The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me. Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get? If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes. We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our character defects diminish.
Thought for the day: Placing principles above personalities guides me to be someone I'd like to have in my own life.
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This thought for the day is quite profound. I spent many too many years and too much energy trying to force solutions on my A, all of which resulted bad feelings on both sides. I do not agree with many of my A's decisions, but my A also has numerous positive qualities. It's a difficult juggling match, keeping my focus where it needs to be. I remain a work in progress, ODAT.
"Placing principles above personalities guides me to be someone I'd like to have in my own life".
I so want to be someone I'd like to have in my own life and I am working towards that. It's been humbling to realize that many if not most of my troubles and issues are not magically gone since leaving the main A in my life. It has really forced me to take a look within myself instead of always looking outside of me for the source of whatever is wrong in my life.
That being said,when I am able to stay focused on myself I see and experience life in a completely different way. I am able to see good in others and life is just much better.
