Anxiety eased. Thanks MIP /Al-Anon for tools to get me through the difficult moments. Have a wonderful day.
