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Post Info TOPIC: 2/14/23 The Gift of…Confusion?

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2/14/23 The Gift of…Confusion?

Great perspective check today as we are asked to consider how confusion can be a gift. This can be when we feel we need to make a change but are uncertain as to what it should be. 

Confusion may be a sign of grace that helps me realize that it is not yet time to act. When we know more than we need to before it is time to execute, it may just serve to overwhelm us. When I am fully ready, needed details will be available. 

If the bread ain't ready, don't pull it out of the oven! Let it bake...

Reminder: I will thank my higher power for my experiences, even when I'm troubled or confused. Every experience can offer a gift, IF I am willing to look for the gratitude. 

"Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content." - Helen Keller 
Love this page, need this page. I like to research and have all info at first indication of an issue. Just as the reading suggests, I can turn this into an over analysis fest as I look to identify the "right" plan. 

While this is still my tendency, Alanon has helped me a ton to be more willing to let time reduce some of the possibilities. Amazing how the situation I was over-prepping for often doesn't even develop. Premature prognostication strikes again...

Grateful for the wisdom and reminders   




"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 

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Thank you Paul for your service and this really neat reminder today.

I have always been a firm believer that there is a reason why everything happens the way it does

and I just need to be patient for the answers to materialize. Along with the Al-Anon program this

thought process has helped me to be grateful for what I have even though I am going through

rough times. Those difficulties, although tough, always sometime down the road show me how

I was able to grow and learn from them.


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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Thanks for the reading Paul and your share. Today's reading begins "Confusion can be a gift from God." My experience has been uncomfortable feelings, inability to find answers or not receiving answers from my higher power calls upon me to wait, be patient and trust More Will Be Revealed when the time is right. To use the example of baking bread, if I keep hands off, the bread will rise, fully bake and be ready for my consumption. This is true in consideration of forcing my will vs letting go and letting god. Forcing my will brings about a half baked outcome.

Al-anon has so many great tools to help me with my sanity and serenity as I wait for answers from my higher power. I may need to make a decision, a choice that is time sensitive. Prayer and meditation can help with lifting my confusion or obsessive thinking and at times result in greater clarity concerning choices. I try to practice gratitude daily and humbly affirm so many gifts given to me by my loving higher power. One such gift has been the gift of time and timing concerning outcomes. Progress has come from a better understanding of self will vs my hp's will for me.  I can pray for answers but resist impulsiveness and trust my hp will lift my confusion and share what if any action I should take when the time is right.


Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.

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Good evening everyone

I never imagined confusion could be a gift at all. It's sure not a good feeling to not know the answers,not know what's best or what to do,it gives me major anxiety.

But...But... I am currently very confused about some options I need to choose from. There's too many of them and I have analyzed each and every one of them from every different angle I can possibly come up with. I was getting panicky over it and feeling so hopeless. And then I chose to wait before making a decision at all. I will figure it out when I am ready to figure it out.

I am glad I have been so confused because had I chosen the option I was leaning towards just for the sake of making a decision I would really be regretting it right now.

Have a good night

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