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Post Info TOPIC: Hope for Today, Monday, 4/17, this work is darn hard!


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Hope for Today, Monday, 4/17, this work is darn hard!


The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me.  Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get?  If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes.  We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our character defects diminish.

Thought for the day:  Placing principles above personalities guides me to be someone I'd like to have in my own life.

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This thought for the day is quite profound.  I spent many too many years and too much energy trying to force solutions on my A, all of which resulted bad feelings on both sides.  I do not agree with many of my A's decisions, but my A also has numerous positive qualities.  It's a difficult juggling match, keeping my focus where it needs to be.  I remain a work in progress, ODAT.



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Thank you Lyne for your service today and for your profound ESH.

There are so many times, I find as well, that I battle bad feeling on both sides of the aisle with my 'A'

and this week-end was a pretty big one. I said what I needed to, which is always a challenge with him

and I "Let it Go" and am in the process of "Easy Does It" with myself. It usually takes a few months

for things to normalize but until then it is quite strained. I discovered that there has been a great

deal of mismanagement of finances so I will have to make a few changes on my end of the budget

to partially compensate, it has been a revealing week-end indeed.

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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 



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Good morning

"Placing principles above personalities guides me to be someone I'd like to have in my own life".

I so want to be someone I'd like to have in my own life and I am working towards that. It's been humbling to realize that many if not most of my troubles and issues are not magically gone since leaving the main A in my life. It has really forced me to take a look within myself instead of always looking outside of me for the source of whatever is wrong in my life.


That being said,when I am able to stay focused on myself I see and experience life in a completely different way. I am able to see good in others and life is just much better.

Have a good day


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